I say yes, you say no, OR People are Strange
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{{{{{ Bren}}}}} big cyber hugs. How horrible to have to say goodbye to a beloved companion at the same time you are mourning your coursin's death - if we ever needed an example of life not being fair, and what Blue said about tomorow. Healing Hugs being showered on you.
You guys wana hear "nutty bars" - thenewme has been banned - seems the foks cooking up those bars were offended by her scientific, rational mind - guess the mods have figured this out yet. Can you imagine, banning ( don't know for how long) one of the most intelligent voices posting on BCO. As a 3N she is always looking - both traditional & complementary for what works. Sad, sad, sad......
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That is ridiculous - not one of her posts violates the spirit or the letter on any rule.
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(((((((Bren))))))) I'm so sorry -- way too many losses. You know I'm thinking of you and sending my love.
(((((((Blue))))))) Sorry you're feeling yucky, and really hope it clears up soon.
I think thenewme has now been un-banned as it must have been some kind of mistake, but I think she may take a little break anyway.
And Athena -- yes, I'm buried in work!!!!! I think I'm burning out -- taking me longer and longer to get anything done.
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I am hoping that the member who told me to "take my head out of my ___" has been banned indefinitely.
I enjoy reading what thenewme posts...
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thenewme emailed me that she was banned - I sent a pm on her behalf to mods, hoping it was a mistake. I keep telling her not to make so much sense!! I really keep away from the nutty threads - just tooooooo frustrating...notice some VERY VERY NEW posters, are posting there now...neigh? And it's not even Friday....
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Oh {{{Bren}}} Sending healing vibes your way.
thenewme is one of the most intelligent and rational members. Hopefully the mods will take the "head out of ___" person away and reinstate her. Jeez Louise.
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Thenewme has been dogged in her determination to correct false information and outright quackery, and to expose the fact that some posters are using this site for their own ends. Some of those folks don't like it much!
A confession: If I hadn't worked in healthcare for most of my life, and if I didn't have a clue what really goes on in the cancer research community, and if I were coming to BCO after having been dx'ed (and scared witless) I would be drawn to the alternative forum -- anything to avoid cancer tx in the form of radiation or chemo.
I think it's vitally important that the BCO founder and moderators do everything within their power to protect the integrity of BCO as a reliable and verifable source of breast cancer information. Truthfully, I do not think it should be up to posters to do that in the discussion boards, but I'm grateful that they do.
We should be very thankful to posters like thenewme and others (if I name a few, I'll leave others out who deserve to be on the list but you know who they are) who are prepared to search for the truth and repudiate the crap.
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Bren - So sad that you're having such a bad time right now - know that we're all thinking of you and hoping tomorrow will be a better day.
Hugs, Sandy
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Will email thenewme when I get home - not fair!!!
I can't believe how people get sucked in to these alternative therapies - there's one woman whose cousin won't even have surgery - the alternative tx will make it go away - totally crazy!!!
Susie @ work

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Forgot to tell you - I saw Busker Tim yesterday in the street and complained he hadn't played in the park next to my building for ages. He promised he'd be there, if not today but next Friday. He said the "Occupiers" had put him off - well, they've long gone now, so no reason for him not to come back. Fingers crossed!!! I miss my Friday music.
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Oh, I bet you put a smile on Tim's face, Susie - he will be there next Friday for sure! :-)
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(((Bren))))-I'm sorry for all your losses this week. Life just doesn't seem fair sometimes, and I know that feeling of almost overwhelming grief. I find that the best thing is just to go with it and get through it.
Blue-I hope you're feeling better soon.
Mary
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Just catching up on reading elsewhere in the forum.....reading thenewme's vitamin thread and wondering who those "couple of people" were. I can always guess, of course.
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Athena - he's really yucky looking - I just like the music
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ewwww - ok. (changing discs in head - hoping for Cyrano de Bergerac :-) )
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This is really weird - someone on the Alt forum thinks I was calling them 'nut bars'. Are they totally crazy???? I was literally eating an All Natural Nut Bar - for real. Are they so self centred that they think everything is about them??????
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I just LOVE Neil Young music and that's what he plays. Anyway he wasn't there today - maybe next week. He's not totally yucky - just long hair and a beard.
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Speaking of long hair (if not beards) - my niece has been going through old family photos of my SO and his brothers in the late 1960s and posting the really embarrassing ones on Facebook. Hahaha!
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Lindasa: LIKE, LIKE, LIKE, LIKE ....wrapped in Big Thank Yous. You said it so well. I honor thenewme's energy to keep trying to bring some sense, good science, good research to some topics, BUT, I really think it is a waste of her valuable energy, intelligence.
Complimentary medicine has kept me alive, healthy, mobile, pain free - I don't think there's a more vocal advocate for acupuncture, supplements, AntiCancer: A New Way of Life posting on those threads - but I just gave up trying to be a part of discussions where there is such an "anti science" perspective. I feel sorry for newly diagnosed women, as Linda says, but that's BCO responsibility to deal with it.
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Popping in to check on Bren and blue and rosemary ... hoping you are all feeling a little better. (((hugs))) to all that could use one today.
Linda said it all re the other stuff. Did anybody else see the one yesterday promoting her 'spell caster'. LOL ... at least that one was amusing. I didn't report it but did see that the 'community' deleted it eventually. I think we must be popping up on more Google searches for such things now. I don't report anything other than direct insults to another member. IMO we have enough mods to watch for that stuff now and if they don't care I don't see why I should have to deal with all the emails a 'report' piles in my inbox.
lewing ... LOL ... some of those old pictures are a riot. The clothes, the hair
and yet it all seemed so normal and ordinary back then. Makes me want to go rummage through my boxes of pictures and see what I've got of friends and family. But 'we don't get mad ... we get even' is kind of the motto in my family so I probably shouldn't. Ann ... hope you get some break from work over the holidays!
I keep saying I need to get started on my XMas cards ... maybe today ... or tomorrow.
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Hi Everyone ... this is a picture of my Winston. He was a bassett mix. I am really missing him. He sort of ran the household and it's very quiet with him gone. He was very bossy ... now Maggie, Tank and I are at a loss.
I feel like crap today ... too much crying and worrying the last few days.
But tomorrow will be here soon enough with another new start!
Hugs,
Bren
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Bren, I am so sorry about your cousin, and your sweet Winston, and the rest of the things that have happened to make you sad. Things seem hollow right now, I imagine; but it will get better. In the meantime, and as usual, I'm sending otter-hugs.... {{{{{{Bren}}}}}}
Blue, what was that about propofol? It went right over my head.
I am not even going to talk about that other stuff. Life is too short. I think I'll look for a rerun of "It's a Wonderful Life."
otter
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Propofol to knock me out. The Michael Jackson drug. I had to edit my post so I just replaced it with that comment. hehehehhee!
I'm in a conundrum. My doctor changed my PD drugs. I am having lots of nausea. So I started taking gravol. It worked but was told this a.m. that PD patients shouldn't take gravol (don't know why). So they prescribed domperidone. Read up a bit on this drug and it can cause breast cancer....oh joy! It will make my boobs bigger though, if that's any consolation. HELP!
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P.S. Shoot me. I'm frustrated!
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(((((Blue)))))
Got home yesterday and did a new image of DH's pc - not long after that it crashed again when I was restarting it - I hate Windows!!! Lucky I'd backed it up - this time it worked really well restoring it. Told him to leave it on - that should work. Started looking at prices of new pcs - I'll think about it. Did have a good thought - get me a new one and he can have mine

Off to hang out washing and have brekky then grocery shopping. Markets tomorrow!!
It's my mother's birthday next week and I should go and see her tomorrow, but I just don't want to. Might just send a card with money in it - that always pleases her. I called yesterday and got told how long it was since I called - umm she does have a phone. Asked her to Xmas here and was asked if I was sure I wanted her to come - very frustrating!!!
Lots of fun at work actually doing some interesting work!!
Sue
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Ummm "spell caster"? Is that like a 'dream catcher'?
Sue...are you sure that wasn't Mother Artsee you called on the phone?? I think you did.
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Artsee - I have just about totally given up on her - every time I speak to her I get stressed. I don't tell her what she says has a bad impact on people as I don't want to hurt her. My Aunt says she wouldn't listen anyway. I know she's old (83 on Wednesday) but she has been like this my entire life - it's not an age thing. She is only a 45 minute drive away, but I can't bring myself to get in the car and go and see her. We could have stopped in last week on our way home from DH's step mother, but I couldn't turn the steering wheel in that direction
and I wanted to go and get the food when I got home.Bren - Winston was gorgeous - no wonder he is so missed.
Time for my shower. DH's pc behaving so far this morning - I'll leave him to it. Washing all done and hung out. DH won't let me use the dryer as it's making a grinding noise, so I had to hang our knickers out - I usually tumble dry the underwear and towels. The clothes line is now full as a result.
Might go looking at new dryers today or tomorrow - I still have that stash of cash I'm hiding

Sue
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Bartender - that was a superb dessert I just had: Dulce de Leche cheescake - yummm.
(((((Blue))))))) Oh the med trial and error process! -
Quiet Friday here.....my chief ambition this weekend - besides exercise-- is to hang my Christmas lights and try to not kill my Poinsettia - at least not before Christmas. I am the world's worst plant keeper. I deserve to be denounced by the Department of Children and Families.
Susie, the way you feel about your mother I feel about my oldest sister - I just can't make myself look that way (Potomac MD). I am looking for Christmas Day plans of my own. I already have plans for the23rd and absolutely wonderful ones for the 24th!!
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