Did you ever notice??

Having a family history is one of the few proven risk factors. I doubt people are asking  because they want to be able to associate your having cancer with something you did. It's just one of the only explanations that we have for sure to the 'why me?' question and perhaps in a way gives others some sense of reason for it happening. Women with family history should, obviously, in my opinion, be proactive to the disease in whatever ways they can to catch it EARLY. 

I started annual mammograms at age 34, the year after I found out about my mom's DCIS.  All my mammos have been clear.  I felt this 'hardening' in March... and my "diagnostic mammogram" after looking for this mass, was clear...Unbelieveable, but true.  The protocol was then for an US because it was a palpable mass... that was more suspicious, and, of course, biopsy +.  I did everything I could to catch this early.. and still was diagnosed Stage 3. 

Hi All,

I get the urge to "why me" occasionally but I force myself out. I have always been very healthy and made healthy choices.  Maybe a little over weight but generally very healthy. I think it is a crap shoot too.

I have no family history of BC but in my new "youthened" state ( at 44 was starting to feel middle aged but all the docs kept saying "you're so young to have BC"-the silver lining, I'm young again?) the doctors wondered if there could be something genetic-unlikely.  So I was tested for a different genetic marker for Finish people.  No big surprise, it came back negative.  His comment to me "I am surprised with all the females in your family that the bc incidence is so low, there should be more BC."  So I am the lottery winner!

So back to, it's a crap shoot.

But I am still blessed to have my life and my family and friends and to be living where I am with access to medicine and food and water and housing.

Have a great day ladies!

I think after you diagnosed your go through periods until you get to the point of acceptance. i remember teling my husband "I will never except this! I refuse to accept this!" And he would say (he is a colon cancer sur) that you will one day accept this. And he was right I accept that I had this disease. Prior to reaching this stage I went through my own stage of anger, etc and one of those stages was anger at how healthy I was and here are my neighbors who party like manics and have the perfect life get nothing. I didn't get it...I am not there anymore. now I feel feel we have 100 things to be sad about but about 1000 things to be thankful for!