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  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited August 2009

    Sheila - I am so sorry for your loss but you did the right thing -

    Photobucket

    AE

  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited August 2009

    Hi Ladies -

    UB & I are fine.  He had his first round  this week after stopping for our botched trip, so this weekend has been a sleeping one.  He goes for one more in 3 weeks, hopefully it will be his last.

    My brother is home and recuperating.  It absolutely amazes me how he basically died on a Friday and by the following Friday he was home. God is good.

    Sending out hugs to all

    Valerie

  • Somuch
    Somuch Member Posts: 69
    edited August 2009

    Shelia, my heart goes out to you and your family. I truly believe not letting them suffer is the best last gift. In the past 25 years I have lost one four legged "cat child" to cancer and a "dog child" who also had hip pain and could no longer walk. Taking Cookie to the vet was one of the hardest things I have ever done but I know it was the right choice. The pleasure they give is worth the pain of loss. We now have five "children" at home, 4 cats and a dog. The human child is grown and living on her own. - I have grandbunnies!    

  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited August 2009

    Nnacy  sorry to hear about your dad, praying that he stays well. AE& UB glad things are going weel.  To everyone else - XOXOXOXOXOXO.  Just a quick check in we celebrated Landend first B'day today (he was born on 8/11/08) heres a favorite picture.

    LOVE YOU ALL.  Busy-busy busy

  • Makratz
    Makratz Member Posts: 12,678
    edited August 2009
  • Mary22
    Mary22 Member Posts: 779
    edited August 2009

    Linda I agree w/ you about the kids. I spent $60 and got alot of junk food I would not normally buy, but I did not feel like saying no!

  • Mary22
    Mary22 Member Posts: 779
    edited August 2009

    Linda I agree w/ you about the kids. I spent $60 and got alot of junk food I would not normally buy, but I did not feel like saying no!

  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited August 2009

    Cathi - saw your pics on FB - loved them all!!

  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited August 2009

    THANKS AE,  Landen is a cute little guy and for the most part a good kid,  but bedtime and nap time SUCK, WOW,  have they got him out of wack on that,  I am giving SUPPORTIVE - HELPFUL suggestions,  there is just no way possible for them to have a new born in a few months with a 1 year old who refuses to go to bed,  and when he does has to lay on moms tummy -   by the time they get him to go to sleep they are so frustrated it is not funny - I am old school,  he needs to start bedtime habits now - should have a long time ago,  but it's not to late.

  • lvtwoqlt
    lvtwoqlt Member Posts: 6,162
    edited August 2009

    thanks again for the hugs after the loss of Penelope. Donald and I went to the flea market this weekend and found the cutest concrete yard statue of a basset hound sleeping that is laying just the way Penelope would lay down on her pillow. Of course we bought it and brought it home. Right now it is on my front porch waiting for me to make a space for it in my flower bed next to the rose bush. I may have to wait until Spring to find out where my spring bulbs are planted so I don't cover anything up.

    I had more unsettling news this weekend. My MIL, who had the surgery in Feb for colon cancer told me that a blood test the doctor did last week was slightly elevated (she didn't know the exact name or what was considered normal) and instead of seeing him again in 3 months he wants to see her again in 2 weeks. She told me 3 different test names everytime I asked her what the test was (including psa which I know she didn't have done) and I think it was the CEA tumor marker test for colon cancer. Her daughter told my hubby that the cancer had come back and it was stage 4 but no additional tests have been done. My MIL has lost alot of weight since her surgery. My sil also said that she would be accompaning my mil to the doctor on the 21st to get straight answers, lets just hope she doesn't get them mixed up also.

    Cathi, that boy is so cute in the pool

    Sheila

  • hollyann
    hollyann Member Posts: 2,992
    edited August 2009

    Sheila, so sorry to hear about your fur baby, Penelope.........I have lost a few fur babies myself and it hurts......i have a 13 yr old black cat named Brandy and when her time comes I will be so sad....Sorry to hear about your MIl too......WOW you all have been throught the wringer!.....Hope you get it straightened out for her........

    Cathi, that landedn is a doll baby!....Happy Birthday to the little shaver!.......I have a great-nephew named Landyn too...Note the different spelling.......He will be one in April of next year.......

    Livvestrong, glad you and UB are doing well....Missed what happened to your brother...Glad he is doing wonderful, ........

    mary glad you are feeling better but please be careful and let the kids lift the heavy stuff...You don't want to rip out a stitch and have internal bleeding......

    Uh, what is FB?.......

    Hugs and love, Lucy also dx with DCIS grade 2 er/pr + her2 neg
    Dx 1/15/2007, IDC, 1cm, Stage Ib, Grade 1, 0/6 nodes, ER+/PR+, HER2-

  • NancyD
    NancyD Member Posts: 3,562
    edited August 2009
  • Mary22
    Mary22 Member Posts: 779
    edited August 2009

    I just love Facebook. I can see pic of my nieces and nephews, even the newest one in sonogram pics. It really helps us stay connect. I have acousin ( who is like a brother ), 2 brothers and a sister and stepmom in Fl. Sister, and a second mom(my auntie) in Cali. Uncle inTx and the rest are in Michigan. Only my Dh's family is here in PA!!!! 

    Stepmom is an ex, but we remained friendly, no hard feelings. She lives near Cathi in IRB.

  • my3girls
    my3girls Member Posts: 3,766
    edited August 2009

    I am again with the living! lol. Things have settled down. I will read through, and update tomorrow at work, if things aren't too hectic.

    Finally updated my avatar. I will email miss Judie my pics from the concert so that she can post them for me.

    Ladies..tired...need a real vacation!

    check back in tomorrow...love to all!

    xoxo

    Lisa

  • cloudhowe
    cloudhowe Member Posts: 236
    edited August 2009

    Hi lovvies,



    Nettie here, back from the land of Bejasus and Begorrah and missing it already. I truly love Ireland and we had a great, great time. The wee village my dad came from has a Saint buried, one of St patricks early monks, buried there. He died in 500 AD! And a 1000 year old Viking round tower (well, it was built by by the monks to protect holy relics FROM the Vikings) My family has a lair there nad my brother Charles' ashes were scattered there ... very beautiful and ... timeless ..



    If I can ever work out how to post pictures, will do so.



    Shiela, so awfully sorry about Penelope. What you did took great courage and is the ultimate act of great kindness. Hugs sweetie.



    Cathi, what can I say! Another wee cutie in your pool. How do the babies rub along? And how is Jacklyn?



    I would love to be part of a big chaotic household, like the one I grew up in (I have 42 cousins, 3 Aunites on mum's side and 6 uncles on dad's side) Everything had to be shared. I am so selfish now, of my stuff, my time, even the TV remote. The wages of living alone!! Sound like you are coping well and SETTING THE HOUSE RULES. Absolutely de rigour, my sweet! Good luck! Wee Margot enjoying all the extra attention I have no doubt.



    Nanci, prayers winging your way for your daddy. All I can say is treasure the time you have with him, every precious second.



    Well, started dental work yesterday and getting a veneer fitted next Thur. That's all I need done in the meantime. I thought I had lots of work to get done, but it was all pretty minor.



    Getting bloods done on Friday, Herceptrin on Monday (an all day thing!!!!) and Taxetere on Tue and confess I am feeling nervous. I got used to FEC, harsh as it was. Got a wee covering of (bizarrly mostly silver!!!!!!!!) hair, which I will lose again. Will anything ever be back to normal??



    I am a bit concerned about the possibility of permanent s/e, I have been warned that there might be. Any of you wonderwomen out there care to share experiences? They are talking about 4 courses, but might stop at 2, if the symptoms become "intolerable". I'll tell you lassies, it will take a helluva lot for anything to be "intolerable" for me, but they are being very non-specfic. Any advice most gratefully welcomed!!!!



    More worry about money, I have come to the end of my 28 weeks WTC, so my Welfare rights officer is going to apply for State benefits, which makes me feel vaguely ashamed!! I know that I am entitled to them and that I have contributed to them all of my working life. So this is a transition period for me in many ways. Thank god I can vent on these pages!! Got enough for a couple of months, so putting real worry on the back burner till I can get to grips with new chemo.



    Got some calls to make now, to Carol, my welfare rights officer, the bank who screwed up my Direct Debits transfers .... the power company to set up new Direct Debit (direct payment on a monthly basis fro my bank account) Everything seems such an effort.



    By the way, love your new picture Lisa!!!! Sorry you have had kid's problems. fro what I can see, your daughter MUST know you are a magnificent mother, and they are just trying to be good granddaughters. Which is a credit to YOU madam!



    To all of you Amazons with health problems - Barbe, I am talking to you. Turn my back for a fortnight and you let a wee Mick mess around with you!!! Hope you are feeling a million per cent better pet. Need your humour and WISDOM!!! Like Shirley and Judie, wise women all.



    Anyway hope all your health and family concerns resolve themselves soon.



    Seeing if I can remember the Irish Wish (I used to know it verbatim, and was reminded of it ,,, here goes ... I think)



    May the sun be warm on your face

    May the wind always be at your back

    And till we meet again

    May God hold you in the palm of his hand.



    And on a lighter note, and this one is ESPECIALLY for you Cathi ...



    May the roof of your house never fall in

    And those within it never fall out .



    Still loving you all like jellytots



    Nettie xxx

  • cloudhowe
    cloudhowe Member Posts: 236
    edited August 2009

    Oh Cathi



    Today is my nephew birthday too!!



    We are having lunch tomorrow as he is beign taken out for dinner tonight.



    N xx

  • NancyD
    NancyD Member Posts: 3,562
    edited August 2009

    Nettie, here's what I know about permanent side effects: Herceptin can cause heart damage, so they will monitor that. Taxotere can cause neuropathy...some temporary, some permanent. Let your one know if you feel numbness or tingling in your fingers and toes...that's where it starts. Stay well...I'm glad you got a little holiday in before the lonterm chemo starts.

    I have to laugh at all the August birthdays...count back nine months and you'll see why. All that holiday celebrating, lol. There are six in my family! 

  • my3girls
    my3girls Member Posts: 3,766
    edited August 2009

    trying to remember what everyone wrote?? omg..my memory is horrible!



    Cathi..glad to hear things are going well so far. Your grandson..is a living DOLL!!



    Nettie..good to hear from you girl. I hope your tx's go without too many problems or pain!! (((Nettie))). I went to Ireland back in 1982...loved it!! Beautiful!



    Nancy..sorry to hear about your dad....(((Nancy))))...I pray he does better.



    Ladies thanks for all the input from you regarding my girls. I won't go into details...but just let me say, I am glad it's all over. For the most part we have made ammends...and things are fine. Alise..well she will have her issues...she just needs some good counseling. Her heart is in the right place. Olivia is back in Orlando..and having issues trying to get her classes for college. They are saying it's too late..but she wasn't able to do it while here..because of computer issues!

    Danni is back in Chicago...working.



    I am feeling pretty good lately. Started the tamox again..it's only been about a week or more...so far so good.



    Val..sorry you missed Pinkstock. I am glad your brother is home and doing so much better!! Hugs to UB!



    Ok..back to work.....

    Judie..I am going to email you some pics from the Elton John, Billy Joel concert! I may send lots...you can post for me whatever you feel like posting! Love ya Judie!! By the way..how is the ebay selling going??



    xoxo

    Lisa

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2009

    Hi ladies

    Why cant life be a little kinder to everyone?

    I took my girl friend this morning for a brain scan...she has been having major issues with the use of her right side so was sent to neurologist, he said its in her brain and sent for brain scan...he said she either has had a stroke or possibility of MS....she should get results tomorrow....

    On the way home from that I called my son...he was coughing small amounts of blood so they did a scope down his throat and found he has a hietal hernia (sp?) at the base of his esophogus, minor issue.....they also found a spot in his lung and biopsied it at the same time...he said the results are back and he wants a couple days then to come speak with myself and David in person about whats going on......Im scared silly here!!!!!! most of my dads family have passed with some form of cancer and several were with lung cancer...why cant this F_ _ _ing stuff leave us alone??? I can take alot but its entirely different now that it might be my son instead of me Cry

    Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers that both my son and friend have minor issues.

    Jule

  • Bold
    Bold Member Posts: 692
    edited August 2009

    Julie, that is just awful!!!! I pray that it it nothing. I know that life get so flipping hard sometimes. I hope that you have the balance of good times to. I am praying and thinking of you!!!!!

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2009

    Thank you Bold

    Im really scared about all this. My son wouldnt tell me one way or the other over the phone what the biopsy showed but when I asked if it was bad news he said that it wasnt the best. Im trying really hard to keep hope that its something other than cancer.

    David is upset that I didnt push him about the results but my son is a full grown adult, not a child. Even though Im his mom and worried sick he has the right to get his own mind wrapped around whatever this might be before he deals with other people...hard, hard statment to made and even harder to wait but I remember only too well my thoughts when I was told I had BC...I want him to know that he can come to us for anything but I also think we need to give him space.

    Again, thank you for your thoughts and prayers

    Jule

  • hrf
    hrf Member Posts: 3,225
    edited August 2009

    Julie, I'm hoping for you that things are not as bad as you are thinking. Helen

  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited August 2009

    ((((((((((((((((Jule))))))))))))))- praying for good news about your son.  Aren't you dealing with RA now?

    I swear, it never ends.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2009

    hrf-thank you for your thoughts.

    Val-thank you as well...yes they are testing me for RA, should know something this next week on that. I was talking to the admitting clerk this morning at the hospital where my friend had her brain scan and she suggested that I talk with my doctors about the cholestrol med I am on as well. She was on Lipitor (Im on Lovastatin), she only took it 3 months and was so debilitated by bone and join pain that she spent two weeks or so bed ridden...Im wondering if this med isnt pushing thing along with the tamoxiphen. She said all the symptoms of RA left when she stopped the med and changed to a prescription strenght fish oil....Im game to try it, I am exhausted most of the time because of not sleeping well due to achiness 27-7.

    It doesnt only pour at my house we always seem to have to add thunder and lightening too!!!!!

    Hugs

    Jule

    PS-glad to hear that Bill is working through things with the least(hopefully) amount of se's.

  • geebung
    geebung Member Posts: 1,851
    edited August 2009

    Sheila, I was so sorry to hear about Penelope. She was such a beautiful dog and you loved her so much. You were kind to let her go though, hard though it is to do such a thing. I love the idea of the stone statue in her memory.

     Jule, I'm praying for your son and I so hope it's not anything bad. Your heart must be breaking with love and worry.

    Karen - wonderful news about your building starting. I saw the photos on FB but it wouldn't let me comment.

    I am so busy lately with my course and am on a diet that is actually working. I lost 2kg (4.4 lbs) in 10 days so I'm inspired to continue.

    Love to everyone here.

    Jane xoxo

  • NancyD
    NancyD Member Posts: 3,562
    edited August 2009

    Jule, I'm holding my breath, waiting to hear what your son has to say. This is worse than waiting for a report from the onc. A child, no matter what the age, will always dredge up concern when it comes to their health. I hope it's not as bad as we're all feeling.

  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited August 2009

    Julie- XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO

    Nettie the babies are doing well together, Margo is loving her daily companion of coarse and all the food crumbs she can scrounge up.  Have seen a few "true colors" of the SIL,  nothing major, just a bit nasty in the voice area, we'll see what happens. ???????????

    LOVE TO ALL

  • Makratz
    Makratz Member Posts: 12,678
    edited August 2009

    Jane, What kind of diet are you on?  I'm happy to hear it's working!

    Jule, praying for you and your son.

    Hope Babr is enjoying her time away!

    Hugs to everyone else!

  • geebung
    geebung Member Posts: 1,851
    edited August 2009

    Hi Linda - it's a low carb/moderate protein diet with lots of salad greens & one piece of fruit a day (hard for me because I love fruit). My doctor told me that I need to lose weight to get my oestrogen levels down and so hopefully, minimise any chance of developing bootface again. Linda, was it you who said you've visited Cape Cod lately? I've always wanted to travel to that part of the US - all that windswept coastline and beautiful houses!

    Nancy, I am thinking of you and your Dad. Praying that he will either rally or have a pain free end to his life.  It is just so hard to see your elderly parents suffer in any way.

  • geebung
    geebung Member Posts: 1,851
    edited August 2009

    (Edited to fix my mistakes - too hurried!)

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