STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER

exbrnxgrl

Are you serious? I am in shock! I heard a segment on TV last night about everyone getting ready for her big 100th b-day. I am without words

Dancemom

WHAT???!!!!!!😢 I'm not a huge celebrity follower, but she's always been so positive and a role model and makes me smile, and the whole 100 birthday with all.the interviews last week. Rip.

cm2020

illimae......You summed it up well....."sad and pissed" is the perfect description. I will miss this world without Betty in it. She made it a lot brighter, a lot happier, and a whole lot kinder.

AliceBastable

I feel awful about Betty White's death. My mom missed 100 by just a few years, so I kind of hung onto BW making it since they were so close in age and looks and personality. So it's a little like losing Mom all over again. RIP, Betty.

Anonymous

Partner came in to the room just as we were sitting down to dinner and said "guess who died". I knew immediately it was Betty White - had an inkling last week out of the blue that her time was coming. Her career was amazing, though - I was (randomly) watching the 1953 Oscars on YouTube the other month and right in the middle there was a Cadillac displayed on stage and Miss Betty White was the spokesmodel. Who knew of everyone in that audience who have all been dead and gone a long time that Betty would be with us still 70 years later and such an icon in her own right.

illimae

I was ready for the big celebration too, just a few more weeks. Such a shit way to end the year.

Harley07

Betty White lived life with joy and a sense of purpose. A bright life well lived that brought laughter to others. We should all be fortunate to do the same.

Sunshine99

RIP Betty.

I trust she went quickly and I hope with no suffering. Such a loss of such a delightful lady.

GoldensRBest

There are few celebrities who deserve a pedestal - Betty White certainly is one of them. Such a wonderful role model (I love her commitment to animals)

Sunshine99

Goldens, I totally agree! She was a delightful lady!

bcincolorado

She was one of a kind and treasured by so many people and gave pleasure to so many. We can only hope to live to that ourselves and brighten other people as much.

Beaverntx

Betty White will be missed by many. I did hear a recent statement she made about feeling good as she approached one hundred. Good to know she was feeling good rather than suffering.

bcincolorado

The more I hear about things I did not know about her, like her serving in WWII, the more I am amazed by her. Things she did for race relations in the early days and insisting on using diverse cast members. She was such an animal lover as well and did a lot of work with animal shelters. What a special person.

WC3

I'm so stressed and upset right now I'm almost shaking. My hormone therapy is over $700 per month on top of my almost $1000 premium and I owed my provider over $5000. After a lot of effort I was approved for financial assistance which cut my bill down to under $1000. Recently I received a statement for over $5000. I thought this was an insurance/processing issue as often in the past I would receive bills prematurely while they were still being negotiated by the insurance or going through whatever internal processing they go through and I would be told to disregard them because they were inaccurate but I just learned today that the bill is due to my financial assistance being revoked because they say they did not receive the reduced payment.

I'm now trying to determine if this is actually the case that it wasn't received. A few years back, as a holiday gift to myself, I tried to pay off all of my medical debt. I walked up to one of their payment desks in person, asked how much I owed for everything and zeroed out my balance then and there. I later discovered that some of it didn't get credited to my account and no one I spoke with seemed to know anything about this payment desk or where they got the value I was told to pay. I think I had to fax copies of the receipt to clear the issue up.

I'm so upset, I received no communications explicitly informing me that the reduced payment in question wasn't received or that they were going to revoke my financial assistance because of it. Just statements that change constantly and are incorrect half of the time.

I was told someone would be calling me about the issue in a few minutes. That was 2 hours ago and now they are going to lunch.

I feel like I'm being punished for getting cancer and not having thousands of dollars a month at my disposal.

bcincolorado

Had an issue on my last mamo on my non cancer side. They told me to call in January to schedule to come back for a follow up 3 D mamo and ultrasound since they could not shedule me 6 months out in the computer and gave me a card to call in January. Called and then the scheduler said I had to get a new referral from oncologist before they could schedule me!!! Really?? Radiologist there was the one who told me to call to start with! So put in message to oncology. Then after being notified it was sent over called the next day to schedule scans. They said what they sent was not what they needed and it had to say it was for "follow up" on it and did not. So back to oncology again. Then get a message they had to send it to the "outside scheduler" to send over. Still waiting now. At this point wondering if I'll get it done before my next MO appointment in March! So annoying.

AliceBastable

Wow, bcincolorado, that's nuts! I noticed that one of my insurance changes for next year is that most scans and tests no longer need as many referrals. Maybe it was driving the insurance people up a wall, too.

bcincolorado

It is Medicare so do not know. They felt it was important enough to check on again in 6 months and not wait for a year so just hope it is still "watch and see" whenever they get it

AliceBastable

Yeah, mine is Medicare advantage. Ooh, that reminds me, I need to switch my card in my wallet.

bcincolorado

We at least made to a new year. I do not carry my cards since I cannot drive and have left my purse places now. DH carries them since he has to drive me and go to my appointments anyway due to speech issues I have from other health issues I have. He can check me in and give them my stuf that way.

AliceBastable

I don't drive, either. I use a small, thin wallet with Velcro fastening to carry my insurance, state ID, Covid vax, a credit card if I'll have unknown co-pays, and a few dollars, and stick it in my pocket. I have never bought pants without pockets - a carryover from my smoking days, I guess. During Cancer Crap Year ™, my husband was my wallet. In fact, early on, when he needed something practical to do, I gave him the responsibility for paperwork and financials.He still tracks a lot of that.

bcincolorado

Mail yesterday brought a letter from the breast screening center stating I needed to call and schedule a follow up appointment!!! Well we've been trying to do that!!! Figure now we'll end up speaking with supervisor at the scheduling office at this point. It is driving me crazy.

Sunshine99

Oh, bc, how frustrating. It's like you want to yell at the letter, "THAT'S WHAT I'VE BEEN TRYING TO DO!!!" I hope you can get it scheduled ASAP.

Carol

Beaverntx

bc, I know the facility is required to send those letters. I have gotten them after I had scheduled the recheck. However, your situation is even more frustrating. Hope you had a good long yell at the letter!

bcincolorado

I did when it came. At least I know if it is something really growing in there most cancers are slow moving at least but is frustrating all the same. Then if it is something not sure what I would even want to about it at this point depending on what it Cancer is the pits no matter what stage you are and the drama is ongoing all the time it seems.

ctmbsikia

Keep us poste bc. Did they give you a birads 3 on your last report? Seems like if so this should not be an issue. However I know year to year coverage and rules change all the time. Wishing you the best

Feeling really lonely. Not sure if I will ever get used to this. I hate it. Especially with the covid stuff. The basement light didn’t come on this morning when I flipped the switch so I put a light bulb on my shopping list. No big deal right? After I finished my laundry and un plugged everything else about 2 hours later that one bulb was on. Freaked me out. I also feel like something or someone is messing with my thermostat at night. Wth

Trishyla

Sending warm hugs, ctmbsikia. I'm sorry you're so lonely. It's such an adjustment to lose your partner, especially during the isolation of Covid19 restrictions.

When my brother in law died suddenly my sister had such a hard time adjusting to a quiet house. They had been together almost thirty years. What made it even harder for her was that they had just moved eighty miles away from friends and family. Doesn't sound like a lot, but it made it so much harder for any of us to just drop over and sit with her.

Be well, ctmbsikia. I hope things get better for you soon.

Trish

GraceB1

So aggravated! Six months ago I had a mammogram. Lots of problems getting a good view. They even called me back in the room after I had already dressed for another go round. I ended up with bruising for the first time. It took two months to get a report back because my previous one had been at a different facility and they wanted to compare them. The report said to repeat in six months. Now to the present. I had another mammogram at a different place in town. She argued with me about wether I had a mastectomy first or the lumpectomy. I think I'm pretty sure I know the difference. They have a 3-D machine and I thought this might give them a clearer picture. It's important to know that these are all being read by the same radiologist. The next day I get a call from the tech that I need to redo it but somewhere else because they aren't Medicare certified for "diagnostic 3-D mammos". I'm supposed to get my Faslodex shots tomorrow which may or may not happen because we have covid in the house. I'll have to see in the morning what they say to do. Now, do I ask them to find somewhere to get a mammogram or push for a PET scan? I'm getting pretty stressed out by it all. Looking to get talked off the bridge.

cookie54

Wow I would be totally annoyed also, they seem a bit unorganized! Sounds to me as though you still need to have your mammo with 3D. A PET is not used to evaluate breast tissue like a mammo is. It used to rule out metastasis from your breast cancer.

Is this a large practice? Are you going to another office within their practice that is certified for diagnostic 3D? If you are returning to the same practice I would confirm that the radiologist reading your mammo is a women's imaging specialist also. I work in a large radiology practice and we have a couple women's imagers that only read mammo, breast MRI etc. These radiologists in my opinion are better because that is all they do! So if you have that option I would go that route. If they don't you can request a specific radiologist to read your mammo if you had a thorough report by them in the past.

I am so sorry you are stressed by this, I would be too! People don't realize how stressful imaging is for a previous or current cancer patient! I wish you all the best on getting a good study and good results. Be well.

Trishyla

I don't know if it will help you, Grace, but whenever I have to deal with inept clerical staff or bumbling bureaucrats I have a mantra I repeat over and over. "Non illegitimi carborundum". It roughly translates to "Don't let the bastards get you down."

The great thing about it is you can say it to someone's face and they have no idea that you've just insulted them. Plus it feels kinda classy to swear in Latin 😉

If that's not enough to make me feel better, I have another stealth insult as a backup. A deaf friend taught me how to sign "Eat shit and die". Gotta be careful with that one, though. These days you never know who understands ASL. Gotten myself in trouble more than once with that one. 😁

Trish

GraceB1

I'm in a small community so the radiologist at the hospital also reads the mammos from the OB-GYN office where I had the 3-D done. I'm not sure she has ever given me an all's OK report. The OR I saw 8 years ago said he thought she over-read when she knew BC had been diagnosed before. I'm guessing the next nearest is 1-2 hours away. I usually ended up back at my MOs office four hours away but I'm dealing with a new to me practice as my old one left. The new one's in a different direction an hour away so I'm thinking he will be referring me to new places. Between this and 3 family members in the house with covid despite being vaccinated I'm going crazy. A good night's sleep would help. I usually just mutter under my breath at incompetent people but she just didn't believe me. Look at my chart idiot.