Any LDS women with BC?

MelissaDallas

Joanne, I sent Kicks a private message a couple of weeks ago hile back asking where she was and if she was okay. No response.

Joanne58

Melissa--thanks for letting me know about your PM to kicks. I've sent her a few, too, with no response. I think she should be getting an email letting her know she has messages on BCO. I'm worried. I wonder if she's on facebook? I think her first name is Susan (I'll check a past PM she replied to), but that's all I know.

MelissaDallas

joanne, she has gotten disgusted and taken a break from the boards before. I hope that is all it is

Joanne58

Sorry to hear that, Melissa. I hope you're right, though--thanks.

Joanne58

I'm going to the temple in Redlands tomorrow morning before I teach piano. I'm looking forward to the peace and tranquility.

Can't wait to find out who the 2 new apostles will be, and hear all the wonderful talks and music in store for us this weekend from April General Conference! Since it's on Easter Sunday this year, and we stay home to stream conference, it makes me a bit uncomfortable knowing our church parking lot is empty on Easter Sunday. I guess we can't worry what others think as they pass by. We'll be in our homes, comfortable and cozy, enjoying the spiritual feast

How I love the Lord and am forever grateful for his atoning sacrifice for all mankind, and for the miracle of his resurrection. I know he lives, and I know he loves us!

Wishing all a wonderful Easter Conference weekend!

XXOO,

Joanne

Joanne58

Loved Conference, as you did, and hope readers here enjoyed it, too. Sure loved the tabernacle choir songs--breathtaking as always!

Still no word from Kicks. She hasn't logged in in over 3 months. Still hoping she'll come back and report that all is well

Some friends of mine in Virginia are THRILLED to have a temple being built close by to them. Another friend who served her mission in Italy is already preparing to go to the temple open house in Rome--she's beyond excited! We are very spoiled, having 3 temples nearby to choose to attend, and all within about 35 minutes, depending on LA or Orange County traffic. My favorite will always be the Los Angeles Temple on Santa Monica Blvd. It was the temple of my childhood, where I did baptisms for the dead as a young teenager (such sweet and spiritual experiences!), and where I was sealed to my husband for time and eternity. One of my daughters was also married/sealed there, too. All 5 of our children have chosen to be married in the Lord's House, and each ceremony/sealing has filled my heart with joy. I want nothing else in this life than to know ".. that my children walk in truth..." (III John 4), and that means staying on the covenant path.

We had to turn on the air conditioner so my piano students would melt--90 degrees this week!!!

Love and blessings to all,

Joanne

kandyhunt

I am new to this board and new to the breast cancer deal. But I was hoping to find other LDS women. I was DX in March 2018 IDC ER+ and PR+ HERS -. Stage 2A. tumor size 4.5 at the biggest place. I have 6 kids. All of them are grown but the last one and we just finalized his adoption May 9th. He is 16 and has been in the family for about 1 1/2 years. I am having a BMX on May 30th.

Joanne58

Welcome, dear Kandy!

I'm glad you found us and hope you will feel our love and support What a wonderful thing to adopt a teen-ager--wow! We look forward to getting to know you better and helping in any way.

I have 5 grown children and will be 60 this year. I'm also 2A with a positve node, plus I was Her2+, so chemo was necessary. It will be my 8th year from DX (diagnosis) in Sept. The time has gone by sooooo fast! I well recall my treatment, though, and hope to answer any questions you may have if chemo and rads are decided for your treatment. I took Tamoxifen for several years and now I'm taking Letrozole. I had a BMX with no reconstruction and I had no complications, just soreness for a few months. Please stay in touch and know that you're in my prayers

Joanne58

PS--I just realilzed, Kandy, that my youngest 2 were 14 and 16 when I was diagnosed. My son was the 16 year-old, like yours. He was worried, but had the chance to "grow and show" his faith through my trial of BC. I think it helped him become more sensitive to others and more compassionate. These 2 qualities made him a better missionary and husband, too, IMO

kandyhunt

Thank you for your welcome Joanne. I am 60 and will be 61 in August. I never thought I would adopt but... My husband and I were members of the ward counsel. There was a husband and wife that had really bad health issues. I was asked to go over to their house and see if I could help them get on Medicaid and get other help that they could use that was available to them. When i showed up at their apartment I saw this young man walking around the apartment doing things for these people and realized that they had a kid. So as we helped the parents with their needs we were asked by the dad to watch the son while he was in the hospital as the wife was in the hospital too. That was in October of 2016. By January the mom had been in and out of the hospital for liver failure. She was non complaint with her meds. The husband was to go to dialysis Monday, Wednesday and Friday. But he would only go maybe once a week. At the end of January the wife died. Anthony, our new son moved in with us about a week before that. The dad died about a week and a half later because he refused to go to dialysis. So Anthony stayed with us. Come to find out these people were not his parents but had taken care of him since he was a baby. We had to get the state involved and get his bio mom's parental rights terminated as she didn't want anything to do with him. So now he has a sable home and goes to church every Sunday. He has food to eat and clothes that fit. It absolutely amazed me how much this boy had suffered from lack of everything from the basics, knowing how to brush his teeth, using a knife and fork, doing homework, using a cloth napkin. It has been a trip like I never thought I would be on. Sort of like cancer.

Joanne58

Oh my goodness, Kandy!!! I'm so glad you and your husband were able to take him into your home and give him the basics of life and love, but I'm really, really happy he has a chance to go to church and learn the gospel--the most important gift from you. I hope he thrives in your care and grows his own testimony. I also hope the youth will be kind and accepting of him. Friends in the church are vital.

Joanne58

Thanks for the reminder, Susie. We are so very lucky to live in a free nation. I think there's a special spot in heaven for those who serve in the armed forces in our behalf

We've been having lots of "Gray May" in our cool weather these past few weeks, but the sun came out today and it was in the low 70's--perfect for the bar-b-que we attended at a friend's home from our ward. Kids were swimming and adults were chatting and eating wonderful foods from different cultures. I think I ate way too much cake! My husband and I have gained weight the last month or so, so we've vowed to be dessert-free for the next 2 months. I brought all our left over home baked breads and goodies to the bar-b-que (we've had a steady stream of family visiting and missionaries over for dinner) but my husband and I ended up eating OTHER people's goodies that were brought for the pot luck! Gotta be better tomorrow....

I'll be thinking of you, Kandy, and hope your surgery goes well on the 30th. Best to you!

Joanne58

Keylime pie, Susie? Oh my, I would eat the whole thing myself!!!

Weather has changed to summer heat with cool, breezey evenings now. Any fun plans from the summer, friends? I'll be working, as usual, but looking forward to a family renuion in Utah for a week in July. Hoping to enjoy all my grandkids under one roof (renting a house for all 23 of us) and also have the blessing of our newest granddaughter. I've lost 7 piano students in 2 months--so many are moving! I'll miss them, terribly. I get so attached as if they're my own children! Hoping to replace them, soon. My income keeps us alive. My husband and I will be working till one foot in the grave, but that wont be for a looooong time

Kandy--I sure hope you're doing OK since your surgery and get a treatment plan in place with your news of a positive node. I had one, too. If chemo is deemed necessary, you'll have lots of support from us on the BCO board. Keeping you in my prayers!

Joanne58

Here's a link to the song I'm playing for my grandaughter's baptism (see explanation below--I put this video link in the wrong place!) Pretty dated with the 70's style, but the message is timeless. I especially like the phrase, "Just in case, I need to erase, it was figured out before. A thing called repentance, can wipe out a sentence, a page or a chapter or more."

I'll be going to N.C. at the end of the month for one of my granddaughter's baptism. I'll be speaking and accompanying her and the other grandma as they sing, "My Story," from the LDS musical, "My Turn on Earth." Do you remember that musical from so long ago? I liked it a lot better than "Saturday's Warrior." Anyway, I'll be giving the same talk I gave at my other granddaughter's baptism in May, but I"m nervous about playing the piano for the song. Gotta practice so I don't mess up!

Here's a picture of me with my granddaughter in Nevada. She had such a wonderful baptism day!

Blessings of health and happiness to all, and may we stay on the covenant path!

Joanne58

Hello, and Happy 4th of July! Hope everyone had a great celebration today! I just returned from seeing a movie with my husband, and the theater was basically empty--wow! We realized everyone was out bar-b-queing and preparing for fireworks. We opted to split a subway sandwhich and see "Jurassic World" instead after a long day of teaching piano and doing small home repairs.

I had a lovely weekend in North Carolina for my 2nd eldest grand daughter's baptism. The music went well(not too many mistakes by me!) and my grand daughter sang very sweetly. One funny moment was my 6 yr-iold grand daughter giving the opening prayer. She very matter-of-factly said, "...and please bless Juliette that she can be forgiven when she's rude to people." We were sooo worried that Juliette would be embarrassed and mad at her, but nothing was said, so it was all good.

Happy summer to all!

Love,

Joanne

Joanne58

Just returned home late tonight from visiting my grandkids in Nevada and read your recurrence news, Susie. Dang it! I hope your treatment will have minimal side effects. Also hope you find lots of info, experience and support on the boards here re liver mets. Adding your name to our local temple prayer rolls. You are loved!

Looking forward to you sharing some pics of your grandsons when you're ready, and I'm glad you and I share a love for subway sandwhiches

Blessings of peace, comfort, direction and faith to you and yours!

Joanne58

The talks in Sacrament meeting in my ward were about creating eternal families, and one young married speaker said she loved a quote she saw in a friend's home on the wall; "Dysfunctional Families are Forever!" Everyone chuckled because we all know that no family is perfect and we all deal with stuff. i guess that all the Lord expects of us is to do the best we can to make it work in our homes, starting with ourselves.

Love and blessings,

Joanne

Joanne58

Praying the kids are delightful to teach on Sunday. What a sweetie you are to sub! I'm glad you're feeling cooler sans the hair, for now. Praying the chemo does its job and you're able to deal well with the SEs. Enjoy your Sabbath--the Lord's day of rest

Love,

Joanne

Joanne58

We lost one of our original members here on this thread in June. I already let Celia know, who manages the "In memoriam" thread, but thought I'd better let you know about her passing, too. TallM is from my home stake. I knew her parents and siblings while I was growing up (her dad was my oral surgeon, having removed my wisdom teeth), but didn't get to know her until she was on the BCO board. Malinda was an amazing pianist and became a nurse, shortly before being diagnosed with stage 4 IBC. She lived longer than expected. We don't know what our life expectancy is--BC returns, but I do know that we are given the right amount of time on earth, according to the Lord's wisdom. https://www.lindquistmortuaries.com/notices/Malind... https://www.facebook.com/mtall1

Wishing all sweet peace and continued faith in Jesus Christ. He knows all our sorrows and provides our greatest reason to find joy in this life and the life to come.

Love,

Joanne

Moderators

HI LDS ladies,

It's with great sadness we have to inform you of SusieM49's passing. Her daughter sent us a PM letting us know that she passed on Sunday afternoon, after she was hospitalized for an infection and had a stroke.

Our thoughts are with you all during this sad time.

--The Mods

Joanne58

Oh my goodness! I can't believe how quickly she passed away after her stage 4 diagnosis. Thank you very much for letting us (me) know, Mods. It's going to be lonely here for a while. So many LDS women have passed away and I feel like I'm the last one on this thread. So very sad. How I look forward to associating with all these dear ladies in our next phase of life as eternal friends and sisters.

Joanne58

Thought I'd post something from an article in our church magazine, "Ensign," August, 2018, entitled, "Do Not Leave the Savior." This section of the article holds great wisdom.

HOW TO SURVIVE SPIRITUALLY:

1. Love and Obey God, first

2. Hold personal prayer

3. "Seek learning even by study and also by faith"

4. Search the scriptures, expecially the Book of Mormon, every day!

5. Focus on the big picture

8. Above all else, trust in Jesus Christ

Whatever you do, do not leave the Savior! Because of his atonement, we are agents, free to act and not to be acted upon. Each of us will stand before Almighty God and account for the light and truth we have chosen.

Here's to a good week, full of doing all we can to help others and growing our faith in the Lord.

Love,

Joanne

Joanne58

Quote for the day from Elder Neal A. Maxwell:

"Sometimes in the deepest darkness there is no external light--

only an inner light to guide and to reassure."

I thank our Father in Heaven for this "inner light" that has reassured me, often, and given me hope through the trials of mortality.

Joanne58

Here are some fun quotes I found in an old letter from my mother's friend. Enjoy!

"Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them."

"Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statue."

"Drive carefully. It's not only the cars that can be recalled by their maker."

"If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague."

"A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour."

Joanne58

I've had this quote going through my head all day, "Faith is taking the first step, even though you can't see the whole staircase."

Lots of hard decisions lately and accepting what I can't control. I'm very, very grateful for the way I've been taught to have faith that all will be well, despite heart ache and disappointments along the way. It's how I'm able to still find joy in life and endure to the end Wishing all who are reading this the desire to continue in faith and know that you are a beloved child of God.

Joanne58

Joanne58

I have lots of favorite scriptures, but these two depict what I believe are the most important teachings in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

Acts 10:38 (King James Bible) "....God anointed Jesus of Nazareth with the Holy Ghost and with power: who went about doing good..."

2 Nephi 25:26 (Book of Mormon) "And we talk of Christ, we rejoice in Christ, we preach of Christ, we prophesy of Christ, and we write according to our prophecies, that our children may know to what source they may look for a remission of their sins." https://www.lds.org/scriptures/bofm/2-ne/25.12

These scriptures tell me that Jesus spent his life doing good, serving others, and that I must continue to rejoice in Him and follow His example. I'm so much happier when I choose to do good for someone else who's struggling, and when I take time to repent of my sins and keep trying to do better. How grateful I am for the Son of God!

Joanne58

I've been thinking a lot about prayers, how they are answered, and when we think they are NOT answered. Here are 2 helpful quotes:

President Henry B. Eyring said:

"I have had prayers answered. Those answers were most clear when what I wanted was silenced by an overpowering need to know what God wanted. It is then that the answer from a loving Heavenly Father can be spoken to the mind by the still, small voice and can be written in the heart."

President Russell M. Nelson said:

"I recognize that, on occasion, some of our most fervent prayers may seem to go unanswered. We wonder, "Why?" I know that feeling! I know the fears and tears of such moments. But I also know that our prayers are never ignored. Our faith is never unappreciated. I know that an all-wise Heavenly Father's perspective is much broader than is ours. While we know of our mortal problems and pain, He knows of our immortal progress and potential. If we pray to know His will and submit ourselves to it with patience and courage, heavenly healing can take place in His own way and time.

Joanne58

Sunday was full of light and inspiration! A young man I watched grow up spoke in Sacrament meeting, having just returned from his 2 year mission in the Philippines. Oh, how he loved the people there! Here's a quote from his talk that I really needed to hear: "Giving our all is a small repayment for HIS all."

I also liked this scripture he quoted from the Book of Mormon.

Helaman 5:2 " And now, my sons, remember, remember that it is upon the rock of our Redeemer, who is Christ, the Son of God, that ye must build your foundation; that when the devil shall send forth his mighty winds, yea, his shafts in the whirlwind, yea, when all his hail and his mighty storm shall beat upon you, it shall have no power over you to drag you down to the gulf of misery and endless wo, because of the rock upon which ye are built, which is a sure foundation, a foundation whereon if men build they cannot fall."

Here's to building our "sure foundation" on the rock of our Redeemer, who is Christ.

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He's My Joy,

He's my light

He' my strength 

and my sight.

He's my friend when I am low

He's my Savior, I love Him so. By Debbie