The Hermit Club

SallyS70

Cami, I like NCIS-LA too.  

Hi all ... I am having a very lazy Sunday.

Teka

In 2014 Pam Dawber reunited with Robin Williams on his comedy series The Crazy Ones as a love interest of Williams' character. 

OncoWarrior

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Jazzygirl

Hi hermits- getting out of dodge for the day did me good. Some museum time, a bit of shopping and ran across a prairie dog community at this local business that did a nice job keeping the little guys around. Many times, businesses don't like them/consider them destructive and try to get rid of them one way or another. I like that this place has found a way to co-exist with the cute wildlife. 

This guy kept looking at me while I was talking to him (there I go again talking to the animals) and seemed to really be posing for a picture.

camillegal

Oh Jazzy how sweet.

OK more trivia, and I'm going on trying to remember===Mark Harmon's sister was married to Ricky Nelson and when he died he went to court to gain custody of all 3 cuz his sister used drugs. I don't remember what happened after that but in Hollywood he has a nice quiet reputation, and one year voted the most sexy man of the year.Ah such trivia. LOL

Jazzygirl

Cami- there are a lot of Harmon kids. The actress Angie Harmon is also his sister. 

Kristin Harmon Nelson was the sister who was married to Ricky Nelson

I liked Mark Harmon in the movie he did as Ted Bundy. 

blondiex46

Ok ca 27 29 is a blood test that determines whether cancer is active, 37.5 is awesome, when it reaches hundreds and is increasing says there is a problem.  They also have a tm for ovarian ca thinking bout what it is...hhhmmm

blondiex46

Dont think angie s his sister.

Kinda od depressed today, kids suck, or at least mine do..tired of having ca, tired of being in pain, tired of being sick, just plain tired, lol kids still suck tho. These brats do, they r disrespectful,  michael tells me to shut up all the time, n to suck his****. Asked to borrow money then wont pay me back knowing I live on 962.00 a month, sorry for venting. Wanted to go out n didnt feel, was dizzy and unbalanced,  blood pressure is low, nurse was here yestrrday it was 108 over 80 I think

Jazzygirl

Blondie- I am so sorry that you are not feeling well and that your children are disrespectful. 

Michael said what? Is this one of your twins? Hugs sister.

Ovarian cancer market is CA 125. A few years back, I had some junk in one of my tubes they thought might be ovarian cancer that had grown into the tube. They kept testing me for it, slightly elevated but like you say with your tests, the stuff in the 100s is not good news. It was some endometriosis and then they left me alone. 

So it sounds like things are under control treatment wise? Now you just need to get that family of yours in alignment. I wish people were better to us sometimes. 

And tell him to go borrow money from someone else. You need your money to take care of you.

Teka

Blondie, 

I feel our offspring get away with a lot more crap.

I guess we should've eaten them when their bones were still soft.

*Hugs*

blondiex46

Good idea teka.. thats it ca125...

Treatment is non existent.  I do think I will get radiation to take care of lump on my leg. Have 2 go 2 the drs in sept, we will talk bout it then.

Yep they r a royal pia n burned their bridges with most people. He asked me to pay for his criminal backgrounds check where he can coach fb with his brother my oldest son, did, now he wont pay me back, ass..than,ks

camillegal

Oh Blondie rant all u want here, u know that. But I'm sorry u don't feel very well, I wish that would change===Kids won't so we just take it I guess and yes Teka there are certain species I think of fish that eat their young, all in all not a bad concept. I'm sorry I still don't understand if u'r numbers are good or what? It's just not clear to me. See I never ask questions so everything is foreign to me.

Jazzygirl

Teka- you are funny! 

I don't have kids but have a 24 year old nephew I have always tried to keep in touch with/help when I could. The son of my deceased brother. He is in the military and doing okay, but does not bother to respond to me any which way anymore. His parents (mother and her current husband ) say "he does not Facebook anymore, you need to text him." 

Well, guess what, he does not respond to that either. His birthday is in Ocober and I decided I am just going to be silent this year. He is old enough he needs to understand he needs to make an effort to keep in touch with people. His mother is a poor communicator too, but they all seem to expect gifts for birthdays and Xmas. 

Blondie- I am sorry about your son. 

blondiex46

Thanks jazzy

And the 37.5 is good when cancer is out of control l it can b like 500, or even more, so having double digits is good but it doesnt hsve anything to do with bone mets

Jazzygirl

Blondie- no hormone therapy for the bone mets?

Bippy625

hi herms,  today is my 1st CAT scan...to ensure my new uninvited guest has not moved its chit around. Nervous but nothing for it. Well, not true, zanax is for it!  I know that if they mention they want more scans there is something bad wrong. I know they wont give me a wink or a thumbs up even if it looks okay......so, i see onco this Friday, and will try not to flip out all week as i will know then. Sighs. 

I have minimal things to wrap up at my job and i will be done there by sept 1. Then i will be seeing you all alot more here! Joining the local cancer club, for free yoga, counseling, etc. too.  

Have a great Monday Hermies!

Jazzygirl

Bippy- good luck with the CT scan. It is stressful going through all the tests and then waiting to hear results. I expect you will have an MRI on your other breast too.

Teka

*Good Morning Hermits*

Bippy, excellent results!

Jazzy, sadly......

Bippy625

jazzy, i did have that on both already, if it is the one where your boobs are hanging out of holes, face down and the dye injection....the other one is healthy as of now. Well, it is what is will be, right?  I guess i must be getting used to it.

Teka, so very very true! Already, this is a priority changer. I am dreading calling a pal, she is okay but very superficial and it is odd she and i even still talk, we are so different. All my other friends are deep, genuine, incredible gals, with zero guille and other fine qualities.

Anyway, i know she will say something incredibly insensitive, or more likely,  simply monopoloze the conversation with the excrutiating minuteia(?) of her latest sexual/money-related activities. Well, i am wondering how to handle that, and how to turn it into a learning moment for her vs. flying off my very short handle. Thoughts are welcomed!

Teka

Bippy,

I've a childhood friend that continues to be there for me.

That being said, I kicked a school friend to the curb for always putting herself 1st.   Enough!  She's blessed with no serious illness.

Don't waste your precioussssss timeeeeee ;o)

Jazzygirl

Teka- you are very right about that. I find it very free-ing to be able to just let things go with my nephew. My brother passed when he was not quite 3 years old, and made a commitment to him and my former sister in law that I would be part of his life as he was growing up. My sister and I both moved away a few years after our brother's passing but always kept in touch with our nephew, sent him gifts, had him come visit us a points, etc. I went to see him graduate from Army boot camp in 2009, sent him care packages while he was in Iraq, etc. In the past year, he has just stopped keeping in touch and so I will let things be. He turns 25 this fall and is an adult now and will make his own choices about family. I realized in just thinking about it this morning I think I have fulfilled my promise to my brother (whew!)

Bippy- we all have stories here about people who were friends before but could not be there for us during our treatment time. Just know that not everybody can or will support another person through this. Those who have had their own health challenges, or have helped another family member who is ill, or have supported friends through cancer treatment will be the ones to help you the most. Surround yourself with people who keep in touch, ask what they can do to help, etc. Let them help too, your real friends will want to do things to make any part of this easier for you that they can. The ones with their own self created and problems will take too much of your time and energy.

That being said, Teka is right on here, don't waste your time on the friend who is self consumed and wants to talk about herself. I learned some people are just looking for an "audience" so please decide not to be that person. During this time of treatment, you need no stressful people around as you must focus on taking care of yourself 100%. It is okay to tell people like this too you are going off the radar for awhile.  Trust me, this person will just go looking for someone else to talk to about her junk. Some people need to have been through a similar experience or just have empathy in general, but know that not everyone does. Like Teka, I also had to kick someone to the curb who was not there for me and realize now many months later, I don't miss the relationship at all. 

Good to hear the MRI is done, keep us posted on the CT scan results. 

Jazzygirl

Jazzygirl

Oh and Jazzy is feeling much more prepared for her skin surgery tomorrow. I have read up lots about this particular method, talked to some doc friends and family members, cleared out a bunch of extraneous stuff on my schedule this week, and have food and drink to pack a little lunch for myself. They suggested I bring a book, and some snacks to be comfortable during my time there (will be there a few hours). They also told me what to expect for my out of pocket on this. I feel ready. My goal is to get through this procedure and come away with clean margins.

Oh and I also did the same thing I recommended to Bippy above. Told a few people who I consider friends/supporters but like to go on about whatever is in their head or what they want to talk about that I must step away for a bit. They have been through it enough with me to know I just need my space. 

And Jazzy also got paid her final invoice by her last client and that feels good.

Got things to do today to be able to be ready to go tomorrow and then take it easy the rest of the day. Will pop in when I am feeling better tomorrow and let you know how things go.

Lily55

Good luck, all will be well

Teka

Jazzy,

2nd

Jazzygirl

Thank you Teka, Lily and everyone else here! 

magdalene51

Finally coming out of week 1 ickiness. So thankful for the upgraded meds which have managed the intestinal issues much better. Still, I've spent most of the weekend down for the count. Mostly just weak.

Blondie, it saddens me to hear of your kids' incredible lack of compassion for you. Having a niece & nephew who are like that, though, I've seen how they can be, ungrateful brats.

Jazzy, glad you got to have a day out, that prairie dog is the cutest thing, posing for you like that. Did the snoopy dance that you got your check (been there, done that, know that feeling).

Teka, are you recovered from your trip? Recliner conforming to your butt? That second pic you posted is so right on.

Bippy, most of us, I think, have had to reevaluate relationships during these rough times. This morning I had a message from an old friend in New Zealand who is also a survivor, we've never met face to face, but she checks in on me from time to time. Support comes from places you'd never expect. DH's boss lady sends cards home with him.

camillegal

It's still morning so Good Morning.

Jazzy u know I wish the best for u and like u said cotact us as soon as u'r up to it.

Mags I'm sorry this one is again hard on you, being fatigued is so common, u'r whole body feels ike a wet noodle all the time.

Teka likin' that recliner.

Bippy is this u'r first scan? Only cus they usually take a lot of goofy tests for a while. Just hoping it all is good. And don't give that person another thought--Don't anyone ever take my advice, cuz everyone else has a much nicer approach to things--I'm just a sarcastic b*tch and everyone knows it. But u take care of u'rself first.

My phones have been to quiet, that means no business--I don't like that.

Teka

Mags,

Sometimes, feels like acts of kindness are few and far between.

Bippy625

hi camilelegal, it was my first CT scan. The double boob MRI, echo, and bone scan were clear. I love sarcasm!  Do not ever change. Well, i will find out soon enough. Also i realize it dont matter if the little pal invites guests elsewhere say, 5 minutes or days after the freakin scan, right?  Why i invest myself, i do not know. This chit is making me crazy. Have a great night all!