The Hermit Club

SallyS70

Teka, the wall looks very cheery.  Like you, I like bunnies and roosters/chickens.  The pig is adorable too.

Jazzy, I had already cut the worst of the grabbing wisteria vines before I saw your suggestion that I post a picture.  For 5 or more years the wisteria limped along with no blooms.  Then last year or the year before, POW, it started growing every which way.  This year it is even blooming a fair amount.  

blondiex46

good evening checking in did nothing today....

just made pop corn, wonder how that will fare with the diverticullitis, lol

see you tomorrow...

have a good night

 

Teka

Blondie,

Jazzygirl

Blondie- well I hope you can enjoy the popcorn. I know nuts are a problem with the div.

Teka- love the new wall and decorations! Must feel good to have it done!

We did our outdoor FM yoga practice in the loveliest yard with these amazing pink amaryllis. Picture coming! Just a lovely evening outdoors tonight.

magdalene51

Sally, I have a wisteria story. The first house DH & I bought had a wisteria in the backyard. It had been planted by one of those old T shaped cast iron clotheslines, and it was fully 15feet in diameter. In fact, it took off and grew over the storage building that was about 10 feet from the post. DH was always griping about it, and once a year he would take the hedge trimmers and give it a haircut. After we moved he would never let me plant one, so I compromised and planted one in a planter. It never did much...or so I thought. We later moved to another house on a wooded acre. I put up an arbor in the back of the property and put the planter there. Later we put up a fence halfway back because of the dogs, and I never gave the wisteria another thought. Until one April I was sitting on our patio, and I'm looking at the trees in the back, and wondering what that purple stuff was in the treetops. The danged wisteria had climbed to the top looking for sun, and the tree was a good 30 feet tall!

We have no wisteria here.

Jazzy, we have wood floors on our wish list for after this chit is over. I'm embarrassed to say that Rose has lost her potty training with her mom's chemo smell. It really bothers her the first few days. Like she knows me but she doesn't recognize my smell. So the carpets are a mess even though we try to keep up with the spot bot. I just don't have the energy.

My favorite time of year in Maine was the first part of September, right after the vacationers left and before the cold, when the leaves turn. They'll probably already have started in Nova Scotia. Teka will have a great time. Remember, pictures or it didn't happen.

Onco, you always cheer me up! In our acre of woods we had owls. One morning DH was on his way to work, very early when it was still dark, and turned a corner in the neighborhood, his headlights hit an owl sitting in the middle of the street. He said it was huge, when it took off its wingspan was the width of the car. 

We watched movies tonight, Marvel's Avengers and the new Red Dawn. (I know, not so new, but not the Patrick Swayze version.) Give me an action hero! Love it. 

And so to bed.

blondiex46

thanks Jazzy how was the "music" tonight, so happy that brings you joy...you bring so much here.....don't like worrying about you, so take care of yourself before you contract yourself out again....plz

pop corn was good, not supposed to eat it as I said, but who cares do whatever I want and ate "turtles" I think there were pecans in it...no peanuts either.....life is too short...

have a good one

Jazzygirl

The yard where we did our full moon practice under the stars. Loved the old english garden there.

Jazzygirl

Have you guys ever seen this wisteria in Japan? I saw it in a photo series of the most amazing trees posted on FB. It is 144 years old.

blondiex46

WOW AMAZING, THANKS JAZZY!!

Lily55

i am here hibernating in air con during the day with the animals (ten now), as we are melting in this heat....relentless, at night my bedroom is not below 28 despite AC and ceiling fan..........have next procedure in three weeks so need to sleep.......

Jazzygirl

Lily- thanks for touching base with us here. I hope you and the pets are resting comfortably in the heat. 

Let us know the date of your next procedure if you would like, so we can be there in your pocket with you. 

Jazzygirl

Teka

Blondie,

magdalene51

Happy birthday, Blondie!

Jazzy, we had some flowers like that, we called them naked ladies. The leaves come up in spring and then die back, and the ladies come out in August.

Dealing with no sleep, puffy, watery eyes. I made the mistake of looking in the mirror. Eeeek! I scared myself!

DH is watching a show about pranks. What is it with guys and pranks? No wonder this world is going to hell in a handbasket if this is how adult men (and women!) behave. I feel bad that I laughed at some of them. Does that make me a bad person?

Jazzygirl

Blondie, may your day be sweet and special.

Jazzygirl

Teka- I forgot to respond to you about the whole Mexico/New Mexico confusion. When I moved here, everyone wanted to know if I need a special visa or the like to work here? I said no, New Mexico part of the US. 

Recently, a cousin at a family reunion wanted to know if my Spanish was really good now after living here for almost 20 years? I said lots of folks do speak spanish here as this area has had spanish since the 1500s when the conquistadors came up from Mexico in search of gold (no luck with that). But that the dominant language here is english.

Many are geographically challenged though. When moved to Texas from CT in 1983, many would ask "so is Connecticut up near the great lakes?" I said no, northeast, between NYC and Boston. That received a vacant look.

I know you leave tomorrow for Maine and NS. Have a GREAT time, eat lots of tasty seafood and be safe driving!

Jazzygirl

And some here speak Spanglish too!

SallyS70

Mags, great wisteria story ... thanks for sharing.

blondiex46

thanks for all your birthday wishes, apprecaite it....

Jazzygirl

Good morning hermits- I hope everyone is having a good monday morning so far.

magdalene51

Wow, Jazzy! They sure do grow big chickens out your way! (Did they need a visa for them?) (Or was it a MasterCard? Haha!)

Wondering how I'm going to make my 9:30 labs appointment tomorrow; I didn't even get up until 10 today! Guess I'll shower tonight and go to bed dressed and ready to roll! At least I don't have to do my hair!

Then again, I stayed up late watching all three Matrix movies. Shame on me.

Jazzygirl

Mags- sounds like you got some good rest if you slept in until 10 a.m. today. HBO movies got me through my cancer treatment. Hopefully you can get up in time to get the lab stuff over with tomorrow am. I hope you are working through the worst of the chemo SEs now. Rest and healing food is key. 

I called the derm today and left a message to ask if they got the results of my skin biopsies taken on 7/31. They said the results should be in within a week so that would have been last Thursday or Friday. Will let you know what I hear.

camillegal

OMG it's afternoon, been a little busy this morning.

OK Teka's off and running, hope she has a great time

Mags I hate to admit it but when I have really early appt'ment I,  do that wash my face brush my teeth and out the door It never matters to me. I figure when I've been in the hospital and they would take me down for whatever, I looked like a zombie, how much worse can I look.

Jazzy good pics.. and I'm lovin' u'r ideas for u'r home and the fun times u'r having.

Well my party started at 1PM Sat. and I got home Sunday morning round 11am, I went swimming for hrs, which is really stupid when u don't do it often and only almost drowned 2x, since I really can't swim and the floating noodles got away from me---but I always had a lifeguard with me, plus the pool is 4 feet. hahaha--I had a bout 4 hrs of sleep so I was wiped out yesterday and today too plus loads of aches and pains. But it's OK

Onco yes I do chalk my hair--I have purple, blue, fushia and green, so I just chalk it on the sides and on a little to match what I'm earing--only when I'm going someplace when I not going to get wet. My hair has a lot of white (first time ever not dying it out) but it also had dark so where it's whit is where I chalk, and it just washes out--it's just fun and I actually get compliments. Go figure I'm this old lady with whtever color I choose in places. wherever I want. LOL

Blondie I truly hope u BD was what u wanted and u had a great time.

It's been taking me forever to catch up, plus I'm working which puts a dent in my day as usual LOL

Onco I have no idea how to put pics on here beside I'm not great to look at anyway.but if I could I would for u guys  OK I'm going to say something sounding stupid now (all right I know I always do) but this is strange when my GS sees me when we're going out and we're waiting he always looks at me and say u look so beautiful and u'r skin is so soft an u have no wrinkles---well this is his way of looking at me, he love to do my hir cuz it's so soft, and I always tease hime about my hair is younger than his hair, but I think that when u know someone and care about them all u see is beauty. When I've seen pics of women on our threads I just look and think how beautiful everyone is, that's not to say u'r not--but I don't see any flaws in anyone even without hair ora little bit. I see so much beauty on these few threads that I am on it's like  pageant to me t any age, I'm so blessed to know so many wonderfull ladies. And altho I'm not a hermit like I was, or maybe I don't do all I did before cuz I don't feel up to it I love this thread and the people who come here and I don't want to leave--there are about 4 threads that I've been on for a while taking me a while to get the right ones and I care about everyone on those--I left when there would be conflict among the women, cuz that's not why I'm here. I mean where can u really go and not actually meet someone, but u feel like u know them as well as anyone and care just as much if not more than anyone in their lives and if anyone would have told me this a few years back I would have said they were crazy and I think everyone I know thinks I'm crazy cuz I they don't understand how this makes u feel coming to a place where u can say u'r feeling and everyone really understands. Not taking away from any of my family and friends cuz I really love them too but I didn't realiz how much can go around.

OK off my soap box--see what happens when I miss some time--it's like Oh I've got to tell u, of course then I forget it by the time I'm here. hahaha.

 

camillegal

BTW Jazzy I am so geographically disabled even as an adult my parents were always trying to teach me where everything was in the world and I still haven't a clue where our states are.

magdalene51

Cami, I echo what you said about this thread and our Hermies. 

That's why this is the only place I feel I can relate the major event of the day. I think I told you all about the rift between me and my sisters that has been a year and a half now. DH has remained in touch, particularly with one BIL (the one that's an Episcopal priest) and yesterday DH was telling me how my sister is heartbroken about the rift and doesn't understand why I won't talk to her. DH asked me, as a favor to him, to please talk to her. So, as a favor to him, I said if she called I would answer. Today she did. I have to say that for someone who is heartbroken, she sounded cold. She asked all the questions about the BC, and the tx and stuff, but it sounded uninterested tbh. I ended up telling her, cancer changes us, but it also reveals us, and in my case it revealed all my worst as well as maybe some of my good parts (I hope). That I was probably not worth the trouble. I said if she called I would answer, and she responded that she didn't see the point. So I said I didn't either. And we said goodbye.

I am still hurting, and actually glad for the excuse of chemo SEs for the watering red eyes and runny nose. Truly I have become a bitter old woman. There's just no two ways about it. And I don't see any way that changes.

I'm going to take my shower now and power down for the duration. I'm not fit company, I'm afraid.

Thanks for listening, Hermits.

SallyS70

Mags, I wish I could stop the pain caused by your sister.  You are very valuable to us.  She is missing so much by not being able to relate to you. I feel sorry for her because her actions keep her away from you and angry at her for hurting you.  

Teka

Yes, me in Maine!

Jazzygirl

Mags- I am sorry to hear about things with your sister. Your conversation did not sound to me either like someone who is heartbroken either. You made your effort and now you can put it aside since it did not feel good or supportive. I rarely have had family be supportive of me during my greatest trials in life, so I understand. I am truly sorry.

Why wouldn't you feel bitter? Who deserves to have this crappy disease and the hard treatments that go with it? That being said, you don't have to be anything for anybody while you are going through this. You just need to get through the treatments and try to kick this thing to the curb. I kept away from everyone I needed to during treatment and a long time after. You just don't need any additional stress during all this.

And your comment about being afraid. We understand. Cancer is a very scary illness.  You can be scared here all you want with us because we understand the fears that go with being diagnosed, going through treatment, SEs, re-occurrence, the changes in our external world. We get it and we get the need to hermit too.

Peace to you sister. I hope you rest well, get through the lab work with ease tomorrow morning, and are home comfortable and resting by later tomorrow morning.

Teka

Poor connection, I keep getting kicked out of cyber space.

Jazzy, I'm keeping fingers and toes crossed for excellent results.   

Mags, well meaning family members cannot get family members on the outs to hug it out.   I took over 10 years to mend a couple of fences and had to tell well meaning family members to butt out.

Cami, I still feel like a *Hermit* while on this mini-vacation.

I was having a fit because husband was having a big problem getting me on the threads!

camillegal

Mags I don't even understand why she called at all unless her DH asked her to. All she did was make a bad situation worse, but u were opened for talking to her at least so u've done u'r part, again close the book on it==u live in a great situation so just enjoy what u have and relax to heal u'rself, uz that's u'r job now.

Teka a beautiful picture I do hope u enjoy u'rself once u get going on this trip--just relax and enjoy it please. I'm glad u an get to us tho.