The Hermit Club

Teka

blondiex46, positive results from LB.

duckyb1

back again......so tired of.....do a little...sit.....a little more, sit......knee hurts, back hurts, feet hurt......sit.....such bullshit......what happened to that person who raised 6 kids......then lugged around a 2 year old and a baby grandsons at 51, while still having 3 grown kids at home, then did it again at age 65 for 2 more grandchildren, from 6:30 till 5pm.......3 days a week, then worked the other 2 at big Pharma......not to mention 1 grandson weighed 12lbs at birth..........2 years later came his sister at 12lbs 6 ounces.............."and I carried these 2......took care of them until 5 months ago when their Mom started working from home........they are now 15, and 13..,.,.

I hate this do nothing existence now, I want my old life back..........now the mind says I can, and I want to do things......"..then the body slaps you into reality and says....."go ahead try", and you realize "you can't"........... honestly I was great till I became a slave to the meds that help keep us alive a little longer, or perhaps till the good Lord takes us for another reason........"...but are we truly alive......

Well my pity party is over,.......guess I will go rearrange the dirt, until it's time to "sit" again.......hugs......

CCFW

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duckyb1

thanks CC......I read a lot too.......so much I think between the reading and the IPad, I am killing my eyes......but I do it just the same.......lots of games, and also many on our BC.org website under the thread....Humor and Games......,.you should go there...it is fun......

I have a nerve complaining when so many are worse then I am.......sorry

CCFW

del

duckyb1

CC....lol....have done all those thing sore then once........lol....."damn I hate spell check..."

Just go to that thread.......First do Menu,.....then look for Search,.......in the Subject do.....Humor and Games......the thread will come up.......check them all......some are played all the time......some on occasion, but many, many to choose from...........it's games with our ladies...love it.......also you might recognize many of their names.......see you there....FYI...lol do them all

camillegal

Hi Guys--Oh let's face it, we're here and we're all a mess at different levels--

Blondie I hope this breathing thing gets settled really soon, it'seems so long for them to not help u better.

Simple u have loads of hair--try to go this Sat, but don't push it. U look great, sorry u don't feel that way.

Lynn I most definetly agree, it's real hermit weather now--it so chikly out and windy here and we still have snow on the ground.

OK Ducky what the hell was that first post about, me, u, u, me, me ,u I'm glad u got confused cuz I had no idea what u were talking about. LOL And u'r right we sit--get up move a little , hurt sit down it's so much fun--I'm so glad I'm a TV nut it does help--but even washing clothes is a big deal. I have a lot of pain today and trying to not take pain meds cuz they make me tired but I snuck one in cuz I have to do the phone and do my messages. Oh here's a good one my voice is almost gone--cuz I've actually been talking a lot--my vocal cords aren't used to it so I sound all raspy and an effort to talk--I'm laughing cuz my DD and I are saying if I only talked more--cuz I'm very quiet hermitting--now my vocal chords are mad or something hahaha

Jazzy u always say the perfect thing u are a sweety, OK u too ducky and the sexiest, prettiest, smartest and u'r in the mile high club etc; (How's that)?

Tomboy

Jazzy always DOES say the best things. I wish that she would start a web blog so i could read it everyday. i thought about it, but so far into treatment, i would take such a long time catching up! blondie, hope lung biopsy goes well and it doesnt hurt too much. Thanks for explaining yr job cami, i love to talk, but dont think i could do what you do, but the best jobs sometimes are the ones that fall right into your lap. im getting ready to go to pcp, hes the oone who prescribes pain meds to me, but lately he has been trying to get me to take a statin for cholestrol. not me. arimidex raised it, i am not sure what tamox does to it, but the side effects. it is funny, every morning i wake up and take inventory about what hurts and where, and what just feels plain weird. did the lebed video yesterday, cause my arm is really acting up. sore, a little. but doable. duckyb! i cant imagine doing this at 78 yrs young. hard enough at 54! and i WAS in great shape, never saw doctors, worked and played hard, ate mostly veggie, but oh well.... we learn what we need now, more rest and sitting, love my bath time with epsom salts.....

duckyb1

sitting again.........

Tomboy

HAHAHAHA.... ducky you are funny. i am not laughing @ you, just laughing NEAR you!!!!

camillegal

Ducky it's OK me too.

Kath u'r only 54 oh my u'r young going thru this crap, I know a lot of u are younger and I feel worse for u really.

duckyb1

Cam......much worse for them.....it is just not fair......so think I will stop bitching and moaning.....

Tomboy

ok, curious. how is it worse for us? cause we will deal with it longer? not arguing, as i sed, just curious.... i just think it is funny, they hit it harder when you are stage 1-3c, but if you are 4, it is more about quality of life. why isnt it ALWAYS about quality of life!!!! Got BIGARM longer?!? have to see doctors longer? yucky pucky _ucky!!!!

Lynn1234

Teka-normally, I don't online shop that much except for books, but this year may be different. Actually, I may do some sewing projects for gifts this year. In the past, I've made quilts(easy patterns), skirts and purses for my daughters, robes, etc. I guess I need to get busy! haha

Jazzy-it's true -you always say the right thing. I wish I was that articulate.

Ducky-you can complain all you want-I hear ya and am giving you a cyber ((((HUG))))

kathec-what is the lebed video?

camillegal-we used to live near chicago-it got down to 30 degrees below zero and blizzard-like one winter...yikes! People were going around like it was 80 degrees outside!

duckyb1

Kath worse for you cause your so young........usually a different form of cancer......and sometimes us old ladies can get by without chemo if we get it later in life......everything moves slower in older people, so if we catch it early (doing regular mams) it is less aggressive ......however the AI's which we take beat the hell out of many of us, making QOL sometimes non-existent

So all in all cancer sucks, at any age, but still not fair to you younger ladies, because I remember being that age, and just a headache with having a family and kids was nasty, and debilitating.......just my feeling.....you deserve better......

When my husband had cancer at 55 and someone asked him....."yo Vince, don't you ever ask yourself "why me".........he answered."why not me"........he died at 57.........his answer still stays with me.......

camillegal

Kath oh no I didn't mean that like that--I meant I like "Girl interrupted" I meant when u'r younger u might still have to go back to work, or take care of family or still have parents worrying about u all kinds of normal everyday things. We (ducky) and I are retired so if we feel like it we can nap or not cook or just do whatever we feel like. But when I was in my 50's I hardly caught a cold and worked and went out and saw plays and went to every family function. I don't mean it's harder on an older person, probably easier cuz we've done a lot in our lives--where u are interrupted --I hope I'm saying this right because I certainly mean no disrespect, but I just feel bad and sad that u have to go thru this when u should be having fun not cancer. Chit I feel bad for everyone who's here at any age. Kath I think I'm not explaining myself well but I hope u understand.

duckyb1

good job Cam.....you said it exactly right......life is much different when your younger .....dealing with a family, work (even a stay at home Mom).........kids, and their demands, homework, sports, games, practice, projects, shopping, cooking.......and a husband too....I am a 22 year widow.......so my 50's were alone without a husband......

For us older gals, we shop when we have to.......cook if we want to........sit if we need to.......go to bed as early or late, cause we can sleep without getting up to make breakfast, pack lunches, get kids to school, and then begin the day.

We can make our coffee, and sit and enjoy it without the "bullshit"...........then do whatever pleases us without concern the rest of the day......few BC young women can say that.....

You deserve our caring Kath......we admire your courage......"hugs

camillegal

Ducky

duckyb1

Kath...."yea the big arm sucks..."have LE too.......

Your right QOL matters at all ages...".its just when your older, and had years of QOL, you have had it longer.........but "oh".........what I would not for QOL right now.....it went out the window, when cancer came in the door.....

I believe that is what cancer takes away......scars heal, hair grows back, LE though for life can be controlled, but do we ever get true QOL back..........it's almost 3 years for me......I haven't........not like it was before cancer...........

Teka

Lynn1234, son & daughter are single young adults who prefer cash. We no longer buy expensive gifts, just stocking stuffers. We do X-mas shopping on-line & off-line, but never on Thanksgiving or Black Friday.

I am all thumbs when it comes to homemade gifts!

Tomboy

you guys said it all great. dont be so hard on yourself, cami, i always get what you say. and i love the way you say things. your gentleness comes thru easy. I never did have kids, altho i loved them (my sister insists that she had mine for me!), was just too busy having fun, and never met the man i wanted to breed with, except currant one, and then too old.... but i really do try to do things that make me happy, and i do get sad to think i may not see 70. or even 60. and it is true, i had to break the news very gently to my mom, who doesnt live close, she has a bad heart, and lots of loss in her life already. but i think this is hard on ALL of us, in varying ways, Just as we are ALL special--- in various ways!

Tomboy

You guys all make me feel all warm & fuzzzzzy! thanx

Jazzygirl

Hi hermits- I am sitting in a training session for my project but they are looking on the computer and I am just observing/listening. After this, I have a quick stop at the health food store and then going to one of my favorite yoga classes.

Thank you for all your compliments on my writing. You speak to something that is becoming more important to me, to write. I have not been inclined to do a blog (although I wonder if I should start my own thread here too like Random Thoughts from Jazzy...) But there is something greater inside of me about writing I am trying to get to.

I want to write a novel about my life. I had always said I would do this, and thought by the time I was 40, I would be ready. But after just having come through a career change, my focus was elsewhere. Then my mother got sick, then I got layed off from a job, then I started my own business, then my mother died, then I got cancer. Now I am 53.

I saw a really neat documentary on HBO about Gloria Steinam, whom I got see talk here a few years back in Santa Fe. Not sure if any of you you have seen this on HBO, but she talked about her life, her work, care giving to her sick mother and later her later in life husband who passed just a few years after their wedding. She also talked very candidly about having breast cancer and what that did to further change/shift her perspective. I thought I would like to do the same in my book. But right now, I have no time to write with the work I am doing. But I have some plans for after this project is over and have access to several writers here in town (I also take writing classes when I have time) to assist me.

Of all the things I have ever wanted to do in my life, writing a novel has always been on my bucket list. Even if I never publish it but share it with the ones who might like to read it. I think the time has come to write!

Tomboy

Jazzygirl! that would be wonderful! i really would like to see that! That would encourage me to do the same. I have literally boxes of writing, all sitting dusty. Poems, snippits, journals, and notes like crazy. But, as much as i read, i really do think you have a gift. And i would buy your book. You could go to kickstarter.com, for funding. would be a wonderful thing, and a gift to the world. in the meantime, you could start that thread!

Jazzygirl

Kathy- thanks for the encouragement. I have boxes and crates full of journals from the time I was in my early 20s, when I began writing more regularly. You and I sound much the same on this front (and are about the same age too!) Thank you for some of the suggestions, I am going to look into it.

I think if I start another thread, I would actually called it Life after Treatment: Finding the New Normal. So many of us here are in that place (although we have many new people here and those still going through treatment). Let me noodle on this one!

But I will remain here too on the Hermit thread. I have become fond of you all!

Tomboy

Jazzy,.

Skittle

Jazzy, Kath... go for it! Writing a book is something you should do. It's not that hard, really. If you go to the library and borrow a copy of Writer's Market, it walks you through it. (Have a bj and we were required to publish.) There are so many heartfelt and wonderful moments you both could share. Kath, you could illustrate your own. I could see some of your paintings with poetry.

Blondie... breathing? Any further word? Still tethered to oxygen? Hugs to you.

Teka... sounds like you have the holidays figured out. Dd1 just asked for us to adopt an angel tree person as her present. Dd2 is just moving to a new (old) place, and will need whatsits to fix up her new abode. I like the stocking stuffer idea, though. I'm all for whatever simplifies things.

Lynn... sewing machine or by hand? Years ago, every time I tried a machine, the bobbin would shoot up a zillion threads on the bottom and I'd give up. My biggest project ever was a quilt for my mother, made from ties my father wore. (He died at 58, and of course she never "got over" it...)

cc... I can't think ahead for chess. I've played a grand total of maybe five games in a lifetime, and was crushed each time. (I'd always forget the knight's zigzag.)

Simple... welcome. I hope you enjoy this thread. It's about the only one I spend much time on. I wander to a few others, but not for long.

Camille... you sound busy! Hope the venture goes well for your family.

Ducky... love your spunk. Hope I have that zing when I'm 70+.

Sally... prayers continue.

New and not so new, hugs and hopes for good days...

Tomboy

Thank you for encouraging, Skittle. Sometimes, i feel as if i must hurry, cause for the first time in my life, since diagnosis imposed a feeling of urgency upon me, as i feel my life might be shorter than i supposed. always felt invulnerable to time, now, not so much. i should do the things i dreamed! and turn them into reality. How about it, Jazz?

grammaB

Have a lot to catch up on....

Sally, sending healing energy and prayers to you!!

ducky, I know what you are saying about the younger ladies with all the responsibilities of working, raising young children and getting them to all their activities and dealing with bc at the same time. Us old birds that are retired and widowed can do what we want when we want and to he11 with the rest of the world.

I had a bad day yesterday as it was the 16th anniversary of my DH's death. Lost myself in a little online retail therapy, helped some but the 16th of Nov is always a sad day for me.

Jazzy you do have a way with words. I'd say go for it!! Scratch that book off your bucket list!

kathec, and a book from you with your beautiful paintings, would be amazing!

CC glad you had a great time and how cool that you won your blue coat!!

Blondie I hope your lung biopsy leads to some answers and relief.

Hugs to all my new hermit friends!

Tomboy

hug for you sweet grammaB