The Hermit Club

Jazzygirl

camillegal

Jazzy those are the furbabies I like to see, and Kath the dark meat us very tempting. U missed who tied him up. Tehehehe Monday I have to get organized for work hahaha should I pt my feer up or not--big decision.

SallyS70

Thanks Jazzygirl. I love the picture of your dogs ... what peace!

I am going to do a little vacuuming and tub cleaning today and tomorrow ... last minute surgery prep.

Teka

Definitely, no tub cleaning after lumpectomy and SNB!

blondiex46

thanks peeps....

love the dog pix....

hermitting in my room today as others so excited I don't have to go out til wednesday for chemo...

me can't do the tub can't reach to the other side, let the boys do it, remind them...

Lily I am so sorry you having a hard time with "him" how old is he if you don't mind me asking?

Lori, hugs!!!

Teka

Son cleaned tub until done with BC treatments.

simplelife4real

Hi All,

This is my first post on this thread. I'm clearly a hermit. I liked being one before bc and now going through chemo, I want nothing more than to stay in the house most days. I'll be done with my chemo at the end of January and will be having surgery some time in February.

Most days, I'm okay with things, but I've been having a "crash day" on about day 3 post chemo with my weekly taxol treatments. I've got two more weekly taxol treatments to go before I start bi-weekly A/C. I'm a little nervous about that chemo....I've heard there are more side effects. Taxol hasn't been too hard other than the crashes.

Lily55

he is 70 too old to really change

Lynn1234

Welcome simplelife4! I crashed on post chemo day 3 also...it was always my worst day.

duckyb1

when my husband got chemo for pancreatic cancer (different I know), but day 3 was his worst day too.......just saying.....

Lily55

hi simplelife pleased to meet you.....

Martie1228

Simplelife - Just down the road from you in Maryville. Where are you going for your treatments? I am having mine at the UT Cancer Institute. As for Taxol, I seem to crash pretty hard on day 3 as well. Will have #6 this week, finishing just after Christmas. I, too, have essentially become a hermit since starting this "journey." Though I do have to admit that it has made for some good reading time.

camillegal

Hi Simple life Day 3 seems to be the day for most----I did get mine on Monday work on Tues and Wed. after that never on Thurs or Fri. sometimes on Sat. til I got my operation fr 4 months---so day e seems to be reasonable, And I too could always be a hermit and this just added to it for me, I still do things but I have cancelled at the last minute if I really don't want to go and everyone understands.

Martie I'm sorry I don't remember if I met u before, if no You two are certainly most welcome here where we moan , complain vent and have a good laugh--so just stay aboard.

simplelife4real

Thank you all for the warm welcome. It's good to know my day 3 crashes are par for the course.

Martie1228, I am getting my treatments in Nashville at Vanderbilt. I thought about going to UT, but Vanderbilt happened to be a lot more responsive right when I got diagnosed. They were very fast about getting me in for a biopsy and pulling all my medical records together. I really like the breast team there. I've thought about going to UT for my radiation therapy since it will be daily and we could commute to Knoxville whereas we would have to get an apartment or something to do it in Nashville. It's too long of a drive to commute there. That's a ways down the road right now so I haven't investigated it yet.

Teka

Welcome, newbies!I am tired out from a day trip and will reread prior posts after a nap in the recliner.

Spookiesmom

Now that's the way to hermit Teka!

Jazzygirl

Hi new hermits- glad to see you found our thread and that perhaps the two of you live near each other. Nice group of folks here on this thread. Please feel free to share here, ask questions, rant when you need to. We talk about everything here, and like to have some fun together too.

Sally- glad you are getting some things ready before surgery. I did the same thing last year knowing I would be immobile when I got home from my procedure.

The dog picture is off a site on Facebook called I Love Golden Retrievers. I don't have them myself, but my sister has one (Bella) and have come to appreciate their loving nature. My sisters dog also loves to lay on the pool steps just like that at her home in southern CA.

Jazzygirl

Here is a photo of Bella!

camillegal

How beautiful Bella is---I really love Retrievers, labs, ous is a border collie and lab and the reason I did mention the big dogs was because their barks are like OMG and they are so getle--and I love laps dogs too, but I never thought I'd ant to live with a big dog and he's got a better attitude than my cat--who is so sweet for a cat LOL

Well I finished up work about 5PM and I feel the difference cuz I was busy and I didn't just stop when I wanted I had to pretend niceness not so easy for me in my voice anymore- With all these lists on the computer u do get a lot of phone calls and then I send hime the message and I had to eatch my tuping, expecially for numbers.

simplelife4real

Hi Hermits,

Thanks again for the warm welcome.

Today, I will be doing one of my few non-hermit activities that I do during the week.

My husband and I have been taking free ballroom dancing classes for the past 4 weeks at the local senior citizan center. I always have fun when I go, but I have to force myself to get out the door. It's a tiny class, just one other couple and two instructors so the lessons are pretty intense. They know I have cancer and I'm in the middle of chemo treatments, so they don't mind when I need to sit down and rest from time to time. There's a "real" dance this Saturday night with other couples and a sit down dinner. At first, I thought it would be fun to go, but I'm usually wiped out on Saturdays from my weekly chemo...it's day 3 post chemo for me and tends to be my crash day, so I doubt we will go. I think it will be too much. Even when my health is good (and I have a lot more hair), the thought of going to a sit down dinner with a lot of strangers sounds very unappealing. The fun part would be trying out all our new dance moves on a dance floor with other people around. We could pay for the meal and then just go to the dance, but that would be very expensive. I think we will just take a pass on this one.

Jazzygirl

Simple4life- I am glad to hear you are getting out for some dancing as you feel like it. When you are going through treatment, it is important to do things that give a break and allow you to not have this on your mind all the time. Plus, dancing is great exercise and we often stop that when we are going through treatment.

And being around new people is not something any of us are easy with. I am fine with dealing with it at work (where no one knows about the bc), but recently had a friend who does know, and whom I have been trying to connect with for awhile invite me to a dinner thing with some of her other friends. I declined as it is just not something I feel like doing. I not the same social person I was before all this. Bottom line is, do what makes you comfortable and helps you get through. Don't worry about others, and it is okay to say no to things that don't work for you.

duckyb1

Welcome Simple4life.............will you get angry if I just call you "simple".......we look for shorter versions. sometimes, but feel free to say NO.........lol

Anyway welcome, and come back often.......fun ladies here in the Hermit Club...........

SAY HELLO FIRECRACKER.............greet the nice lady........come on now.....say hello..?.

camillegal

Oh Simplelife--(til we get permission) I love that u and u'r DH (dear husband) take these dance lessons, u at least get some movement going and u can be in u;r DH's arms which is sweet. I'm not a big fan of having dinner with pretty much strangers anyway so that's not even a choice---Can I ask how u'r DH feels about this? I don't mean to say go because of him that's for sure, but feeling that 3rd day crash is horrible I know I went nowhere so if it's the same thing I can't imagine going and besides u wouldn't enjoy u'rself anyway,--I have a feeling I'm saying this all wrong but I hope u know what I mean.--Never ever feel bad about not being able or wanting to do things especially while u'r in treatment and as long as it takes. U come first and remember that, this is a me disease and only u can know exactly how u feel and judge what u can do. With no guilt.

duckyb1

Simple4life.....love, love, love dancing.......I was actually taking Line Dancing lessons when I got called back for my repeat mammogram, which showed my tumor................was going with my daughter........I continued on, and finished the class the night before my surgery.........loved line dancing.....so much fun....

So good for you.........I lost my dance partner 22 years ago to cancer at 57..............miss him a lot, especially when I hear the music playing and watch other couples on the floor.....

Never stop dancing.........hugs

SallyS70

Welcome simplelife4real. Like you, I was a hermit before bc too. I like your choice of "simplelife" as a name because that's how I see my life and where my balance is.

BC with its appointments and procedures is pulling me out of balance. Tomorrow is my lumpectomy and SNB. This morning I woke up feeling yucky but am feeling better now. I figure, even in sleep, my mind was stressed. Weird.

duckyb1

Sally....good luck tomorrow......mine went very well, and was the easiest part of all of this........hope you have the same outcome..........hugs

Lynn1234

I love dancing too...my daughter's wedding was a few months ago-right during chemo. At the time I was diagnosed as Stage 3...I was a dancing maniac at the reception. haha a couple weeks later my back was hurting -found out it was bone mets and one vert was fractured! I have no doubt I did it at the wedding-but it was worth it!

duckyb1

Lynn....."you go girl......did the same thing for my grandson's wedding.......had an ER visit that was Easter Sunday 2013....was admitted for what the CT scan showed...a mass in my colon did a colonoscopy, more mass, severe colitis, was discharged on Tuesday...that Thursday morning I took my first ever flight to Chicago, along with the pills for Colitis......danced my feet off......"paid for it the next day with barely being able to get out of a chair, but it too was worth it".

No problems since, although they want another colonoscopy now that all is well, to rule out ischemic colitis....already cancelled once....will do it soon.......

Tomboy

Wow, lynn1234, what a way to find out you have bone mets! what a way! At least you danced like a maniac. Thats how i dance too, just usually if there is no one watching. took me 10 years to dance in front of my boyfriend, not right in front of, but in the same room with him. i would go all wonkitty, and lose the rhythm... so self conscious. but funny, not so much since all of this. it is like i found my real spine or something somehow. not afraid to reveal myself so much now & even talk back to drs if i need to.

Lynn1234

I'm starting to speak up and talk back a little-it feels good! I mainly want to understand what their reasoning is behind the plan.