INSOMNIACS place to talk in the wee hours

Teka

Hubby & I did our kids a favor with, Living Wills.

sas-schatzi

Blessings---OMG I haven't smiled and laughed so much in awhile. It's going in the topic box. THANK YOU. My dogs would oh so love this. Our local dog park isn't monitored and there's some very bad dogs there and clueless owners. Last trip there cost me 290$ for stitches to Schatzi after a dog attack.

YAY GOLFGIRL_ALL DONE___WHOOPANAHOOT:)

Love everyone's pics today

sas-schatzi

TeKA, please, a HCSPOA needs to be done too. Example: After aunts pacer insertion she was babbling. They did a cat scan. Found an incidental brain tumor. Docs wanted to do brain biopsy. MY Mary and I discussed everything at length when I became her Surrogate. I refused the bx. She was 89. The tumor could have been there since birth. The bx had significant risk. I said let's take a wait and see approach b/c her change of mental status could have be anesthesia induced. It was . She was okay in two days. She was very happy I had followed her wishes.

Spookiesmom

Love the dogs romping in the snow. Any one read the fine print at the end? About no small dogs were lost in the filming?  LOL

sas-schatzi

OH CHIT: I'll be all afternoon trying to get the owls back in place

Teka

sas-schatzi

cool-----I'm getting better at this---have know idea what I'm doing, but I keep hitting buttons and clicking until something happens. Today I found a thing that said "undo" after I hit something and one of the owls disappeared. YAY "undo" made it re-appear

dwill

Hey Sas,   Just checking in!!  At work right now  --will be off soon on the way to have that preliminary breast exam.   I'll check out the feed later tonight to see which of you are still up.  

Teka

sas, you keep messing up the owls.

Wren44

Followup to SAS's suggestions: getyourshittogether.org. Great website started by a young woman who was suddenly and unexpectedly widowed. Good explanations of what's needed and why. Now if I could get DH to do any of this, it would be great. The doc gave him the paperwork for a living will and DPOA, so maybe he'll do it for him.

sas-schatzi

Wren--thanks for the web site. DPOA  usually has healthcare in it, but depending on the state, it may not allow what the HCSPOA of that state allows. In Florida it doesn't. Odd seems it should, but it doesn't. That's why checking the laws in your state is so important.

The Banks, and Savings an Credit Unions: the laws allowing TOD and POD were legislated after 9/11. Some many that died that day did not have things in place for there families. Many only had one name on an account. Survivors were left without ability to access there funds. 

I'm on my accounts as "sas-schatzi with TOD to DS". He is also my DPOA. So, if I am incapacitated the DPOA for all the stuff in the DPOA kicks in. Yet say he gets sued for whatever, they have no claim on anything of mine. The HCSPOA kicks in for medical stuff.

What my friends John didn't get is--------that with a living will , you can specify  "that all life saving measures be implemented for as long as the body survives even if in a vegetative state" or you can say "no resuscitative measures under any circumstance" The beauty of the instrument is you say what it is you want. Mine, I clearly specify " all efforts are to be made until it is determined irreversible brain death. AND NO FEEDING TUBE either nasally or Gastric/ iv's or/trach tube if in irreversible coma which is different than brain death. 

sas-schatzi

Teka, the owls are fixed in my browser--chrome, are they messed up elsewhere?

Holeinone

Sas, they look good...are you feeling better ? ...ok. ?

Chevyboy

We had our living wills made out about 10 years ago.... We DO have a will, but since our banks and house is also in their name, it won't have to go through probate....   My folks had done all this with my Brother and I, and I could also write out checks to take care of my Dad when he was in the Hospital!    And after they were both gone, since the house was in our name, we could put it up for sale....  We cleaned out their whole lives, within 2 weeks after Dad's memorial service, put the house up for sale, and drove to the  San Francisco airport crying all the way....     Honestly that was the worst day of my life.... 

Even if their money is in your name, and it is POD.... that means you can't touch it unless they have passed!   And to "claim" some Anuity's, they have to be declared "terminal, or in a nursing home, or dead." 

But their preparations saved us so much trouble!    Their house sold, and papers were faxed to each of us, to sign, and  the Realtor took care of everything.    All I can say is, when you are going through so much heart-ache and turmoil, you have to write down almost every thought.... every phone number, and every detail, so you will have it with you!  

Your kids have to know where your important papers are...  And what your wishes are.  We just paid for both of our cremations...  and that is even though we both have insurance policy's!   But funerals are about 20 times more expensive than cremation, and you can have your wishes included at that time... like what kind of service...etc. Or even none! 

Hopefully all families get along, and your wishes are understood....  otherwise, it's a big mess.

Geez, it's just no fun to talk serious like this.... but hope it helps...

sas-schatzi

H-I-1-----yes, found something interesting when I do a what I call a pain free day -----enough meds that pain level is 0-2/3, the next few days are wonderfully very low pain without any meds. Have no clue why. It's occurred enough that I have noticed the connection. Yesterday was very high in the morning 8/9:10, medicated to my max --oxy 10mg and 5 mg valium. Today is a delight.

I'm surmising there is something that it does according to the "Gate Theory" that interrupts the pain cycle. Whatever the hell it is, very nice. Seems reproducible

What are you doing to CELEBRATE the end of rads

Teka I switched to IE from chrome, the owls all seem to be nesting where they are supposed to be

Blessings I put the doggy link in the topic box , and calling all my doggypeoplefriends

Teka

sas, you must be exhausted!

Anonymous

I just got back from the Stephanie Center. Appointment was with Carmen, the nurse practioner. I showed her the tiny lump above my surgery site, and she found a second one.

She went to get my onco, Dr. Mrozek, who was there within 2 minutes. I told her, "If this is another cancer, I'm going to be so angry!" She said, "and I will be angry too!"

They called downstairs and got me right in for an ultra sound. I only waited a few minutes to be seen.

Thank God it's only scar tissue! Hallelujah!

Nobody likes scarring, but after BC, scar tissue is excellent!

I so love the Stephanie...everything under one roof. Hugs from my Dr. and nurse/pract.

My doctors, surgeon & onco work together. They're the DYNAMIC DUO!

tangandchris

Soteria-what a relief!!!

I found out yesterday that I will start chemo next Thursday, and get my iron infusion Friday with the neulesta(sp?) shot.

I wonder if I'm repeating myself...did I already post this? i truly think I'm loosing my marbles lately. I can't remember anything and at times I have a hard time putting sentences togther...wth?

It's stinking cold out there too...but I want ice cream.

Hugs!

Teka

I'll pass on the ice cream.   Brrr!

Paula,

Spookiesmom

Soreria.   Yeah.  Do the happy dance!

Teka

I'll be making a batch next week for Valentine's Day.

Raspberry Heart Meringues

2 large egg whites, at room temperature

Most important, make sure you start with egg whites that are at room temperature.

1/4 tsp cream of tartar

1/8 tsp salt

1/2 cup granulated sugar

1 1/4 tsp lemon juice

1/2 tsp grated lemon zest

1/2 tsp vanilla extract

1/2 cup raspberry jam

1.
Line a baking sheet with parchment paper. Using a pencil, draw 13
2-inch hearts on the parchment, spacing them evenly. Turn parchment
over and set baking sheet aside. Have ready a large pastry bag fitted
with a 1/4-inch-wide tip, or use a large plastic sandwich bag.

2.
In the large bowl of an electric mixer using the whisk attachment, beat
egg whites on medium speed until foamy. Add cream of tartar and salt;
beat until soft peaks form. Gradually add sugar, 2 Tbsp at a time,
scraping down the sides of the bowl. Once all the sugar is added,
increase speed to high. Beat until whites are glossy and stiff and
sugar has dissolved (a small amount of meringue rubbed between your
fingers should feel smooth). Beat in lemon juice, then lemon zest and
vanilla until blended.

3. Heat oven to 200*F. Spoon meringue
into prepared pastry bag (or sandwich bag and snip off a tiny corner).
Pipe an even, thin layer of meringue to fill in the shape of each
heart. Then pipe a border on top of each heart to form a 1/2-inch-high
edge. Let sit for 30 minutes (this will dry them out and help give
them a crispy shell).

4. Bake 1 1/2 hours, or until meringues are
dry, creamy white, and feel firm to the touch. They're done when they
release easily from the parchment with a spatula. To cool, turn off
oven, prop oven door open, and leave baking sheet in oven 1 hour.

5.
To assemble, place a small dollop of jam in the center of each heart
shell and spread to cover the bottom of each shell. To store: Place
unfilled meringues on waxed paper or parchment in an airtight container
at room temperature up to 3 days.

Makes about 13 hearts.

Jazzygirl

Soteria- whew on the lumps and scare tissue. I have some areas of that too, always worried when I feel things but know the mammos and ultrasounds will help everyone to know. 

Glad you are okay! 

Teka- your Valentine's Day treats sound delicious!

Spookiesmom

Yummmmm those sound good

Teka

I also love raspberry jam on saltine crackers!

Teka

Sweet Dreams!!

Going to finish watching the opening ceremony & local news!

Teka

Damn I feel good!!!!

Teka

I feel like bounding butt naked in the snow!

badger

Teka - I've done that!  Hop out of the hot tub, roll in the snow, then hop back in.  Invigorating!

sas-schatzi

Cool games opened well yay

Teka

I was just going to bound, no rolling!

I felt bad at the start when the 5th ring didn't open.   I bet at least 1 going to Siberia.