INSOMNIACS place to talk in the wee hours

dutchiris

She's actually taking a college class right now at the UW school here.  She works part-time, is a three season athlete, and is in the select chior.  She needs to share a little of her energy with me.

NickyJ

hi Teka and Holeinone! 

Hmmmm, my leg.......

I have a spontaneous fracture in my tibia, which means I have to use a stick (crutches not possible). The ortho specialist told me last week that because it wasn't as a result of a trauma it could take up to 18 months to heal, so I'm not impressed. Have PT in the pool 3 times a week, added to the twice a week I already have PT for LE, so that makes an appointment a day before I do anything else!

Weather here is still the same. It hasn't stopped raining for months!  The soil here is very sandy, but even still it's completely waterlogged, all the rivers and lakes have overflowed. Luckily there hasn't been too many homes or businesses flooded, but we're all mightily sick of the rain. 

camillegal

Hi Nicky--wow u have lots of PT to really keep u busy, I'm surprised u'r not knocked out right now--it's just (pm here now--I hope all of this does u really good, that's a lot of work--I did PT for my back and LE--actually it just consumed my time, but I did go. LOL

Holeinone

Nicky, I remember the last time we chatted, you were headed to a sporting event with your son, what sport does he play?

Teka

NickyJ,

My niece does daily leg therapy in a pool.   Loves the pool.

The world seems to be having crappy weather!

Spookiesmom

Hole.   I'm in the prime snowbird state. Retired almost 5 years ago. Lovin every minute. If you can, retire!  There was a nice couple who came to the dog park for several years. With their mini Aussies. From Nebraska!!!!

NickyJ

Camille, luckily the PT who's seen me for the last 15 months for LE is the same one I see for my knee. She's about my age, with kids the same ages as mine so the time passes quickly cos we've always loads to talk about!  And I agree - I should be asleep, but no go. It's 4 am now!

Holeinone, both of my sons fence. A proper French sport for 2 Irish boys!!! My youngest who had the competition I was talking about is 12, and this is his 8th year of fencing. He's actually really good and he does all the competitions on the circuit. I like going with him, because I get to see other parents that I've now known for years. His older brother prefers to fence for fun in the club, but is also in training to umpire a competitions. It's a great sport to watch; extremely graceful and skillful - and it's indoor - a great bonus in the winter!!

Nicky 

Holeinone

Nicky, 

You must be so proud of your hard working sons. My daughter competed in tennis in high school. I loved watching all the kids. Those years go by too fast.

NickyJ

I am proud of them, and my daughter too! But mostly I'm pleased for them, that they've found something they enjoy doing. The school day is so long here - 8am to 5pm, that it's important to have an outside activity. Often during the week there's no time to see friends. School and homework take up too much time. So having an outside activity is important. 

Teka

Mom had that long a school day before WWII.

Holeinone

That is 2 hours longer than what our kids spend in school. I guess it keeps them out of trouble..I think our kids summer breaks are too long, 3 months, they lose too much knowledge and get bored.

Teka

I always enjoyed the kids out of school for the summer.   Break from school crap!

tangandchris

Wow...8a-5p!! Interesting, is 5 days a week as well? My preschooler is only in 2 days a week 9a-2p.....I really think she is ready for 5 days a week.

Hope everyone is having a good night. ((hugs))

Blessings2011

Dutchiris – I spent 20 years counseling at the university
level. Feel free to PM me for ideas for your daughter.

NickyJ – oh, pleeeeeease…. Send us some rain! California is
the middle of the worst drought in decades!

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Oh, Lord, please spare me from dysfunctional family members! Can't say any more, or I'll get myself all worked up.

Gonna watch me some mindless TV – Americal Idol. Yes, it’s only
8:30 here in Cali. That should knock me unconscious, eh?

Nighty-night, Owlettes!!!

Teka

Sweet Dreams!!

Blessings2011

Anyone gonna go see Vinnie any time soon? 

tangandchris

Tattoo is cool, but creepy.....who's vinny??

Anonymous

Good to know about the newbies and PM's

Hi Nicky, good to see you again

mnDeb and Olive, any word?

Sassy, thinking of you....

Blessings, still have that ear worm? I thought about that song a couple times today.

Anonymous

Dutchiris/Sharon, you're telling my story. I get Insomniacs notifications on my cell, when I read your posts this afternoon, I was brought to tears. 

Since 2007, either DH or I have been unemployed. Hasn't been easy. DD is very bright, started writing stories in kindergarten. One of my brothers is really smart, MIT graduated, she got his brains (and before you say it, yes, it skipped me). IB program since 7th grade (more strict than AP), replicated (simplified) a study about soy and it's effect on BC for freshman/sophomore years for science fair projects, went to state-level competition both years, write a book about BC as her sophomore personal project. It was just planned she would go to university, at the time she wanted to be BC researcher or oncologist. 

She started working for the Y as life guard/swim instructor summer after junior year and continued thru senior year. She never told us she didn't apply to universities because of financial situation. Bottom line, starting her senior year she started holding me responsible and hating me for wrecking her dream. She moved out the day after graduation (moved I with friends she worked with), attended a city college (turns out Mark Cuban, Shark Tank/basketball owner says that's best for kids today: good education, low cost for classes that can transfer). Because of her resume and background, and choosing chemistry as a major, they couldn't wait for her to enroll. She even has a student job in their STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, and Math) program. A couple months after she started, came my BC DX. Instead of compassion, I had to deal with her anger. After she turned 18, we no longer claimed her as dependent as she was paying for school and apt by herself (what she didn't take into account, we paid for health/car insurance, car registration, phone, gas, car maintenance and little things when we could). She had to move after freshman year ended (the condo was sold).

This past year, because she wasn't a dependent, she qualified for financial assistance thru school, a huge blessing in disguise. She also moved back home with us (even though we don't see her much as she stays at BF's parents' home a lot (they're very close to her school and work). Every chance she gets she tries to hold me hostage emotionally because I "ruined" (her life). Don't know how many times I've said that she still. An have her dreams, she just may get to them on a different path than she planned. She's researched a lot of private schools and found a couple that offer grants and financial assistance. 

I'm having faith this will all work out, for my DD as well as yours.

Wren44

Maddy, You may have to tell her you've already had that discussion and you're not going to discuss it further. If you really wanted to "ruin" her life, you'd have done a better job than that. I finally got to that point with someone and they dropped it. She will see, when she has kids of her own, how the cookie really crumbles. It used to irritate me to death when I would complain about my daughter and my mother would say, with satisfaction, "I've been waiting for this."

Anonymous

thanks, Wren, have had that same thought hundreds of time but it will be a while before she realizes it. We don't talk about it exactly, it's her attitude. 

ndgrrl

I am having one of those no sleep nights. UFF

NickyJ

the school day is long here. It's 8-5 Monday Tuesday Thursday and Friday, with a half day on Wednesday. Those hours apply from the age of 3!

I really sympathize with all of you who have to deal with the astronomical college fees in the states. Of my 3 children, only the eldest has finished school - she finished last summer. She's now in university in Bordeaux studying law and political science, and it's not costing is more than €300 a year. Sometimes the world is badly divided. 

Ndgrrl, sorry your having a sleepless night. It's morning here now, and I've slept 21/4 hours all night so I can sympathize!  It's not even going to be a quiet day- I have PT, then this afternoon I have to go to a meeting about my invalidity pension. Obligatory, or it could be cut off. Oh well, maybe I'll get to sleep through that!!

Nicky

Blessings2011

Wren: If you really wanted to "ruin" her life, you'd have done a better job than that.

Love it!!! My tolerance for people whining about how things aren't fair is quite low. I have several favorite sayings for people like that, but probably the cleanest one is "Suck it up, Buttercup."

Maddy - "ear worm" EEEUUUWWW!!!  That just gave me the shivers! But no, I hadn't thought about that song until you mentioned it right now!  Thanks!

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Well, American Idol was predictable, but not quite boring enough to put me to sleep.

I did take a few moments to type up a letter to the batsh#t crazy dysfunctional thorn in my side, but I won't send it. Or maybe I will.... GRRR.   

At least I got those thoughts out of my head and onto paper so I can let go of it and get some sleep.

Somehow I got the first edition of the new Dr. Oz magazine in the mail. Guess I'll go read it in case there's any life-changing info in there. Oh, I crack me up.

xoxoxo

Anonymous

Blessings, you crack me up too!

"Ear worm" isn't my term

"Suck it up buttercup" gotta remember that one....

camillegal

Hi everyone--u'r probably sleeping now, except Nicky who's running around like a mad woman. Wow Nicky I never knew the hrs. of school that u'r kids would have. I'm sure if are kids were used to it it would be fin, but can't imagine starting them on that--they already think school is so much trouble except to see their friends. I love the sport u'r sons are in, it is so graceful and u'r DD sounds like she's doing very well--It's so good to hear.

Oh 2nd when my oldest DD was about that age I totally ruined her life too, and I told her then my job was done. Years have passed and we as close as mom and DD can be. she can still aggrevate me tho but now she has a teenage stepdgtr, hahaha she's been her mom for 8 yrs so they good together, but attitudes are changing and she calls me up just to apologize for being the way she was. I raised my girls alone so there was no one else to blame LOL--I do have a hard time getting close to her, she a nice girl and Joey and her have loads of sleep overs but she has a distance about her that it's hard, but her mom died yrs ago so who can blame her--I wish I could get close tho, but she keeps a way a bit so I don't intrude, but haha my DD is paying the price.--So the usually come around and see u did the best u could with what u could and as everyone knows a Mothers prayer is I pray u have a child just like you-----and it worked out that way here--my other DD was easy-peasy and so sweet and Joey is just like her.

I slept ok last nite with no meds so I know what that means hahaha another infection of sorts is coming on. Damn at least I sleep thru them. hahaha It's so very cold here and when we let the dog out all her parts are way under the snow, so he has to have a section and when he comes in his whole face is loaded so he comes in my room cuz I wipe him up and he gets warm. They're showing the traffic stuff on TV and it's horrible accidents and crap.  OK I'll BBl and nrdgirl I'm sorry u couldn't sleep. I hope u get rest today.

Chevyboy

It is so very cold here, and actually I would like to go to bed, and stay there until SPRING!

This is NOT condusive to good health, or even to a good mood.  Someone said something about "global warming" once... never.

And another thing... those of us with THOSE kinds of little Daughter's just have to look at them once in awhile and think...  "WTH did YOU come from?" 

They sometimes have this need to just let go on their Mom's!   They want to rule us, by any means possible.  So have you ever lived through the SLAMMING DOOR mood?   And the blame you get for NOT doing something when they were like 6???    It's our fault of course.... It's our fault for holding our temper, and thinking this too shall pass.  

It's our fault for not chasing them down with a pack of dogs, and not spanking the living day-lights out of that smart mouth!   

But yes, it does come around...   DD #1 is getting this same stuff from GS #1..... I can just sit there and smile, as she is telling me this, thinking....  Oh My, my, my dear heart!   This sounds soooooooo familiar!  Does it ring any bells?   Sound familiar?  And she laughs! 

They DO grow up....  and it does get better.... when they move to another country... Ha!   Just kidding...  It's like they are either hot or cold!  They are actually 2 people all wrapped up into one!  And it is anybody's guess WHICH one they will be on a certain day, in a certain circumstance.   We just have to be wary, and ever prepared.

And it is SHE who will be by my side, and clean my wounds, and cry with me when I'm hurting.   That's what makes us always forgive.

Their siblings sometimes look at them and just shrug, and think they are raving lunatics...    And Dad's are oblivious.... to ANYthing going on!   

But we can take it...  We are Mom's. 

camillegal

Chevy

Chevyboy

Oh little Cammi!  You found a thumb!  Good job, oh ever-observant dahling one! 

camillegal

Chevy I don't see any raspberry signs, that what we need.