INSOMNIACS place to talk in the wee hours

luvmygoats

Well, I've done my part, sitting in the almost dark bundled under DH's coat and a blanket. It's just that cold in here even with the thermostat where we usually leave it. Can't wait to go to bed and get under electric blanket. But 1st I have to watch Leno's last show though I rarely make it all the way through.

And oh goodie we may get more snow (light - ha that was what today's was supposed to be) and maybe worse stuff next week. Then maybe a warmup. I just don't know how you Teka, Cami anyone else in the frozen north do it. For sure I need bigger clothes so I can stuff more layers on. We don't have snow pants, snow jackets and such things. I have a fuzzy coat and a great wool one that smells of cedar closet. It just never gets and stays this cold. Ask Tang - she knows. School cancelled for tomorrow. There has been little traffic out tonight even "go home" traffic. I live at the bottom of an "S" curve and small rise. Tomorrow may be very interesting??!!

Dutchy - I'm sorry your ex is a major a@@. Apply using what Sassy said - I can't go back right now. Any fraternal organizations - Elks, Masons, etc. in your family? Our DD went to state university. Good education - business degree. Had her own loans to supplement what we could do. She got scholarship and grant money - DH lost his job the year she grad. HS and has not ever made that salary again. She buckled down and paid off her loans very early. As far as the creditors calling you can you use harassment defense with them? That would tick me off big time. Is it your home phone or cell? I have a call block on my cell - I keep getting calls from odd area codes in the Caribbean. Yahoo had a warning about them.

2nd time - I've always heard girls are hard to raise. I was a good kid but boy could I slam doors and still can slam a cabinet with the best of them. Several times I knew my DM ruined my life by moving us after her divorce and death of my stepfather. DD knew we ruined her life by moving her out of Ft Worth and her friends 45 minutes away to the country when she was 12. Note she lives back in the city again and spends little time "in the country". I could imagine my DM's reaction to things like that - tough, live with it. Only a couple years b4 she passed did she even find out that as a teenager I was pissed that she moved us from FL back to small town TX. What teenager in their right mind want to move out of Florida?

I'll miss someone if I try names. How is everyone that's had surgery? Olive - how was your appt?

Soteria - so glad the only thing injured was your dignity. Darn that ice.

Hey Deb warm hugs back. Saw yours when I was previewing.

Teka

Sweet Dreams!!

Jazzygirl

Spookie- love that photo! What a riot!

Holeinone

Jazzygirl, 

So true, those of us in sub zero temps, wind, shoveling those icy sidewalks that photo is looking pretty good....thx Spookiesmom...

camillegal

BRAT

NickyJ

Blessings - glad you got some rain - you can have plenty more if you want it - it hasn't stopped here yet! We now have high winds to go with the rain. Oh joy!!

I can't imagine what it's like to have the really cold bad weather you ladies are having. I hope you're all keeping warm and that it comes to an end really soon!

Nicky

Anonymous

thank you ALL for your kind words of support! Means more than you'll know. I'm hoping she wakes up one day and realizes all I've done for her (which is WAY more than DM did for me). Until then, I like the philosophy of one smart friend, "Suck it up buttercup!" 

Blessings, thanks for sending the rain done this way, has been raining off and on for almost 12 hours now, hoping it continues.

Tang, so sorry for your loss. 

Spookie, why is your avatar upside down? 

Nicky, those are some long school hours! Then kids have homework to do? When do they sleep or have time to be kids?

Thinking I may need to visit my parents, so I may be absent a couple days. I can hear the stress in Dad's voice. He will do anything to keep my mom happy so he doesn't stand up to her. Not that it would always help, she's nutty with the Alzheimer's. Hearing lately that she has refused to take a shower or get her hair washed and problems keeping clothes on. Need to speak with the memory unit supervisor to see if they can help (bigger problem will be getting dad to go along with them). Note to self: take out swim suit or light summer clothes that can get wet. Plus, eye glasses have gone missing. 

camillegal

Nicky u must get rain like we get snow--amazing how much u get. Of course our snow is a little much  this year. More is on the way.

2nd That has to be hard to go see u/r parents and try to help under the circumstances. None of the is easy for u and it sounds like u have to be the one in charge-crummy for you. But I hope it goes well for u and some positive things come from it for u'r dad.  

camillegal

CHEVY WAKE UP AND PUT U'R HEARING AIDES IN SO U CAN HEAR US. U SLEEPY HEAD--U'R USUALLY HERE BY NOW--EVERYTHING BETTER BE OK.

Chevyboy

She IS a brat!  See, I told you!  Her sittin' there where it is in a normal part of the world, and we are freezing our arses off!  It is only 0-5 out.... Wamed up from -8...

It's just that it freezes even your NOSE when you don't it covered, and you go out to get the paper.... and my fingers stick to the gate lock!  

BUT it is warming up today.... maybe 30 they said....  And while I'm complaining, we also have over 2 feet of snow piled up, in my gardens!  We have to throw it somewhere, so we have our own spring watering system, I guess.... Hope the  plants come back up, when this blitz gets over with.

Maddy....  It's a wonder we let our little girls live past 12.  I so remember the ranting little "I HATE you's" and the stomping up the stairs, and slamming of the drawers. It was only because I would not let her slumber over at her little friends house, with the houseful of boys, and the weed!    I was such a bad Mom.

I think her little Sister watching all this, just scared her, and she didn't get the Tempers!  She just smoked weed quietly.... grew a plant upstairs in their room...  and they both hid beer bottles under the seats in their car.  

It's even more amazing that we all lived through this, and the girls wind up your best-friends!  And they would go to the ends of the earth for you, Mom....  And that you and them would do ANYthing for each other.   So it all ends up good.  Thank God!

Maddie....  I remember when my Grandma was in Assisted Living after her heart-attack.... THEN she sunk into Dementia...  Sometimes she would put on 2 dresses, or forget to go eat....  and would hide all her little things...  and then refused to go eat... And I was the only one who could give her a shower...  I was the only one she "remembered".....  and trusted.  She would smack the other old women with her cane, which I was warned about.... and call me 8 times in a row, not remembering the last time...  So I had to have her phone taken out....  

With her,  it went so fast......  Her money ran out, and I moved her to a nursing home...  She was just kind of out of it.... sometimes okay, but most of the time not.  I feel sorry for your Dad...  Remember that movie? With James Garner, and his wife with Dementia?   Just going through watching someone become a person you don't even recognize, just breaks your heart...   And the rest of the family just trys to avoid  even being around it...  She probably wouldn't know them anyway.  My Grandma forgot about her Daughter, and then my Dad.... I made her a scrap-book from all  of her photos, and a lot of mine, and she would LOOK at it, but it was hopeless...   Her only joy was me going to visit, and brushing her hair, and us sitting together eating hamburgers I had brought us, on TV trays......  Ah geez...... it's kind of sad to remember all of this.   I think the movie was the "Notebook"....

Spookie, Your avatar is now sideways!  It has a mind of it's own.  Just leave it, it entertains us....

camillegal

Oh Thank God--I thought it was sideways and then I thought it was me and I never saw it right, then I thought Spookie is trying to spook us then I thought have I lost my mind, then I thought shes mad cuz I called her a brat, then I thought did she change her avatar, then I thought OMG what's happening, then I thought WTF, then I thought this is insanity then I stopped thinking at all. So much easier

Chevyboy

Cam.  quit thinking.

Teka

Cute!

Good photo to get the day started.

camillegal

I love that pic.

kathindc

You know you've had too much snow when you see this!

Teka

The North Country!!!

luvmygoats

2nd time - I had a social worker that taught me not unusual for dementia pt to be afraid of "water coming out of the wall" but for the life of me I can't remember the alternatives. Very common the not bathing - does she get chilled, afraid of being left alone (not that they are), fear of water - swimming etc, - just trying to brainstorm. Try changing the bath routine - diff. place, equipment, time of day. Warm towels, very warm room for her - aide may sweat. I had pt who was supposed to be afraid of washing hair. My aide came in, mama henned her, no problems - hair done. I think it was with her the 1:1 she got from my hospice aide.

How my mother tolerated me I do not know. I hated to get up in the morning and this was at least pre-teen. "Alright, I'm up. Are you happy?" - she told my DH this and I cant' live it down. PTL my DD was a pretty easy child though DH and I went out of our way NOT to spoil her. I always heard from her teachers that they were surprised she was an only child. Not that she couldn't have her temper tantrums but as a teenager/college kid she was level headed. Does bother me that she is such a loner. Holes up in her apt on weekends - has only a couple of friends that she rarely sees. Still don't know if later this year/early next year she will move. Depends on promo. at work. She is seriously underpaid for her degree/knowledge level of logistics. It's a big co. but corporate office is pretty small. Has talked of moving to Seattle/Portland if can get a job there (knows not to move without job and relocation help). DB has connections and offered at Christmas to shop her resume around. I asked once if she'd sent him one - no - so I dropped subj.

Kath - love the picture. Our snow might be just a little this afternoon. I need to grocery but think it will wait until tomorrow.

Think thaw everyone.

Jazzygirl

Funny photos here today! Especially of the snowman with the noose! LOL! 

Here is a pretty photo of northern NM in the snow. Taos Pueblo.

Teka

*THAW*

Blessings2011

Hugs to all who need them…

Loving all the pics!

Hope we all have this kind of day today, even without the snow!

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Holeinone

Good late morning, or early afternoon INSOMNIACS friends..

Home from LAST radiation treatment...uh...it's good, but unsettling...a new normal ? 

2ndtimeMaddy, thinking if you, as you help your parents at this stage of there lives. Not easy. My DH & I did not have to go through this. My FIL was the only one that did not go instantly, and we did alot for him in the last 3 years but he was able to stay in his home, by himself, he was literally the sweetest man in the world.

We are getting the snow we have wanted/needed for months. Beautiful, I love to shovel but not going to. I think that would be "stupid" considering my skin, radiated area. Need to be smart about something.

Blessings, I enjoyed the doggie video..

Smaarty, thinking of you, ..also Tang, NJmom, mdngtDeb....hope all is hanging in there...

Golfgirl

Smaarty

hole-does this mean you're done with treatments? If so, a BIG YEAH for you.  Keeping fingers crossed.

camillegal

 Hole last rad YYYAAAYYY

Holeinone

Smaarty, 

YES ! I will start Arimidex next Tuesday, & I have a ultra sound in 2 months for a node that looks inflamed, it was a stowaway, should of came out with the rest of those little bastards. 

My stage 3 status is frightening, but I sure know that there are so many young women that has a much worst dx. So, I need to get on with my life..sounds easy, but it's going to take time.

So excited to watch the Olympics, fits into my "I need to heal" mode & the fatigue that rads has caused, & I swear my body is still weary from that horrific chemo...ok, I have whined enough....

Holeinone

Cami, cute....THANKS !

Teka

Holeinone,

Wish I could bound around in the snow!

camillegal

Hole whine and wine all u want u'r body has healing to do, take it slow and easy.

IllinoisLady

Sigh !!!!!! Four pages behind.  Isn't it comforting when you can depend on yourself like I can....to always be behind:

Lilli

camillegal

Lilli funny pic.

sas-schatzi

SPoOkIe--spookie, remind me not to piss you off LOL 

Littlegoats---Leno's left ROTFLOL, not sure I ever watched his show. Never was interested after Johnny left. Hope little baby goat does okay.

My dear friends boyfriend---In ICU double pneumonia. first time ever in a hospital since about 5 y/o. He's 68. She's 68. They met a year ago after corresponding on one of those on line dating things. They had their first meeting weekend in New Orleans. 2 1/2 weeks later they were living together. 

The trouble they have right now is they told staff they were married. Not a problem unless the staff somehow found out. 

I asked if they had a " Living Will" and "Healthcare Surrogate POA".  "No they brought that up last night in ICU, and John didn't want to hear of it". 

She and John had/have a total misconception of what both instruments allow. They both thought a Living Will was a Do Not Resuscitate order. The HCPOA --no clue that it would allow her complete involvement in his care ----that she could be joe blow off the street, once notarized was a legal instrument. I had to get firm with her to get her to listen. I finally got through.

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So, Soapbox Sassy on her soapbox LOL---Does everyone have a WILL, Durable Power of Attorney (DPOA), Healtcare Surrogate Power of Attorney (HCSPOA), Living Will.

Trust for assests is even better than a Will. But even if a Trust is in place there should be a WILL too. Why a Will and a Trust? Covers for unforseen things that may not be covered in the Trust.  Having both will avoid Probate.

Originals in Safety Deposit Box. Have DPOA named as signatory on box with a key. 

Copies of Wills and Trusts to named heirs. 

Take Living Will and HCSPOA and have it scanned into the doctors and hospitals record system. Saves immense trouble if you forget them in an emergency. When having them made have two originals. Keep an original that you carry. Some places won't honor a copy.

Having someone on your bank account or property  sounds great, but very bad idea. Better to be managed by person named as Durable Power of Attorney. Why? If a second person on your accounts or property(bank, home, car, boats,motorcycle, mutual funds) is sued, your assests can be attached to a settlement.---no recourse.

Best to have person named  on accounts or property as TOD-Transfer on Death or POD- Payable on Death.

On Certificate of Deposits only have one name listed per certificate.

Make sure all heirs are alive.

Check on laws in your state.