For Older People with Sense

chrissyb

Awe thank 3jays it's gorgeous! Two of my favorite things........squirrels and roses.......lol.



Just wanted to add my appreciation for the work you did on Marybes memorial, it was beautiful just like her.



Well I'm sad to say I blew my top at DH last night. It doesnt happen very often but he was caught out and knew he was guilty like a kid. My biggest peeve with him is the fact that he has a huge shop with a huge shed and a huge cellar and he still has to fill my two little sheds with all his books and what not. Lord knows just what exactly is in there as I can't tell because I can't get any further than the door. Yup those two sheds are filled to capacity!!! All I wanted to do was get my wool winder but there is no way to even know where it is. So........he has been right royally told for the last time to get it all out of my sheds and he has a week to do it..........after that I will kill myself and do it. I will put it all out in the weather and it can deteriorate and I don't care. Needless to say I'm not being spoken to. I just can't understand his need to collect stuff! He's like a pack rat!! I don't mind what he does in his space and I don't even mind some books in the larger of my two sheds but he loaded the last straw and broke this camels back when he utterly filled my little shed so you can't even step into it! Oh well, he will get his stuff out and I will get the cold shoulder for a week or two but that is par for the course........talk about tantrums........lol.......right now he's having a beauty!!!!!!



Okay rant over and I feel much better.......lol. Thanks for listening.



Love n hugs. Chrissy

3jaysmom

do it again, and write down watcha did!!!buds a cutie, and i'm sooo proud of you.3jays

3jaysmom

3jaysmom

oh, Chrissy,, that was a faux pas, but funny, when ya read it..sounds like i said to YOU ..do it again, and write down how ya did it..whoo hoo.. that was meant for Kathy, but it is funny...

  Im sorry you and DH got into it. you know how i feel about all their stuff everywhere.. we're "still workin on it here..seems like "tommorrow" is always the answers.. the peace and quiet might be nice, but not for too long.

  I hope he'll take you seriously, and you won't have to lift all the stuff out.

  today things feel a little lighter, i think i had some kind of closure, but only time will heal........3jays

QCA

Thanks, 3jays, and chabba.  3jays, I was actually in Internet Explorer and I copied and pasted according to some old instructions Marybe had sent.   Couldn't use the thing I printed out that you got from Lago.  I was still in Firefox when I tried your instructions and couldn't do diddly there.

Just saw on the memory thread that $1806 was raised.  Wow!

3jaysmom

wow indeed.. the thing that impressed me, is they want the $$to be used in a way we think she'd like..

Elisimo

I think anything that would help encourage and support everyone would be what Marybe would like. Like getting the word out about BCO. I found this place by sheer chance. I wish more people knew to come here for information and support, esp. newly dx people.

This place and the people here have literally been a lifesaver for me.

SoCalLisa

Men act like children with the cold shoulder and not speaking baloney..



That kind of behavior frosts my you know what!

Elisimo

My DH does not get all moody and sulk when we get into things. He says Yes, Dear then does what I had ask him to do in the first place. I think because he does not want me to start with the waterworks. ;-) he cannot stand to see me upset or crying. He is such a dear man.

My youngest DD used to throw tantrums and hold her breath. When I had had enough of that I picked her up and put her in a cold shower. That stopped all her tantrums really quick, it only took 2 times.

Her daughters whine all the time around her, but not me. I told them that I could not understand them so I would not listen to them until the could talk in a normal manner. Once they figured out they could get anything they wanted from Grammie when she could understand them the whinning stopped and the older 2 have and are passing that along to their younger sisters. It was kind of hard to ignore them, but it is so much better without all the whinning and drama!

macatacmv

Hey everyone,

wow that is great about the donations for marybe. I'm glad you are feeling lighter 3jays. It was a nice tribute thread.

I had no one to blame but myself when my little shed got filled up, but I had a great time last summer emptying it out. I had gotten a dumpster to clean out my parents house, and saw what a difference it made and how freeing it felt. So I did it for my house too. I got my DS and friend to help with the heavy stuff. Now the trick is to keep the unnecessary stuff out.

I need help deciding about how to get to my appt in the city on Wednesday. There is suppose to be a storm with lots of rain and high winds late Tuesday night into early Wednesday . I am suppose to get on the 6 am boat Wednesday to get to a CT scan by 10 am . Do you think I should go off the night before? I hate how hard it gets to get off island sometimes and that I obsess about this stuff instead of just making a decision and sticking to it.

Chrissy , hope the silent treatment is over and the heavy lifting (not by you) has begun.

Interesting suggestions about what marybe would want done at bco. I hope they give it lots of consideration.

3jaysmom

Nancy, i remember how hard decisions about the ferry is:  leave Tuesday, before the winds, and stay the night by Boston.. its too imp an appt to miss, esp cause he's going over the results with you that day!(thats my 2 cent, girlfriend...3jays

macatacmv

Always appreciate your sense, 3jays.

Looks I'm headed out today. The friend that was going to go with has to go to a family funeral, so that is up in the air, too. Oh well, I can take the bus or meet up with DS. It will work out just have to not stress about it. 

Hope you all have stress free days.  

SoCalLisa

I have to get my  liver U/S today...easy test but scary about the results..

lassie11

Here's hoping all goes well for you Lisa. My thoughts are with you.

ptdreamers

good luck lisa. i am supposed to have  my cast removed and the pins pulled out  today. ouch. taking my pain meds with me.

macatacmv

thinking about you, too Lisa, Do you have to wait for results?

SoCalLisa

Have to wait til the 30th for the results..

chrissyb

Good luck Lisa and PT sure hope all goes well for both of you.



Thanks girls for your kind words they are much appreciated.



Have a great day all!



Love n hugs. Chrissy

gardengumby

ahhh Chrissy - I read your rant and felt all guilty.  My hubby is the neatnik and I'm the one who's got like 40 different "hobbies" and tend to leave my sh*t scattered about.  We have this gigantic house, and my stuff has been taking up far more space than it deserves.  When last he "commented" upon it I told him that both nature and I abhor a vacuum...    Probably one of the biggest reason we both want a smaller house is so that there isn't so dang much space to fill (and clean)..... 

I agree about the cold shoulder business though - I've never understood why anyone would want to spend time ignoring someone when it's so much more freeing to yell at 'em.    hahahaha

anyway - 'bout the tantrums.  My son was the tantrum king.  Once he screamed so much that he actually started to turn blue.  Finally my mom suggested what she did with my sister when she threw a tantrum.  So I tried it.  When he started into screaming, I calmly walked over to the sink, got a cup and drew some (just a little) cold water, and threw it in his face.  Complete shock.  He stopped and never threw another tantrum.

susgul

The cold shoulder hubby thing chaps my hide, too.  They just act like little kids sometimes.

Susan

Wren44

Chrissy, A week of cold shoulder is worth getting stuff out of your shed IMHO.

chrissyb

Wren the cold shoulder doesn't bother me and it's definitely worth getting my sheds cleaned out. DH has Asperges and it's his way of dealing with conflict. I understand him well after 43 years I should and I make allowances for him but sometimes in order to get something through his head I have to blow my stack. It doesn't happen very often...........

Alyson

Morning all

Just to let you know its back to another anxious wait, wait to get things done and then for results. Had checkup yesterday and onc found small 'something' on  my collar bone. He is sure its fimne but justs wants to check it because in his words its very strange. Oh well. If I haven't heard from the hospital by later next week I will see my BS and gether to sort it out. I don't want to wait too long as DH and I areoff the Australia on the 13th Oct - and we are going to visit Chrissy.

Its a very cool spring day here. Must move as I have to pick DD up from the airport.

Big hugs

QCA

Hope it's over, PT, and wasn't as bad as you'd feared.  And Lisa, the waiting is so hard.  We'll all wait with and be hoping for good results.

Alyson, hope the small something is actually nothing, and hope you can get an answer soon!  Maybe Chrissy and her DH will be talking again by your visit!

Just kidding you a little, Chrissy.  My DH sulks and gives me the silent treatment sometimes too.  I admit I'm pretty good at the silent treatment myself, but I really excel at stomping around the house!  

Hugs to all, Kathy

ptdreamers

It wasn't too bad. Dr wanted to know if I wanted the three inch nails? At first I thought why? and then I said sure. I'll have my son design something in jewelry to remind me not to be so klutzy. Then I went to the ENT who wanted to know how my hearing aid was working out.He  reccommended after severe loss of hearing in one ear after fall. I said I don't think I need it> He said okay lets recheck your hearing. Vast improvement although still some loss. He said "i"ve never have encountered this. I am glad you declined surgery. I want to see you in six months and recheck but I agree you don't need aids at this time." Happy dance for this.

3jaysmom

a mixed bag, for surehere.. im waiting with you gals waiting for your results, and hoping things "warm" up for you, Chrissy..

 I'm bad with the cold shoulder, it was my mothers favorite.. and she held grudges, also.. so i yell and scream, then e responds..

 anyway it happens, as long as the sheds get cleaned out..............3jays

Gingerbrew

PTDreamer does your Dr think the hearing loss was from the chemo?  It is just such great news.

Wren that is so funny! I would trade silence for DH to get all the household crap out of my sewing room that never should have gone there in the first place!    

Laters

Ginger 

Leah_S

Alyson, I hope all is well with you.

OK, it seems I missed something - PT, what cast was that? Or did I actually know it, comment on it, and store it in the never-never land of chemobrain? Anyway, it sounds like it wasn't too traumatic having it removed so that's a good thing.

My kids are WONDERFUL. We recently had our New Year's holiday (Rosh Hashana) which is a 2-day holiday. So a 2-day holiday means 4 big meals, and they did ALL the cooking. They made chicken, meatballs, rice, potatoes, stringbeans, sweet potato and butternut squash casserole, a turkey dish, and chicken cutlets. They also made yeast cake, choc chip cookies, and choc balls. We have a custom of eating things with honey on Rosh Hashana to symbolize a sweet year so before my surgery I made honeycake and froze it, but that was my sole contribution. I lost 6 pounds while I was in the hospital (yeah, hospital food is a great diet since it's close to inedible) but now I don't want to get on the scale!

Leah

chrissyb

Leah lol....... I hear you girl. I lost all that weight before my knee op and I was looking pretty trim. For some reason.......or maybe I know the reason but just won't tell..... Lol.... I'm not feeling quite so trim so I went shopping today and stocked up on the real good stuff with a few treats thrown in. Oh my but I like my diet!

ptdreamers

leah, ginger cast and hearing loss was from bad fall in july.