I say yes, you say no, OR People are Strange

Medigal

revkat:  Glad you like my clothesline thingee.  I just made it up like I do most sayings unless they are from the Bible.  I don't fool around with the God stuff. Don't need more enemies!  Your "Call me a biscuit etc". is much better but I would have eaten the biscuit before you got around to buttering my buns!  I love biscuits!  Oh come on!  I've already confessed I eat most anything before it can eat me so you know I must loove biscuits!   

Kadeeb:  That is just what I was telling Melissa in my PM to her today.  This may be a bc group but who wants to talk about that all the time.  I like to forget about it whenever I can and that's why I love kidding around with you gals.  You make it fun on days I might (thanks to Arimidex) be locking myself in my back bedroom crying.  Thanks for laughing with me!

lewing

Kadeeb, what a great post (and what a great saying, too).  I had no idea that the deletion of a thread could lead to an individual poster being treated as a "newbie" again.  That sucks.

L

bluedahlia

Well I'm back.  I want to apologize for my bad behaviour yesterday.  Its hard not to react when one is savvy to what's going on behind the scene.

Anyways, nice post and thank you Kadeeb.  Thank you Chevy (hehehe) and LadyEden (double hehehe)  AND thank you to all the great ladies that post on this thread!

Bren-2007

Kadeeb .. I didn't know that either .. about a new poster getting pushed back to 5 a day if a thread is deleted.  That's not cool.  But I guess it's part of the software program.  Loved your post!

I'm so full .. I just made Tim some chicken noodle soup and added lots of egg noodles.  Hopefully that won't make him feel worse.  I sure wish I had Rosemary's dinner .. yummm.

Medigal .. thanks for making room for me on your clothesline .. I just love that saying!

Bren

Moderators

Hello Again All, 

Thanks for all your team-work today, through the bad and the good. We've been able to get through alot and hopefully learn alot, and are slowly coming to the other side.  However, we are left feeling only cautiously hopeful. Clearly BCO cannot moderate or comment on what is said on the other boards. We are fully aware of them, and can choose to read there, but there is no moderation from our end that can be done --- nor would we want to get involved. We find it regrettable that people are getting hurt, regardless of where, or how. BCO can only try and figure out how to manage the tone, mood and overall climate here. We do not want people hurt more than they have already been by this god-awful disease and what life has otherwise dealt.

We will continue to strive to be a place that people want to come, to find love, support and friendship. We find totally sad and inhumane if anyone would choose to hurt this goal, and to pain people (think especially of the newbies) who need support the most. Please understand, we do not do this for "big bucks" - We do it because we sincerely care, and want to continue to provide this service, free of charge, to those who need it most. We work very hard for this. 

We can only ask that those posting on the other boards, as well as on our board, remember the real reason for the BCO boards: the women, the families, the friends who are dealing with the fear, the terror, the side effects of treatment, their self-images, their relationships --- and some who are even dealing with their death. Please, please remember these people each time you post.

The respect, understanding, support and nuturing of women of all backgrounds, ages, and stages of the disease...... this is what our boards are all about.  

Anonymous

I'm happy to see this is getting back to being peaceful for you ladies. I need to ask Medigal what she mean by the 7 names.  Medigal, PM me if you must.  I truly believe you are acting quite innocently for the mods...not particularly you, Medigal, because you don't know the history.  Actually, I don't think I've used the name "libtard" unless it was sometime back.  I usual shorten liberal and say lib.  Is something wrong with that.  Republicans have been called repugnant...so?  Conservatives are many times seen as "insensitive" to people in need.  Quite the opposite. 

Your favorite women, Palin and Bachmann, have been beat up on.  But if we beat up on the POTUS we're seen as anything but American or caring.  If we hate this HC bill...we're told that as long as WE have health care we don't care about anyone else.  That's far from true.  We have tried to defend ourselves and then told to go elsewhere. 

Poltics is a very heated discussion just as religion. 

Many times we refer to our names about people that make news.  We are not intentionally hurting anyone here.  Why are you referring to rightwinger?  What does she have to do with anything?   Did you know that on another thread that I don't read, someone was being very mean to someone else?  That was talked about on the other site.  It wasn't about this thread.  And some people there thought it was best to contact Melissa about the poster.  Did you read about that.  Do you want someone bullying a person who is asking for help and calling her an idiot?

It's not all about this one thread.

I am no different than you.  I have my opinions.  We all do.  I don't use a clothes line.  I use the dryer.  Been there done that in the old days.  I happen to like the scrub board though.

Sorry Melissa that you have been brought into the other site. 

1Athena1

Melissa, that is a lovely post. I wonder if you could repost it on other forums like the moderation one? I think many of us on BCO need to read it, not just those here.

I also thank you for your deletions, which included my posts, because at this point you have to step in at your discretion and I respect that. I have hated that in the past, but I'm all for it if it  helps to prevent passions from overflowing. Emotions are contagious and at BCO too many are on fire.

And most of all, I thank you for giving up your weekend to help us and help keep BCO going. You could say you are an emergency cyberphysician. Well done.

1Athena1

Shirley, please stop arguing, just for a few minutes. Can we all breathe for just a very few?

River_Rat

I'd like to thank the moderators for trying to maintain this thread. I've had 2 cancers and it's nice to have an area for other conversation. I enjoy hearing different viewpoints.



I love the food posts. I still need to pick up some brussels sprouts to see if DH will eat them roasted. I love them anyway but DH looks like he's being tortured if he chokes 2 down.



Medigal, my mom used to talk about how good pickled pigs feet are, she ate them as a girl.....but I've never seen her do it and she never bought any that I saw. I can't remember how long it's been since I saw any in the store but I think we still have them. We do have other animal parts that I don't quite know what to do with but now if I get brave I know who to ask.



I've recently found out I'm gluten intolerant....probably have been forever but things flared up after chemo. I just thought that my stomach had been messed up from chemo and that this was just going to be my new "normal." I finally found out the problem 3 1/2 years after chemo and the stomach problems are gone. Interestingly most of the food discussed here is gluten free so I'm enjoying the conversation.

208sandy

Riverrat:

What is it about men and brussels sprouts - my dh couldn't stand them but I did find a recipe called "tolerable brussels sprouts" which involves brown sugar, sour cream and coleman's mustard (keen's if you're a Canadian) - he actually ate a few of those one Christmas and I made the recipe again this year in his memory (he passed away a little more than a year ago) anyway my friend's husband actually ate the first two brussels sprouts in a long time and came back for more - frankly I'd rather eat the roasted ones but hey.....

Sandy

Anonymous

1Athena1, I'm not allowed to defend myself when someone calls out my name?  Please go back and read.  I'm not arguing.  I've kept my mouth pretty darned shut until I was accused of whatever.

1Athena1

(Groan)

bluedahlia

<-----------------------is sitting on her hands!

Enjoyful

You feeling ok, Athena?

otter

Re: "Southern" foods, southern idioms, southern life...

I thought this article was fun.  It's in the Jan. 28th on-line edition of The Atlantic:  "Where Does the South Begin?" http://www.theatlantic.com/national/archive/2011/01/where-does-the-south-begin/70052/

otter

[P.S.:  Thanks, Melissa.  I had some doubts at first today, when I saw what had happened to this thread.  And, I was worried about Blue, our founder.  But, maybe the surgical excisions will settle things down.  I spent several hours today making a list of all the controversial things we've discussed in the past week with almost no reports, deletions, or flames.   Everybody was playing nice for a long time... until something spontaneously ignited.  Oh, and I've purchased a really big "IGNORE" button.]

Medigal

Ok Shirley:  Let's you and I meet on the PM clothesline.  I don't like to go to sleep with unfinished business and it seems you feel this is still unfinished.  I also don't think we need to discuss this any further in the group.  This is what causes problems and I am trying to keep peace in the group.  However, I do have questions I would like to ask you and get answers and I have enough respect for you to hope I will get them.  I have no idea what happened in the past, I only know I have lost good friends in this group due to what is happening now and I would like to know why.  Thank you for offering to discuss my concerns with me.  I will be PMing you now.  If I owe you and your other group an apology, I am certainly mature enough to give it but first the answers.

YramAL

I love the ignore button. Just sayin.... 

Mary 

1Athena1

E - lol!!

kadeeb

Otter,

The article was a good one. We may not know where the South begins and ends but we know if we're in it.  I've got Jeff Foxworthy on the commedy channel in the den. He says that a redneck is a glorious absence of sophistication. If that's the definition, "I are one". 

rosemary-b

I went to High School in northern Maryland, just south of the Mason-Dixon Line. In some ways it was southern there, in some ways more northern There is a lot of truth in that article.

otter

kadeeb, I am so terribly embarrassed to admit this, but I spent the morning today watching a show on the "Comedy Central" channel.  It was "Blue Collar Comedy Tour Rides Again (2004)."  I thought I was going to die laughing.  Probably 87% of the jokes they told were politically incorrect.  My ribs are still sore.

My favorite criterion was the line between "Sweet or unsweetened?" and "No, but there are sugar packets on the table."   <sigh>  "Famous Dave's BBQ Restaurants" blurred that line by offering real, brewed sweet tea even in the great Northland.

otter

YramAL

I think one definition of the south is that macaroni and cheese is considered a vegetable at buffet restaurants.

Mary 

kadeeb

Rosemary,

I know what you mean. Here in Alabama, it's not too hard to tell but sometimes the labels of Southern and Northern are used to imply prejudice on one side or the other. Most of us look at it as a food and culture thing. Others may use it to poke fun or determine IQ and political views. I'm against using labels to describe what a person believes or is. There are exceptions to any attempt to do so. I sort of think of it like it is on this thread. Just different experiences and points of view. We're all fighting the same demon (bc). That sort of makes us from the same place.

kadeeb

YramAL,

 Are you telling me it's not?

208sandy

Yram:

The mac and cheese is also a prerequisite on the Thanksgiving table in the south - I was born in Quebec (Montreal) and in the old days when meat wasn't sold on Fridays we had mac and cheese for dinner - my parents ate fish - anyway there I was in South Carolina for all those years making mac and cheese casserole for the holiday table - I can make a mean brewed sweet tea too (I never drink it myself - has to be unsweetened).

Sandy

Bren-2007

Melissa .. thank you so much .. what a great note to us .. and I'm taking it to heart.  It's good to be reminded of the new gals and all the struggles we went through in the beginning.

River .. glad to see you got your 5 posts back!

All this food talk makes me hungry!  And Tim's too sick to cook.  I tell you what, he makes the best Carolina bbq of pulled pork.

Hugs to all,

Bren

1Athena1

Hey, Bren, you said you were in the ER all day - I hope everything is ok??

Kindergarten

Dear Shirley, I think that you are truly a wonderful person and I so appreciated your support. I have been asked to join the Stage 3 thread. I am a Stage 2b, but close enough. Since I have transferred over there, I have felt such calmness and peace. Why don't you join me, or is there a thread that we can meet, because I think you are such a neat woman. God bless you, Kathy

BarbaraA

Wow, 3 pages in 12 hours?

Thanks, Melissa, for taking the time to talk with us and to listen to us. I, for one, really appreciate it.

Well, today is my birthday and DH is taking me out to dinner. I know, I know, I have been eating out for a week but it is my day and I want to eat out.

Hope this week goes well for everyone!

Bren-2007

Happy Birthday Barbara!  Hope you have a fabulous day!

hugs,

Bren