I say yes, you say no, OR People are Strange

BarbaraA

Me too, Rosemary and Bren. I met Marty at age 49 and was gonzo from day1. Hi Atena!

suzieq60

lindasa - spot on - I know my DH wouldn't be able to cope without me - I do too much!!! Got to work on that

I remember when my DH's step mother died and his father didn't waste time replacing her. Luckily his 3rd wife outlived him.

Sue

1Athena1

susieq58 - lol!! That's too funny!

Hi Barbara! 

crazy4carrots

Lucky for me my DH does know how to cook, make grocery lists and do the laundry.  OTOH, he sees absolutely no reason to make a bed (cuz you're just going to get into it and mess it up again!) and he's also a packrat so I can see that if he lived alone, he's be a great candidate for that reality show, can't remember the name of it.  

Am watching the hockey playoff game off and on, and am so frustrated with my Canucks -- I think there must be an invisible barrier in front of the Boston net, or else someone has put a hex on them.  Maybe Paul Revere's ghost???  Arrrgh! 

Alpal

I vote for Paul's ghost. He put the hex on them after he rang all those bells and fired those shots to warn the British.

crazy4carrots

Well, you could be right, Alpal, but you'd think his ghost would be a bit kinder, after all, the Canucks are from BRITISH Columbia.....

208sandy

Alpal:

LOL

Sandy

suzieq60

An example of how my DH depends on me. He asked me on Friday if I could get him some boxes so he could move some books to his new office. I felt like saying "What did your last slave die of"". The box place is just over the hill from us - like he can't even find out where it is and go there

BarbaraA

Sorry about last night folks but GO CANUCKS!!! The series is a cliff hanger.

otter

Re:  the discussion about what our husbands will/should do after we're gone...

Jelson posted this link on Yan's thread.  It's an article reprinted in Slate last month in honor of Mother's Day:  http://www.slate.com/id/2292956

The title is, "My Husband's Other Wife -- She died, so I could find the man I love."  Don't read it if there are other people in the room, because they won't understand the tears.

otter

rosemary-b

Oh otter

I cried all the way through it. What a beautiful story.

1Athena1

I know one HATES to talk about cancer on this wonderful thread, but I just thought I would share that I saw my onc today. He said I looked very well and officially graduated me from three-month visits to six month ones. I don't celebrate these things because we know how sneaky cancer is - I could have mets and not know it. I had a grade 3 tumour, though, so mlost likely that cancer would have shown up by now. The visit did light up my day, especially since my onc is a very cautious man. Oh, and he confirmed what I was too chicken to check out for sure on my own - that I have lost weight. That I will celebrate!! 

I just might die of something else after all. 

AnnNYC

Congratulations, Athena!!!!!  And really, I don't think you're talking about "cancer" -- you're talking about "no evidence of" it !!!!

Alpal

Cancer, smancer! I'm thrilled about your good news!

rosemary-b

Woo hoo Athena. What good news. .

And you lost weight, how fantastic!

1Athena1

My mother sat through the entire visit with my onc and was so happy that she could barely move. Her eyes watered, This normally loquacious woman was speechless. Seeing her was the best indication to me that I just might get away unscathed from this disease. I refused chemo and the treatment I did agree to almost did me in because of my comorbidity, so really my cancer treatment overwhelmingly relied on surgery and radical lifestyle changes. 

Today's experience  was almost deja vu. Wen I was 5, I was supposed to die from a congenital  heart condition. Then my parents took me to the US and I was kept at sea level. Finally, my pulmonary hypertension went down just enough for surgery to be safe. But first they had to fix an obstructed aorta. Once that was done, they cracked my chest and this famous surgeon did his magic. He never spoke to the patient's families but he was so happy with the procedure that he deigned to speak with my parents before heading back home on his plane. So I survived what I should have died from. My case was eventually reported in the New England Journal of Medicine.

Let's see how many lives I have. Do lionesses have nine lives too?

Here's to all of us who are here to compare battle scars and laugh. (wine glasses clink)

Like all of us, I have come a long way, almost full circle. My mother said I was like my pre-cancer self.

And it could come back.

It might even be there.

Just not today, not right now.

For this moment, that is what counts. 

crazy4carrots

Great news Athena -- I heard yours and your Mom's sighs of relief all the way up here (of course, it could have just been the wind...!)  You've been through so much.  Just keep on keepin' on, sweetie!

1Athena1

Thank you Lindasa for your sweet words. It has been a rollercoaster. In all this mess, my fabulous psychiatrist has been taking great care of his part of my machinery. Without him, I would not be here.

Alpal

Athena - lions are cats. Of course you have 9 lives. You have 7 to spare.

rosemary-b

Athena

For this moment thats what counts, you bet.

otter

FWIW, I believe cats can renew their lost lives if something really wonderful happens.  So you might actually have 8 or 9, and not just 7. 

otter

bluedahlia

WTG Athena.  I live day to day too.  It gives me peace of mind.

208sandy

Great news Athena - we've had a lucky week - wine glass clinking here!

Sandy

BarbaraA

Great news Athena.

My heart is broken today. I will so so miss our beloved KonaKat.

rosemary-b

Oh cr**. I will miss KK so much.

Bren-2007

I can't believe we have lost KK.  I'm heartbroken.  I had just put a card to her in the mail yesterday.  I hope it will bring comfort now to her family. 

This news sucks so much.  I had really hoped she would get better .. but the cancer was too strong and took her from us.

With tears,

Bren

IronJawedBCAngel

For the first six years of my cancer survivorship, I feel as if I handled the loss of my sisters to this f**king disease relatively well, but this so close on the heels of my Dad's passing has just about brought me to my knees.  I am so tired of what this disease takes from us!  While I know that KK was not a "believer", I have to believe that she is now at the Rainbow Bridge, surrounded by all of the kitties she loved so well.  I am glad that she is now free of pain and at peace.

Athena,  I wish you many, many more lives!  All any of us are guaranteed is this moment, so I am always grateful that on this day, at this moment, I do not have cancer, and I am glad you are right there with me.

Hugs to all of you today.

crazy4carrots

Tears here too.  But Elizabeth brought such joy to our lives -- she made us laugh so often, she made us even laugh at the disgusting things cancer has brought to our lives, she found such humour in the ridiculous, the techie whose lap she swooned into won't soon forget her, and I'll bet Dr. McDreamy won't forget her either.  I feel so, so badly for her Mom -- for whom she was so worried about telling, and for John who will never again feel her arms and her love.  And for all of us, who had the brief pleasure of knowing the kind, loving, generous, earthy and hilariously funny person she was.

I will think of her every day, before, during and after I eat my 2 squares of Lindt chocolate.  And when I hug my kitties.  And when I come here to read about you all and share my thoughts with you.

CherrylH

Hello ,

I often lurk and don't post much, but I would like to express by condolenses to all of you who loved Elizabeth. I loved reading her posts. She had the most wicked sense of humo(u)r and I loved it. I know she will live on in all of your hearts.

Wabbit

Lots of broken hearts here today.  I won't ever forget KK ...