I say yes, you say no, OR People are Strange

konakat

{{{{{Athena}}}}}  Been missing you.

Enjoyful

JBinOK -

My special needs sister just read your post and would like to know why you're so mean.  I don't know what to tell her.  Do you have any suggestions?

Bren-2007

Blue .. love the pic .. you're lookin' mighty fine!

JB .. you're such an ..... and mean too.  Those are facts, not personal opinions.

E ... there is nothing you can tell you sister .. cause there is no explanation for that kind of behavior.

Bren

Enjoyful

Nope.  Phasers on "ignore," once again.

BarbaraA

JB, you are mean and hateful. Go be mean somewhere else.

Athena, I missed you. Good to 'see' you.

lassie11

JB - did you have troubles in high school making friends?

Or did you hang out in that group of mean girls who had something rude to say about anyone else? 

It's not too late to improve your manners. And they do need some improvement.

covertanjou

((((Athena)))) It is so good to have you back!  

blue--you look beautiful!  I love your top--very, very nice!

IronJawedBCAngel

Blue,you are absolutely stunning, and I am so happy that you are doing so well!  Shine on!

It's also great to see Athena here, although I do agree that sleep should take priority over these message boards, particularly when some come in bringing their toxic sludge to poison the air!

Sending ugly messages, saying nasty things about someone's parents, trying to undermine a survivor's confidence, just spreading hate and vitriol everywhere she goes, all in a days work for JB.  Kicked any puppies or pinched any babies today to make your day complete?  I know what I would like to say, but my Mama taught me better. I do hope that there is such a thing as Karma!

bluedahlia

(((((((Athena))))))) so nice to see you.

Sorry to disappoint you JB!  But I went from an A cup tp a C cup and my strapless bra don't fit anymore.  Other than that, you can take your comments, past and future and stick them where the sun don't shine.  That's not a personal attack, that's just plain old advice.  Oh, and when one is able to have the love of a man 12 years younger than her, I don't think one needs a top to hide one's sins.  The personality and sexy body are enough. BTW, he's been with me 10 years and has more money than I do.

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annettek

i have to say that is one of the strangest posts I have ever read...at first I thought JB and Blue were friends and she was just poking fun at her like friends will...(always wanting to think more of people rather than not)...hmmm... then i reread it because it seemed off...dating each other? ok by me, i like spending time with people who offer their hearts and souls when I am paralyzed by pain and fear and the turn around and celebrate with me when I find something to be happy about.

As for the nasty shot to blue- me thinks you are hurting JB...I am not sure why but i maybe can relate because I have been there...no, i have not made any shout outs to people who are obviously handling things better than I am at a particular time...but one can get locked inside of our pain or fear and resent when others seem so OK with whatever life throws them...I have felt on the outside looking in until I realized all I had to do was join in..if i felt comfortable, i stay, if i don't, i look elsewhere..but usually the problem is with ME, not anyone else....having said that, blue has been through so much (more than some of us, less than others-the BC stew is varied and all encompassing unfortunately) that it is a thing of beauty and a sign of LIFE to post a picture filled with sunshine, health and happiness...don't throw a shadow on it with snarky, i can't believ ein your heart you could really mean to want to make a fellow sister feel anything less than good or snatch away a moment where one of us gets the chance to exhale....

bluedahlia

That's OK annette, some people like to surround themselves in darkness.  I'd hate to see her posts if she had been through one half of what I have had to deal with.  We all have dark periods.  Some of us are dying (well we all are in a sense) and I have never seen posts as ugly or disrespectful as JB's come from any of them.  BUT, she's probably getting a thrill out of our responses, so like E says, phasers on ignore.

Dilly

Blue, you are beautiful. Inside and out. That's what counts.

BarbaraA

I am joining in to hug Blue, who has been through so much and who has overcome a very bad medical condition only to shine! {{{BLUE}}}

My phasers are on ignore as well.

Bren-2007

Normally, I liberally use the 'ignore' function, but not today.  I'm so angry with JB's meanness and snide comments, I want to be aware if she does it again.  Cause I will report her comments in the future.  And I will happily post a note that I have hit the 'delete' button.

Bren

bluedahlia

hillck, I have Parkinson's Disease, for which I went through brain surgeryin December.  Deep Brain Stimulation.  I'm not 100% yet but slowly getting there.

Enjoyful

Blue is one tough and beautiful cookie!

1Athena1

JBinOK says:

I got a couple of PMs to check out the lovefest you gals were having.

I am interested in the meaning of that - does this mean that she volunteers to troll and is egged on by others to do so? It makes one wonder how much of her boldness really hers.

I'll take a troll, but not a coward. JB if you hit, a brave person doesn't slink away. Of course, if you knew what you were talking about half the time when you come here your hits wouldn't be so off. I mean, if you're going to bomb the city, bomb the city - not the vinyard 50 miles away. You are not only short on kindness in your statements but also on GPS and military planning.

crazy4carrots

Bullies usually pick on others whom they perceive as weak.  They sure don't know the strengths of our Blue!

bluedahlia

Athena, so eloquently put.  Very happy you're back!

Alpal

Blue, thank you so much for posting the beautiful picture. I think your response to the DBS is absolutely amazing and I am so proud of you. Don't take the ugly post personally, anyone can do a search and see that the snide, unkind and demeaning posts are not confined to this thread. Sort of an equal opportunity thing? I wouldn't be messing around with someone who is as loved and admired as you and has Sicilian cousins!

208sandy

Blue:

Absolutely wonderful outfit - especially love the top and your hair - you look great.  Glad you had a nice dinner with your sweetie and really glad that he's got the new job - seems like you might be able to relax a bit now - you've been through so much.

Hugs, Sandy

BarbaraA

Alpal, I agree with you on mean posts on other threads. I looked at some of JB's posts and they are all mean and snide. So on FULL ignore.

rosemary-b

Athena

It is good to have you back. I always enjoy your comments.

AND for the self-appointed fashion police, Blue's outfit is right in style. Comments to the contrary show a lack of knowledge as well as the mean spiritedness pointed out by others. 

Anyone who would make such comments shows a lack of the social skills most of us learned in elementary school.

As for us dating each other, that is just so odd. It is not anything I can imagine a woman saying to other women, maybe it's those dang social skills again.

A question -are we feeding a troll here?

Edited to say either way ignore it is

Ang7

JB~

You are making so many hateful comments on various threads...

Why can't you say anything nice?

otter

Blue, you look absolutely fabulous. I love the loose-fitting top, and that half-smile you’re wearing in the photo gives you sort of a Mona Lisa look.  And, that short ‘do… it’s so soft and wavy.  Really nice!

As for why people say mean things… enjoyful, you might take this opportunity to talk to your special-needs sister about bullying.  There does seem to be a clique at work here (re: “I got a couple of PMs to check out the lovefest you gals were having”).  So, let’s take a look at cliques, bullying, and other maladaptive social behavior among adolescent girls.

First, there’s this, from http://www.girlshealth.gov/bullying/whatis/cliques.cfm:  “Girls in a clique are often mean, and sometime bully others. This is because these girls feel stronger surrounded by others who are doing the same thing as them. … Girls in a clique do not have enough good self-esteem to stand behind their own ideas. They try to make themselves feel better by pushing other people down. … For most girls in a clique, bullying is a way to feel better about themselves, feel important, and control other people. Some girls also think they will be popular if they make fun of others and spread gossip.”

And, there’s this, from http://www.livescience.com/6325-bullying-kids-cruel.html:  “… 85 percent of bullying cases happen for the benefit of an audience, Veenstra said. Bullies want their behavior to be noticed. That means the reactions of bystanders is another essential piece of the bullying puzzle.”

Sounds like another way to say:  stand up for your friends, but don't feed the trolls.

otter

AnneW

My god. JB--really? If you were trying to be cute or something, it flat didn't work.

Blue, so nice to see you. I keep thinking you'll look like your Jim avatar! He'd be trying to push aside that young 'un of a hubby you have, girl!!

Hmmm. If Jim were alive today, would he be as wrinkled as Jagger? Still cute like Paul? Still able to squeeze into those tight leather pants? I refuse to think of him with a belly hanging over those hips...

RetiredLibby

I love the ignore button. I see all the pleasant conversation and friendship. The trolls cease to exist. Great bargain all around.

Edited to add: Blue, you rock!

konakat

Blue -- you have a beautiful mind, body and a loving, young, rich husband.  Yowza!  My phaser is set to stun.

Wabbit

 LOL ... so I'm not the only one who catches herself being surprised when blue does not look like Jim   

In other news ... 

SHAMPOO WARNING:

• Scientists have figured out why people are gaining weight. The shampoo people are using in the shower runs down their body says, "for extra volume and body." Scientists say to start using Dawn dish washing soap. It says, "dissolves fat that is otherwise difficult to remove."

We have sunshine here today ... it's lovely.  I've had the cats and dog outside getting good brushings.  It's windy too so all that fur just goes flying away.  Lots of nice and soft bird nests this year maybe.

Not going to mess with people who just want to cause trouble.  They are just energy vampires. 

otter

WR, that's a good idea.  (Several good ideas, actually.)  I think I'm gonna try Dawn detergent instead of my regular shampoo.  If it's good enough for penguins and baby ducks, it's good enough for me!  (Google "Dawn x wildlife x youtube" for the cutest commercial you'll ever see.)

Oh, heck.  Here's a link:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3RwGC4I5JAc

otter