Calling all TNs

Titan

Teka....you and everyone else...

Sugar77

Hi, I hope everyone is having a good day.  I love to read everyone's posts to see what's going on with each of you.  I haven't had too much to add this week.

Next Sunday, I will be participating in the CIBC Run for the Cure.  I'm running for all you wonderful women fighting the same battle with this FC! 

lwarstler

 I am soooo mad!!! Ok, this has nothing to do with cancer except that I'm sure the discomforts left from surgery and anxiety of chemo one in 2 days is what is making me want to run this little snot nosed boy over with my car! (I won't really, I'm just trying to find a way to express exactly how angry I am). 4 months ago, my 15 year old asked about wanting to "date" her 17 year old friend whom she had know for about 6 months. We knew both he and his brother (twins) for awhile and we had agreed she could go to a max of 2 years older but could not "date" in the typical way...only in a group and with us driving or she could see him at our house or his with parents present. She is a really good girl and has followed every rule we have set and become attached to this young JERK! He really comes across as a nice, shy, respectable young man. WELL...a few weeks ago I started to feel that some things he has been saying and doing don't add up and warned my daughter to watch. She has and today she uncovered the bombshell. Here it is...He and his brother aren't twins!!!! They lied and He is 18...18!!!! My daughter is done with him but absolutely devastated and I am so mad I want to choke his little jerky neck!!!

Sorry...I just have to vent because I can't believe he would do this! Who does that?! My heart is just totally breaking for her. She has been worried with the cancer diagnosis but has been doing well, although she is in a lot of AP classes and that has been a struggle to focus on at times (like right after one of my surgeries) and now this. I'm worried about how she is going to handle all this. I know she is a really smart and good young woman, but I can see her start to withdraw a little. She is already trying to be strong about the cancer and I'm afraid this is just going to make her turn off how she feels even more.

Ok, I feel a little better now...sorry. It also made me even more worried about the cancer. The what if's while she is going through the time in her life when she may need me more than ever. When she needs that person who has the life experience to know when something isn't right or when she may need to protect herself. Ugghh..and I was doing so good, now mad, scared and crying. 

Teka

lwarstler,

 Many teenage males like younger teenage females.   I am amazed that he was willing to date with parental supervision.   What was he thinking?

rachelvk

What a jerk! It is a shame that she has to deal with so much. But - you deserve kudos for having raised a young woman who is willing to step back and listen to her mom when it comes to guys rather than ignoring you, or worse, deciding that she still really likes him and wants to date him anyway. She sounds like a smart, capable woman, and I wish you both the strength to continue supporting each other as you seem to have been doing. 

lwarstler

Thanks Rachel, I wish I knew how because I would have done a repeat performance with my son. I think her personality just has a lot to do with it. She has always been a very trusting and well behaved girl. I do feel a little better this am, and hope that she will do well with all this. She is just so precious and sweet that I can't believe someone would hurt her like that.

Teka: It isn't the fact she is younger and he wants to date her that surprises me...she is smart, beautiful and sweet.  As for being willing to date with parental supervision...he really didn't have a choice. Besides, I think he felt he could impress us enough to convince us to let him take her out on his own...it has come up. I'm not that easily manipulated though.

Teka

lwarstler,

Many teenagers consider hanging with friends between classes and during after school activities as dating.   Difficult to be a teenager.   

Teka

lwarstler,

I just read your 2 posts on the MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish thread.   

Anonymous

I just HAD to share this photo of my older son (he's the Tin Man) getting ready for a Mud Run to benefit leukemia. This is an event where the participants go through a myriad of obstacles (many filled with mud & water) not unlike a military obstacle course. I believe "Dorothy" designed the outfits. Notice the appropriate stances on the characters for the pose.

lwarstler

Wow Heidi...great costumes. I haven't done mud run yet, but my two brothers do two a year and they keep asking. It looks like a ton of fun.

lwarstler

Teka: yes I post there too. I am both TNS and 40-60. I also am starting chemo tomorrow and post on the September chemo thread. It is a nervous time for me as this is all really new and I don't work outside my home, so when my mind gets going and I start feeling panicky...the boards really help me calm down.

MBJ

Heidi:  Best thing that happened to me today:  I LMAO at Heidi's puns!  Thank you!  Great costumes!!!

Teka:  Ha!  I pretended I was living like I was in the 60's and at Woodstock in my youth!  I hate pot-gives me tunnel vision and then I just fall asleep-though there were a couple of times I have just laughed my but off.  Everytime someone convinced me to try it again I regretted it.  I tried a medical grade tincture during my recovery from chemo and surgery and it just made me grouchy and bitchy and didn't help with the pain at all, though I kept trying, lol.

titan:  Glad LJ's wine helped!  You are right-one more week to go-best to enjoy it in the moment!

MBJ

Bak:  Suze and Laurajane are right:  A nice pair of shoes make an outfit evening worthy and a nice pair of Wellies are always stylish!  Me, I am a coat, shoes and purse kinda gal-It makes a tee shirt and jeans elelgant.  Add some jewelry and you are ready to go!

My DH and I will be raising chickens for eggs only, too.  I can't imagine eating our pets!  Of course, I have no problem going to my inlaws and eating theirs, lol.

Titan

Lee Ann...it's so hard when your children are hurt!  I guess all you can do is tell them that this is life and this is a learning experience.

I would say the kid better watch out...it's not good to tick us Momma Bears off!

lwarstler

Thanks Titan...it would definately be a good idea for him to stay away. I know it's crazy but I actually started wondering if I was over-reacting because of being emotional about starting chemo tomorrow. I know that's not right now... thanks to someone reminding me, but this is all just making me nuts! You are right though...this is life and it isn't going to be just peaches and cream. Darn!  

MBJ

Iwarstler:  Although I think it's wrong to lie, this boy did come clean with your daughter.  I know that you have your rules but I recall younger boys being much more disrespectful in high school and the older boys being much more willing to treat you well.  Girls mature faster and I don't think there is a huge difference between 17 and 18 in a boy.  You sound like you have a lovely daughter and that a boy is willing to date a girl supervised does say a lot in favor of his character.  I hope your chemo goes well and that things work out. 

laurajane

Suze- Sounds great I'll let you know my game plan tomorrow when I see my onc. Is your discomfort like stabbing pains? That's how mine is right near my heart and shoots through to my back between my shoulder blades now. I also have that run over by a truck kind of feeling where my breast used to be and my arm pt area radiating down my arm.

Mity- So nice to see your smiling face. Thanks for the well wishes.

Bak- I love my muck boots. They are like my slippers. Sooo! Comfortable. 

Inmate- So great to see you again. I think about you often. What's your new chemo cocktail going to be? Thanks for sharing your link. P>S> Sorry your SE's have been horrible. Hope your new chemo cocktail will been easier on you.

Christina, RJ70, and Sugar- You go girls!!! Proud of you. 

Heidi- Thanks for the humor. Have you started your book yet?

Titan- Just 6 more days. I hope your week goes by smoothly and Saturday is beautiful and filled with  happiness.

Iwarstler- Oh! If only we could prevent our kids from enduring the pain from lessons that we have learned without them having to go through this. My son is drop dead gorgeous( SO my friends say), sweet, loving and kind but has had his heart broken too. So sad, I am hoping he can meet a gal that truly appreciates the qualities he has too. One year he baked homemade chocolate chip cookies and recorded a cd of all of these wonderful Christmas songs  for a girl he really had a crush on and she through it in the trash. Really broke his heart. Funny how the nice ones don't really meet each other that often. They say opposites attract. I hope tomorrow goes smoothly for you with few if any SE's.

Well I'm counting the hours to see my onc tomorrow and really hoping for a scan. Anxious to hear what her new game plan is for me. I'll keep you all posted. Hope you all have a great day. The best thing that has happened to me today is that it has finally stopped raining and the sun is shining. Hooray! 

belleeast

iwarstler,i start chemo tomorrow,too. good luck with the treatments,hope we don't have bad side effects!

laurajane

Belleeast- Good luck tomorrow too! I hope it goes smoothly for you. I'll be thinking of you gals!

Getting ready to have a grilled cheese sandwich and some tomato soup. Just like my mom used to make for me. I'll have it while I sit down and watch HGTV. Ahhh! This is the life. I'll have a German Chocolate cupcake for dessert.  Yup made them the other night when I was dreaming of cupcakes. LOL. Makes me feel like a bad girl but it will be delicious.

Anonymous

German Chocolate Cake... man, do I have a recipe for that! Now I'm hungry!

Luah

belleast, iwarstler: All the best with your chemo tomorrow. Remember to take the anti-nausea pills, and drink lots of water. It'll be okay.

heidi: You always crack me up - thank you! I sent the Puns for Intelligent People along to my son because he is, of course, one of the most intelligent people I know.

titan oh titan: The final week, hang in there. You will make a smashing mother of the bride and I'm sure the day will be wonderful all round. (Brides really don't know what they're saying or doing; when I got married, I left the reception in a whirlwind and never said a proper good-bye and thank-you to my parents... I still regret that, but figure they understand)

sugar: Good luck with your run next week. I am sitting it out this year. No real good reason, just didn't get my act together. Last year, it was so symbolic of my recovery...

mbj: I agree with you about lwarster's young man; granted, he made a mistake by lying, but he seems to have  favorable attributes too. To be honest, I've never been one to set terms by chronological age, but then I don't have daughters, lol.

Suze and LJ: Thinking of you wonderful women... I'm in awe of your sharp minds and emotional strength. Always a treat reading your posts!

Teka

lwarstler,

I just read private post, and you went into more detail in the 2 posts I read on MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish thread.   

Suze35

Good moment of the day - retail therapy!  Got a cute sweater and some black ballet flats.  Need to look my best when I'm living it up .

Still waiting on the trial to open up, boo.  The research nurse is going to let me know more Wednesday, she said it still could open this week.  Once it opens I have to do the bloodwork, CT scan, and biopsy.  I told her I really didn't want this dragging out 3-4 weeks, and she said the MO would not want that either.  Wugh. 

LJ - Thankfully I have pain pills on hand, but I hate taking them.  They make me feel like crap.  But I'll persevere, somehow!  Keep me posted!!

lwarster - I have no experience with teenagers, I just wanted to say that it can't be easy having to deal with the real world while also dealing with this.  Your daughter sounds like a wonderful young woman.  How does SHE feel about the young man's lies?

For those starting chemo soon, hang in there!

lwarstler

MBJ-thanks, I was a real mess and not too clear last night when I was writing. he actually has not come clean...she just found it out from his friend and then his brother. Otherwise, I would probably agree with everything else you were saying. Thanks for the calming words.

 Laurajane-That's aweful that she would be so mean...sorry...let's hope they both meet a nice one some day! and thanks for the well wishes tomorrow.

Luah: thanks I'm not sure how I'm supposed to take these 3 different nausea meds but I am hoping they will tell me all that tomorrow  while I'm there. Thanks for the suggestions and I will definitely do that.

belleeast: Here's to mild SE's! Hope it goes well tomorrow. 

bak94

Good luck with chemo iwarstler and belleeast. The not knowing what it is like beforehand is tough, I hope it goes very smoothly with no se's!

Suze35-Glad you got to shop to pass some of the waiting time!

LJ-I hope you get a scan since you want one! I will give you my mri for tomorrow:)

MBJ-I never thought I would like having chickens so much! They are so entertaining, each with their own little personalities. When are you getting some? Next spring?

bak94

Did someone mention german chocolate cake?

Anonymous

Survivor2Be

Did my CT scan today and breast MRI. Go figure, the metal in the TE wouldn't let them get a good scan. So here's hoping the CT is clear and all they see is a little lump on surgery. I'm thinking that it should be green like the Hulk, since it grew on radiation. Maybe it got mad cuz we were killing it!

Teka

Survivor2Be,

Having Lumpectomy this Wednesday?

Survivor2Be

Yes, I'm not wasting any time on this time around. All this surgery has definately helped me get over my fear of anesthesia!