The dumbest things people have said to you/about you

hdangelbaby

I had a good one today at work...

This guy I work with was asking me questions about my treatment (that's ok, really. i would rather people ask vs assume) and I was kind of joking around and said " I have like a pharmacy in a basket on my counter, if your nauseous, i  have anti emetics, if you can't sleep, I have ambien, If you are nervous, I have ativan, if your in pain, i have vicodin" and i was trying to just send the message of " it sucks to be on so many meds' but it came across to this guy as " wow, she has all the good drugs" and he actually said to me " i am so jealous of you, you can get whatever drug you want!" I just looked at him like he was nuts, cause i really think he was... i said to him " do not be jealous of a person with cancer, i need those meds to function throughout the day, and sleep at night, it's not all that great to be doped up"

funny how people see it as a "good" thing to be on so many medications..

what i would do to not be on so many...

but i know you ladies relate

Madismommy719

Lol, you just reminded me of my one aunt who came to see me 3 days post BMX, she said to me, and I am 100% sure she was serious..... "if you don't NEED the vicodin I'll gladly buy it off you!!"

Um, ok....first off, pretty sure I'm gonna need it, seeing as I just had my breasts and nipples removed and 2) I didn't know getting cancer made me a fricken drug dealer????

hdangelbaby

thats how i feel! lol!! people at work get wind of what i have at home for drugs, and they think they can buy them off me or "borrow" some!!

how crazy!!

3jaysmom

thats something i've had to deal with for yrs with my ms.. i just tell them the truth.. the "dr only gives me the amount I NEED, and no extras" it amazes me what people will do: ask for drugs you're taking for serious ilnesses....!!!    lol    3jays

sas-schatzi

Hi Angel----besides this idiot --how are you doing? Rads should be totally done ?

Rule of thumb don't tell people what your meds your on--it's none of their business---------and beleive it or not could set you up for robbery /break-in. Always full of legal news LOL. L&H's  sas

Kay_G

I was the HR person at work.  We offered AFLAC to our employees.  One of the policies was a cancer policy.  Unfortunately, I did not take it.  I had another employee who got breast cancer a few years ago.  Unfortunately, she did not take it either.  When the AFLAC rep came back the following year, I asked about her getting the cancer policy.  He said that once she was 5 years without cancer she would be eligible to get it.  The same for the disability policy they had, she had to be 5 years without cancer before she could get it.  I think actually he might have said she could get the disability policy right away, but it wouldn't cover her for any kind of cancer though.  Just fyi that is what I was told.

Jen42

Regarding people's comments and meds -- I had one co-worker say, "oohh, at least you're going to get good painkillers." I replied, "Umm...yeah...I would rather not be facing surgery AT ALL...and I don't think painkillers are fun..they make me nauseous....and constipation is one of the side effects." Nothing like poop (or lack of) talk to shut someone up ! Ha ha !

Oh, and I just remembered this one. Another co-worker, the day before I was leaving work for surgery said this, "you're not nervous are you?"  Me: "I'm having a 7 hour surgery to remove all my breast tissue and then immediately reconstruct two new breasts, of course I'm nervous. I'm scared of so many things regarding surgery, one of them being that I'm going to be sick from the anesthesia or painkillers." Her reply? "Oh, you're going to be sick all right ! How could you not be?"

Gee, thanks. One minute you're implying I shouldn't be nervous...next minute you're encouraging me to feel that way. And I ended up vomiting the whole night after my surgery, every 20 minutes, until 3 am. It was horrific. So one of my fears became reality, thank you very much.

barbe1958

Oh Jen!!! Why didn't they give you anything??? I always mention nauseau to the anesthetist and they give me something before I even wake up so I don't get woozy at all. Didn't the nurses want to help you?????  You can rip and destroy internal stitches when you vomit....

Jen42

They supposedly gave me anti-nausea stuff during surgery. Then, once I started vomiting afterward, nurse tried FOUR different kinds of anti-nausea pills thru the night -- nothing worked. I kept asking her if it was the morphine making me sick, she kept saying more likely after-effects of anesthesia. Well, at 3am I stopped pushing the morphine button and stopped vomiting. But then was told nurse wasn't allowed to give me anything else for pain except Tylenol until doctor rounds at 8am. (Which I don't think is true but what do I know?) So I had Tylenol...which didn't do too much for my pain levels, but at least I didn't get sick anymore. That was worst part of my whole experience, so I count myself lucky overall. It doesn't appear I did any damage (like ripping stitches), I have had no complications during recovery. So now it's just a horrible memory. But believe me, I now have it written down on my "meds list" in my wallet that I cannot take morphine. Don't ever want to go thru that again !

barbe1958

Well, you were most CERTAINLY right in that situation, eh? The nurse should have been more aware, as a drug allergy could be dangerous. Sounds more like a drug intolerance. At least you know now.

I take synthetic morphine twice a day, I'd be bed-ridden without it. I can't imagine not being able to take it!

lago

Hadley my avatar is 2 weeks after my 4th treament. I don't look that good. The small avatar pictures hides all the wrinkles. I look barely 30 in that photo. 

This is my transistion photos from 1 week prior to my BMX (on right) to 3 weeks ago (on left). Dates in the lower left. As you can see I don't look 30: linky 

hereandnow

Lago your beautiful smile is unchanged through all of those photos

K-Lo

Funny new statement : Since scary news 10 months ago, my women friends have been dreamily supportive. But one of them recently told me, some people wonder why you're not getting thin.

lago

Thanks…A little creepy though. My wedding album is the same way. My husband thought we shouldn't have bothered since I look the same in ever picture (Kidding of course. The 1st thing my husband noticed about me was my smile. Have to thanks mom & dad for fixing my teeth).

barbe1958

Hadley, zoom up and crop your photo so we can really see you!!! I like you better than the ladybug! This way you are real.

Madismommy719

I can't figure out how to put an avatar on here, I'm usually pretty computer savvy but I'm stumped? BOO!!!!

barbe1958

Go to "My Home" at the top of the page and work through it. You got your tag line done, now do the pic!!

Madismommy719

When I go to there and choose "add a photo" the dumb line to choose a file is blacked out and wont let me, could it be b/c I'm on an i pad and not a full desktop??? I can try from my home pc instead if that'll work?

Madismommy719

YAY, it worked on my regular PC.... me....the day i was diagnosed.... bye bye long hair!! 

sas-schatzi

Hadley, I didn't upset you cuz I was having trounle seeing did I--------eyes are just getting awful

annettek

Hadley- so good to see you- literally- I am thinking of retiring flying goat for awhile to put my old mug up- i like "seeing" who i am talking to

barbe1958

Hadley, you have to zoom on it before you pick it for your avatar. So wherever you have the picture stored, there is probably a zoom and crop button....

I'll miss the flying LAMB Annette, but it'll be nice to see you again!

BMac

How about a post on Facebook asking people not to contribute to cancer research because there's already a cure that's being kept from us because of the lucrativeness of the cancer industry.  I'm gobsmacked. 

The only reason I'm still here is because of research that has improved treatments.  Between posts like that and people who have recently "faked" cancer in order to fleece people of money, I worry about people not contributing.

jteach

BMac-I agree!

anettek-I LOVE the goat!     Janice 

Just_V

ok - so this is not a dumb thing to say but..... when i went back to work, folks  looked at me and said 'which one was it?' - that was fine when i had my foob in, but i got the same question today and i went in without a foob.... guess my 'almost As' were bigger in my mind than theirs!  lol.... as my husband says, they shouldn't be looking at my boobs anyway!

jteach

One of the most offensive things anybody ever said to me was when I went to NJ to see my relatives after 2 lumpectomies, a mastectomy, before chemo, hair loss, radiation and recon was to begin.  My niece, who is 28 and well educated said, "Which one is it? Really?  Which one?"  I went there in a car from NH with a seatbelt strapped across my painful chest to reassure my family that I was okay (while I still LOOKED okay) and there I stood, agog, like I was one of the cheap games in a carnival.  I know that she "didn't mean it', but I get tired of giving people passes when I'm the one that needed TLC.    Just sayin....    Janice

sas-schatzi

Just saying------Cluck'em-janice--------Rude , crude and thoughtless, They will never "get it" until they go through it.  L&H&P"s sheila

Cyborg

At a party, a neighbor asked me,"so what's the prognosis?" and I should have said, "for who, you stupid @&$#%!" but I just shook my head. Really?????

travelgal6979

I would love to relate a story that my my aunt, whom I adore, told me when I was going thru my BC.  It happened when she was going thru her BC in 1981 and people didn't talk about BC...kept it real hush, hush.  She had a mastectomy and there wasn't reconstruction at the time.  After her MX, my aunt and uncle went to their monthly bridge club get-together.  She said the minute they walked in the house it was so quiet you could hear a pin drop.  She said that she just KNEW everyone was dying to know which boob it was so she just piped up and said "Ok everyone, it's the LEFT one!  Now let's get to playing to bridge!"  I laughed so hard when she told me and loved her even more.  She said that the men in the men and women looked mortified but it definitely broke the ice!  She's one hell of gal.

PLJ