MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish

HLB

Hi Gigif. Try not to worry too much about the boy. I was too lazy to go to college and I turned out ok with a pretty good job eventually lol. My nephew is 15 and I'm actually thinking it would be better for him not to go to college. First because he hates school; secondly everyone goes to college now and they have such a hard time finding a job. I really think that due to everyone going to college, the other types of jobs are really going to be in demand, like HVAC, plumber, stuff like that. Its hard to find anyone to do that kind of work and young men these days dont know how to do handyman stuff the way our dads did. I hope the rest of your treatments go well.

SuzyBlue

Hi Everyone, I have a 19 year old son doing well at university but glued all hours of the day and night to his computer. It drives me crazy. I've told him we will be spending the next 18 months getting him ready and well rounded to leave home and start living life! Baby steps and weekly goals are the name of the game around here. Sigh, and he is only number three out of six! All the others are girls and seem to belong to a different race altogether from him haha.



I'm feeling a bit grumpy and out of sorts today. Had fat grafting from my hips to my breasts last Wednesday and the bruising and swelling is sore and annoying. I'm my own worst enemy in getting up and carrying on no matter what, and then wonder sometimes why people don't wrap me up in cotton wool! Sorry, I know there are far worse things to be worrying about, I'm just having an off day 😁.

barsco1963

Welcome Suzyblue - no apologizing necessary here. We all have our struggles and each is different. Sometimes with each new day is a new struggle. We are all here for one another to celebrate, encourage support and listen. Hoping that you start to feel better soon. Take care of yourself.

Gigif - I can't answer your herceptin question, but maybe someone will come along soon that will be able to. Have you checked any other threads for your answer?

My 19 yr old son is not the academic type and he struggled through high school. He is not sure yet as to just what he wants to be when he "grows up" He is currently working full time with a company that installs farm machinery. His interest in farming surprises me as he grew up "in town". But he likes his job we are ok with that until he finds out where he wants to be. And if it is where he is then that's ok too.

elimar86861

Welcome to our thread, GIGIF and SuzyBlue!  Just remember...there is no good time to get cancer and no "right way" to feel about it.  I also had kids in the late teens when I got my Dx, which was a blessing, I guess, because they were kind of self-absorbed and it did not seem to affect their lives too much at the time.  Bad enough it was affecting mine.

As for the college advice, I agree with HLB.  Some kids are just sick of school by the time of h.s. graduation.  If they are not caring for school and don't know what interests them, college is just a money drain.  If they go at a later time, it will be because they really want to and they will get much more out of it.

elimar86861

Going to see how tan my surgeon is this morning.  He's pasty white in the Winter, and I will be surprised if he is more than two shades darker now...that just does not seem like him.  I should be back in time to join everyone in chacha's pocket and I hope there will be something to snack on.  Questioning doctors always makes me hungry.

lassie11

When I had herceptin, it started during chemo and continued once every three weeks for a year.

Anonymous

Welcome GIGIF and SuzieBlue......sorry you have reason to join this group....but happy that with that reason you have found this incredible group of supportive, caring, and encouraging ladies!



Okay, I'm getting ready to see the MO, and then off (after a Pho bowl lunch) to see the GS for consult. This is a new doc for me.....and I'm not kidding, his name is Harms! I hope that isn't an indication of what's to come! LOL!!!! So set up the bar, bring in the treats and jump in with me! I love you all for coming along!

luvmygoats

Looks like a good start on snacks for Chachamom's pocket party. Hope Eli brings her elephant crumb vacuum. Hopping in your pocket. Wheee!!

elimar86861

I had a nice visit with my surgeon.  He had an intern sidekick with him today, which always inspires me to "act up" a little.  Since I was sitting, waiting for over a half hour in the exam room, I not only had time to write my birthday on their desk calendar (wonder if I'll get a card?) but also to read all the degree and certification documents on the wall.  Turns out my surgeon not only knows his way around a robot, but he is also a Kentucky Colonel.  He explained the honorary title, when I asked, but I am pretty sure he also has to don a white suit and fry up some chicken as the need arises.  Now don't be jealous, even tho' I feel sorry for all of you with just regular surgeons, who are not Kentucky Colonels or worse, are run-of-the-mill Masons.  Masons are so OUT, Colonels so IN.

There's a little shop in my doctor complex.  They sell food from the hospital and I was going to get a scoop of chicken salad, but no.  It was on the menu but they had not sent any over.  They had sent over cherry turnovers and I had to make do with one of those.  I picked up a few extra for everyone.

                                                                     

                                                  

luvmygoats

Oh, Eli, I've only had peanut butter toast/coffee this morning. Cherry turnovers look divine. Made myself some strawberry limeade yesterday. DQ has the best with Sonic 2nd. I had no limes so had to use Rose's lime juice. OK and satisfied my craving even though it did kick up my GERD a bit. Squeezing limes has to be the worst thing; they never have any juice. Saw a nifty juice squeezer made on a stand like a milkshake maker. Sooo not of the "to buy" list but looked interesting.

Momine

I have one of these, and it works really well, simple as it is:

barsco1963

I am exhausted - two days of weeding the garden, dishes, laundry, etc etc and TWO pocket parties today (one on another thread). Need to go back to work for a rest tomorrow. It has been a blast though! Thanks for all the fun (and treats of course).

Chacha -  Hope the new docs initials are D.N. (for Do No) Harms!

Names are funny - We have a business nearby that sells headstones and the name of the business is "Skelton Memorials"  I kid you not.

Anonymous

Whew that was some party!....I gained 2 pounds between the MO appt and the GS appt...REALLY! My MO was pretty vague, deferring all questions to the GS other than to tell me the lesion they had been following for the duration hadn't changed much over the initial 2 years, but doubled in size in the last 8 mos.



Good news is the GS went over the report and MRI PICTURES and he is not in agreement about the measurement (he sees less change). I REALLY like dr Harms (and his initials would be L.A. Harms, Barsco..... Hee hee! He's recommending an endoscopic ultrasound which he'll authorize for a gastro-entomologist -

I like that he gave a complete explanation of all the "what ifs" and included that it is "highly unlikely" that it would be mets. I'm relieved! Now time to clean out my pockets from all the

goodies Luvmygoats and Eli brought.



Mommine that juicer looks scarey! LOL!!!

Dianarose

Chachamom-I am glad doc Harms thinks everything is good.

I got a call last night and the hood system for the kitchen at my bakery is on a truck and will be here this morning. I finally can have a date to leave my current job. Hurray!!!

barsco1963

Chacha - sounds like good news. Hoping it stays that way.

Diana - Hooray!!! How exciting to be coming to the end of that chapter and move on to the next. Time to spread those wings and fly.....

Anonymous

Yeah, Dianarose!!!! 

Anonymous

When's the grand opening?

Dianarose

The hood arrived and she is beautiful. They are going to have her installed by next Wednesday and hopefully the inspections can take place Thursday and then open on Monday the 15th. I will be shortening my drive to work 50 minutes one way. Hurray !!!! There is still a ton of work to do. The sinks have to be hooked up, painting, the counter tops and shelves built, cleaning and more cleaning.... I am tired just thinking about it.

Loral

Diana...Congrats on the openingMy DH 60th B'day is that day, a good day!

Jeannie57

Diana, great news! I hope your bakery is a sweet success!

elimar86861

You want cutting edge cancer research, go to your nearest crime lab.  Oh, and buy some Amway while you're at it.

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2013/07/130702141514.htm

Momine

Eli, cool article.

Question for all you cancer ladies. Friend of mine had a lump. They did a biopsy and the lump was found to be benign. However, she is scheduled to have a lumpectomy anyway next week, because the docs think it may turn into cancer. I only have this through my dh who got it from hers. I have not had a chance to talk to her yet. But it sounds odd. Anyone else have a benign lump cut out?

elimar86861

Momine,  I can't offer a definite opinion with the limited info. that you have.  I have had benign lumps out, but that was back in the day before the usual assaulting with a leather punch (I mean the core needle biopsy) so the excision of the lump WAS the biopsy.  Right now, I have a tiny fibroadenoma lump that never got biopsied, but it is noted and looked at each time I get scanned, and I feel o.k. with that staying in place.  While a fibroadenoma (a very common lump) does not turn to cancer, I imagine there are some other lumps that could, especially in a never say never kind of way.  A cyst does not turn to cancer either.  Some say if you leave a cyst or f-adenoma in place it could "hide" a small cancer, obscure it on future imaging.  So there is that.  I think if your friend has had the biopsy and it is B9, but they still want to take it out, it may be another kind of lump than the ones I have mentioned, something with atypical cells that could further mutate.  That might be something to ask...what the lump actually consisted of.

I can tell you this, even tho' the procedure of excision makes you go thru' the whole surgery ordeal, I had less pain and bruising than I had with the needle biopsy.

Loral

Stay safe.

luvmygoats

Or Momine if the lump is very large since a biopsy gets only such a tiny piece. They may want to test it all.

Eli - leather punch is right. I've used 16 gauge needles to put microchips in my goats. I think biopsy needles are even bigger.

Momine

Thanks guys. I tried to call her today, but couldn't get her. Good to know the above info before I talk to her.

The needle biopsies sound horrific. So glad I escaped that particular ordeal (had a surgical one, because my doc figured I would not enjoy the needle).

luvmygoats

Momine - unlike Eli mine wasn't so bad. I was the one asking doc about needle size. My biopsy was a surprise. I was just going in for more views on mammo and doc. says very suspicious. Do you want to do biopsy today? So I had about an hour to get scared but all the time on phone arranging my work day to get it done. Went on for full day driving all around town. Story sounds worse when I repeat it. The radiologist is a doll; love her and very grateful for her diligence.

Good luck to your friend. Hoping for continued benign results.

Dianarose

I told my boss that Saturday is my last day. It felt so good I want to do it again tomorrow !!!!

Momine- is Bazedoxifene available where your are? MO said it is not available in the US.

Momine

Diana, I am not sure. As far as I can see, it is available in Spain and Italy, but approved across the EU. I am not quite at the point yet, where I would start something like that, so I have not investigated if I could get the drug here. If we decided to put me on it, I could probably finagle a supply from Italy somehow.

Momine

Oh, and I spoke to my friend. This being Greece, I can't seem to get out of her exactly what they found to warrant the LX. She said they fear the lump will turn cancerous. That sounds to me like DCIS, but who knows. They may not have told her.