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  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited January 2011

    Got my reminder call just a little while ago for my surgeon appt tomorrow afternoon.  After 3 weeks, still having the burning sensation which is constant and today was the worst.  It has really got me scared and spent about half the weekend in tears.  Don't know what to make of all this and don't know what to expect.  All kinds of things are going through my mine - tried to stay positive but that is really hard right now.  Work is a good distraction - really busy all day long but the evenings are horrible.  Slept a few hours last night and hope I can get some tonight.  Have another hectic day in store - will be able to work most of the day - appt is at 4:45.  Last week had my 3rd seroma aspiration and surgeon said he wanted to get a CT scan.  Don't know if that will happen tomorrow or what.

    I'm rambling on now and probably not making sense anymore so I will stop.

    Thanks for listening. 

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  • Maureen813
    Maureen813 Member Posts: 2,893
    edited January 2011

    Jo, good luck. Praying for good results. Hoping you find the right answers.

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  • Paula66
    Paula66 Member Posts: 1,728
    edited January 2011

    Good luck JO!  I hope you find relief soon.

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  • chrissyb
    chrissyb Member Posts: 16,818
    edited January 2011

    Jo, ((((hugs))))) to you girl as it sounds to me thats what you need.  The visit to your BS tomorrow will calm a lot of the thoughts that are going through your head.  Not too much longer to wait. Sermoas in themselves can be very painful and produce a lot of heat and if there is any sign of infection, this can make them feel ten times worse. I hope all goes well for you tomorrow and remember, we are all holding your hand every step of the way.

    Peace, strength, love n hugs.  Chrissyb

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  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited January 2011

    Thanks everyone.  I will post when I find out something.

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  • sheila888
    sheila888 Member Posts: 25,634
    edited January 2011

    (((((((((♥jo♥)))))))))))             (((((HUGS)))))

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  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited January 2011

    Sheila - cok tesikkur ederim arkadas

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  • TMarina
    TMarina Member Posts: 692
    edited January 2011

    I'll be thinking of you tomorrow Jo!

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  • sheila888
    sheila888 Member Posts: 25,634
    edited January 2011

    You are very welcome jo.

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  • JeanH
    JeanH Member Posts: 281
    edited January 2011

    Good luck tOmorrow Jo, hope you feel better soon.



    Jean

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited January 2011
    jo, May you get some answers and some relief soon.
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  • dbdaze
    dbdaze Member Posts: 196
    edited January 2011
    Hi ladies!  I'm new to this forum and just barely qualify (agewise) lol 
     
    Barbara: I didn't read far enough back to see where you are going on your cruise, but I hope you enjoy every second.  I'm scheduled for Stage 2 reconstruction surgery in a couple of weeks and am planning a vacation to Costa Rica this summer.  I can't wait to wear summer dresses without a prosthesis (and the ugly bra that went with it!) lol 
     
    I've raised 9 kids, still a few stragglers but I'm soon to enter the empty-nesters and trying to prepare.  It's not so much I'm going to miss them, as much as I'm afraid I've lost myself in the 34+ years of parenting.  Last year when I was diagnosed with bc, even though I went through all the right motions, it took me months to REALLY deal and accept the impact it had on me.  Reconstruction will be finished soon and then I'm looking to discover myself again!

     (the blog I've begun to document my journey)

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  • heartnsoul76
    heartnsoul76 Member Posts: 1,648
    edited January 2011

    dbdaze - welcome to the middies! I know what you mean about wondering if you can find yourself again. I put so much of myself into getting my husband's career established (now ex-husband, what a mistake!), and focusing on keeping my college-aged son on track that I wonder if I can pick up the pieces again, like Humpty Dumpty! I will basically have to start off from scratch trying to re-establish myself as a Realtor around here, so I think I may as well make a slight commute and apply at an office in an expensive, but highly transient part of town. People just don't move very often in my area - a seller peeks out and everybody's on it! So I need to go where the transferees congregate - lots of moving! But first, I need to get some semblance of a hairdo back!

    Good luck with your reconstruction surgery and then have a blast in Costa Rica - you deserve it, by gumby! Heck, we all do! hmmm....must add vacation to this year's goals!

    Take care and see you around! 

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  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited January 2011

    Welcome to the middies!  dbdaze - Proof of age is not asked for here.  This is a fun, supportive bunch as well as informative.  If you have to be here, this is a great place to hang out.

    Thanks to everyone for your support - I will post later tonight what I find out today.  Have a late afternoon appt.

    Elimar - Love the picture at the top. 

                                  

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  • Paula66
    Paula66 Member Posts: 1,728
    edited January 2011

    Welcome dbdaze.  Good luck on the upcoming change and enjoy the cruise.

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited January 2011

    dbdaze, welcome!  We hear you loud and clear. So many middle-aged women do have to redefine themselves anyway, and then when B/C gets thrown into the mix...  Well, they tell us we have to find a "new normal," but what if we liked the old normal?   Good luck to you getting the reconstruction done.  Feel free to share that experience with us (and your trip to CR.)

    HnS76, Just wanted to let you know that anyone who invoked the name of Gumby could be my realtor anyday!

                                                                   gumby

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  • Sherryc
    Sherryc Member Posts: 5,938
    edited January 2011

    I have not been on this thread in several days.  I finished rads yesterday which was very exciting for me but then last night my mother calls me to tell me my step-dad has a spot in his bone.  He is been my step-dad for 30 years and the only dad I have  as mine dad died when I was younger.  He was a heavy smoker for most of his life and and has had a lob on both lungs removed because of lung cancer.  At that time I did not know much about cancer but the surgeon never sent him to an oncologist and he never had any treatments.  That was about 3 years ago.  Now with the bone.  I tried to explain to my mom that this means probably metatisized but she kept wanting to think it was a new cancer because it was not in is lungs.  Anyway CANCER SUCKS AND I AM TIRED OF IT.  Parents are elderly and I am the only daughter with 7 brothers so they look to me to take care of our parents and my parents look to me to take care of them.  I thought I was going to get a break from cancer doctors now just looks like it is starting up all over again. Thanks for listening to me whining!!!

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  • Sherryc
    Sherryc Member Posts: 5,938
    edited January 2011

    Jo good luck on your Dr. appt keep us posted.

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  • TMarina
    TMarina Member Posts: 692
    edited January 2011

    Sherry--Congrats on finishing rads!  I finished mine mid-Dec.  My skin looks great (a little tan), and the fatigue is fading...

    VERY sorry to hear about your step-dad!  I know what you mean about not getting a break from cancer (I found out about bc a month after finishing chemo for colon cancer!).  I'm sorry the burden of caring for your parents has to fall on you, esp. now.  You'll be a blessing to them however, by being the "expert" and helping them navigate.  Make sure you ask those brothers for help when you need it!  They can do some of the driving, or whatever is needed!

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  • Sherryc
    Sherryc Member Posts: 5,938
    edited January 2011

    thanks Tmarina yes I will be asking them for help

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited January 2011

    Sherryc, Sheesh!  You barely had time to celebrate, but it is a great feeling to be able to check rads off the list.

                                                  Yippee

    A friend of mine took a handicapped SIL into her home, but she made a calendar for the other brothers and sisters to sign up which weekends they would step up and be caregivers.  Maybe you could try something like that with your brothers...take charge and delegate?   The Beast seems to rear its ugly head at the worst times, but then again, there will never be a good time for it!!!

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  • heartnsoul76
    heartnsoul76 Member Posts: 1,648
    edited January 2011

    Jo - good luck today! I know you will be relieved to finally get some answers!

    Elimar - if it works for you, maybe I should I have tiny, almost subliminal, pictures of Gumby on all my advertising!

    Sherry - so sorry about your step-dad. I loved mine like a father, too, so I can imagine how distraught you must be. And I know you've had your fill of cancer! Maybe your own experience can help give your family a little guidance. ((HUGS))

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  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited January 2011
    jo1955, Come back from the surgeon and tell us something good.  Thinking of you this afternoon.
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  • shells43
    shells43 Member Posts: 1,022
    edited January 2011

    Ok, well get this. Finally got the MRI report I've been waiting on. The Onc nurse called me and said it recommends a biopsy. Crap. However, I then called the BS's nurse to see if they had also gotten the report. They had, but she said she didn't know why it recommends a biopsy. She read the report to me and it says "NO enhancement of 5 mm suspicious area of left breast seen on US 12/30/10". The nurse thinks the recommendation for a biopsy is a case of CYA by the radiologist. Opinions? I thought MRI was supposed to be definitive? Anyone have any experience with this? I can understand biopsying and risking a false positive, but a negative? I'm picking up the films tomorrow and sitting down with the BS on Friday.

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  • phew
    phew Member Posts: 225
    edited January 2011
    got a humpgh!     when i was told i had a malignant breast  tumor it was via a mesg left on my phone by the triage, ie not my own practioners, nurse.         thought that was kinda rude, not very preofessional.         got over it.lotsa activity ensued, good results etc         BUT!  yesterday, a friend called and told me that a lab tech told her that the standard chest x-ray  showd lung cancer A LAB TECH!!!!!   ON THE SPOT!!!!!   regardless of how tru or false,whether to fret yet cuz  cuz it is foolish it to worry about something  in advance this woman had no authority, not the eduaction , npr professional pride, to deliver something this horrid!!!           i remember one of my brain tumors was announced over tha pa system at the dept store where i worked.    "nc----please report to the hr dpet,  you must sign papers for  malignant brain tumors"  ok, bad for me, but can you immagine the horrors she must have had when she realized what she just said?  (bts  before anything like hppa laws)                  when i had uterine/edndomedtrial cancer, the ob/gyn suggested i  just take birth control pills and that would take care of my cramps  HELLO!!!!!!!  not cramps/ cancer can we see the diff?   i wanted to throwshis uterine display at his head and ask if he wasnted some aspirin to help if the hash i left in his skull hurt      guessing, others have similar stories?
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  • Sherryc
    Sherryc Member Posts: 5,938
    edited January 2011

    phew the gyn story made me laugh.  I needed that.

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  • dbdaze
    dbdaze Member Posts: 196
    edited January 2011

    Sherryc: that just sucks!  

     Thanks ladies for the welcome -- looks like a very inviting place.

    My Quest: Discovering the dreams that lie inside 

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  • Paula66
    Paula66 Member Posts: 1,728
    edited January 2011

    Sherryc Im glad to see you finished your rads.  I will keep you and your family in my prayers. 

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  • karen1956
    karen1956 Member Posts: 6,503
    edited January 2011

    The "new normal"....I can't stand that term.....I'm coming up on 5 years since Dx next week and beginning to have moments of anxiety...knots in my stomach.....it seems that each year gets harder when the dreaded day comes.....

    one of my dearest bff asked me if I wanted to meet for breakfast and go to a museum display on the 3rd, not knowing that it is the anniversary of my Dx....I'm probably going to tell her YES, because I know that is going to help me get through the day....now I just need to get through the next 9 days

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  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited January 2011

    Back from the surgeon.  It is the dreaded waiting game again!! UGH!  Scheduled for a bone scan and CT scan on Thurs.  Had not had these before and don't know what to expect.  Scared to death and cried all the way home.  Won't get results until Feb 4th.  Can't stand this.  Just when I thought I could move on - this comes along.  This whole journey has been a nightmare - so many things have gone wrong.  I just need a break.

    Sorry about whining but had to get it out 

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