Housework support group!!???!!

Anonymous

Faith, even if DH was in the same state as you when you get the (b9) results, chances are that the two of you wouldn't be sitting around waiting for that phone call, so the chances of him being "right there" would be slim. 

It is a good decision to let him have his planned time for himself, and a good excuse for you to spend some quality time with Sarah and the kids. 

Keep busy, and hopefully you won't need to worry about any recovery time other than the one you are currently in.  This thread is actually part of the surgery - before, during and after forum where you are most likely to find the threads you are probably looking for.  If you find that you need more info, I'm sure that plenty of us will share, although there are a number of factors that affect recovery time, so your surgeon who is familiar with your particular history might be the best place to start.  

Jayne_in_UK

Elaine congratulations on your 3 years! What a cute pic of your DH and missy.

Shiny look after yourself and hope you are soon feeling better.

Faith I am indeed extremely proud of you. You made a good decision all round.

When I had my mastectomy I joined a thread for the appropriate month and I remember that women in the group had varied experiences. As PatMom said there are a number of factors that can affect recovery time. I will say that my surgery and recovery were nowhere near as bad as I was expecting. I consider myself to have been very lucky in that respect. I am very happy to share more info if you need it. For now I am praying for b9 results.

mumito

Goodmorning ladies one more holiday season under our belts.My fridge is full of leftovers so having all the family back this weekend to help eat itall. But that housework thing is rearing its ugly head.I find it depressing to take down the xmas decorations.

faithandfifty

Bunnies I can't tell you what it means to me for your support/encouragement/grasp of my sending my DH off to sunny FL in the midst of this unfolding.

I am sooooooooo happy to have made that decision. I am completely at peace with it.

I slept soundly all night, with visions of dancing Buckeyes in my head. (international friends it's out home-town team, that were underdogs and won their sporting match on national TV last night.) I awoke well rested and completely calm. Again with the calm.

*****BTW: I know that I am in a cart & horse conundrum and am working to keep them from being tangled up..... but with my happy little life, and numerous flights on the calendar and speaking engagements around here & there, I have to be a tad overzealous in thinking thru/processing how this current story will unfold on behalf of the calendars & programs of others.

I am so grateful to everyone for your support and for sharing specifics as to surgery/recovery.

I am remembering to exhale. I am basking in a great sea of calm. (Yeah, I know you're all shocked. LOL!!) I think I've used these last 12 months to process this weekend at hand, if that makes any sense. I've already gone thru the denial, teeth gnashing, sobbing stuff -- lots of it last summer as I rode my bike those 827 miles.

So now I'm 'ready' and just wanna get 'er done.

I'm sure there will be plenty of sobbing at other junctures, but this morning it's all about calm.

And for that I say thank you to the angels who are supervising my growth and you friends for praying me into acceptance and maturity.

xx00xx00xx00xx

shiny

KMC lovey, thank you soooooo much for my 2 lovely peaches! I missed them last time I sneaked a look here.

Sorry if I never returned with my Christmas morning tales, been a bit of a lemon and got back from my inlaws last night, so busy mummy! So, for the record, the kids had a magical Christmas morning. Nearly more fussed with the magic of Santa's sleigh having been here in our garden then the pressies! Santa even, apparently, borowed a bucket I had in the kitchen to give the reindeers a drink! Wow, now that was a first for me too!

I hope you are all enjoying your break from your regular routines, if you are blessed enough to have a break!! Bless you and extra bucket loads of feel good vibes if you haven't had much of a break.

Kids are "singing" children's songs into the microphone that they received at Christmas with Daddy's support, and occassional "backing vocals"..Oh, and this a.m, we took one of DS's birthday ballons to play "volley balloon" in the kitchen! We used the timer on the oven to bleep every 2 minutes, we had a string accross the middle of the kitchen table to mark the net.. there were noooo fast rules, and we had kids against parents, girls/boys. etc teams. It was quite a giggle and it's a "sport" DS could be on par with us at as the bslloon moves slowly, so his otor skills didn't get in the way, brill! We are planning to have a go every Saturday morning from now on. (They are short matches!- which is good for this Lemonnette!!)

Oh, I do chat a great deal, even when I had not intention too!!! xx Faith, you know am in your pocket!!

Take care of yourselves loveys!!

Shiny

EWB

Shiny - sounds like magic!! balloons, giggles, microphones and Santa's thristy reindeer... I have lovely thoughts of growing up (we did lots of those things). What wonderful memories you are creating for you munchkins just doing everyday things. Heaven.

Please, please, please remember to care for you, please?

coonie

Shinygirl!!!!!!!!!!!  I want to come to your house for Christmas next year!! It sounds like ya'll have so much fun around there. Your kids are so blessed to have a mummy like you to make sweet and special memories.....memories that will last a lifetime. You go girlfriend!!! You need to take care of YOU now. I'm thinking you've forgot about Shiny in the midst of all the gooooga moooooga going on. Now that things are slowing down from the holidays, treat Shiny a little extra special, OK? OOOOOOOOOKKKKKaaaaaaaaay!!

Welcome to Missy. I think she's gonna fit right in. EWB, so glad you got her. It looks like she's got you both attending to her every need. She is so cute and seems very content in her new home.

Thinking of all of you bunnies! Sure hope you've started the new year off with a bang and hope it's a healthy and happy new year for everyone!!

((((((((((Faithie))))))))))) Waiting with you.....praying for strength and courage.........and speed. This show needs to get on the road WHATEVER the diagnosis. Just gitter done girlfriend------gitter done! We've got your back!!

(((((Arnie))))) hope you're continuing to gain strength and stamina. Think of you allll the time!! How's DD feeling? Back to normal yet? Even a little?

(((((Jayne)))) I know you're happy to be done with the most recent treatment. Will you be doing something else, or is this it? I hope it's it. Time to move on, huh?

OK....can't remember all names, but wanted to shout out to those going through treatments, procedures or just healing up from them.

OH.......congratulations Lucy!!!! I know you're so happy girl!! We are too!!

(((((((((((((((((((bunnies)))))))))))

kmccraw423

Coonie - I'm with you.  I want to go to Shiny's house for Christmas this year!

Shiny - you are the best Mum!

Faith - I think you are too busy for anything other than benign!  Hang tough - do you hear tomorrow?

Arnie {{{{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}}}

Jayne - when Coonie and I visit Shiny we will definitely stop by for tea.

We will probably come on this because I don't think old 32 is good for this trip!

coonie

Kathleen's got a birthday TODAY!!!

Hope your day is WONDERMOUS Kathleen!!!

Wishing you a great birthday and many many more!!!

arnie2two

 Happy Birthday Kathleen!!!!!   39???? hehehe

faithandfifty

Happy, happy, happy, happy day!!!!

Joy-joy, joy-joy, joy-joy, joy-joy day!!!! 

I love having something to celebrate today!!

We're so big on ladybugs, I wrote a song for them. LOL

mumito

Happy Birthday Kathleen hope you have a great day

mumito

Happy Birthday Kathleen hope you have a great day

mumito

sorry ladies on my husbands laptop and not used to working with out a mouse.

barbe1958

Yah! Because of Kathleens birthday we don't have to do housework!!!! Wish I knew that earlier before I did the dishes and came to work....sigh. But I'm NOT going to fold laundry when I get home!

Happy Birthday Baby!

shiny

Darn girls, just wrote to you all and then the internet connection timed out!! grrr.

Kathleen daaaaaaaaaaling! Happy Birthday!!

Barbe! I am with you..re housework! I have been cooking, sorting, etcetc all day, what with DS's 1st day back at school tomorrow. DD who is 6 is off until Wednesday so I will be on the trott a while longer. Loads on for me in January February, for SEN stuff tribunal, school etc, but I will be back to the doctor soon, so am hoping to sort myself out in the midst of all.

Yes, Coonie, Yes KMC, taking care of me! hug.

xxx to you all,

Shiny

Jayne_in_UK

Kathleen wishing you a very, very happy birthday!

Marple

Gentle hugs to all houseworkers and non-houseworkers alike.

But since today is party day........let's pretend our housework is done for the day/week/month?  Hey, why not add for the year?

Happy Birthday Kathleen.........happy day to all.

Shiny, I have had that happen too.  I'm sure my most sage words have been lost in cyberspace forever.

Jayne_in_UK

Coonie once my skin has recovered from rads I will be completing my reconstruction, this is likely to take between 6 and 12 months before my skin is ready. Not that I had a bad time with rads, just that the skin will not be so elastic now. That is fine with me because at this stage it's not clear exactly what will be possible for me and I'm not sure what I would prefer anyway. Until then the T/E can stay in there. So I don't feel under pressure to make a quick decision, I can relax, do my research and get on with my life for a while. For me this new year really feels like a fresh start. Looking back on 2009 I really don't know how I would have got through it without all my dust bunny friends. A big thank you to you all for being there for me.

Kathleen I'm excited about you and Coonie dropping in for tea. I see you've got the transport organised so I'd better start some baking.

GramE

Happy Birthday, Kathleen.   Hugs for all, Nancy

Jane_M

It looks like I've recruited 3 other women from the Sept 08 chemo group to go on the bc survivor's cruise in May.  I'm so looking forward to it!  I hear the stewards clean your room twice a day!

Marple

Jane, what fun you'll have  WOWZER........shhhhh, don't tell the stewards we don't really do housework here.  If they do a bang up job are you allowed to bring one home?

kmccraw423

Thanks for all the birthday wishes!  Sorry I didn't post yesterday or early this morning before anyone deigned to pick up any household chore.  Since I didn't, you get the whole month off!

Jayne - we can't wait either!  What fun.  High tea is at 4 p.m.?

Hope everyone had a reasonable day!

kmccraw423

Arnie - it is the 24th anniversary of my 39th birthday!

kmccraw423

On one of these threads there was quite a bit of chit chat concerning snow angels:

Anonymous

mumito

Now i know why I did not want to decorate for xmas.Today we have to pack it all away. UUUGGG

Oh look what i found while taking down the tree.And its not even Friday.

EWB

Happy Birthday!

faithandfifty

I've been on the phone since I posted several hours ago.

My surgeon called. The path is in. It is indeed DCIS. He calls that cancer. 3 cm.

I just deplore the having-to-tell-everyone portion of this journey.

I have spoken to everyone in my biological family.

To their credit, my DH, each of my daughters & my parents have said the right things & avoided saying the 'wrong' things. LOL.

I've trained them well.

I am scheduled for a bilat mastectomy (I guess it's time to learn how to spell that word) with no recon. Friday Jan15th..... yes. In a little over 10 days. First surgery of the day, as of this moment 7:30 a.m. That is my daddy's birthday and I take that as a good omen.

In speaking with him/them tonight, he said that he'd be happy to share the goodness of that day with me and my med team and Martin Luther King, Jr. (well actually I'm adding that part.... but it is a good day in all of my experience.)

So please don't say: "I'm soooo sorry." Enough non-BC people will be saying that for the next several months, I really don't want any of you to say it.

Yes. We're all sorry, we're sorry to be in this boat.

Thank goodness there is a boat for us, though. A boat together.

This time around I do have enough sense to grasp that stage 0 is stage 0.

My surgeon wants to impress upon me that I am opting for an emotional removal of healthy boob-ness & that it is not 'medically' indicated.

I get that.

I've made the decision to proactively remove every zip and squat of everything, breastage. End of discussion. I'm a fairly emotional person. I have grandchildren...... I want to do EVERYthing in my power to be here for them.

Enough about me, how was your day??

I will go next and post something on FB.

Thank you for your prayers. Keep them coming: calm & acceptance.

xx00xx00xx00xx

hollyann

OOOHH Happy late birthday Kathleen!........Sorry I missed the party!.......