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Hi Coonie! I was just coming to check in. I haven't been around much. I have been trying to stay away from BCO a little. I needed to concentrate on living without thinking about cancer 24/7. It was consuming me. Since I finished chemo, I have wanted to move on and try to not think about it all the time. Not coming here helps, but I miss y'all!! So I am checking in. I am 12 weeks PFC today!!
Not going to start a list because we all know how that goes, but Dream- take care of yourself. Sending prayers up for you to feel better soon.
Faith- What a handsome couple. Your SIL and daughter are in my prayers. BTW, LOVE your daughter's haircut!!
Yes, my hair is coming in. Not nearly enough, but it's a start. I stopped at my beauty shop last week. I've been going there forever. Very small shop. Everybody knows everybody. Think Steel Magnolias. I have given up on the wig after not wearing it on the cruise. I'm all ballcap now, so everybody in the beauty shop had to feel my hair. LOL I went for my Zometa yesterday for the clinical trial and wore my ballcap for the first time to the cancer center. I think the wig is definitely over.
Big hugs to everybody!! I hope you had a wonderful Christmas and I hope we all have a great 2010!!!!
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Dream Barbe is right about avoiding ERs and doctors offices unless absolutely necesary.Hopefully you can fight this virus on your own.Let us know how you are doing.
MIL is still in the hospital I am so worried about her.My family won't let me see her they don't even want me to go to the hospital because of the flu virus's there.
Saying alot of healing prayers for everyone today.
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Gentle hugs, prayers go up. Be good TO and FOR yourselves. Avoid those germs, keep warm, speedy healing, restful sleep, few - if any aches and pains, happy thoughts and peaceful dreams.
Busy time, things I have to do, but house work is not near the top of the list. See ya later, Nancy
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MaryRose---it's good to hear you're doing good. Yaaaay!! No more wigs! That IS a good feeling. I remember the day I decided to go "natural". Took all my hats/caps to American Cancer Society. That was a great feeling. Congratulations!!
MUM---so sorry to hear your MIL is still in the hospital. Sure hope she's feeling better soon.
Dream---hope you're feeling better today!
Sending big hugs to all you bunnies today.
Wishing each and every one of you a Happy New Year!
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The hospital my sister works in had masks as you come into the hospital - is that good enough to prevent germs? In the meantime - Dream, how are you feeling?
Mary - glad to have you back, even just a little.
Barbe - you are so level headed!
Coonie - hey girlfriend - how was Christmas?
Mum - so sorry to hear about your MIL - I pray she feels better soon. Your family is right, don't risk an infection - that won't help you or your MIL.
Nancy - a lovely thought.
To all my dustbunnies - happy Wednesday - tomorrow is New Year's Eve - it will be quiet around here.
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A special New year link (not religious) for all my dusty friends:
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Hello bunnies, just checking in.
Saint is still in my prayers, I have added Faith's DD and SIL, Mum's MIL and Dream. I do think about you all every day and include you in my prayers, even when I don't log in here.
Mary how wonderful that you have ditched the wig. I am nearly 9 weeks PFC now and I am wearing my wigs less and less. At the moment it is very cold here (especially with an almost bald head!) so I have been wearing hats when I go outside and nothing on my head when I am in the house. I just wore a hat for my check up with my surgeon on Christmas Eve.
Nick and I had a quiet Christmas day, just the 2 of us. It was a chance to recover a bit from all the hospital appointments and travelling up and down the motorway that I had been doing right up to Christmas Eve. Then on 27th December we went up to Yorkshire to stay with Nick's youngest sister and her family. They have 4 boys aged 17, 15, 7 and 5. It was great to see them all again and catch up.
In the few days before Christmas I did manage to get some housework done and in the process I broke the vacuum cleaner. It was quite old and it virtually fell apart in my hands. Anyway we took the opportunity to replace it so we now have a new, more efficient model. It seems quite good at picking up the cat hair.
Love the link Nancy.
Happy New Year everybody. I wish you all the very best for 2010.
xoxoxoxoxoxo
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Kathleen, I AM STILL NED!!!........Saw my onc and I am still dancing with NED!...........Still have low RBC's and hematocrit and low calcium but No Evidence of Disease!......YAY!!!!....3 years clean now!...I have now graduated to seeing her every 6 months!........Scary thinking I will go so long but so FREEING!........
Dream, don't you dare go around those viruses at the hospital!.......Nasty little buggers this time of year.....DO drink lots of liquids and stay hydrated........We certainly don't want you to end up in the hospital!.....
To all the rest of my dust-bunny family, I wish you much love, health and peace int he New Year....... -
OK campers. Buckle your seat belts, I need you all.
My recall-recall mamo this morning indicates a "proliferation" (their term) in it's structure and organization since the last one 6 months ago. THUD.
Blessings:
1. My breast surgeon worked me into his afternoon rotation, a mere 6 hours after the mamo was read and the three of us had a heart-to-heart (including my DH).
2. A team of four people are willing to sacrifice sleeping in tomorrow on their NewYear'sEve morning-off to come in early and do a biopsy for me. We will meet @ 7:30 to get underway.
They are doing this out of the goodness of their collective hearts -- so that I can get on with my life just as soon as possible. They said they would want to move things quickly if it were any one of them.
The area in question now covers a 3 cm area and is defined in a linear manner. (There is no palapable mass.) It's not that the area of suspicion is solid for 3 cm, but that it covers that space linear. Hopefully that makes sense.
We expect that it will take till Mon or Tues of next week to get the path back.
I have indeed told both daughters & my actual sister. (LOL...... I think of all of you as my sisters.)
Since I had radiation & have been on Tamoxofin since my initial surgery, my risk was somewhere between 2 and 5% for a return scenerio. It is premature to suggest tonight that I am one of those 2 to 5 women, but somewhere in a hundred there are 2 to 5 with my situation who ultimately get that news. We will see how the math works out.
My DD1/Sarah, put up an initial post on FB that was very dour -- so she's obviously having a harder time that she expressed to me directly this morning. She has too much on her plate.... so I think she heard a meager amount of what I actually said. We asked her to take it down, until we have all the news back -- and she has..... but now my neice & nephew (from diff families) are in on the 'breaking news' FB style. Gee whiz.
I spoke to Saint at several points today. She is having a much better couple of days. We told each other that we need each other & agreed to keep our heads on straight for one another. We laughed about a number of things. We each thought of an amazing example of how our two DHs have been truly dear in the last 24 hours. We laughed and we cried.
I am very grateful for any & all prayers..... I especially ask for those that give me a sense of calm. Saint has taught me a lot about acceptance over the past several months.... so prayers for acceptance are also in order.
Least you confuse yourselves that I am the saint, I'll have you know that I'm as angry as humanly possible to be poised back at square one and this soon. It messes up my happy little calendar for the coming year, BIG time. The thought of not picking up my grandpeeps is enough to make me ill..... but we all do what we must do, because in the end -- that is our one choice.
I will put on my big girl panties and deal.
3. on the blessing list is that I am older & wiser this trip AND I have all of you.
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That's wonderful Lucy! What a way to start the New Year!!!! You done good!
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Debbie, you know I have you back!......Elephant Sister Lucy reporting for duty!.....I will be in your back pocket tomorrow and sending up prayers for B9 results!........You have done so much for so many (myself included) it is the least I can do...........
Be well, stay strong, sweet sistah!......
Strength and Courage
Strength and Courage............
Thanks, Barbe!........I am ecstatic!.......Now I am off to play my WII !!....LOL -
Aw, Faith, darn it all to hell. Too darn much. Lucy's right. We got your back. The Accidental Amazon is officially reporting for prayerful butt-kicking duty.
I need to catch up with you all, but great big hugs to everyone. I had a wonderful Christmas, but have been paying for it ever since with a relapse of good ol' flat-out fatigue. Also, on Christmas Day, I discovered that, in addition to giving me scar tissue in my lungs, radiation has also apparently given me some possible scar tissue in my larynx. I opened my mouth to sing Christmas carols, which I do every year, and nothing came out. Nothing. Not even a squeak. I might be a contralto now after years of being a mezzo soprano. That was the last straw, really. It depressed me no end. But dinner came out great and I had a beautiful and joyous gathering in my home and felt blessed.
Now I have to contemplate cutting more hours at work and going out on a 40% disability because the fatigue, etc. just won't let up. That means working 3 days a week instead of 4, which I've been doing instead of 5 since the fall. Hey, who cares about paying the mortgage, ya know??
2009 can't drop off the map fast enough. Here's to a MUCH better year for us all.
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Aw, Faith, darn it all to hell. Too darn much. Lucy's right. We got your back. The Accidental Amazon is officially reporting for prayerful butt-kicking duty.
I need to catch up with you all, but great big hugs to everyone. I had a wonderful Christmas, but have been paying for it ever since with a relapse of good ol' flat-out fatigue. Also, on Christmas Day, I discovered that, in addition to giving me scar tissue in my lungs, radiation has also apparently given me some possible scar tissue in my larynx. I opened my mouth to sing Christmas carols, which I do every year, and nothing came out. Nothing. Not even a squeak. I might be a contralto now after years of being a mezzo soprano. That was the last straw, really. It depressed me no end. But dinner came out great and I had a beautiful and joyous gathering in my home and felt blessed.
Now I have to contemplate cutting more hours at work and going out on a 40% disability because the fatigue, etc. just won't let up. That means working 3 days a week instead of 4, which I've been doing instead of 5 since the fall. Hey, who cares about paying the mortgage, ya know??
2009 can't drop off the map fast enough. Here's to a MUCH better year for us all.
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Got lots to do today but wanted to wish all the dustbunnies
A HAPPY NEW YEAR (((((Faith))))
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Faith we posted at the same time so it looks like I didn't "hear" your post! I have responded to Saint's request for prayers for you on her thread. You will be in my thoughts all day....
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New Year has just kicked in here. Watched the fireworks on tv and prayed that this new year would be a better one than the last. All was good until my friend left to go home and some drunks backed into her car in the street!!!! Luckily nobody hurt.
Faith am sending you all I have got...prayers, wishes, love, faith and anything else that may help you in the morning.
To all my other dust bunny mates....sending love and hugs
Viv
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Dog gone it! (((((((((((((((((FAITH)))))))))))))))))))))) I've been down and out for the count since Christmas Day with another bug... so sick! YUCK! Then to come on this a.m to read your news. Geesh!!!! Does it ever end????? Ok...now that I've gained some composure...you'll be in my prayers sweeite...and your SIL and dd also. Sometimes I just feel like life has taken a big turn and I can't find my way back to the straight and normal route. I'm mumbling but this news did make me kinda take a tail spin.
I love you all...and wishing and hoping for good news in the New Year.
xoxoxoxo
janet
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Lucy that's great news. Congratulations!
Faith I'm thinking about you today and adding my prayers for B9 results.
Kathi that totally sucks about your larynx being affected, and the continuing fatigue. It really is too much. I'm praying you will get it resolved soon.
Janet I'm sorry you have had a bug. I hope you are feeling better now.
Sharon that's a beautiful pic.
Viv you are already in 2010, what a thought! I agree with you in hoping that the new year is better than 2009 has been.
Love and hugs to you all.
xoxoxoxoxoxo
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Hiya Loveys,
Am shaking with cold, and whatever, am such a lo=emon these days, can't really type.
It's after 1 a.m. had a very quiet time in with my MIL for most of the evening. My FIL and DH then returned to quietly see in the new year.
I am sending you out all right now my newest batch of 2010 peachy vibes and best wishes to all of you for everyday in 2010 to have some precious warm loving moment in it, at the very least!
Faith, you know my calmest vibes and my prayers for calm acceptance and positive focus are coming your way, on a regular drip daaaling.
xx hug hug hug
Shiny (off to bed!)
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Lucy - what wonderful news!!! I am so happy for you my dear, dear friend.
Faith - I will pray for calm thoughts and benign results. This is so not fair. Hugs.
Janet - so sorry to hear you have another bug, you poor thing. Sometimes you just can't catch a break. Feel better real soon.
Kathi - ((((((hugs))))))))
Viv - that is why I hardly ever go out on New Year's Eve - too many drunks on the road. Glad your friends was not injured.
Jayne - I agree - 2010 has got to be a better year than 2009!
To all my beautiful sistahs - have a happy and healthy new year!
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I don't know if I posted here and apologize if I did already...
Scans last week show no progression, met @ T11 even appears a bit less intense. There is a bit concern about bile duct dilation that onc wants to check with some special MRI (just to be careful) but he doesn't think there is anything to worry about - although I've heard that before; he said there was no sign of masses, stones, lymph nodes etc enlarged or pushing on it. So all in all its good news, I am also celebrating 3 years from dx.
So good to hear from everyone, prayers for good health and much happiness to everyone for the new year. To all hurting and/or waiting -- gentle hugs, you are in my heart.
Here is picture of Missy and dh
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EWB, your hubby and your Missy both look lovely! Sooooooooo pleased for your results, AMEN lovey, and lonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnngggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggggg may it continue this way. xx
Still shaky, what am I like! So no long post. Quite a few things, not quite right, so after I get my blood results, I will try to get some scans, just to tick "those" boxes.
Hope you are all enjoying a lovely happy New Years Day!
Faith, keep us posted girl. xx
Shiny
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(((((((((((((((SHINY)))))))))))))))))))) (((((((((((((((((((((FAITH)))))))))))))))))
Ohhhhhhhhhh Elaine...we had a cat named Missy when I was growing up... loved that cat!!! What a cute pic!
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Any news yet Faithie?.......Thinking of you and wishing you well.......
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just a quicky return to say
Hollyann, Congrats on your brilliant year 3 NED!!
Arnie, daaaaling! I will get to the bottom of my lemonette"ness". Hope you are so going to have the best chilled out New Year lovey!
xx hug All dust bunnies where ever you are tonight, today
Shiny
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Happy New Year, Bunnies.
Didn't mean to keep anybody guessing about my where-with-all. I've had a very lovely, sane, worry free day. I wish I could bottle this sense of calm & well-being. It must be from all of the prayers, PMs, FB wishes, phone calls, emails...... well you get the idea.
My goal for the day was to get the Christmas tree taken down, with the ornaments put away & I've gotten it done!!!! You may remember that last year I never took the teeny tree down & just moved it into the guest room for 11.3 months. LOLOLOL. So this is a major accomplishment.
I had an epiphany this morning that has made me very happy. All along, before this drama, our plan was for DH to depart for FL tomorrow morning. Well this morning, I realized that his getting to go south according to the original 'plan' was the one thing we could actually control.
So the two of us had a big heart-to-heart & he's spent the day packing the car with me getting the laundry together for his departure. I am sooooooooo glad about this.
We had of course both assumed that I'd be a dithering ninny & that there was no question that he would stay here.
The only downside, is that he won't be here when I get the actual 'news' path-findings. (No plan is perfect.) I am planning to pack a bag and move into Sarah's for the rest of the weekend. That will benefit each of us.
The way I look at it, is that if I need to proceed with surgery mid-Jan, he will be back in plenty of time for that. If I were to win the lottery and receive the get out of jail free card, not requiring surgery, I'll join him in FL mid-month as per the original design and we all go merrily along.
This way he will have a couple weeks of sunshine, golf, warmth and our life as we imagine it, prior to returning here to become my nursemaid if that's needed (surgery).
So here's what I need from you. Tell me that you're proud of me for thinking 'big picture' and that you'll keep on praying for my continued calm. Got it? No body gets to panic. Worst case scenerio is that he could fly back at a moments notice.
Remember my big girl panties are on..... this is not my first waltz on this program.
Strangely enough I have four school visits to make next week -- the most I've scheduled compactly in ages & ages..... in an effort to get to FL. So I will have 'plenty' to keep me occupied.
Then Jan. 11th it's fly to Baton Rouge and Coonie's waiting embrace.
As a very wise woman told me this afternoon -- in that she had a similar 'call' to make -- there will quite possibly be numerous sacrifices for him to make in the coming months. These two weeks are not needed to be vaporized.
So there you have it.
The laundry's done. The tree is down. The car is packed and our beloved Buckeyes are tied in the Rose Bowl. All is well with my world.
Keep up the prayers for calm & acceptance.
I am reading the threads about mastectomies and what to expect. If anyone has 'specifics' to share of their experience -- I would greatly appreciate your sharing, or PM.
1. What helpful hints beyond the first thread in that department do you have to offer?
2. What were you like/able to do at one week, two weeks, three weeks, a month etc. How soon do you think it's realistic for me to be singing and dancing again with young children..... which also requires lifting gear, hardshell guitar case (heavy) etc etc. Six weeks? Eight weeks?
Of all the areas on the boards, I can't seem to find a comprehensive thread(s) that outlines real life experiences and expectations. If I'm missing some section some one point out the obvious.
Go BUCKEYES!!!! WE'RE AHEAD AT HALFTIME!!!!
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Faith - I don't think I can help as everyone is so different. I would say don't think about it untile someone tells you to worry. I pray that this is benign. If you do have to have it, I would imagine you would get through it but please don't push yourself. Let yourself heal.
I did petty much what I wanted to but then I always do - NOT a recommendation.
EWB - I don't know who is cuter - DH or DK (dear kitty)!
Shiny -
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Courage and Strength
Courage and Strength
Courage and Strength
You did the right thing Faith and I am very proud of you sistah! We're right there with you...you've been on my mind soooooooooo much...and the prayers are flowing.
xoxoxo
Shiny...you get better too!
Love all you sistahs
janet
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Faith, you are the master at getting things done!......Or is that mistress???.....LOL......I could not be more proud of you for all your accomplishments.....Why, just look at the book you just published!......I have a strong feeling you and DH are going to be in FL together in a couple of weeks....Remember you could have scar tissue spreading there too.......It doesn't just sit like a lump!...(no pun intented!)........Enjoy the time with sweet Sarah and keep yourself and your mind occupied......I sure wish I could come to school with you to help with the kiddies!...I used to do Story Time at my store and dress up and read books and help the little ones color and make things for their moms......I sure do miss that......Oh and we had song time and snack time........Do you sing the 911 Song for your little ones?.......Happy thoughts only this week end sweet sistah!.....Love you bunches!......
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