Thinking Out Loud.....

Raj20

Makraz ! so oftenly I got confused  to see  on most of  you using  capital letters in place of  the actual word.  who is BBB ?  again I am more confused.

Meece

I'll let Linda or Sheila explain.  I understand many of them only because I ask.

Makratz

BBB is Sheilas Boyfriend.  He works at a store called Bed, Bath and Beyond, hence the BBB.

Raj20

Boy friend of sheila ?  That,s nice  somthing like coding.

sheila888

raj...The one that is invisible.

I like to go to that store so my friends here always joking with me.

Meece

I love that store as well, but Dh would be unhappy if he thought I had a BBB.

Raj20

Obviously, you know  we have a tradition , once married it is life time  we have  to stick with the one whether he /she is good or bad .. Isn,t it funny ?  which totally different  from western tradition. Separation/divorce is always a big issue here.

sheila888

raj....I have been divorced for 30 years now.

Here is not really a big issue.

But I preferred to stay single after everything I suffered during marriage.

I'm content with my life.

raincitygirl

OMG Sheila - you mean BBB is invisible and can appear as needed?  Kind of like "I Dream of Jeannie?

 What does the red box signify?  Are Ma and Pa Kettle in there?

Makratz

LOL!!!

Red box = picture did not post = good luck in India.

sheila888

Yes Diane..He can make himself invisible when its needed so the neighbors don't see him coming and going. 

hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

raincitygirl

So that is why you can't photograph him, due to this special skill

Raj20

Yeah ! sheila you are very lucky. I also had suffered lots particularly from inlaws side. They didnt want me because of my aristocratic family background. I frequently run away  as I was very young that time. I got married while  in high school, because  of my early marriage I could not complete my graduation . I had completed  only after  my youngest was borne  and started  working just to get some liberty. Ours is damed orthodox. I always  have a good impression  on western culture where  there  is no supression  and everyone has got the liberty  to choose.

sheila888

YES

Makratz

Meece

Makratz

Sheila and BBB

Raj20

lovely couple ! nice to see them as if dancing in the rain.

chabba

raj - attitudes on marriage still vary some here, especially among the older generations.  Both my husband and I meant it when we vowed until death do us part and I think that vow has helped us over a couple of difficult times.    If he had turned out to be an abuser I'm sure I would have left him instead of staying with him for 45 and counting on many more years.  I do agree, however, that far to many Americans marry for the short term, the until we get tired of eachother or until we aren't having fun any more kind of marriages.

sheila888

I have to go to fold the wash and a take a shower.

I'm having a big bowl of avocado salad and grilled chicken.

Tomorrow i have MH and on my way home need to pick up some veggies and fruits.

See you all later.

8-9:30Pm phone will be off the hook. BBB and I will be watching American Idol.

♥

Makratz

I agree Chabba!!  Well said and congrats on 45 years!  This is my 20th year and I can't wait for 20 more, and then 20 more etc.

Wednesday used to be Prince spaghetti day, now is MH day!

Raj20

Chabba ! I do appreciate your idea. almost 33 yrs. no alternative !

Makratz

Congrats to you too Raj.  I hope you are happy.

Raj20

Yeah! I am  always a happy person.

Makratz

chabba

Thanks.  We still have a few months to 45th anniversary but we met 45 years ago 45 years ago last Tuesday, and got engaged on March 13th.  But he did tell me a week ago that he still wants to stay together till death dose us part and plans on another 45. I kind of doubt we will make it quite that far. lol

Meece

I made it 22 years with my aqbussive husband.  I just couldn't do it anymore, especially since I knew I had cancer (he didn't) I knew his selfishness would allow me to die.  The abuse was the divorce factor, I would have still been there if it were just the other rough times.

Raj20

That is the  right decision  of yours, meece.

sheila888

I can honestly say if we remained married I wouldn't be here today.

And my 2 daughters would be runaways or something bad like that.

Thank You God for taking him away from me.

I feel good when I read Happy Marriages or second marriages.

By the way I'm clean. Can you smell my shampoo.

Raj20

sheila ! I can smell  the purity of the fragrance.