please help

my3girls

Cathi...I agree with everyone else....you rant all you want. Honestly..like the others...I would go nuts!! I like my house neat and how I LIKE IT! so...I totally understand how you feel girlfriend! Glad the bloody mary helped..love those!

Jane!!! I am so happy to hear your good news about Blossom...I can't believe it! Miracles do happen!

Tomorrow is my meeting with Tony!!! I know "mums the word" for now...but omg...I am very excited! This man is so unbelievable....I can't wait to meet.  Hopefully...I am going to have good news to report. He is really persuing me...I love it! It's about time someone showed some REAL interest! haha

I had a few beers...to drown my sorrows about my HIGH car repair bill!! So off to bed for me!!

Love all of you girls!

xoxo

Lisa

barbe1958

Lisa, what has happened to the "other" out of town guy, what's-his-name? Any further contact?

1Cathi

Well rant I will then,  I had not been in my car for several weeks using one from Ed's lot,  so SIL could drive theres to his job,  and Amanda was using mine now and again to take the baby out,  go shopping what ever,  and on the weekends or eve's they all took mine to where ever,  no biggie I thought,  as long as they put gas in,  they have a Blazer mine is way cheaper on gas,  well Ed had a customer wanting to look at what he had home for me,  so yesturday had to use my car - OMG,  I can't even begin to tell you what "was not" thrown around in there,  there were soda cans,  juice bottles,  the car seat and back seat covered in food,  crackers,  baby cloths and diapers (clean fortunately) on the floors,  I kept my cool  with Amanda and nicely said well Glad to see you guys have left NO STONE UNTURNED,  she did take out all of the stuff she could, but it is still a big stye.  This AM I go into the bathroom they are using I knew that the room itself looks like a roaadside restroom,  but for some reason I decided to look behind the shower curtain -  %$#$#@$.  I guess we are collecting empty shampoo and soap bottles,  and a month ago I could have sworn the tub & shower were white,  and there are enough hair balls on the side of the tub to make a wig -  SIL is a mechanic and painter,  guess he hasn't fiqured out how to use the hand held device to at least try and rinse out some of his grunge.  I THINK THAT I SHALL KILL SOMEONE SOON - LOL.

barbe1958

Cathi, they are at the point of disrespect. We all know their lives are stressful, but that is just ignorance. My opinion.

1Cathi

Well Barbe I thought about that,  but it is just them I think,  God forgive me,  I love my daughter glad she is closer,  but she and SIL ARE JUST SLOBS,  however they do not see it that way I know,  they just see it as being carefree and laid back,  the new age of never saying NO to a child,  in a certain way it is disrespectful,  as Ed and I do not live like that,  buttttttttttttttt,  what the hell yeah gonna do,  their solution for the baby is instead of teaching hm certain things are off limit is to "pick everything up" place it on a counter top or table -  and how can you get upset with a baby if thats what he is allowed,  when he has been alone with Ed and I it does not work like that, but anything we accomplish is conteracted by mom and dad,  oh well we really gotta get them their own place ASAP.  Or I honestly will not have a home left.  Or be in prison.

xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

portiasproudmom

I agree with Barbe, Cathi.  This is bordering on disrespect.  I don't care that this is just how they "are".  It's one thing to trash your own stuff, and another entirely to trash someone else's!!  I'd be wringing their necks!

Hang in there!

Hugs,

Karen

1Cathi

You gals are right I know that,  hopefully we can have them in a place of their own by 10/1,  looking at an apartment complex I believe they should be able to maintain with one income,  close enough for  us to help out,  but not within walking distance.  Ed and I have agreed we will foot the first months rent and any security deposit they need,  but thats the limit,  they don't know that yet or they would proably be looking at some huge beach house - LOL. 

portiasproudmom

They are very lucky to have you and Ed.  I hope they don't take you for granted!

barbe1958

Cathi, that is generous of you and Ed, and certainly worth it for sanity reasons. I know I would do the same thing.

With my kids, it was my house, my rules. They can be how they want in their own house and I don't say boo. Surprisingly enough, they are pretty neat, but not up to my standards (yet).

1Cathi

Well some good news alas,  Amanda's OB just called she has another appointment on MOnday with the High rish DR, they recalculated her last blood draw (Quad Screen) because the last US showed the baby to be about 2wks older than what they thought, the resultts came back with less defect for SB noted than the last one -  YEAH, she still has to be followed closely,  because as we all very well know,  tests are not perfect,  they are going to do another level II US on Monday.

Once they are out Barbe and visitors ONLY - LOL,  you can bet the hammer comes down as far as coming over and destroying things in a days time,  

barbe1958

Wow Cathi, great news! Maybe that will infuse Amanda with hope....and control.

1Cathi

She certienly has more hope,  not sure she will ever have control, kinda weird sometimes I think Jaclyn is to hard on her kids,  but I gotta say they  know what is ok to do and what is not,  of coarse they are children and do try and push the limits,  what kid doesn't,  but complete opposite parenting skills, Landen is the cuties little guy and I truly have bonded with him and love spending time with him,  just not when mom and dad are around - everything is cute and funny - I know you have to baby proof your house some, but my old school mom side says a child needs to learn boundries.  Jaclyn by no means is  as crazy a house keeper as I ever was but Alexcis and Brandt do not touch,  break and destroy , I have mellowed over the years - think I used to be OCD with the house,  oh well guess I am just B-oching - no I'm not ,  I would not invite a single person I know to my house right now but my honey has promised me a housekeeper for as long as it takes and for what ever I want one for to get things back in order when the time arrives. 

I can't wait to see and smell clean again.  

sueps

... ohhhh Cathi ... you and Ed are like gold dust xxx  You have been in my thoughts .... hang on in and the time will come when normality will be again ... gosh I would have turned the air blue ... to imagine it makes me mad ... you are soooo kind  and so is Ed  x x x 

lvtwoqlt

Good to see you posting Sue, hope all is well with you, your sons and your father.

Cathi, I hope that all works out well with Amanda.

Sheila

sueps

Awww Thx Sheila xxx all is Ok ... I read here almost every night... sometimes I get quite sad reading other boards. 

I am now officially 2 years out... and turned 40 last week, well I cant tell you how absolutely ECSTATIC  I was to hit that mile stone... my next one will be the London Olympics... when London got chosen I kept saying well I will never see that ... so heres praying still.

My dad is Ok he apologised for his outburst the other month when he was feeling ill with the internal bleeding... he has to start chemo again soon for his blood cancer.

My sons are growing up and just gone back to school , they are good lads , I am extremely proud of them.

I hope you are Ok Sheila... I will never forget your kindness throught my journey, and am over the moon to have made life long friends here... I just WISH I lived near you all.

I will come over one day . I will be leaving work in 3 years and my boys will have finished school I have decided to travel the world and meet all my overseas friends in the process .

I LOVE YOU SISTERS , AND I PRAY WE WILL BE OK X X X 

geebung

Sue - wonderful to see you post and huge congratulations on turning 40 and passing the 2 year mark. You have done magnificently! What a great mother you are - your boys are so nice because of who you are. You have worked so hard, holding down a full-time job, raising Daniel & David and coping with bootface and all its associated treatments and stress.

Cathi - that is good news about the latest SB test. I'm continuing to pray for you and your family. You and Ed are so patient, kind and generous. I'm so glad you can come here and rant!

Well, I have a very happy, purring Blossom on my lap as I type. Last night we picked her up from the vet's and she was so pleased to see us. I didn't have the cat cage with me so I held her while my partner drove home. Bloss snuggled into my shoulder and kneaded my arm with her paws. She hasn't left my side and seems to have a permanent smile on her face. Will talk to the neighbours today and find out more details of her rescue. 

Love to everyone

 Jane xoxox

portiasproudmom

Awww....Jane.  That warms my heart!  Your baby must have missed you soooooo much!  I'm so happy that you've been reunited with her.

Cathi, good news about Amanda's test results!  You must all be much more hopeful now!  I pray for you, Amanda, and the baby every night.  I'll continue to do so!!

Here's a picture of our house from this afternoon.  It's going up so fast!  It's such an exciting time for us!

Have a wonderful weekend, everyone!

Hugs,

Karen

barbe1958

Karen, I LOVE the style and the windows so far! How exciting.....!

geebung

Karen - Wow! After so much waiting it's so good to see your house going up so quickly! I love all the gables in the roof. Won't it be wonderful to move in before winter and be cosy!

1Cathi

Love the house Karen,  looks like things are moving along well.

It is a very rainy wet Saturday here,  we need the rain for sure,  but that means everyone is stuck inside - YEAH - LOL

honeygirl

Hi ladies and UB. Cathi , hugs to you and your daughters. Knowing you here , I can agree with the other ladies , your a great mom! You daughters are too. They just have their own personalities and ways of doing things. As for Amanda and making her decisions , no matter what anyone thinks , it is her decision and thats bottomline. There is a saying that I trully love , "Never look down on someone unless you are helping them up".What ever her decision is , I pray she will be at peace with it.xxxx

 I think when kids visit there moms , even if they where brought up in a neat and orderly home , they always feel like 'mom takes care of me'. And when my son would come home for the holidays , or weekend , I did take care of him. I felt good , and he did too. But it wasn't on a full time scale as yours. And being alone , just you and Ed , it is too much for you. In my opinion , I would put it right on the table so to speak. Tell them , its been just you to and your alittle overwelmed by the sudden amount of housework this has caused. I'd even make a schedule , so they know just what is expected of them. ie- Amanda dishes and vacuumn , SIL take out trash rub my feet-just kidding!lol But you know what I mean. Hang in there , this to shall pass. Hugs to you and thank God for Ed!xxx

honeygirl

Jane , YEAH!!! Blossom is home!!!!!!!!!!

Please give her lots of kitty hugs from me.xxxx

You're doing great on the weight loss. Slowly is good. Stays off that way. Keep it up!xxxx

honeygirl

Shirlann , wish I was there with you! Hope you and Walt are having a great time.xxxx

honeygirl

OK Lisa , where are you , and how did it go? I am so excited for you! And don't let past experiences get in the way of being excited! Just think of it as a way of weeding them out!lol Tony huh? Is he a "hot Italian"? Puh-lease give us details!

Sorry about the car breaking down. It seems to always cost an arm and a leg when they do break. Hows Dennis doing? Have you spoke to him lately? He is in my prayers.

Hope to hear from you soon!xxxx

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geebung

Mel, as usual it's so great to see your post and thank you for the cute kitty pic. Lots of love to you and everyone here.

Jane oxoxoxo

1Cathi

Oh Mel you always have a way of saying the right thing,  I am much more overwhelmed than Ed,  he is always so CALM, and just rolls with everything far better than I,  I have had a private melt down or two,  he just remains calm,  he's saying we shouldn't expect or tey to put them in their own place until 11/1  - Me I am already packing  their things - LOL.

I did sort of speak up at Sam's Club this AM, we all went, Ed and I had Landen in the cart,  he was riding around just fine, talking,  being good,  dad decided to come find us and decides Landen wants out of the cart,  so he can EXPLORE (UGH) Thats one of my pet peeves, children running around stores touching everything pulling things off shelves -  what ever,  my rule "We Look But Don't Touch"  anyway in a bit we catch up with them,  and Bill says oh isn't he cute running around after everyones carts with the little tractor he wants to buy.  I had had enough -  I said Bill it really isn't fair to others trying to shop to have to fight their way around a 1 year old,  and does he really want that $25 tractor,  can you afford it - I can't?  Then nasty ole me said I bet if you give him a racj=k of spare ribs he'll carry those around and want them too -   DUH!!!!!!!!! The stupid tractor was way above anything Landen could reach  -  IDIOT (I didn't say that to him). He loves playing with straws -  $1.00 for 100 at the dollar store he can have a new toy every AM. for 100 days!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

honeygirl

Oh Cathi!lol You're too funny. I think its good you speak up. Thats the "experienced" mom and wife that you are , and they need guidance! As long as its not mean or spiteful , its good for them. Remember kids hear 100% but retain about 10%. So don't be silent. They may be adults , but like I said they are inexperienced. Life is a learning experience. I know , I'm still learning!xxxx

honeygirl

Lisa , where are youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu? Maybe she is still with Tony!!!?!  Well , what ever you are doing , I hope you are having fun.xxxx

Makratz

Lisa and Tony up in a tree...............

Hi Honey!

barbe1958

Cathi, that was a GREAT response! Did it shut Bill up? Did Landon play with the ribs....hehehehehehe. DID they buy the tractor? Did you????????

Get them to a dollar store!

I think I hear Lisa ordering room service.....