STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER

Wow! Someone living to 100 is pretty good. I did see a story on the news over the weekend about some farmer who still was what he called himself "a windshield farmer" and got out every day and walked in in his fields and hired people to do the physical work he can't do right now but did all the "managing" of the farm of 100 acres or more he owns and is 105!!!! Goes out every day and said keeping moving is the only way to keep going. He was inspiration to me definintely with my own aches and pains.

Aunt Flo passed away at 100, at 60 she was diagnosed with breast cancer she had lumpectomy and radiation. She didn't have hormonal therapy not sure what the hormone status of her tumor was.

I just want to rant a little about doctors who tell people with breast cancer genes that they catch breast cancer early and cure it with constant monitoring. It's not a lie perse but it is misleading thanks to all the positive hype out there about breast cancer. Yes, we've got great drugs right now that have made a huge difference in the diagnosis. And certainly catching breast cancer early is a good thing. But even early stage people relapse. If you get breast cancer you will always have that possibility. It's a weird cancer that way. Your cancer isn't considered cured until you die of something else so monitoring helps assuredly but don't tell patients they'll be okay if they monitor. There's not a guarantee of that. The only way to guarantee someone won't die of breast cancer is if they never get it in the first place. I mean people shouldn't be told a double mastectomy is the only way to prevent that because that's a lie, too. But with women who have high penetrative cancer genes it is most assuredly the superior option over monitoring. Anyway I wish they would remind women of the beast breast cancer really is and do more studies trying to figure out what happened with those of us who got it. Sure some people have some genes for it but not most. There's some other reason for them and prevention is the only cure so let's definitively figure out how to prevent.

I have to rant, my mother is driving me crazy. I am her only child, she is constantly wanting me to sit with and hear all of her reasons she doesn't feel good. We have had a horrible summer, been to every doctor and emergency room multiple times just to get told she is ok. Her gastrointestinal doctor had a colonoscopy and endoscopic exam which did find an iratation in the bowels. Been on meds and constantly complaining for 2 months. I can't take anymore, if I need to go out for any reason it is hurry back ASAP, even though my husband and sons are with her.

She can not relax constantly pacing, I sure hope the stress doesn't cause my cancer to return. She 87, totally capable of walking, driving a little, showering, dressing she doesn't need that kind of help. She refuses to see her neighbors or others.

Over and over she says why can't I just die. She is on an antidepressant her GP knows what I am going through but no help. Social services basically handed me a print out from a web site. This can't continue. Refuses to watch TV, read or do anything. I feel like wants me to be miserable.

Or if she enjoyed doing knittng or crochet or any needle point work anything to occupy her. Since I have a form of what is considered "early onset dementia" called primary progressive aphasia and it affects my speech I am also on a board (not as good as this though) of people who are either caregivers of people who have this or are searching for a diagnosis or people who have it. A lot have those behavior issues though on there I know. I can pass on information to you if you would like to send me a pm and you can check it out as a "guest" and decide if you want to join that one. You may find some people who have some good coping skills in there for you.

meow13:

That sounds really stressful. It might be a long shot, but have they checked her thyroid? Thyroid issues can cause malaise, depression, gastrointestinal issues and anxiety.

I find the topic of cure and bc to be both baffling and interesting. The odds favor the treated early stagers but no one is truly ever out of the woods. Heck, someone here on the stage IV forum said I was probably cured. I believe I have been very lucky but not cured.

You cannot blame yourself at all. I was thin and exercised every day and we ate low fat, low carb low sodium already due to DH health issues he had. No family history of breast cancer (other kinds but not that one) so it was a bit shock. I was busy taking care of DH who was very ill and put off exams myself when I got sick one day with strep. When at the doc to get antibiotics he noticed I was due and needed one so scheduled it in that office (across the hall) on the way out of the building. Shocked to find cancer at that point and glad primary doc nagged me to get a mamo done. You work hard and do what what you should and still get it!!!

Brother. I was mad enough at my SIL who still refuses to get one because she is convinced "they hurt" or something. I told her NO cancer hurts! I was surprised though after people found out I had it how many I knew who were someone I knew came and told me they had been through it as well I had no idea they dealt with it at all because they kept it so private.

My son-in-law's grandma refused to go off hormonal therapy even after her MO said she could stop taking it because she was convinced it was keeping her from getting it again. She took it until the day she died. They let her stay on it even though she was older when diagnosed even. Bet she was on it 15 years though before she died.

Thanks everyone, just got done taking my Mom to our condo in Oregon. She complained non stop blaming me for taking her away from home while she was"sick". Ugh she won't leave me alone for 20 minutes all week long. I have had it, but now she is home and it gave my youngest son a break, he lives with her.

Honestly she embarrasses me in public she does everything to be as pathetic as possible, this is not the mother I knew. We need to get her counseling ASAP. Thanks for your support and hope that we can get to a normal state again.

That one is a lot harder to detect I know and know someone who died from that.

quietgirl that is frustrating. We have not done on the pick up option at the store. We did order online at the very start of COVID and DH is a trasplant patient on top it so we are are super careful all the time. We ordered and had it delivered to the house and they left it at our door. Cost us about $10 more to do it but we figured worth it. It worked and only did once. Problem was though if they could not find something I picked they chose something "similiar" and got that and that was not always ok since something I am kind of picky about. Now we go when the store first opens pretty mich and shop in person and sanitize the cart well and we see no one in there but there checker and we all mask and keep our distance No one on any aises or anything and in and out and back home and we stock up when we go to minitize trips to the store to about every 2 1/2 weeks. We try to buy fruit that lasts long.

We do ouir holiday shopping as delivery now as well or order and pick up after we are notified it is ready to pickk up at the store. No shpping anymore.