Starting to feel scared about lumpectomy
Although I don't have a date for lumpectomy yet and lymph node biopsy. I'm just wondering how am I going to get through it. What s the recovery like? How fast can I go back to work? I would like to hear it from all of you who been there before.
I'm worried about my kids. Who will pick up my kids from school if my husband is with me at the hospital. I have no one to help me out.
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Hi Eigna I am sorry you have to be here but you will find lots of great advice from these ladies. I had my lumpectomy end of April surgery was at 2:30 and I was on my way home at 5:00. As soon as I got home I ate and took a nap. Depending on the size of the lump and what you do for work you could need a week or two to recover. I went back part time after the first week but I have a very physical job. I only need Tylenol for pain and lots of ice. If you can't find anyone to pick up your kids, ask for a surgery time in the morning so your husband can get you home and then pick up the kids. There may be someone to talk to at your hospital that can help you with arrangements. Try not to worry too much. The surgery was surprisingly straight forward and so was the recovery. I am sure there will be others here soon to give you more advice. Good luck and feel free to come here as often as you need.
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Most people, if they are scheduled for early morning lumpectomy, are home by early afternoon, so your husband can pick up the kids. But do have a backup plan in case the hospital's running behind. A lot of women return to work within a day or two, a week at most, barring complications. Keep pressure on it - hospital issued bra and then firm sports bra - to prevent swelling. No heavy lifting for a few weeks. Use a pillow over your chest on the way home after surgery to protect you from the seat belt. That's about it. I went out to lunch with friends two days after mine, and I felt fine.
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My surgery was outpatient, as I think most lumpectomies are. Besides the breast tumor (IDC and DCIS) I also had 3 lymph nodes removed. I didn't use any narcotics for pain relief, only Tylenol, and not a lot of them. I've actually been tested and have "normal" pain sensitivity, so I don't think that my pain relief choices are out of the ordinary. Within a few days I could have gone back to work if I'd needed to, though I might have kept short days for the next few. (I'm retired.)
As to the kids, how old are they? You could check with the teachers to see if there is another reliable parent in your own neighborhood who could help you. Or school bus, if they are on a designated route and old enough to be by themselves after school.
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My lumpectomy surgery was uneventful, just an out-patient surgery. I was home by 4pm. Recovery was pretty easy. I was driving after 24 hours. Unfortunately, I suffered some complications (hematoma and infection), which affected my recovery. I ended up having to take 2 weeks off due to the infection. But I could still cook and manage my household. (I did not have young children, though.)
If you have absolutely no one to help you, that's a problem. Not just for this surgery, but for life in general. Everyone needs at least one person that they can call on in an emergency. If you truly have no one to help, you need to work on that immediately. You are one step away from total catastrophe. Perhaps you can pay a high school student or another mom to meet the bus or pick up your kids at school. Someone from church, someone from school. Think. There has to be at least one person in your circle who can step up for you on the one day you need surgery. Heck, I called my son's room mother when I had an emergency and needed someone to keep him. He was 5 AND he was covered in chicken pox! I barely even knew this woman, but she seemed nice. She told me she knew I had to be desperate to call on her, so she said YES, lol. Just goes to show, you never know who your guardian angels are until you ask.
Good luck.
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Ditto on surgery being relatively uneventful. I was the last surgery of a long day for my surgeon, and I still went home that evening. Woke up and was just fine. In fact, I asked my friend who was staying with me if I could make her some coffee!
I took horse pill ibuprofen but didn't need anything beyond that. Walked 3 miles the day after surgery. In fact, I scared people who expected me to be down for the count. I looked tired, but no worse than after a good trip to the dentist. I work mostly at home, but certainly could have gone back to work the following Monday. Surgery was Wednesday.
I was riding my bicycle ten days after surgery.
You should plan on being just fine. - Claire
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mustlovepoodles, you remind me of a time I needed help and asked a mom in my neighborhood. I didn't know her well as we'd just moved there, just 2 months before. I had to juggle my mom's funeral the day before, my son's 9th birthday, my annual gyno exam, and son's strep throat all at the same time. As I fell apart trying to explain what was going on, she said OF COURSE she could take care of son while I was at my doctor's appointment.
Other people are usually glad to help. That's what we do for each other.
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I took a week off work but it wasn't enough. The whole next week the nurses I work with kept sending me home early so I could take Percocet... apparently I was pale from pain and looked scary. My lymph node biopsy was the part that really hurt. That kept me moving slowly for a few weeks. The meds helped though. Many women seem to bounce back more quickly, but I definitely didn't I was also only 38 and pretty physically fit at the time. I recommend a back up plan in case you are super sore like I was. I have job that is a mix between desk work and walking around talking to people.
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I see mixed answers. Some bounced back fast some not too fast. Iguess I have to take it one step at a time.
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So far in the responses, FOUR bounced back, TWO had complications. The odds are good.
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I will make it 5, I came home and slept for awhile and woke up feeling ok. I wore the compression thingy for probably 3 weeks, after a few days I bent down to pick something up without it and my nerve endings freaked out, very painful! do not let the girls hang it really hurts. The compression felt like someone was hugging me so I liked it. Ice packs all day really helped, luckily tylenol and motrin worked for me. I think the lymph node incision hurt more than the lumpectomy.
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Six for bounced back quickly.
The one thing that surprised me (and others have said the same) was how uncomfortable the sentinel node surgery was. Makes sense, though, there are loads of nerves and muscle insertions going on in our armpits.
But I walked 3 miles two days after my lx, and was running the following week. I was tired, but I always am after general anesthesia so that was nothing unusual.
I wore a bra 24x7 for weeks and that helped my discomfort a lot. My breast didn't like moving around at all so I just kept everything still.
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Good Morning,
I am scheduled for my lumpectomy and sentinel node bioon September 18th and I was feeling anxious and fearful about the whole thing. Thank you all for posting as it’s giving me comfort to know about the outcomes good and not so good as it makes the unknown less scary.
Patricia
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Keep the positive coming !
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I had a my lumpectomy with oncoplastic reconstruction at the same time. I was still out patient and only took two strong pain killers then moved to advil. Recovery was okay, just sore. I am still wearing a sports bra. I had my Sentinel Node biopsy two weeks later because they found microinvasion unexpected, doc was shocked as was I! I had that 5 days ago and I am very sore on that one, arm pit sore and cannot reach much, they only took two nodes. The injection area is also very sore on my breast. Unfortunately, I have an allergy to ice and therefore can not get relief from ice packs, but you can be fine without ice:)
I am fortunate, I have a lot of help and am taking intermittent FMLA, I am a Math Professor so only teaching online until treatment is over.
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I’m just wondering about the sports bra. I find sport bras in general very uncomfortable. I am a 40DD and not easy to find sport bras. I need a bra that I can close in the back. I usually wear bras with underwire. That keeps everything in place. Any suggestions are welcomed.
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rwIs, are you doing Chemotherapy since they found micro invasion in the lymph nodes?
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I am a tall 68 yo woman. After my lumpectomy surgery I was home by 1 pm. I managed pain with Ibuprofen 800s for a few days, then Tylenol. I slept in a recliner at night for over a week. The surgical bra was very confining; SO happy to move on to sport bras after a week or so. Due to node biopsies using my surgical side arm was painful. My situation was aggravated by my having arthritis and needing a knee replacement, so movement was slow and standing up from a sitting position was difficult because I could only push up with one arm. All that being said, the experience was bearable. I remember thinking that if I had to I could have worked after a week. I actually gave a 45 minute presentation to a group one week out
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Eigna I'm not a shill for them and I receive nothing from them nor do they know I recommend their bras but AnaOna bras are wonderful. They're cut in such a way that they didn't and don't rub my sentinel node incision. And they're so soft, which was essential during radiation. I'm still wearing them to be honest.
I wore underwire for ever and ever. I'm not as of this year (unrelated to BC) but I will say I found a really good supportive sports bra from Athleta that both zips up the front AND has a couple of hooks in the back. So adjusting it for swelling and stuff was easy and putting it on was super easy (left the hooks fastened and just used the zipper).
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Eigna, check with your doctor. They'll likely put a bra on you after surgery that will work for the first few days at least. You'll probably be told to keep a bra on 24/7, other than showering, for several days or more. Also check Walmart for the soft cotton bras that have a set of about 7 hooks up the front. There's a little less structure to them -- no underwires -- but in fact they do keep everything fairly well in place for most use (not running or bouncing!) You said you want a bra that closes in the back. Is that just a general preference? Your range of motion might be limited (it is for most people, at least somewhat) so reaching to the back to hook your bra might be impossible. Of course there is always hooking it in front and then turning the bra around. Also you might be told NOT to use an underwire bra. For radiation, I was specifically told not to.
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MountainMia this is what I wear now but I figured I won’t be able to hook it in the back after surgery. Should I go buy a bra before the surgery or should I wait after surgery to buy a bra ? I don’t have a date yet for surgery. Hoping its soon. How long did you wait to get an appointment with BS and surgery?
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MountainMia, did your doctor provide a bra for a lumpectomy? Mine didn't, I didn't know that might be a thing.
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My surgeon provided a bra after lumpectomy but the same surgeon did not after mastectomy. With the lumpectomy, I guess there is more internal tissue to hold together until healed.
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Huh! Guess mine was holding out on me
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Ask your surgeon about bras. The one provided was like armor. Definitely designed to keep everything where it was supposed to be. I appreciated the thought and I wore it until told not to, but I couldn’t wait to get into something softer. When “released” from their bra (pun intended) I bought soft pull on Fruit of the Loom sport bras from Walmart. They are still my go to, even after mastectomy and TE.
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edj3: I really feel left out. I did not get a hospital provided bra post-lumpectomy for either my first or "revision" lumpectomy. Was not told what to wear post-op either. I had ace bandages wrapped around my chest that did not stay in place on either occasion (were falling off even before I left hospital. No one suggested a sports bra though navigator told me about Fruit of the Loom soft cup bras later. Unfortunately they do not support 40DD's. Could not wear a sports bra because most go over the head and previously had rotator cuff surgery (plus sentinel node site location) that made that impossible. So finally PT suggested a zipper fronted sports bra that helped. Incision site made bra comfort a challenge since incision was under breast and low. I would ask if they do provide a bra post-op rather than assuming that they do. It pays to be prepared if they don't.
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I bought inexpensive Danskin zip-front sports bras to wear for about three weeks following lumpectomy and then again after re-excision. I'm a DD and had no problem wearing them.
Try to find just one positive thought to hang onto, okay?
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Eigna- I was also a 40DD. After I was “released” from the surgical bra (Turkeypoult is not kidding), I wore Bali Comfortflex wirefree bras. They are sized S-M-L-XL-2XL-3XL. The recommended size for me was L, but honestly, the XL was way more comfortable. They got me through mammosite radiation -and holding that balloon catheter in place was quite a feat!
I have no connection to Bali bras at all
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I'm with Alice the front zip danskins were awesome. I didnt get a bra post surgery so came with my own. Really helped with the ride home expecially over the train tracks.
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I didn't get a bra from my BS either. She also didn't mention me wearing one after surgery. But my surgery was kind of scheduled next day so not a lot of time to prepare. And add me to the list of those who bounced back quickly
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Me, too--surgery scheduled quickly (4 days after meeting with BS and her first surgery day after that meeting), no bra provided in hospital or specific recommendations afterwards (until RO said nothing but cotton next to my skin), little need for pain meds (didn't even fill the prescription for heavy duty meds), basically uneventful and easy recovery.
It is doable!!
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