STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER

Thanks for the hugs.

Today I got managed free time to make a list of all those balls. It's a much longer list than I would like, but now that I know the scope of work I somehow feel better. Not that I can get all that done in a year, but some of it I have a year to get done.

And guess what. . .it's the WEEKEND!! (and the sun came out today, if only for an hour)

Artistatheart, now that's annoying. When the coordination of care doesn't happen I go off the ledge. There was a period where I was seeing three or four doctors regularly. I was petrified one would say to do A, and another would say to do 'not A'. I finally asked my onc who was in charge. He told me he was in charge. So now I take all problems to him and he acts on them. You need one of your docs to stand up and take charge.

Thanks April, hope you are able to throw some water on the bonfire. Yes Pam I plan to bring it up with my Onc next appt. Although last time I went in she instructed the nurse to have me put on a gown for an exam and I had to tell them they just did one.....Anyway, yes it's the weekend! I am finally almost done with purchasing season at work and get 10 weeks of in the summer. So all in all things are looking up for now.

I am so disheartened by how cruel people can be especially in a professional environment. I took great pride in keeping my chin up, working all through bilateral mastectomy, failed reconstruction, infections, chemo, the works.

The comments and jokes that people will make when theyt think you can't hear them are hurtful beyond belief. And yet I keep going back every day choking back the tears and trying to hold my chin up with some semblance of pride. Going to work without hair was hard. Going to work without breasts was hard. Going to work sick, tired, and with drains attached...hard. Hearing someone gossip behind my back today when I finally had the courage to wear my prosthetics for the first time in over a year-----heartbreaking. Couldn't they just stay silent?? Corporate announcement: Yes!!! She's wearing false boobs. Did they think I didn't know??

Luckylady they should be telling you that you look great! And thanking their lucky stars that they're not dealing with a nasty disease.

I bet you do look great!

I wish I could think of an excellent come back for you to use, but not my forte.

Reminds me when one of the busybodies on my street kept trying to raise up gossip "yea she has fake boobs". One day I waited until I saw her group of cronies were gathered on the lawn in front of her house, all sipping on their pepsi max (or beer) and smoking their stinky cigarettes. I went real quick and put on a spaghetti strap tank top that I pulled low enough that I was almost spilling out of it, then went there and got in her face and said "yes, see? they are fake. They are fake and fabulous. And they'll be fabulous til the day I die. Do you think men care if they're real, enhanced or reconstructed? They don't, as long as they look good. Good luck with your shriveled prunes." Turned around and went home. She hasn't spoken to me (or about me) since. But if looks could kill....

I don't think anyone should have to think of a comeback for a crack about having fake boobs. If someone at work makes such a comment, they should be reported to the employer and disciplined as a harasser. The only comeback that would affect a jackass like that would be the comments from their manager during a disciplinary hearing where there was the threat of losing their job.

MsP

MsPharoah, I prefer to deal with these kind of situations myself and not to have to go to my boss. If the situation continues then yes, I'd go to the boss but usually people react like that due to ignorance.

April485, I'm not a better woman. I think it's occupational hazard... I'm a teacher and feel that everyone needs to/can be educated :-)

Leslie-Fay, you are way more than your body and your body parts! Please NEVER sell yourself short. You have a brain and a heart and those are the single most important things we possess. Never forget that. There are men who are not superficial. You haven't found one yet. You have to also look past your own bias about your body before you are comfortable with a man loving you again. Hugs. You are wonderful just as you are. Remember that!!!!!!!!!!

Dr. Erika Schwartz's article just told me it is my fault I got cancer! She also told everyone of my family/friends/co-workers/neighbours etc - if they read her article! Great. Now they think I was too fat and lazy not to get cancer. Did anyone mention that 3 of my father's 3 sisters died of cancer (2 of breast cancer) and that cancer now extends into the next generation even in the male sons of these sisters! Are we all just fat and lazy?

I read this:

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Little-Known Truth About Cancer

By Erika Schwartz, M.D
Thursday, 28 Apr 2016 03:26 PM More Posts by Erika Schwartz, M.D

Here's a truth few women know: Cancer cells exist in our bodies all the time, and a healthy body controls them so that they never turn into a cancer diagnosis.

If we treat our bodies kindly, with a healthy diet, regular exercise, supplements as needed, balanced human-identical hormones, stress management, and proper rest, often the cancer will recede.

Have you ever wondered about the millions of women around the world who have never had a mammogram and also those who have never even seen a doctor? Are they just lucky not to get cancer?

No. They avoid cancer by avoiding radiation, toxic foods and drugs, alcohol and sugar, processed foods, and also by getting regular exercise, sleeping well, and living a generally healthy lifestyle

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I have read enough on this site to know that many slim, fit, health conscious, calm ladies got cancer despite doing everything right.

The good doctor asks and then answers her own question - but she is wrong. Are they just lucky not to get cancer. YES.

And she does them a disservice by lulling them into thinking they are safe.

Rant over.

Bounce,

I'm one of them. First BC dx at 31. Fit, runner, vegan, no sugar, alcohol. 2nd dx 12/15, still no alcohol, sugar, no red meat, vigorous exercise. Stage 3 IBC.

Since having BC I've gained weight. Hmmm. So now it will really be my fault if I get a recurrence or progression

Arghhhhh

You should come with your own "like" button, SAS

That Doctor is horrible. Good for you sas. When people have asked why I think I may have got breast cancer, I tell them because I had breasts. That is all it takes for women/and some men too to get it. I don't buy the strip out sugar/eat well blah blah blah will 100 per cent save you and blaming people who already have it is like slapping a rape or crime victim after the fact. Just plain ignorant. Lots of overweight, drinking, junk eating, no sleeping etc people will NOT get cancer. Sometimes I think the blame is easier for people than the fear it can happen to them. Just a matter of whether their cells decide to go crazy on them more than anything.

That is not to say I don't believe in healthy lifestyles but I have come to believe the healthy body may assist in treatment in mitigating some SE, not preventing it. Possibly risk reduction but who knows.

ditto. Nothing we did or didn't do caused our cancer.