STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER

Anonymous

I know! My friend really believes all this crap. I have tried re-educating her. She smiles smugly and tells me anyone can manipulate facts and that the medical community is hiding the truth from us because they want to make money. The 1st time my spine was collapsing she just KNEW the surgeon was only looking to make some quick bucks. And this lady has her Masters in Education and teaches school children. How scary is that???

Off to take my coffee enema and let the sun's healing rays purify my body...gotta get my rabbit foot first...........

gardengypsy

Why do I always have to be the one to keep my SHI$ TOGETHER and take care of everyone else? Leave! Move out! Leave me the eff alone!

kathindc

I've got to let some steam off. My surgery was four years ago this month. Friday, I got in the mail from the hospital's Cancer Center Follow-up Service a form which states, "we are required to monitor the current health status and follow-up care our patients receive from their physicians on an annual basis." This is a first. Are they kidding me, four years after the fact is not on an annual basis. Really pi$$es me off. Sending the form back letting them know what I think of their "timely" (she says dripping with sarcasm) follow-up. Ugh.

MoreShoes

Shepkitty, your doctor is treating you because he wants to make money and this guy, Ty Bollinger is trying to "educate" people from the goodness of his heart. He is not making a living out of this crap. He is not selling his podcasts, books, documentaries etc. Interviews with over 100 scientists, doctors, survivors...how many are the cancer patients that followed the kale/green tea regime and didn't make it?

Eat healthy, move your butt around but listen to science too. The life expectancy in humans isn't increased only by eating raw cabbage.

(I hate it when they make it sound as if getting cancer was somehow my fault).

Reckless

I got a mailing from Sloan Kettering, where I had consulted, essentially asking to leave a will in their favor, leave them my $ for research... I am being treated at another hospital, but got 2nd opinions at MSK. I am Stage 1... and 46 y.o. This is so insensitive!

On the rant side, I can't believe how stupid I have been all these years not to create a family. Now it's too late to have kids and adoption is difficult for a single cancer parent. Not to mention, scary to adopt as I do not know what awaits me health wise...

april485

I just have to come here to scream for the souls of those killed and injured in Orlando. I am so very angry.

Why? Why is there so much hate in this world? This man was mentally unstable according to many who knew him including his ex-wife. He used the cloak of ISIS to make it legit so "he could justify what he did in the name of Allah" even though it was about the way he felt about LGBTQ people. He thought by proclaiming he did this for Allah, he could get into heaven. Not happening. He will burn in hell for all eternity.

It had very little to do with ISIS and everything to do with homophobia! I live in CT and we lived Sandy Hook. It was the saddest time in CT history and every day, we are reminded of this tragedy.

I pray Orlando stays strong. When is congress going to reauthorize the ban on assault weapons? How many more have to die to prove it is prudent to do this? Hasn't there been enough bloodshed? The ONLY people who should have weapons that shoot multiple rounds per minute are the Police and the Military. Period. No NRA representative can make owning those weapons make any sense to me. Not now. Not ever.

RIP dear hearts.

Off my soapbox.

kathindc

Amen

chef127

The FBI interviewed this terroristic, murdering, sick-o, 3 times in the last year and yet he was deemed to be FIT to be let loose in society without surveillance. He was able to purchase an assault weapon and a pistol in the last week, LEGALLY, and take out 49 innocent happy people, injure 53 people (for life), and harm so many family, friends and fellow Americans, forever.

In an interview this morning on NBC, 'CON'ald Chump (oops) was asked about changing the laws about assault weapons being available to the average American he said, We need to have the assault weapons available to the 'good guy' so we can fight the 'bad guy' who use these assault weapons. (not verbatim) REALLY??????????

My heart goes out to the families who are enduring this lose, as WE ALL ARE. Again. We are forever changed.

april485

LOL chef127 RE "CON-ald Chump" Perfect!

MsPharoah

The event in Orlando is another horror. I thought the Sandy Hook school shooting was going to be the watershed moment, but alas, no....the gun lobby and its scared politicos struck again. The responsibility for this must be laid squarely at their feet. Ban all assault weapons!
MsP

Anonymous

I posted this elsewhere and feel it necessary to share here.

My heart has been so heavy since reading the news yesterday morning.

The media will turn this tragedy into a circus. The public will be outraged, rightly so, but not for the right reasons. No matter what your faith, political party or personal opinions we must not loose sight of what is important.

It is not important who you love. It is the ability to love that matters most. Each human-being existing on this planet is a unique individual. We are all different yet we are all the same. We are all the same species living on the same Earth. We don't have to "like" everyone. We do need to love everyone. Because we are all one.

Prayers for all.

I am adding here;

Any object used to inflict injury or death to a living creature is an "assault weapon". The government once again has failed to protect us from an individual who was known to be a threat to society. We have good laws in place. They need to be enforced. Properly. In a timely matter. Dylan Roof would never had legally bought a gun had his application been properly processed. The FBI dropped the ball. Big time.

To legally own a fully automatic firearm is very difficult. Not just "anyone" can go out and buy one. Nor should they be able to. There are two types of handguns. A revolver contains a revolving cylinder in which bullets are loaded. A semi-automatic pistol has a removable magazine into which bullets are loaded. A semi-automatic rifle holds bullets the same way. EACH of these firearms is only able to shoot ONE bullet at a time.

Law abiding, legal gun owners are not the problem.

One last thought.......... How in the heck did that sicko walk down the street carrying a rifle on a sweltering hot Orlando night and not get noticed ??????

Edited to add my family is multi-generation career law enforcement.

april485

shepkitty, he parked in front of the club and took the guns out of his van and into the club knowing that the night was winding down and people would be busy with "last call" activities and winding things down. He went in earlier without the rifle is my understanding. As for the FBI dropping the ball, they must follow due process of law as your family would know. You cannot hold someone for a crime they did not commit for anything longer than a short time and in his case, it was determined he was spouting off and not a threat so they had nothing to base not selling guns that he was legally allowed to buy to this man. They did their job with the resources they are given. Is the system working well?

Obviously it isn't but any NUT case can slip through the best of screenings. I think that after reading a lot of things, this man was gay and conflicted due to being a Muslim and so he began watching a lot of radical terrorist videos and became agitated and decided that the only way he could live with himself was to kill those that he so identified with but did not want to. This of course is my opinion. The "Allah" part of this was so he could fool himself that he did it for a cause. The cause was himself....sigh

Anonymous

Mom beats cancer twice, gunned down in club - CNN.com - www.cnn.com

This story of one of the Orlando victims was more upsetting than the others to me because she had beaten 2 cancers and was there dancing with her gay son. I hate that she went through 2 sets of cancer treatments and was killed in such a wonderful moment of living. I hope her son will be able to accept that it was never his fault.

I will never understand the need some people have to take others down with them. Once I've recovered from my treatments, I'm going outdancing to be just like Brenda McCool.

sas-schatzi

What we may never know, was she one of us. May sound bizarre to ask that. But I could easily see her being one of us.

sas-schatzi

No one pissed off since June?????????????

sas-schatzi

Actually, I was talking with a friend and was reminded of EricV,. He had a story that you can read on his page. He may or may not of died from BC had his doc's listened or not made stupid diagnoses.. The problem is his doc's ignored the signs. He left two small children and a loving wife. It didn't have to happen.

For the short time he was here he gave support to others. His story on his bio page is the seriously sad story

https://community.breastcancer.org/member/128670/profile

MoreShoes

Oh Sas, that's a really sad story. Trust your instict.

As for the pissing off part, my boss changed jobs, he sent a general mail to everyone and disappeared. So now I don't have a (unempathetic) boss to bother me and all the "friends" with their stupid comments are on vacation. I'll have to arrange myself the plan for going back to work, I don't mind.

pajim

It's too hot to be pissed off. And all the annoying people are on vacation. . .

april485

LOL Pajim! Amen to that!

Artista928

I for one hate seeing stuff like this:

http://beboldbebald.org

This came up on my fb page. Here's my response I wrote:

"Seriously, while I understand losing hair that will grow back during chemo is traumatic for many, this is a slap in the face imo. Hardly support. Majority of us fighting cancer could give a shit less about vanity when you are in pain and vomitting. This type of behaviour belittles what it's like, imo. Also many do not lose their hair. Depends on the chemo. You want to show support and you care? Volunteer to help those who are struggling. Here in CA I used Drivers For Survivors several times, volunteers who drive cancer pts to and from their million appts. Take food to them. We don't feel like doing anything. Run their errands. There's so much you can do to help. Wearing a silly cap and wearing pink is stupid to most of us, seriously."

I hate pinktober. Not only is info put out there that is not always correct, but then you have this stuff popping up. sigh

Valstim52

I was dx'd in Dec. I'm dreading Pinktober. i hate it. Can't really say why but I do. I feel it minimizes side effects, treatment etc. Like we feel like running after chemo

Artista928

It really doesn't bring awareness unless you've never heard of cancer happening in the breast. This wearing pink biz and shaving your head to bring awareness. Huh? I think they should encourage those who support us to volunteer to help someone battling. The money raised in walks and such while nice is pennies compared to what drug companies put toward research. I'd rather folks use their resources toward actually helping someone(s) in battle having a hard time with bills, cooking, cleaning, etc- stuff that actually helps us.

marijen

I'm pissed off because my scars still hurt from my third surgery in December and the BS puts in his notes that I have no problems following surgery.

Meow13

Thank God we have each other to talk to, i hate pinktober. It all seems to be about losing your hair then after treatment you are cured. Such a superficial understanding about what someone with breast cancer goes through. I wish they would stop spending money on awareness. I get my mammogram in October and last time i receive a little spa gift basket. Ugh just spend the money on a cure.

marijen

It doesn't seem that even the doctors understand what it's like. Let's spend money on doctor awareness.

Homework assignment for doctors - READ BCO comments all 300,000 of them!

Artista928

Seriously, I post the link to this site whenever I see stupid posts on fb. People post inaccurate stuff, some who haven't even had bc, and many people take it as truth. Dangerous thing. One gal wrote in response to that wearing the bald cap for awareness in Oct that easy solution, just don't do chemo. Uh. So are you saying you refused chemo because you'd be bald?? Someone reading it cold would take it cool, no chemo then. I mean you can't write such a one liner. Unbelievable.

keepsake

"Also many do not lose their hair. Depends on the chemo." - Amen. Thank you, Artista928

Lovinggrouches

I'm pissed that I got BC at 41! I'm tired of being cut on. I have no sex drive and I'm dry as a bone down there after the hysterectomy. I'm tired of taking a pill that makes my hot flashes worse and nauseated me. I'm passed that I was thrown in full blown menopause and haven't had a full nights sleep in two months. I'm passed I got an infection in surgical incision from suture left in. I'm passed that I feel like SHIT 24 hours a day and come home to lie in bed at six pm just to lie there for HOURS! I'm passed that I don't care about anything anymore and I'm on antidepressant and have tried two narcotic sleeping pills that don't work. I just want ONE day where I feel good. I'm passed that I feel the need to feel my breasts up almost nightly to feel for lumps. I'm passed that I was told I had favoritism at work because they feel sorry for me. I'm passed that my brain doesn't work right anymore and my eyesight is worse. I don't want to be told that I'm someone's inspiration or that I have the BEST kind of cancer one can have by my MO. I don't want to be told I'm lucky I didn't have to have mmastectomy or chemo. I'm tired of my hair falling out and the anxiety attacks I have. I'm tired of feeling like everyone wants to forget what I've been through, but wonder why I look like crap at work? I'm tired of crying and worrying. I'm sick of it. I'm tired of worrying about a mammogram that's 4 months away. I'm tired of my belly swelling and hurting from the last surgery. I'm tired of feeling as if I'm just waiting for the other shoe to drop. I guess that was enough lol!

Lita57

I've been really angry because of my situation, and I know I have to work thru it somehow. My dad smoked for 30 years, was exposed to a lot of asbestos in his job, drank like a fish and died at 85. My mom never smoked or drank, but got cancer and passed when she was 48. Go figure!

When I was young, I used to attribute my mom's death to all the Diet Pepsi she consumed: two 16 oz bottles a day, and more in the summer (we didn't have those 2 liter plastic bottles back in the early 70's). She also used a lot of Coffee Mate and ate Diet Parkay Margarine - nothing but chemicals in both. My dad, if he drank soda at all, it had to be the real thing with sugar, and he only put real milk in his coffee and wouldn't touch that imitation margarine in the little tub.

There's an interesting article in the Winter 2016 issue of CURE magazine that discusses the randomness of cancer. Why do some people smoke and NEVER get cancer? Why does breast cancer show up in women with no family history of any cancer whatsoever? The randomness of cancer is especially prevalent in very small children - obviously they didn't smoke or drink more than a glass of Chardonnay every evening. I'm not going to summarize the article, but it's an interesting read. For a lot people, cancer is just the hand you're dealt - of course this is very controversial, as the article points out.

But I'm still pissed...REALLY pissed! I didn't drink soda for decades because of what I thought it did to my mom. I was a "meatless Monday" person a couple times a week, and mostly ate fish and poultry, eschewing my beloved bacon, cold cuts, etc. because of nitrates and nitrites. I never went to McDonalds or Taco Bell. I did all my own yard work, walked, and joined Curves. What the hell for?

In truth, food choices and exercise probably delayed my "random" cancer by X number of years, but I still got it regardless of all the sacrifices I made. Now I'm not going to go crazy and let myself go, but I went out and bought a 2 liter bottle of Diet Caffeine Free Coke (I don't like the taste of Diet Pepsi), and I plan to drink it. I had my husband grill up some fat, juicy steaks last weekend (but I could only swallow half of it because I was still on a chemo cycle), and I'm planning on going to McDonald's next week and get their new garlic fries. Might as well. Gonna die anyway.

Not having any sugar cravings on "off cycle weeks," tho. I used to enjoy dessert once in a while, especially cheesecake and Ben & Jerry's, but since menopause kicked in, I really tried to watch the sugar consumption too, especially when they declared me PRE-diabetic in 2010. I'm not going to run out and get a big Sara Lee's because I heard that sugar feeds the cancer - not sure if that's an old wives' tale or not, but it makes sense. Cancer needs easy-to-procure calories to keep dividing, and one digests sugars and carbs quicker than protein and fats.

It effin' sucks that I have to apply for permanent disability because of all the compression fractures in my spine and ribs - all because of my new second husband, cancer. There is NO SUCH THING as divorce, when you're married to Stage IV cancer - it literally is until "death do us part."

Yep, infuriated by all this, and that's the way I'm gonna be for a while, which is good. You have to be ANGRY to keep fighting.

DancingElizabeth

Count me in as being pissed - too! Cancer barely runs in my family, I don't smoke, I exercise, I (usually) eat right, I'm 48 and I have Stage III Grade 3 Cancer!!!!!! I feel like my life (what's left of it) is never going toto be the same!!