Not quite a horder - decluttering

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  • Mandy1313
    Mandy1313 Member Posts: 1,692
    edited May 2014

    Wow--that is quite a cat.  My cat drinks from a sink faucett but she does not try to turn it on and off--fortunately.

  • Teka
    Teka Member Posts: 10,052
    edited September 2017
  • FairyDogMother
    FairyDogMother Member Posts: 253
    edited May 2014

    Well third week from my "full spay" and I managed to clean up the kitchen area.  I have no idea where all these papers come from.  I'm going to pile up all my cancer papers I have collected on this journey and post a picture for you girls.  This is crazy.

  • MinusTwo
    MinusTwo Member Posts: 16,634
    edited May 2014

    I've been lurking on this thread for a long time.  Started decluttering with paperwork in Feb 2013 & was getting ready to announce the 13 bags shredded, but the darn cancer came back.  So after a year in treatment, I'm starting again.  I've been cleaning closets all week.  Took 23 bags & 17 hanging suits & skirts & pant suits to the thrift shop that supports battered women.  I gave a bunch of tops & sweaters to a neighbor who has gone back to work, and have another 8 boxes ready for the 40 yr old daughter of a friend who can wear the larger sizes - everything from tops to exercise clothes to 5 different sizes of bras.  (Yes I tried hard to find a bra for my new body in 2011 & 2012.  Now I just wear camis.)  I don't plan to get rid of the size 12 pants even though I'm now a 6 because the weight loss was all due to chemo.  Who knows what I'll be next year!!  But I did get rid of the size 14s.

    And I took 5 bags of books to the used bookstore.  Those that they didn't want stayed in my trunk to go to the library tomorrow.

    Hope I can keep the momentum.  I'd love to more on to the kitchen when I finish dressers & closets.  Thanks to all of you for the inspiration.

  • Wren44
    Wren44 Member Posts: 8,585
    edited May 2014

    FDM, I put all my cancer papers in a big notebook and just keep adding. It makes it easy to find if there's a dispute  or question.

    Minus Two, I am so impressed. That is a huge amount of stuff to get out of the house.

  • MinusTwo
    MinusTwo Member Posts: 16,634
    edited May 2014

    Wren - I'm impressed too until I look in the closets & realize that has to be jjust a first pass.  When I got divorced, I took over the ex's closet space.   Then my son went to college & moved away so I took over his space.  This meant I never had to sort or switch summer for winter/ etc.  And I brought home a number of my Mother's dresses when she died & had them tailored to fit (wore one once).  When I started my first "post retirement job", we had to wear casual jackets so I acquired a number of those.  And of course I had to have tops to match - not the white dress shirts I'd worn w/my suits for so many years or the sweaters for the wool skirts.  Since I don't know if I'll go back to work next year, I'm dithering about the jackets - all of which are too big, but they are the size I've worn all my life for jackets so...

    You won't believe the socks.  I think they multiplied in the drawers just like the T-shirts did.  When I got to the bottom of the T-shirts I'm embarrassed to admit there were 40.  I'm afraid to even count socks.  White socks, white ankle socks, trouser socks, knee socks, flannel lined socks, gold toe socks (white & black), special socks for Valentines & St. Pat's day,  thin socks for flats, thick socks for tennis shoes - and on & on.  The more i I get rid of, the more I want to clear out.

  • Wren44
    Wren44 Member Posts: 8,585
    edited May 2014

    I would keep the jackets for now because they're expensive to replace. I had all these panty hose from years ago when I wore them. I was happy when I discovered all the elastic had rotted and I could just throw them away without feeling guilty. I don't feel guilty about my T-shirts because most are old. They haven't sold them in my colors for several years. 

  • Gingerbrew
    Gingerbrew Member Posts: 2,859
    edited May 2014

    Minus Two, 

    Standing ovation for you!!!!!!!   Keep the socks, just don't buy anymore.  I agree on the jackets.   Good job!   

    Wren I know what you mean about colors. When they go warm I just am out of luck.   

    Ginger

  • Blessings2011
    Blessings2011 Member Posts: 4,276
    edited May 2014

    Minus Two - sheesh! You've been PRODUCTIVE!!! 

    Wren - I was helping DH clean out the mountain house (where he lived before we got married) and I found his stashes of T-shirts everywhere....all with sayings, all some kind of souvenir or gift or "special" meaning, and most of them totally ratty. I finally laid them all out on the bed and asked if he really needed 122 T-shirts? Well, DUH! Of COURSE he did!!! But we eventually got that sorted out.... 

    OMG. My MIL passed away in January, and FIL finally asked us for our help in sorting out her clothes. 

    So on Sunday, we ferreted out as many clothes as we could get to, stuffed them into trash bags, and filled the back of the pickup truck.

    I knew beforehand it would be like an episode of Hoarders, so I went prepared with my head covering and my mask, but UGH. 

    1) They were 92 years old and never got rid of ANYTHING

    2) Everything was crammed into every available space and then more piled on top

    3) Clothes had been put away dirty, as they had problems doing the laundry (they had a cleaning person come in but they wouldn't let her do anything)

    4) There were moths flying around everywhere.... DH finally discovered two homemade bean bags shoved underneath some boxes under the desk that Mom used to heat up in the microwave. They were full of moth larvae and moth poop.

    5) The layer of dust and grime was at least an inch thick in places. Cobwebs hung off all the walls. No wonder Dad complained to his doctor about waking up with a sore throat! I cleaned as best I could with a wet towel, then insisted that he let the cleaning lady in to dust and vacuum.

    6) There were boxes under the bed with important papers in them. Those had TWO inches of dust on them!

    7) We cleaned Mom's stuff out of the bedroom, and made room for Dad to get his things off the chairs and doorways. He can barely see, and has trouble walking, yet navigates the house through tiny narrow paths. We made a nice wide space for him. All he has to do is put his clothes away.

    8) Oh, wait, he STILL doesn't have enough room. He showed me his dresser drawers - probably 50 pairs of pajamas crammed in one, maybe 200 pairs of socks in another, and so on. I'll bet there are things from the 1930's he still has.

    It makes me sad that he is living in such filth. But he is very sound of mind, and would never EVER let anyone in like they do on the Hoarders show. All we can do is clean a little bit every time we go over there. There are two rooms that are totally un-navigatable, if that's a word. 

    All we need to do is go through and find the important things. The good news is that the oldest SIL (the hoarder) wants the house after Dad passes, and SHE can take care of getting rid of the piles of trash and cleaning the interior.

    I am so glad I watch Hoarders. It is helping me during those times when I just want to light a match and toss it.

  • Wren44
    Wren44 Member Posts: 8,585
    edited May 2014

    Blessings, I think you're fooling yourself if you think the oldest SIL will actually get rid of anything.

    When my Mom (actually grandmother who raised me) was dying, she told me to go thru a trunk in the garage. It contained clothing worn by my mother who died in 1945. They gave me a necklace of coins that were in her purse when she went to the hospital. I haven't worn it. Mom not only had my wedding dress from 1959 but a big net heart filled with the bows from my wedding shower under her bed.

  • Blessings2011
    Blessings2011 Member Posts: 4,276
    edited May 2014

    Oh, Wren - you are absolutely right- I said that wrong!

    What I meant to say was that we have now been relieved of the responsibility of cleaning out the house when FIL passes on.

    We'll probably have an estate sale company come in and sort things out and organize crap into piles foe sale. Hopefully we will have gotten all the "treasures" located in that process. Pretty much every dime of any proceeds go into the Family Trust, which will be split four ways.

    The house will be appraised at current comps, and sold to SIL depending on how much it is, and how much her share of the estate is. She is willing to kick in extra to make sure she gets the house. None of the rest of us want it.

    My point - that I didn't make very well - was that we can just leave the piles of crap and filth in the house for SIL to deal with. She may not even notice how bad off the place is. That makes things much easier for DH and me. One less thing to worry about...

  • FairyDogMother
    FairyDogMother Member Posts: 253
    edited May 2014

    Minus Two- You are amazing.  Wow!  I wish I would have lost weight on chemo but I gain 20lbs due to all the steroids and benadryl they had to pump in me to keep me doing chemo. 

    Wrenn-Good idea with the folder.

    I was going to work on this today, but my lower back is killing me I guess so my 2 p.m. nap is schedule. 

    I don't know what has gotten in my lately but I"m all about cleaning and getting rid of stuff. 

  • OncoWarrior
    OncoWarrior Member Posts: 5,234
    edited May 2015
  • MinusTwo
    MinusTwo Member Posts: 16,634
    edited May 2014

    I managed to get 8 boxes down from the attic today before my legs gave out.  One of the boxes was towels saved - saved for a ranch I owned w/my ex-husband 20 years ago.  Jeez.  Anyway I washed all those & went through the old towels piled in the garage for spill emergencies & went through the linen closet.  Just got back from taking 53 towels & wash cloths to a guy who works with the city animal shelter.  He is so excited on behalf of the dogs & cats.  

    While I was in the linen closet I pulled out 21 pillow cases.  They never wear out as soon as the sheets do they. But now there's only me, myself & I living here and using the linen - so the 10 pillow cases I kept should be adequate even if DS & DIL come to stay a week.

    Also had boxes of extra sheets in the attic and culled the linen closet for those.  And a box of saved baby clothes.  My son & DIL have been together 13 years and have long said they will not be having children, so what am I saving this stuff for?  The nurse at the oncology center is having another baby 8 years down the road from her last one.  Since she gave everything away, I've washed a bunch of baby things to take her.  And a box labeled "linen & lace" that I haven't dared to open yet.  I know what's in there but can't let the emotions about my Mother's & Grandmother's hand made stuff get me side tracked.

    Now need to tackle the blazers and get back to the socks.

  • Blessings2011
    Blessings2011 Member Posts: 4,276
    edited May 2014
  • Teka
    Teka Member Posts: 10,052
    edited September 2017
  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited May 2014

    Great job Minus Two.  I understand about the lovingly handcrafted linen and lace.  I had literally three trash bags full that came from my parents house, all of which were crocheted by my mother and grandmother.  There were doilies on every piece of furniture in that house, and spares for almost every one of them.  Before we began cleaning out the house, my husband had said that he didn't want any doilies on the furniture.  

    I have taken examples of each of the patterns they used, framed them as the artwork they are, and hung them on the dining room wall.  Everyone who sees them comments on them, I find out who among the friends and relatives really loves and values them, and I can then share with them from the bounty I still have tucked away.  

    A great bonus is that every time I see them hanging on the wall, I remember watching them work on those pieces when I was a little girl and it brings back wonderful memories of a very special time in my life.

  • Wren44
    Wren44 Member Posts: 8,585
    edited May 2014

    Minus Two, Good for you giving those towels to the animal shelter. I volunteer at a shelter and we use towels constantly. We have 2 washers going full time and a huge dryer. 

  • MinusTwo
    MinusTwo Member Posts: 16,634
    edited May 2014

    Pat - thanks for the framing idea.  I'll sort things w/that in mind and save a few pieces.

    Scheduled Salvation Army pick up for 5/20 to keep my momentum going.

  • BUNKIE10
    BUNKIE10 Member Posts: 733
    edited May 2014

    minustwo - Whoo hooo!!!I am staying at my cousins while they redo my plumbing in my house but when I get home I have several boxes of older towels for the animal shelter. 

  • Mandy1313
    Mandy1313 Member Posts: 1,692
    edited May 2014

    Pat: Thank you for the great idea about what to do with the crochet that my grandmother did. It is the only thing I have left from her so I don't want to give it all way.  

  • MinusTwo
    MinusTwo Member Posts: 16,634
    edited May 2014

    Salvation Army picked up another bunch of stuff today - 15 boxes of china, linens, household items, etc. & huge bags of clothes along with several lamps.  The socks became a horror and a major sticking point that tripped up my forward progress for almost a week.  I'd put them all on the bed in the morning and move them to the top of the cedar chest at night.  But i was determined.  Finally gave away 29 pair and put another 20 in zip lock bags out of my drawer.  If I don't need them in a year, it will be easy to tell.  Now I'm working on the purses & the coats.  Taking a break for Herceptin infusion tomorrow and lunch out with my SIL Thursday so I hope I don't lose momentum. 

    Must start on paperwork blizzard before my son comes the middle of June since that's spread all over the kitchen cupboard & table & my desk.  Unfortunately mostly medical stuff so hard to throw away.  But son has promised to participate in a slide show extravaganza and help me weed through 20 boxes of carousels.  Also he will get lots more stuff down from the attic for me that I can't lift or move.  And at age 44 he will laugh at his old cub scout uniform that I found last week.  Happy sorting ladies.

  • Teka
    Teka Member Posts: 10,052
    edited September 2017
  • Mandy1313
    Mandy1313 Member Posts: 1,692
    edited May 2014

    Minus Two that is fantastic!

    Much smaller but I cleaned out a pantry--it had all sorts of old things in it--not so much old food but old batteries, too many flashlights (kept the four that worked best), old baskets etc;. I was so lucky as a friend came over and helped me with the task.  It is a pleasure to look into my neat pantry which still is well stocked, even having thrown out four trash bags of stuff from it.

  • Teka
    Teka Member Posts: 10,052
    edited September 2017
  • BrooksideVT
    BrooksideVT Member Posts: 2,211
    edited May 2014

    Right now, I'm feeling like barring the door if anyone comes.  I've spent hours and hours getting the garden in shape, while everything in the house lies where it falls.  This time between winter and summer is the absolute pits--so much to put away, so much to take out, no way to keep up with it all, and most of it in the front entry  One good thing--there are five Fridays in May, so I'll get paid five times.  Now if only there were more of that kind of clutter!

  • Teka
    Teka Member Posts: 10,052
    edited September 2017
  • Wren44
    Wren44 Member Posts: 8,585
    edited May 2014

    I have winter blankets piled on the spare bed and am trying to find places for all the winter clothes which take up so much more room. Who wants to stay inside and clean when it's nice outside? Not me. It's supposed to be cloudy, cool and rainy this weekend, so perhaps I'll get more done then.

  • Teka
    Teka Member Posts: 10,052
    edited September 2017
  • OncoWarrior
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    edited May 2015

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