Cosmetic things that worked for me - sharing girly stuff
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barbe, wow, green eyes are sooo beautiful and truly more rare than blue or brown. I always thought how I'd love green or blue eyes so I could wear all those different shades of taupe eyeshadows and then make them pop with dark liner and black mascara. Brown eyes seem so...common to me, but maybe that's because I see them every day in the mirror.
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Green eyes ARE fun to play with make-up wise, and men do notice them. I've even been asked if I'm wearing contacts (AS I'm wearing glasses!!). But, they are washed out without make-up just like light blue or light gray are. Brown eyes always look warm and....grounded? solid? I'm not sure what I mean....help someone!!
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Right, brown eyes= full of shit
My brother, sister and dad all have green eyes. Mom and I have the big shit brown ones. Granted I rather have big eyes that small green but I kinda used to what I have so maybe that's why.
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I have rather large green eyes, so I know what you mean. I used to HATE my large eyes, but am so grateful as I got older that I have such great eyelids to play with....
maybe that's why they seem so lost without make-up? Very, very unusual for 3 people in the same family to have green eyes!!! No ONE, not a single person in my extended family has green eyes except me (40+ people)!!! Your situation even beats all Darwin's theories!! Have you guys been studied? Green eyes is a recessive gene, brown is dominant. My Mom had brown eyes and my Dad had gray eyes. -
I saw in my new blue cross policy that wigs for cancer are definately covered
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Barbe 2 of us (3) kids are partially color blind too… the girls are and the boy isn't. Go figure but with our genes it was 50/50 chance.
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Me and both parents have brown eyes. My brother and sister have the same green eyes as our grandma. I wanted the green eyes! They got the blond hair and I got the auburn. Both parents brown hair. Genes are fascinating!
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Mom had brown eyes with red hair (dyed now of course but it was auburn red) Dad has green eyes formerly dark brown hair. Sister dishwater blond with green and brother same color as me with green. Both my mom's father and my dads mom had blue eyes.
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Lago, I have brown eyes and it used to piss me off when I was a teenager that all the songs were about blue-eyed golden-haired girls.
I told my little sister that some day in the future when she throws my wake she has to play Van Morrison's "Brown Eyed Girl" and The Allman Brothers' "Sweet Melissa";)
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Hi all
wow my skin is dry all of a sudden- possibly because we are in the midst of a major drought- I put pure vitamin e oil on my face and it soaks in like a sponge on my forehead- weird.
I have been putting off doing any haircolor since I finished rads but now I need to do something because the salt/pepper ratio is leaning more toward salt. I agree with whoever said women of a "certain age" who have well-hydrated glowing skin look fantastic and healthy. I am trying not to use anything but cream cleansers and only wash my hair a couple times/week and drink a lot of fluids- we shall see
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Mellisa These are just the one s that have brown eyes in the title. Lots of other songs have brown eyes in the lyrics
Dean Martin -That's When I See The Blues (In Your Pretty Brown Eyes)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N7manEQ-XDAFleetwood Mac - Brown Eyes
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OIKkveUcBPcLady Gaga - Brown Eyes
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=crH7R0MjaPYCody Simpson - Pretty Brown Eyes
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EGDlVvIGTZkDestiny's Child - Brown Eyes
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=29_KhM8zn2MCrystal Gayle - Don't you turn my brown eyes blue
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C9lz_yzrGZwAdrian Hood - Brown Eyed Blue
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=upH58FT9Zak -
Van Morrison.....Brown Eyed Girl...it's a classic
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Just caught this in the morning while I was waiting for the tech to show up (I volunteered for a breast cancer study) :
Sugar May Be Linked to Wrinklesand
Why Sugar Is Just As Bad For Your Skin As It Is For Your Waistline The Huffington PostWhat you consume is important too. I know the days I don't drink enough water my skin on my face looks terrible.
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DebDylan, I find this interesting too. There is a very divided camp on facial exercises. Some swear that it is the constant facial movements that cause the wrinkles, while the other camp says that facial exercise is muscle strengthening and helps wrinkles. I have tried the exercises at different times, but like most other things, just didn't keep it up.
One thing I did try, was to have the Acupuncture facelift done while having acupuncture for my Arthritis, I found that to make my skin look fresher and tighter.
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I've had microdermabrasion a few times and I think it contributed to the development of milia. If I had it to do all over again I would not do it. I've had cosmetic work done (2001). Rhinoplasty, fat grafting, lower eyelids, etc.
I don't like Botox at all and don't intend to ever use it again.
I do use a Clarisonic Pro and really like it. When I went through menopause (fairly early - early 40s) in 2003 I developed all kinds of skin problems. I think the Clarisonic has helped somewhat. My face was clearer than it had been in ages during chemo. Oh, the irony...
As far as an at-home mask that's easy and inexpensive to use - I like the aspirin mask (salicylic acid) mixed with Fage yogurt (0% fat). I leave it on for 15-20 minutes.
Also, if someone is offering a facelift for an additional $500 (did I read that number right?) -- wow! That's quite a deal!
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Ohhh, I thought I read something about a facelift for $500 and thought "what a deal!"
Re: fat grafting - the PS did some fat grafting on my face and lips back in 2001. I had my buccal pads removed so it was always kind of hard for me to tell what was what when it was all said and done. Overall, I was happy with the results but I did end up looking quite a bit different because of the nose job.
I had fat grafting with the exchange surgery and once again, it's hard for me to tell what's what. I know where he drew in the lines for fat grafting - - it was drawn to go into the cleavage area but I don't really have cleavage now that the swelling has gone down which is FINE by me. As far as the fat grafting done in 2001 - I'm sure that's long gone. I think the body eventually resorbs it. -
DebDylan (and any others who wear glasses) - you mentioned making a fashion statement with glasses... I think I have about 30 pairs to match every conceivable outfit I might wear.
At Kaiser, my prescription costs over $500 for one pair of glasses. But I get all mine from Zenni Optical - their prices start at $6.95 for a complete pair of glasses! That includes frame and lenses. Bifocals cost a bit more. Add-ons, like anti-scratch or anti-glare coating, cost a few dollars more.
There are a gazillion frames to choose from, and you can quickly narrow it down. If you create an acount, you can even upload your own picture, and "try on" different styles. There is also a spot for "My Favorites" for you to come back to later.
You'll need your glasses prescription details, along with your PD measurement. That's Pupillary Distance, or the distance between the center of your pupils. It should be on your prescription, or you can download a ruler from the site to measure it yourself.
I always measure my most comfortable frames, and use that as a guideline when ordering new ones.
They are made in China, and are sent to you by mail. I was concerned at first, not knowing what I was getting myself into. So I ordered the cheapest pair, and the next time I saw my Optometrist, I gave the glasses to him to check. They were spot-on as far as the prescription was concerned... even with my astigmatism.
This is a great site to get lots of fun, fashionable glasses, or for moms whose kids tend to lose or break their glasses.
The site is very friendly and easy to navigate. There's lots of FAQs to help you get started.
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Debdylan "but won't that make them some in courser?" NO!
That's an old wives tail. I think you're being way to hard on yourself. Yes we all have aged but older doesn't mean you look crappy/terrible. What's wrong with looking your age? I guess it's a problem if you are going after men that are 20-15 years younger than you but I think you need to rethink that. I mean Demi Moore is still hot yet look at what happened to her with Ashton Kutcher. Aging means you are alive. I know my friends with mets are fighting to live to be old and wrinkly. I fear that they won't unless a cure is found.
7 weeks out from chemo… I was still feeling crappy and bitchy. Trust me it will get better and you will look better. Seriously look at my hair timeline. Jump from the left pictures to the middle. Of course I look better now than I did when recovering from chemo. You will too. (and note I'm older now too).
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For one thing, DebDylan, I would cross that eye doctor off your list and get a new one. That is absolutely no way for a doctor to talk to a patient, I don't care if someone's one hundred years old. I'm in my mid 50s, I wear contacts, in fact they are bifocal contacts which I love. I've worn contacts well over 30 years, so I think you should be able to wear them as well.
Secondly, I love how lago says "Aging means you're alive". I see from your signature it's only been about six months since you've been diagnosed. As you move forward, things will get better. With all I've been through since January 2011, I still have days where I feel very attractive. Yet it took awhile after chemo & rads to get there. Aside from just taking care of the physical appearance, I started doing new things, going new places, weeding out the old stuff in my life that was no longer relevant and adding new, fresh things that I wanted to experience. It was like pruning and then regrowth. It sort of happens a little at a time, but always moving forward.
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DebDylan, ha, ha, have you ever heard the saying, "The only thing constant is change." ? Just a little humor there, hope you're not offended. I went through some changes in my appearance in my late 40s prior to bc and it took awhile to adjust. You're looking for your new 'normal'. It is like learning to find your balance while riding a wave. Yes, you will get there.
Be very good to yourself. I mean, be extra special good to yourself. Treat yourself with tender loving kindness and care. Don't be hard on yourself. Chances are, you are more critical of your appearance than anyone else who knows you, so don't get down on yourself.
I also think you can find things that make you feel good and give you a sparkle in your heart. Yes, it can be something external. I searched for a pair of earrings that I really liked and made me feel pretty. I bought a white jean jacket similar to ones I saw other women wear that made them look gorgeous, so I felt gorgeous, too. I dyed my hair in the ombre style, two colors, blonde and then darker underneath, something different. A pretty handbag, a pair of shoes, a new winter coat, a textured, colored scarf with glitter....what you see that gives your heart a lift can be added to improve your appearance, too. I acquired pretty things over time; the shopping for them was part of the process that helped me. It was a lesson in being good to myself.
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Blessings, thanks for the tip about Zenni. I just paid $1200 for glasses, and I couldn't see with any of them, went back to the eye doc and she said my eys or brain wouldn't accept the astigmatism adjustment, so she wrote another script w,out the astigmatism adjustment, and the optician changed them for free. They're better but not perfect. My eyes have gotten SO much worse since chemo. I've tried and could not adjust to either bifocals or contacts. I had heard of Zinni and will start with a cheap pair..
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When I had my astigmatism and picked up my new prescription I told the eye doc that it felt like my eyes were being pulled!!! He said "Good, that means the adjustment is working. Think of it like braces for your eyes." Sure enough, I no longer have an astigmatism!! It might develop again, but for now it's just bifocals.
As for hair growth; when you shave, you cut the hair off at it's fattest mid-point so the blunt edge looks heavier as it grows out. When you wax, it pulls out almost to the root (even better if it pulls the root!) so the hair growing in is softer looking and finer. It's all perception. I do believe ANY hair that is removed comes back with reinforcements!!!
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Just a comment on contacts & dry eye. I have extremely dry eyes (to the point my vision gets blurry & I can't blink it clear). A couple of years ago I told my very excellent eye doc that I would like to try contacts again as they are continually improving them. He said he would not prescribe them for me because I would have been back in his office in two weeks with an eye infection or other troubles and I believe him.
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barbe my astigmatism went away too. I blame it on chemo. Still have to use classes for reading/computer but now I can buy cheapies over the counter. My Ophthalmologist said your lenses change with age so she wasn't that surprised.
My eyes are now very dry especially the left. I had several blood bursts in that eye on chemo. I don't know if the dry eyes are from chemo damage, chemopause or just normal age. I have to put drops in most mornings.
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Deb, interesting take on the different perspectives of wearing a hat. I don't wear them often, but find that when I do, people make better eye contact with me. And I like that.
I don't buy a lot, but I like what I buy. Then I mix and match. I work as a teacher's aide and wear casual dress clothes. I don't make much money, so I don't spend much on clothes. I have five pair of work pants in different colors and various tops and sweaters and I mix and match different outfits all the time.
I have several pairs of earrings that are my favorites and rarely wear any others. A silver pair of hoops, a lovely pair of pearl earrings. I have a pair of pink and red gem earrings that brighten so many outfits that I've even gotten compliments from strangers when I wear them. They were purchased inexpensively from Kohls. I plan to buy a pair of gold hoops one of these days.
There was a thread on another forum about "getting your slap on". It meant getting all dolled up with make-up, and dressing nicely. It's a fun idea when you feel up to it, many of us who still go for treatment like to get our 'slap on' before we go.
Your view of yourself is evolving, so give it time.
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I bet they do! I always heard the phrase "The legs are the last to go!" Maybe get a few other opinions besides just that of an 87 year old woman! lol. I don't worry about the sexy ((actually kind of boring and overrated, imo). I rather prefer to be classy with some personal flair.
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Hey!! Just this year I started wearing black patterned tights with shorter skirts and ankle boots and I just LOVE the look!! In fact, I think I rock the look! I look slimmer as I have great legs, too. I wear a blazer or sweater over a brightly coloured tank or sleeveless top to bring in some zing and cover my breastless chest. I'm 56 this year and don't think it's just a look for younger girls. I think it's flirty and fun and I feel very good wearing them and kind of hip, too. I even got a patent leather pair of ankle boots, too. I have wonderful ankles as well, though they don't show in ankle boots. What happened to ankles anyway? Mine are still chicken skinny, but everyone else seems to have cankles!! (calf/ankles)
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barbe, at the elementary school, the women I work with dress nice in a casual way, and a few wear the tights with boots and a skirt (or dress) and I love the look, too. I don't own a skirt or dress (or boots) but really need to take the time to go out and find at least a pencil skirt for my wardrobe and add some tights & boots. I also usually always wear a pop of color. And I think boots always kick things up a notch.
The other look I love is some kind of feminine apparel, whether it's a lacy shirt and dress pants, or simply a pretty dress and then wear a blue jean jacket over it. [I just bought a blue jean jacket for the first time (since I was a teenager!) last summer.]
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Deb, I don,t know if it's the same thing, but I've Fraxel laser treatment twice on my face, to get rid of precancerous spots, with a side benefit of rejuvenating the skin. No one has ever commented about my facoe looking better!! Down time was only 2-3 days, then lots of flaking and no sun.
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DebDylan if you have great legs flaunt them. Short skirts are fine as long as they are tasteful, not obscene and you have the legs. Legs first to go for me. BTW my husband bought me a Harley Leather Jacket for our anniversary when I was 36/37. (I bought him a nice leather jacket too but not Harley). My mom has been telling me that I'm too old to wear it since I was 40. Still wear it and love it. Husband's jacket looks great on him too.
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