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hmpf....still up....Movie,,,,no worries. I think you were so relaxed in Japan, even though tired, you were stress-free maybe? Makes a huge difference!!!!!! I just have never been able to keep up a hardcore fitness routine like you do...I do believe in foot power though!!!!! I too walk everywhere, everytime I can....or hop on the bike (outside....the indoor bikes make me feel like a hamster)! Liefie, I think I've also had a bit of the "adrenaline-hyper" letdown, post recon surgery. Trying to find that "level in life" after months of anticipation, then surgery, then recovery. Just feeling somewhat "unanchored" which isn't helped by the disaster stuff around here, and the "loss" of my mountain acces. OK, I AM NOW GOING TO BED.....NIGHT MOVIE, NIGHT LIEFIE...ZZZZZzzzzzz!

zzzzz's not working, cause I haven't turned off the computer yet...maybe I should! 

Liefie....we're in this together, ok!!!!! Until we find our "land legs" again, we'll just help each other stay on our feet. WE CAN DO THIS!!!!!!!

Sending you love.....I AM TURNING OFF THE COMPUTER NOW AND GOING TO BED...sigh, after I lube the tummy, lube the gloob, lube the cheek, stretch the arms.....ok, now I'm tired....

Wow - there was a middle of the night party on here! Missed it, since I've been sleeping better lately.



Liefie, enjoy your sons' visit!



Nihahi, sorry to hear you're still having to ice.



I agree with the others, Movie - 26,000 steps is very impressive! Think I may follow your lead and start wearing my pedometer - but it's always depressing to discover how little I actually move through the day with my desk job.



Concerned about my MIL today. She had her nephrectomy yesterday, and they had to do open surgery in order to remove the kidney. She will probably be in hospital for about a week and it will take considerable time to recover. Not sure what's up with DH - have urged him to go down there - at least 3 of his sibs are already there so MIL is not alone. Sounds like he has decided he will, but not sure when. The disadvantage (from my viewpoint) of owning a small plane is that he NEVER makes advanced plans - it drives me crazy!



Stomach was bothering me again yesterday. Think it's getting better over time, but I still get a burning/knawing effect on some days. Think it's a lingering SE of chemo. Still taking Prilosec daily and sometimes Zantac and have mentioned my symptoms to both RO and MO. Fear it could be an ulcer - think I will start documenting how often it flares up.



Looks like it should be a nice weekend here with pleasant temperatures - mid-70's. Looking forward to puttering in the garden. Hope you all have a wonderful weekend, wherever you are.

Oh Edi, that is HORRIBLE news about your friends son in law. My thoughts are with his family at this shockingly sad time.

Congrats on passing your interview for BC Telephone Buddy. I know you will be fantastic at it.

Lol, those night owls must of finally gone to sleep...shhhh we don't want to wake them...LOL......like I can talk, 1am here and I'm WIDE awake still. Just made a cuppa hoping it will relax me a little.....then off to take something for my sinus headache thats been around for a couple of hours and hoped it would go away before bed time !

Caitlin, you have your own plane... funny how you just mentioned your DH doesn't make advanced plans....I think it must be a male thing, my hubby is exactly the same.

Hope your MIL has a speedy recovery and that your DH DOES decide to give you a couple of days notice before he decides to go visit her!

Enjoy your day everybody xx

Edi, that is so bad! So sorry for that poor woman and her kids. . . no words . . . just horrific!

Did sleep eventually. Boys left Edmonton at 4.30 am, and are already in the mountains west of Jasper. So far so good. Another nine hours to the ferry.

Caitlin, sorry to hear about MIL. DH will do the right thing, I'm sure - may be on short notice - lol. Mine is the same. Does not think far ahead, defo a male thing, Traii! He did think ahead this morning though, telling me that he wants to go skiing later, and that I have to tow him. Rest of this week the boys can take turns, and I can get a break. He hardly ever falls, but always worried he will injure himself somehow. I worry too much.

Jennie, so glad you are feeling better - YAYY!!!

Beautiful day here at last. Many boats on the water - schools closed on Friday, so time for summer fun. 

Websister, you seem to have a delicate situation on our hands, but you will handle it with grace, I'm sure. I feel that they could be more considerate towards their DD who just had a baby, but they are sure well-meaning. It should really be up to her, the mother, how she wants to feed her baby. Your DS is in a tight spot, but it will work out eventually. Babies, a source of such joy, can cause a lot of stress much like weddings. Going through a bit of that at the moment re guest list for DS wedding. We're not inviting many people at all, and he is questioning some of our choices. As the in-laws we have to tread lightly, and be very diplomatic. Good luck to you!

Kids just called from Kamloops. They can make the 5 o' clock ferry without exceeding the speed limit. A good thing.

DH found a friend who is towing him as we speak - yayyyy! I just popped a cake in the oven, and went outside to cool down. Yes, it's hot, but we love it!

Hi, hope this finds you all well and enjoying weekend.

Websister, gosh no wonder you can't sleep ! DS must be treading on eggshells with in laws and DIL just needs to feed her baby. Bet they wish you could rescue them and give them space. Hope all resolves itself quickly.

Traii, you too hope you got to sleep eventually. I had a lovely nap this avo so now watching Glastonbury Festival. DH loves Seasick Steve and is glued to TV. Did you get all you needed on your shopping trip ?

Caitlin, hope MIL ok and yes my DH is the same as ALL men never can plan anything ! like living on the edge of a knife.Still have a bit of burning but no gnawing, never thought it would go but six weeks out from chemo it is quite a bit easier. Can't eat Fries or potato chips though and LOVE them. Still get the odd SE even after all this time but someone said it takes about 12 months for chemo to leave your system. As long as it kills everything it should I don't care how long it lasts.

Liefie, Envy you your beautiful lake. Hope boys stay safe. You are going to be eaten out of house and home when they arrive !

Jennie,Hope things improve for you very soon ( HUGS)

Benny, love the fact pidgie changed to another singer, when I think of you I remember Walt Disney's Snow White and how she was surrounded by a band of little animals who gazed at her adoringly as she went about her chores.Lovely story about Diamond being thrilled to see you.

Nihahi, looking forward to making the bread soon. Hope all well with you.

Luvmy, Are you ok ?

Rolling Stones now on Glastonbury, DH mesmerised.

Looking forward to a sunny Sunday hopefully. Peace and love to ALL my sisters. X

I'm thinking the boys must be there now, Liefie and that they are eating well



DS and DIL are coming over to spend the day and possibly the night here tomorrow. They are sounding like things have gone better this afternoon and evening. In laws went shopping and then out for dinner which gave some space.



Edi - so happy about your volunteering



Benny - pictures of you and Diamond on Facebook are beautiful, you look great

Enjoy the testosterone heavy weekend Liefie....so wonderful to see you finding the "silver lining" in life's clouds again!

Websister...bet your day is a special one, with the new little princess. Hope you have somewhere cool....it's gonna be a hot couple days, that's for sure! fyi.....you ooze more wisdom out of your little finger, than most people fling out in a lifetime!!!!!

Traii....thinking of you lots...you are probably on a rollercoaster of emotions. Sending you hugs like you wouldn't believe. 

Edi...world's best volunteer....sorry, kiddo, I have no idea what the Glastonbury festival is?? Sorry to hear that tragic story....life just doens't make sense some times. Will keep that family in my thoughts, along with shedman.

Caitlin, Jennie....you are both sounding like there are more steps forwards now. Wonderful to hear. Hope you have some special celebrations planned for the 4th....celebrate your "independence" from the past difficult months!!!!

Maria, Alive....you probably feel a little less like celebrating....but you'll get there....I think of you both lots, hoping that things are going ok with you both.

You too, Dakota!!!! One heck of a fireworks, OK!!!!!! When do your kids leave for camp????

Movie.....did you forget to turn around....are you still walking???? You're gonna wear those precious feet down to stumps pretty soon!

Benny....did you say your rescue pigeon also tolerates CAT Stevens....or did I imagine that.....something seems wrong with that picture!

Have good days, ladies....I'm gonna sit outside on the balcony with a cup of coffee, before the heat of the day hits.

Love to all

was diagnosed only 2 days back...I'm 27...married...have a huge family history of cancer...basically I have seen only this all my life

was in shock but now ready to fight this...have my awesome husband, my parents and in-laws by my side...

I will fight this

Thank you Carla yet again x

*sneaks into thread*



So this is where you Alberta girls hang out? I found you by dint of stalking Nihahi (no malicious intent, so I hope you're not too spooked?!!)



I'm just looking for a place to hang. I've just finished my weekly taxol, so no longer apply to that thread. I've not started radiation (July22), and really I cannot contribute much to the DIEP thread!



We were not affected by the flood, but its hard not to feel some survivor guilt, and I was longing to do something, although I'm physically limited at present. So I was delighted to be asked to help wash photos!



A friend of a friend was salvaging photos from another friend's basement. She literally had hundreds, all piled into black garbage bags.

The trick is not to let them dry out if possible, but to wash all the mud and slime off so at least they are clean, then we packed them into Ziploc bags and stored them in a freezer!



Apparently this will suspend any further damage until they can be thawed and dried and the family will have time to examine them and hopefully a lot will be saved. Little enough to do, but at least I felt I was helping in a concrete way.



Problem was, after maybe two hours of doing this, my back/trunk just ached, my left arm was starting to swell (uh-oh, can you say lymphedema?) and I had shooting tingly shocks down the front of one shin at each step!



It brings home to me how debilitated I am, and how little I am actually doing in my day to day just now!



Well, .... I guess that's why I am off work! Was feeling a bit of a fraud at times!



I still wish I could do more for the flood effort!

Oh, PS: If anybody's free tomorrow, my chorus is singing at Heritage Park for Canada Day and the new Canadians at the citizenship ceremony! I'm the bald fat one, so if you see me, do say hello!

Nihahi u silly girl the cockroach comes every morning to pick the kids up and brings them home they don't stay away at camp. He would never actually keep them. Not that I want him to I don't know where he lives. I know I have to get a backbone to divorce him. I want a true companion. I also want to get thru my next surgery, which is 7/19. Then I will concentrate on the next phase of my life. I can't live like this anymore !!

ms0.....like the others have said....sorry you're hear, but we welcome you with hugs and understanding. We are of all nationalities, dx, tx, sx, and ages. 

morwenna.....welcome to you too.....EVERYONE is welcome on this thread. We're all so very different and at different stages...there is no "odd one out"....well, the are some "odd ones" here, but we're all "in"!!!!! fyi....I am NOT one the odd ones, contrary to what others might imply. No worries about following me here, takes an awful lot to spook me! I do encourage you to stay "connected" to your other tx threads, though, too.....nothing helps a "newbie" like someone who has gone through it, and come out the other side. We now have 4 of us "locals" on this thread...we really should try for a get together sometime!

Survivors guilt....yep....many Calgarians and area people have it! It won't help anyone though, to do yourself in, so pace yourself, help as you can, but no one would want you to cause your health to suffer. 

Dakota...you're amazing, and very smart to realize there are steps you need to take, and things you need to "get through".....you have an incredible future of happiness ahead of you!

Liefie....sunshine, lake, family.....sounds perfect! Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!

Websister....your place sounds like a perfect haven of peace for your newest grandbaby and her parents. It's hard not to "rock the inlaw" boat, and as it sounds like they are from out of town, they likely really want as much time together with the baby as possible, so it's all understandable, but still tough. 

Hot night here....about to turn on the bbq. Hope all are having a wonderful evening.

ps....movie.....still walking????????

So we have Nihahi, websister, bennymuffins, shoppygirl and myself all from Calgary? I'd be game for a meet up!





I started reading from the beginning of this thread to see what it was all about, and I guess it wad Bennymuffins' thread originally from her diagnosis, and just morphed into a more general "meeting place"?



I take your point about staying connected to old tx threads Nihahi. I still have them on my favourites list actually, and posted today on the Taxol thread. I know how people like to ask "what was your experience of ...... etc"



Websister, the in-laws do sound a tad optimistic of a three day post-partum mum! I'll bet when they gave birth they stayed in hospital for a week!! I should have thought perhaps a take-out meal might have been a better idea than booking a restaurant!



Oh well, "There's nowt so queer as folk!" as they say in the old country!

We had a pleasant evening. Hubby got home from work and opened a cold beer and we went out to sit on the deck, and our next door neighbours had some family visiting, and had cooked a load of ribs on the BBQ, so kindly invited us to join them!

They even let me have the Off Clip-on thingy to keep the mozzies away!