In shock

Thanks Edi, love the pic for me...! totally laughed at the first pick with 'floppy disk' lol....!!

How adorable, your GD's reason she is running/walking for her nana

I had a little 'nana' nap too today...was so good. I feel a little more refreshed.....just crazy because I'll probably be up all night.

Oh before I forget to ask you gorgeous sisters, does anyone have severe neuropathy and take some vitamin or something to help it......?? My arm has me in some serious pain that wakes me up overnight....2 to 3 times and really doing my head in right now.....( I mean it's lucky I get some sleep, but to be woken by this is driving me crazy it has me in tears) !! Its my arm where my nodes were removed.... I know its probably the 'norm' but anyone have any supplements ? any thoughts would be appreciated.

Well got letter in mail yesterday from hospital telling me that I am in 'queue' and noted re surgery since 1st March and I will hear from them when they know the date......** well thanks for that, something  I didn't know already!! arghh....I just hope they don't give me a week to prepare, I know I'm ready but wow, give me a bit more than a week I say at the least!! SO i've gone ahead and made mothers day plans with my mum and aunty. Hoping that it is not the week before 12th May!!

May check in later or talk tomorrow......enjoy your day all.

Carlads, again so proud of you. Your photos were gorgeous on FB, you are gorgeous.

Hope you have a fun filled Saturday ladies,

Hard to keep up with you all!

Liefie, if I can do this diep surgery at almost 63....you will sail through it. Staying busy is a great thing. the mind can take you places you really don't need to go to. I really wasn't stressed about the surgery....I trust my PS, it has been the drudgery of the recovery that has taken it's toll on me. Pain truly hasn't been a huge issue. There's discomfort, but not pain. Quite amazing really, when you think of what they do, but I think the pain is minimized by all the nerves that get disrupted. You are gonna do great!!!!!!! Waiting sucks, no other way to put it.

Traii....bet your heart thumped a bit when you saw the letter from the hospital, then thumped again when you read the "non"news. So sorry to hear about the neuropathy pain. No wonder you don't sleep much. I agree, talk to someone about it, don't just start popping vitamins, even though they may be helpful. 

Edi, you are amazing....this is your last round of chemo, right????? Who is going to make a cake for you?????

hugs to everyone else (((((((X))))))))

Alive4Five, we're sorry that you're dealing with this, but you've definitely found the right place. Feel free to vent as much as you like - it will get better when you have your treatment plan underway. In the meantime, keep in mind that treatments have come a LONG way since your mother's diagnosis in 1995!

• The Mods

Just popping in to say g'night.....went to a British friend's wedding(she's from Wales) and she warned me that British weddings are first class......and it was...I was severely underdressed, but had a pass from her due to DIEP surgery aftermath.



Edi, after seeing your nephew's wedding venue ( where is it, and which National Trust estate is it?) which is positively stunning, by the way, I am convinced that my friend Helen was not exaggerating one bit! Anyway, it was a fun afternoon/evening.....AS usual, your pics take the "cake".... The computer one looks vaguely "familiar"....my DH and I are seriously computer-challenged!!!!!



Liefie, I understand why you are taking time putting this all together......your dr. Sounds very conscientious and caring.....you are in good hands! Like Nihahi says-you will do great!



Nihahi-the boredom IS enough to drive a person stark raving, for sure! I was unpleasantly unprepared and ended up watching WAY too much TV.......I literally could not focus for very long, so reading anything very deep was out of the question, and the nights were......Hell........not b/c of pain, but due to insomnia.....I would dread nighttime. However, you see how well I have recovered . I am as crazy as ever!



Traii......I HOPE the hospital stops jerking you around and schedules you....totally unfair to expect you to jump with a week's notice........... Not an easy thing to do when you have a young child! Sending positive vibes your way-also hope you get neuropathy sorted out....that is a tough thing to deal with. :-(



Alive-this is the neatest group! Love, love ,love these awesome women- they are lifesavers and are here when you need to bitch...and believe me, we ALL need to do that on occasion......I only wish we could all meet in person.......they have made my post/cancer diagnosis life much, much richer. Welcome-even though this is the club none of us want to join......



Everyone....xo



Namaste

HI fellow duckies from across the pond and dear Traii at the other end of te earth.
Stayed in bed again !!Gosh it does make a difference feel almost " normal "
Getting new doors through to " sun room " lol fitted today. May pop to airport and jump on a plane to see you sisters because as you know if it goes the same as usual disaster will strike !!
Had the best day in weeks with GD yesterday, she is the best medicine ever. We went to pub I used to work in and she had sausage,chips and peas with gravy. Edi's burning pipes have kicked in so ordered veg soup, looked delicious took one spoonful and nearly passed out !! Think flippin chef had dropped whole jar of pepper in there, it overtook the flavour completely. Tried to eat more as GD gazed at me, Closed my eyes at one point as pain was grim when I opened them she was gone !! Then felt tiny arms around me and soft kisses on my cheek, God was sooo good when he sent her to this earth.
Jumpe  in car to  shops and we parked near my Bingo pub, in we go for pot of  lovely tea and diet coke ( rare treat ) sat in sun on big squishy sofa and she chatted away like a little old lady. Txt ED and told her we were on a pub crawl lol.
GD insisted on stick on Ruby stones for earrings then informed ED Nana had got her ears pierced !! little tinker.

Traii, Glad pic made you laugh, we need laughter like we need air to breathe.
Neuropathy !! poor love, hope you can get respite, like liefie says contact someone for help you have enough stress with the flippin hossie messing you about.
They better not schedule near Mothers day or the sisters will come and kick some ass.
Hope you having fun in the sun with DS and DH today, did Mum and Dad have a good holiday ? xx

Liefie, Edi naughty !! I don't think so I was like a vestle virgin until mooseballs came into play lol.
By the time you get to the wedding you will have a gorgeous figure, hopefully with nice flat tummy. Mine expanding slightly due to better food intake ( most of the time ) so hold in pants may be needed.
You stay busy, will soon be on road to recovery DD dor 10 days will be soooo good for you.
Hope funeral went ok, xx

Nihahi, I can't have a cake unless sugar free but may nibble a cookie. Excited that this part nearly done and can't believe how fast it has gone. Sharing with fellow Warrior Sisters has helped beyond belief.
Hope you nearly upright and feeling better, so lovely that you don't have pain at least xx

Alive, your post made me weep, shame we are too far away for real hugs but big cyber one on way to you.
You cry, scream, swear like a trooper we have all done it, you will laugh again I promise but right now is the sxxxxy bit. The BC bitch may be lurking but is NO match for the warrior sisters,
Mods are correct things have changed soooo much since your Mom's diagnosis. I have met so many ladies with the most horrendous diagnosis who are well and happy due to amazing treatments.
Don't beat yourself up about not going to Docs either, I waited three months thinking it was just another benign lump which i was prone to. Main thing is you DID go and they will guide you through your journey next week.
We will all be in your pockets when you go to hospital, please let us know how you get on xx

Movie, venue is swish isn't it ? It is Castle Howard Yorkshire. Our dear Queen stays there when she is in the area. You can Google all the pictures.We are all nervous wrecks as we are a pretty normal family and this is sooo lush. My nephew is marrying into a different kind of family and he bride will only settle for the very best.
If you ever saw Brideshead revisited it was filmed there.
So glad you can't focus on things too, felt guilty that can't read any of the lovely books people keep handing me. Even magazines sit in rack unopened.
Namaste dear sister xx

Maria, hope you are ok, xx

Dakota, hope chicks havent made you do too much this weekend xx

All sisters xx

Hi girlies -

Welcome alive. I have to go back and read but wanted to shout a quick welcome to alive. U can do this!!! Vent away, laugh and cry with us we are here for u !!!!

Edi love the pictures!!!

I have to go to soccer will check in later !!!

giggle for the day xx

Hi girls,

For some reason I've been awake since 3.30 am. Finally got up an hour later, made coffee, and started cooking. Basil chicken, baked yam, peas and a green salad. We're having a (single) friend over for lunch, and everything is done. So I can quickly go to yoga which I missed this week, and be back in time for a quick shower before he arrives. The early bird catches the worm, but this birdie will probably pass out soon after lunch today. . . zzzzzzzz. DH can entertain the guest for the afternoon.

Edi, I take responsibility for the mooseballs, but there's this person called Nihahi who also had something to do with this saga - lol. That wedding sounds so gorgeous! A year ago we were planning DD's big day which took place in July. There was some headbutting of course, but overall it was such fun. It kept me going through chemo and rads, which ended the day after the wedding. Funeral went well. One of the deceased lady's brothers and his wife sang a song accompanied on the organ by another brother. These people are all well into their eighties (!!), and it brought tears to my eyes watching them. They wanted to do this for their sister, and obviously are a close family.

Maria, just to add to what Traii said re neuropathy. Some chemo drugs can really bring it on, especially the taxanes like Taxol and Taxotere. It can cause peripheral damage to nerves in the fingers and toes. When you get there, we'll tell you how to prevent it by icing your hands and feet. Vit. B aids in repairing the nerve endings - ask your onc if you can take it during chemo.

Dakota, enjoy the soccer!

Movie, if you see my PS in the street, you will guess that she does modelling for a living. She is pretty, tall, slim, blonde, dresses beautifully, and is just a gorgeous woman. On top of that she is warm, kind, caring, very good at what she does, and takes no chances. She also did extra training at MD Anderson. Yes, I'm in very good hands. That helps a lot!

Traii, enjoy the shopping, the markets, the sun. One of these days you will not be able to go out so much. How many kicks do we need to deliver before they will schedule your surgery? Your PS may soon find himself facing an angry mob of women made up of all nationalities if something does not happen soon!

DD's husband put an ad on Kijiji last weekend, just for the heck of it, and sold DD's chickens with new coop and all for a 100% profit within one day - lol. Then he forgot to take the ad off Kijiji, and now he's got an order for another chicken coop - LOL. DD not too happy that she so promptly lost her chickens, but still finds it funny. Her DH may be onto something big . . . hahahaaa.

Those of you I did not talk to, have a very good Sunday with minimal SE's! Hugs to all!

Again with the mooseballs???? I just don't understand how my name keeps getting attached to mischief???? Edi, vestal virgin my a**, you're as warped as the rest of us!!!!!

Alive...you will just waste energy with the guilt trips....however, we all took those trips ourselves, so we do understand. Your goal now, like Traii says, is to put on the big girl pants, and keep looking forward. We are right behind you, and if those pants have lots of pockets, we'll be jumping in to stay close. Everyone is different, every tx regime is different, we'll help you as much as we can. Swear, shout, cry, anger....get out here, we "get it". There's always a chance you'll sail through this like a champ. Keep trying to think positive thoughts, whenever you can. People like our Dakota, not only thumbed her nose at chemo side effects, she "righted her world" at the same time! You will find out you are an amazing and strong woman, and you have many supporters here on this thread.

Movie...I just love your craziness. Insomnia sucks, big time, doesn't it. Last night I woke up at 2am, couldn't get back to sleep for hours. I thought as I had "upped" my activity yesterday, I'd sleep like a log....nope.....just felt like one! Just got up from a 2 hour nap, that was meant to be just a short "lie down" after a morning of doing things and a walk.....hope that doesn't screw me up for sleeping tonight, but I was so exhausted, I just had to rest.

Marie....so glad you had a good time "on the town". Sounds like you doing well.

Traii...I'm certainly not discounting the Vit B, just think your docs should know what's going on, and maybe they can offer something in addition to the Vit. Be sure to tell them that it is severe enough to wake you up. Are you still dealing with the lymphadema too? I'm gonna dig out my ski poles, and add that "prod" to the kicks that Liefie is doing to the scheduler......This will be the week you get your date......RIGHT!!!!!!!!

Edi...please tell us that wrinkly butt isn't the poor victim to be installing the new doors!!!!! Maybe you could sneak some ativan into hubby's morning tea, to keep him under control????

Liefie....your "date" is getting closer. You will do wonderfully, and you have done everything possible to get yourself ready for success. 

Caitlin, Carla, Websister, hugs to all.

Dakota, your kids are sure lucky to have you for a mom! You find such obvious pleasure in supporting them at their sport and games, and enjoying it too. They will always have precious memories of that, and you are setting such a good example. I did the same when my kids were young, and always enjoyed watching and supporting them in every way, whether they were good or bad at what they were doing. Important thing is to be there for them, and make them feel loved no matter what. And thanks, I did get a good night's sleep last night, and feel refreshed this morning.

Nihahi, see on the DIEP thread you are walking outside already - good for you! Soon you will be back on your beloved mountain trails, photographing bald eagles again. As for the mooseballs, I'm going to see if I have any moosemeat left in the freezer - time for those balls again. Last time the dog got the majority; will have to do better this time. The saga continues - lol. Thanks for your encouragement too! DIEP is 3 weeks from tomorrow, and my job is to exercise every day to be as strong/fit as I can be by then.

Edi, I don't agree with Nihahi at all that you are not a vestal virgin. And to call you warped? How can she say that? She can just look at your latest picture, and know how wrong she is . . . hahahaaaa!

Traii, maybe we should begin to think in terms of a Tazer to shock that PS into action? Kicks and skipoles are not working . . . lol. Jokes aside, I sincerely hope it happens for you this week. HUGS!!!

Maria and Alive, as our newest members I want to wish you the best for all the appointments, tests, and decisions that are on your plates right now. Just take your time, breathe, and take it one day at a time. Don't worry about tomorrow; it will be here soon enough. Just live for this day, and make the best of it. Big hugs to you both!

Okay, it's Monday morning, and I'm off to the gym. Yesterday the friend we had for lunch came bearing a tray of ricotta-lemon cupcakes that he made himself. Yours truly promptly polished off 3, yes THREE, of them. And then had dessert too. But it's no big deal, not beating myself up any more. Just have to work harder today, that's all. Weather here beautiful again after rainy weekend. DH so antsy, because he wants to be gardening over weekends when he is free, but so far it has rained every weekend. I'm sure it's planned that way just to annoy him - lol.

Everybody else, wishing you a good week!

Hello again to all! I am so thankful to ALL of you who responded! I sure needed that  I think I am going to like it here with my new-found sisterhood! You all are the band-aid on my wounded spirit right now, and that means alot to me to be able to have you! Thank You!

scouser47- Your cartoons are TOO funny! LOL Thx, I needed that! 

Anywhoo, tomorrow is D-Day. Will know more about the ugly details. Hope I can sleep tonight, I'm a nervous wreck. The 'not knowing' how bad this is going to be...or not be.

Will keep all posted! Prayers Please! Thank You again ladies..(ahem)...sisters!  

Hello sisters I hope everyones Monday was Grand.

Dakota you sound like me 4 years ago mine was football,gymnastics and baseball. Treasure these days they grow up and some how you miss all the running around.

Liefie I'm so sorry you are having so much pain and it is keeping you up. I know I would give anything to sleep on my right side again.

Alive I hope everything went well at your Apt today.

Weather here in Denver is beautiful today but they are saying snow again weds. I think mother nature is a bit mixed up this year.

Hello Bellies........been a full day for me today......hit the gym at 7 am and biked for 25 minutes, then graduated to the treadmill for a 45 minute walk at 3 1/2 mph and 1750 feet elevation gain....(trying to keep up with all of Nihahi's pre-DIEP hiking.... ) then I was on my feet all day.....exhausted!!



I promise to post more tomorrow-struggling to stay awake...... (((Hugs))) to all!



XO

Namaste and God bless -Jackie

CONGRATULATIONS EDI ON completing your treatments. So proud of you cyber mummy. You put your big girlie pants on fought off Johnny Cash and conquered ;-)

May today be the start of bigger and better things ahead with a happy and healthy future.♥♥

well.....first time this has happened to me....wrote a nice message, hit submit...vanished! Oh well, I remember Edi threatening to toss her laptop, so guess it happens to all of us. anyway........

Edi....MAJOR HAPPY DANCE FOR YOU.......CELEBRATION TIME FOR SURE.....I have no doubts that Sergei is smiling! You have reached such a huge milestone, and you did it with courage, humour and positivity. You should know what a source of strength you have been for so many of us. It is truly an honor to have been part of your journey....Please don't ever leave us!!!

Alive....thinking of you. It's a tough place you're at now, but you can get through it. Sending hugs your way(((x))))

Movie...thanks for the vibes, they're working!!!! I massaged the heck out of my hypersensitive arm yesterday, and although it felt horrible doing it, I think it helped. Didn't wake me during the night, and feels a bit better today. Too cold outside for a walk, (-16 windchill) and could be some icy patches, so gonna hit the condo gym today. No worries about keeping up with me...you're the role model, girl!!!! I know you're apprehensive about your PS appointment tomorrow. Surely you can have some input on the timing of things???? I don't know about you, but I am most definitely not interested in all the lipo, re-doing of incisions, etc. that some ladies plan for their Stage 2's. NOT INTERESTED!!!!!!!  I just want to get nips, maybe a little tweaking for symmetry if needed, then put this all behind me. 

Traii...easier said than done, I know, but try not to focus on "the date"....make little weekly goals, then for sure, the letter will come, when it's unexpected and inconvenient!!!!! Enjoy this time with your little one. Any advice on the neuropathy topic????? I'll trade you rain for our snow, just tell me where to mail it!!!!

Marie....did Denver get this weather too? Denver and Calgary often seem to get similar weather, as we're pretty close to each other in weather patterns because of the mountains.

Liefie....keep busy girl....it'll only help you on the flip side!!!

Hugs to all.....hope this time I don't lose the post!