I say yes, you say no, OR People are Strange
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((((((((((3monst)))))))))) The Virg got caught. Cross dresser?

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Don't even ask!

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Virg: Are you a dog or a cat?
Lilah: Wouldn't you like to know!

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Oh, Virgil! Hahahahaha!
Mary
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Thank you, Virgil, for the best laugh of the day!!!
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Now for an adorability via video. I never share or watch YouTube, but this is special:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=endscreen&v=HB9RXjXoI7c&NR=1
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So precious, Athena. But definitely a "do not try this at home."

Mary
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Ohhhhhh Athena, that was adorable. Thx
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I used to work for Nordstrom and when they sent me to travel I would always try to get Seattle.
I loved Pike Street Market. It was so fun bopping around there when I had time off.
I would love to take my kids there sometime...
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I LOVED LOVED LOVED the video of the lion with her cubs, especially the very last scene where they "fell asleep" - just perfect.
Blue, your little ones are hysterical, just the BEST!
I live in a space too small for anyone but me, BUT, this am waking up, I heard a little "rustling" in the very tall jerusalem artichokes/sun chokes ( can't get rid of them, so have just let them take over the garden next to my bedroom window) a male INDIGO BUNTING munching on bugs in the leaves. The chokes are more than 6 feet tall, bugs seem to love them, and the birds love the bugs. There was a male goldfinch on a lower leaf. Just amazing...hard to believe these colors are in nature.
Hope eveyone has a good, HEALTHY day.
eta - knowing how much I love birds, a friend sent this to me, don't know that it's as cute as Athena's - but it inspires me when people care this much about living creatures:http://vimeo.com/15184546
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What a GREAT video, Athena.
Yup, hubby is definitely a keeper.
Hope you have a wedding completely free of pain, Blue.3monst, sorry you're having mom problems. I had problems with my mom - many of which I wasn't even aware of until after she died and left me a really nasty letter. She took avoidance to extremes.... Unfortunately, I also have problems with my daughter. I'm completely unsure if that is my issue or hers - but I will say that I've done the best I can at "fixing" things, and she seems to be offended no matter what I do or don't do, so I've pretty much given up at this point.

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Blue .. Virg and Lilah are cracking me up! I miss those cute little puppies!
Rosemary .. Wanted to wish you a very happy birthday today ... and many more to come.
hugs,
Bren
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Blue, so hoping you get the pain under control! Alexandria, wishing you a good resolution also!
I had a good relationship with my mom, but have the sibling from hell. Seems like there's always (at least) one in a family. My relationship with daughters has been up and down, back and forth. Right now things are good. Part of it was just them growing up. My DH of almost 21 years is my rock. Don't know how I would have coped with this disease without him. But, marriage IS a challenge. It takes a lot of work and committment, or it won't succeed. I think it is human nature to take out our frustrations on those closest to us, particularly the spouse. We subconsciously think these relationships are "safe" because they are bound by contract. Of course that is a foolhardy assumption. We have to nurture and protect, to the best of our abilities, these treasured bonds.
Loved the heartwarming videos, Athena!
Everybody have a great day!
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I loved the videos. The last shot of the lion and the man sleeping is utterly sweet. And the eagle's prosthetic beak made me cry.
I can relate to the mother daughter discussion. Sheesh...why does it have to be so d$%^# difficult? My mother and I stopped speaking months before her death. She never resolved her issues. I resolved mine on my end on my own in my own way... I struggle and hope that my daughter and I find a better way. I hope you all do, too...
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My daughter invited my husband and I over to her and her boyfriend's apartment for dinner tonight! That may not sound like much to people who have wonderful mother/daughter relationships, but this is HUGE for us. Of course, my husband's first thought was, "What's wrong with her car?" and my first thought was, "Is she selling Amway?" LOL
I think she just wants to have us over. I think she is growing up. We've had a very rocky relationship since she was about 11, and she's 26 now. Some of those years were hell, but it's been pretty smooth for a couple of years now.Mary
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Glad to hear that some of you have worked out the issues with both parents and children. Unfortunately, I'm fairly hard-headed, and I think I bred true
. My daughter has a head of stone. I thought we were beginning to work our way through things, but then I got cancer. Pretty much if it isn't about her it doesn't exist, so for some reason - which of course she won't communicate with me - she is no longer speaking to me - again. I spent a lot of time very broken up about it, but having cancer does make one realize that there is more to life than your children's angst - regardless of their age. Since she is nudging up on 40 maybe one of these days she'll make a similar realization - but maybe not. Whatever happens, I hope the best for her and wish her a happy life. -
Oh, Gardengumby-your daughter sounds a lot like mine, except that when I first found out I had cancer, she was very kind. Then, once she figured out I wasn't going to die after all(at least not then) it was back to normal. She still speaks to me, but my initial reaction when she calls me is"What's wrong now? What does she want?" She is extremely strong-willed and self-centered.
Mary
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Mary, she was kind at first - but then when I didn't follow her ideas about what I should do (completely forego "normal" treatment and put myself in the hands of a "natural" doctor who is "known" to "cure cancer"). I'm not averse to some natural adjunct therapy, and in fact take a buttload of supplements. But I wasn't about to simply turn myself over to someone that in my more lucid moments I would refer to as a quack. Well, things went downhill fairly rapidly (again) after that.... Of course, it probably didn't help when I called to let her know what I thought was the good news that I didn't test positive for either of the BRCA genes. Her response was that she wasn't concerned as she wasn't going to get cancer because she took care of herself. My response could probably have been slightly better phrased than it was - I honestly don't remember 'zactly what I said, but I didn't exactly treat my poor bod badly either... ahhhh well, my sister's response was basically the same as hers. Though when our mother got BC, she said "well, I guess I'm next". Who knows, maybe she (my sister) was jealous - stranger things have happened in my family....
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Mary - Amway
You're so funny. Well, if it IS Amway, I'll buy something from you, just to keep the relationship going
Gardengumby - I don' think there's anything in a relationship more painful than what I call "the cut off" - it was present all my childhood, and I loathed it. As I got older, and just "left" emotionally, I began to compare it to "communication with a gun" - do what I tell you, or I'll shoot ( cut you off.) Life is too short to subject anyone to that. Sorry it has caused pain in your life, and hope your changed expectations will lead, eventually, to possible healing.
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Wow, gardengumby. Who need enemies, as they say. So sorry that your family appeared unable to put their own interests aside in your time of need.
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Sunflowers - that was my Mom's favorite way of control - if you didn't do what she wanted - well, then you were simply ignored. I don't know how/why my daughter got it/caught it, as I have NEVER ignored someone I was PO'd at. Maybe it's genetic..

Athena, my hubby has been my rock and my son as well. The rest of the family - well, not so much. It's OK, though. I've been my father's daughter and both of us were/are quite the loners. I always thought it was my Mom's fault that he was so lonely, but now - seeing my own self - I can see that I don't draw people to me. My husband says that I come across as very self-sufficient so other people feel they are not necessary to me. Even if I knew how to change myself enough that people didn't get that impression, I'm not exactly sure I could - as I really am rather self-sufficient, and honestly don't depend on others all that much for most things - other than my husband

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gardengumby, I've been told the same (that I come across as standoffish). I don't know what it is, either, but I'm also fairly self-sufficient and not a social butterfly, so whatever. I stayed home and read today. It might be genetic; neither of my parents socialized much at all, and both of my brothers are homebodies. My sister's social life revolves around her church, so... We're not antisocial, fairly friendly, in fact - we just don't seek out the company of others daily.
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Saw this on Facebook and loved it.
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gardengumby, riley - I HEAR you both. It tooks me years to appreciate how much I am happy living a more "introverted" life. Interesting book: The Intovert's Advantage, can;t remember the author. Also one of my favorite books by Anthony Storr: On Solitude. Think it has something to do with age too, tho I was always more self sufficient than most of the people I knew - used to be called "selfish" for it. Duh. Being happy with mself is selfish? Oh, families can be very interesting places to grow up in

One of my MOST favorite authors was Janet Frame. If anyone ever saw the movie An Angel at My Table, that was from the 2nd book of Frame's autobiography. She was from New Zealand, and when told she "should mix more" - she answered, "what do they think I am, a pudding?"
Think one of the nicest parts of getting older, is understanding, ourselves, and hopefully, others.
Riley - when do you move??????
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Aug. 28th!! I can't wait.
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WOW - that's only 12 days! Happy moving...can't wait to see your interior deorating. SUCH FUN! You really, REALLY deserve this -
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riley, I think the pressure is on you for PICTURES of your new apartment! :-)
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As soon as I have any to share, you'll see them. In the meantime, another funny pic I saw on Facebook. It's just a little anatomy joke.
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Riley, that's hilarious!
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Riley - so darn funny! I love it!
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