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I slept quite well last night. The swelling is going down. I think my AND incision is more sensitive because since the swelling has gone down it doesn't feel quite as numb. The incision where they took out my port is oozing a little. The is a little pit where the port was and there must be a little fluid gathering there. It is probably good that it is draining.
I expect my second surgery to be in a couple of weeks. I just want to get it done and to start rads. I will know more when I see my BS on Monday. -
Good morning
I'm glad I checked in this morning.
As with all of you that are just starting the chemo part I am feeling apprehensive and like I'd rather be doing almost anything else. I'm so glad that I am not alone.
Tpolychron - I have taken out my pathology reports so many times to make sure it was my name and that the core biopsy results matched the surgical pathology results. It does seem so unreal.
Thank you for all the wishes for a clean scan of my spleen this a.m., much appreciated, I'll be leaving soon for that then I'm having lunch with a group of my co-workers followed by an appointment with a wholistic GP that specializes in oncology, looking forward to what she might have to offer.
Also thanks to all for sharing their chemo experiences, it does help, I also am wig, scarf and hat shopping - so far haven't been impressed with the wigs I've tried on, I think I look like I am in drag - hope it gets better
I will be having my port inserted on August 2nd at 0930 - Tazzy, I will definitely be thinking of you that day
Following the port insertion we are going to prepare to leave for our vacation. We are heading west to British Columbia, from there we will be going south to Washington, lake area. Very much looking forward to that before chemo starts August 13th.
Jpmomof3 - you've had a lot to deal with this week, I hope you are able to put it aside for a few days this weekend and just heal and enjoy your family.
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Websister...good luck today!!! I laughed when you said you felt like you were in drag! I felt like I too was in drag or like I was in disguise getting ready for the show cheaters!
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Websister-Let us know how the port insert go, I will most likely need that done for my herceptin even though I might not be doing chemo. I'm sure you will enjoy your vacation.
Junaubugg-I'm really gald that you finally came to a decision on doing chemo and with a positive mind, you will get through it. I'm still undecided but most likely I will not be doing chemo and will go on tamoxifen for 5 years and Herceptin for 1 year. We need each other so much, all of us in this thread. Our ups and downs and the roller coaster ride! Keep us posted, I can't give you advice on how to get through chemo but I'm here for you when you need to rant! Have you gone on Tamoxifen yet? If so how are you handling it?
2FriedEggs-Thanks for googling for info for me and others like me. It is a really crap shot and I feel like I'm back in limbo, I felt like that waiting on surgery, now I'm waiting to decide if to do chemo. All studies are so contradictory to each other, while one study will say something is good while another will say that same thing is bad. Don't know what to believe when it comes to this f&*^ing cancer. Hope I could make a final decision soon.
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cinnykay~
Big hugs. Got my dx on July 16, waiting for brca to come back before my plan -
ARGGGGH.
There I was sailing along, recovering from rads and doing PT for the LE. Then I noticed a red spot at 6 o'clock on my right breast (my cancer was at 9 o'clock) the next morning, Monday, it was a lot bigger so I called the RO. He was out of the office, so they sent me to my PCP's office. I got in to see the PA Monday afternoon. She thought it was a bite, or perhaps a clogged pore. Gave me an RX for an antibiotic, told me to use an antifungle ointment and told me to come back Friday (today)
PA says it looks better, should continue to improve, switch from the antifungle to the antibiotic, because it looks like the yeast infection has cleared up... Fine.
Then, she says, when you get the infection cleared up, we'll probably want to schedule surgery to have that cyst removed. Cyst? What Cyst? Oh you have a good sized cyst in the middle of that infection. It may drain and go away, but probably not, and once they start getting infected, they tend to keep getting infected, especially when you have LE and radiation damage.
I'm usually pretty stoic, but I just about burst into tears. I realize this is a simple procedure, but I'm tired of any procedures.
Thanks for letting me vent.
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cindyl - so sorry to hear all that. Sending you big giant hugs!
I have a question for anyone who had mastectomy and TEs (and maybe lymph node removal). I've been making good progress on my exercises every day - moving up my target tape markings for my wall climbs. Today - after yesterday's fills - I barely come close to reaching my target tape markings, especially in my left arm where my nodes were removed. Anyone else experience setbacks like this after TE fills? Thanks
Hope you're all feeling well today!
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Cindyl, sorry to hear about that cyst, isn't this ride all full of big and little unpleasant bumps? You will get over this bump too, as much as it sucks. This is nothing compared to what you have been through already. Hugs!
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Hey Dakota, You might just be my twin! I was dx on same day as you, and looks like with something pretty similar. Funny how I felt a twinge of joy about that. Not THAT, surely!! But if it's really true, I am so relieved not to be alone.
So far I'm waiting for my first mri on Monday. Wednesday if all goes well, I'll find more out. Waiting, waiting, waiting! It's a great way practice being in the moment.
What have you found out about what's next for you?
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Hi gang, wanted to post update on this site too...went to BS today after lumpectomy last Friday. Tumor removed was 1.5cm vs 1cm they said at biopsy. Margins were 2mm except for 1 area of 1mm but BS said no more surgery needed. Best of all nada in the lymph node taken. So now comes Oncotype test to determine if chemo would help or not. That takes several weeks for results so i sit in wait until first appt with MO on Aug 21st. Chemo would come before radiation if needed. So time to sit and wait...which is not the course for me as I had surgery within 8 days of dx. Dr. said the wait time is nothing to worry about...but mentally I just want to keep moving forward and fast! Hugs to all! Aruba
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Yeah. I know. It's the cyst that broke the camels back though.
I hate to think how I'll react if I have a real setback.
And of course I'm sitting here wondering if the PA knows what she's talking about. She's just a kid, you know... I asked her to make sure to fax everything over to my RO, I'll be calling his office first thing next week to make sure he agrees it's just a cyst that's nothing to worry about because of course, my mind has conjured up all sorts of dark ideas.
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Cindyl-sorry to hear about your cyst and hope everything turns out OK!
Aruba-Waiting is the worst part in this whole roller coaster ride, its like you're in limbo! You will soon get a plan of treatment and feel better!
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Long day, much to report. Homeopathic Dr. Visit, and discussion of prep for Crohns Disease management.... Update all tomorrow, but hugs and best wishes and prayers.
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Cindyl...I went to the dr in June and said I don't feel good and my breast felt weird. The dr wasn't in so I saw the PA. She gave me a breast exam and told me I had a cyst. Go to the hospital to get it drained. I went to the hospital, but the nurse said lets do a mammogram. And that started this process. I'm not saying this story to scare you, but Perhaps you should go get a second opinion. Make sure it's a cyst. And get it drained. I want you to feel better!!!!
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Tpolychron-once you start treatments your mindset does get better. I agree with jpmom that you know you are actually doing something to kill the cancer. The side effects are not pleasant but you get through them because you know you have to to fight the nasty cancer. I was also worried about the Taxol but it wasn't that bad. I got body aches with the Taxol but wasn't as sick. My legs just hurt all the time. We are all brave I think for standing up to this nasty disease and not letting it get the best of us! You will do just fine.
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Happy raccoon ~
That is too funny, since there is not a heck of alot to laugh about while we recall going thru this great stage of lives. Nice to know ubr out there. !! I also go for an MRI, on Monday. I don't know if I post this before but I am going to wait in my BRCA to come back to make my ultimate decision. I am leaning towards bmx, number of reasons 1. Sister had bc 2 x in same side, 2. I am such a type A person that i don't think I could stand the unknown forever with the lump, I have 2 kids single mom and thinking if it truly is so early and no lympnodes then ? No chemo, and ? No radiation, maybe no tamoxifen. Have a second appt with bs, and ps. The ps is going in vaca. Until sept so .... But that is my train of thoughts... As always ladies weigh in... How about u??? -
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Cindyl~
Positive thoughts going out to u!! Have faith. -
Wow it's been busy here. Sadly there seems to be a lot of new ladies on here. So sorry that you all have joined us
websister- did I miss it? Where are you going for vacation? Have a great time where ever it is. glad you have your chemo plan lined out.
jpmom- thinking of you. You give more inspiration than you realize.
Trying to address everyone but my mind is in such a whirl that I can't concentrate. Met with my MO today, and really didn't like what he said. Because the tumor was so large, didn't respond to this chemo, and it was sitting on the chest wall, he wants me to start rads as soon as possible. Which is ok with me but then he said he might want me to have more chemo after rads. He is also having them retest the hormone receptors because I was a mid (5) on the ER and want to make sure that it still is.
Very overwhelmed at the moment.
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Welcome to all who are new to this thread
Cindyl - not a pleasant experience for you, understand your reaction. Hope all heals quickly.
Juneaubug - looking forward to hearing about your day yesterday
SoyaandPepper - I will definitely update after the portaacath insertion
Lostinmo - wow, no wonder you are overwhelmed, sending hugs; my vacation will be in British Columbia and northern Washington at a lake area
My day yesterday had some positive aspects and some worrisome. They did a very thorough abdominal ultrasound, not just checking out the spleen but also the liver and kidneys. I was in there quite a long time, then the tech said she was going to check with the radiologist. She came back and wanted more pictures of the spleen. This time she had me turn to my right side so I was able to see the monitor. There was a very tiny white area she was marking. Once done, the radiologist said he had what he needed so I was free to go.
My meeting with the GP specializing in oncology and treating whole person went well. Kind of like a sister, psychologist, dietitian and physician all rolled into one person. When I mentioned the spleen and she agreed with me that they don't biopsy spleens. She said most likely, even if they suspect this is a metastasis, they will use this as a baseline, go forward with treatment as planned. Follow up in about three months with either CT or another ultrasound and compare. She spent over an hour with me, I feel better about having the portacath inserted right before vacation now and I also feel better about first chemo on return. One day at a time -
Lostinmo, Websister; everybody else (because I don't seem to be able to keep more than two names in my overstressed brain) I'm so sorry to hear about worrisome scans and test results. May we all, soon, find the silver bullet that will kill this werewolf once and for all. I'm never been on to worry over much about my health... Only discovered I had a broken hand once by accident... Well to be fair, it wasn't a bad break. Now, every scratch or bump is scary, and little things seem to blow up for no reason, and people start using sentances like "the radiologist wants to talk to you" and "it's probably nothing, but we'd like to run a few more tests" Damn Cancer!
Lost, radiation is very doable, hope those lightsabers send the dark side running. Webs, sounds like your GP is a great person to have on your team!
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Lostinmo, man I really really feel your pain. I am so sorry to hear that your response to chemo wasn't what you hoped. Mine wasn't either. I am scared out of my brains too. I do know that radiation works really well. And my mo pointed out to me now that we know that the cells I have now are resistant to the chemo I took they have more information on the biology of those cells. they can design a treatment with that in mind. I don't know if I will need more chemo or not. I will find out this coming Friday. But just like an infection that is resistant to one antibiotic, we have other antibiotics to do the job. I am telling you to have faith that you will beat this and telling myself that at the same time. I hope if I say it enough times I will believe it more and more. It is helping. And I really think it is true, it is just taking a while for my dark thoughts to be pushed out. We were dealt some big blows this past week but the game is on more than ever. I am there with you babe. Bring on the rads, let's light this cancer up.
Websister, hugs to you too. Are they going to biopsy that spleen thing? Or are they just going to watch it? Did that spot show up on a pet scan too?
I am doing better. The pain is sharper when I move certain ways but not bad. I am just relaxing. It's the weekend and time to try to forget about BC for a while. No new information will be coming until Monday. -
Quick question for the group. I'm a pretty active person. I really LOVE Zumba! One thing (out of the million) that made me sad was that I wasn't going to be able to be active. If I feel good and strong during treatment, can I go to the gym. I've never seen a port (get mine next week) and my ignorant brain is imagining dirt and sweat getting in there.
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just GO if you feel like.......... I did cycle, pilates, zumba ( but on my wii!!
20min), work few hours, cook, clean etc. when I felt good enough. when to tired...the coach.
I didn't have port..........
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Hello All.
Was supposed to get Cycle 5 Carboplatin yesterday, but my platelet counts are not good so we had to pospone the treatment. not that I am that sad, because I won't have to endure the SEs this week, but that means my 18 weeks of chemo have been extended by a week. I still got my Abraxane and Herceptin tho which only has minimal side effects of some light nausea and fatigue. So week 13 needs to be repeated next week - but that leaves 6 weeks until the end!
I did make an appointment with my BS in three weeks for a re-evaluation to make a decision about surgery. I am really nervous about what to do. Before I knew we had lymph node involvement, we had scheduled lumpectomy surgery, but then we found out about the lumph nodes and there is a question of the tumor being larger than originally thought. So I had neoadjuvant chemo to try and shrink the tumor, which believe is working. My MO says the BS will do MRI and scans again to make the recommendation, But I am worried that a lumpectomoy might not be enough - I just want it all out! I am ready to ask for the full treatment, but am scared. Any advice? for those who had chemo first, did you have success in the skrinking? what made you decide lumpectomy vs mastectomy? I did have all of the BRACA testing and it was all negative.
For those just starting chemo, my oncology center was great. We got a tour of the facility before I started. There are llittle rooms that are shared with two recliners for the patients and a chair for a visitor. A TV with cable and all the free snacks and drinks you could want. The nurses are wonderful and very gentle and caring/concerned that I am confortable during the process. I bring a book and some knitting and it makes the time go by faster. My husband insists on staying with me all day, so I have him run out to get any food I may crave - this week it was a baked potato with lots of cheese! I have two suggestions that help me -- have a full stomach before you start the infusion - it helps me with the nausea. We go for a good breakfast at a diner down the street before chemo. DRINK LOTS OF FLUIDS while getting chemo and for the days after. That also helps me get rid of it as fast as possible. The nurses laugh at me because I have a hugh water bottle that I bring and keep filling up while I am there - between the water anf the fluids they give in the IV, I must go to the bathroom 10 times in 4 hours!
And take your meds on time - the first week I was about an hour late taking the anti-nausea meds the 2nd day and I got phyisically sick. even if you have to get someone to wake you up to take it on time, do it. The worst part of my chemo was the unknown but now that I have been doing it for 13 weeks, I know what to expect and can prepare for it.
For the hair issues, mine did hurt while it was falling out, but once I had my head shaved it was less bothersome. It seems the shorter it is the less it hurts. I bought a wig and have yet to wear it. I am a fan of the scarves but find the store-bought ones can be heavy and hot in the humid New England summer. I have taken to making my own. I buy about 1 yard of a soft cotton and make a 30 in square out of it. Folded into a large triange it ties in the back like a bandana would. This way for the price of a pre-made one I can get three or four in fabrics that look good and coordinate with my outfits!
My mother always told me even when you don't feel well, to take a shower, get dressed and do your hair. If you look good sometimes mentally it can make you feel good. I find that does work for me, even now when there isn't any hair to style and my skin is strange and I have to wear my glasses (instead of contacts). Sometimes it can be 3:00 in the afternoon before I get out of bed on the bad days, but I force myself to take a shower and get dressed. It helps me a lot. And the "fashion scarfs" that I cover my head with help me feel pretty again!
I hope this advice helps those just getting started. I am no expert but if I can help someone get through this, it helps me feel like this is happening to me for a reason! I keep trying to move forward and you ladies are all an inspriation to me as I read how everyone deals in their own way.
Good luck to all and here to minimal SEs this weekend!!
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Chrissera...I did neo adjuvant chemotherapy. It did shrink the tumor some, but didn't do much to the lymph nodes. I ended up having a lumpectomy on May 29 and a re-excision on June 26. I wish I could give you solid advice on lumpectomy vs. mastectomy but I can't. In the beginning all I wanted to do was keep my breast but now I can't even remember why that was so important to me. I think a lot depends on the location and size of your tumor. I have had a lot of problems with my lumpectomy incision and have had to postpone rad treatments because of it. For whatever reason it will not stay closed. It is currently packed as of this past Thursday with the goal to heal it from the inside out. Because of all of this I know I will have a hideous scar and I also have a dent where they removed the lump and breast tissue. I know that plastic surgery is an option but my DH says it doesn't bother him. I don't know what complications I would've had if I had decided on a mastectomy. Who knows? Maybe it would've been worse for the healing process. There is a lot to consider and it is a big decision!! I read so much before I had my lumpectomy and felt very confident about the decision when I made it. You have to do whats right for you. Thinking about you!
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There are so many decisions with this disease and they seem so difficult. I was given the lumpectomy/mastectomy choice and couldn't make it. Just as I was decided on lumpectomy, they found a second spot during the MRI in another area which took away my choice and I had to have the mastectomy. I've had the same problem as Tina, my scar has opened and won't close. I have to fill it with bacetracin, put gauze in it, then have DH bandage me twice a day. I had the original mastectomy which was a total breeze, so much easier than anticipated. However, I then had a massive hematoma 8 days after surgery and needed emergency surgery and 3 days after that had another massive bleed and another emergency surgery so the same scar has been opened 3 times in 2 weeks. Apparently Tina has the same problem after a lumpectomy so shxt can happen either way. Really, though, the odds are slim that there will be any crazy complication at all so the choice is yours. I totally preferred the days when the doc said take to aspirin and call me in the morning and in the morning you were all better and that was that.... this is a very complicated disease but as long as we're doing something, we're fighting and that's what counts. I'm sure you'll make the right decision.
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This site has been such a blessing to me since I was diagnosed with IDC this month. I am 41 and found a lump in my right breast at 6 o'clock in March. Because there is no family history I assumed it was a cyst and it would resolve itself. It did not. I found a second lump at 12 o'clock in June and decided it was time to go see my doc. I had a mammo and ultrasound followed by ultrasound guided biopsy. The radiologist that performed the biopsy told me that it look malignant. Two days later, on July 19, 2012, I go the news that will change my life forever. IDC, high grade, 8/9 on nottingham and positive node.
Had appt with bs on 7/25 and learned I was triple negative and she staged me at IIB, pending MRI and PET scan. I get my chemo port on Tuesday and meet with the MO on Friday. Hoping to get started ASAP as I have a very aggresive cancer. MRI showed "activity" throughout my right breast and a "beautiful" left breast. Lumpectomy was taken off the table with the results of the MRI so I will be having a mastectomy on my right breast and my husband and I are leaning towards the left also. Will have results of PET scan on Tuesday and my prayer is that it hasn't gone past my lymph nodes.
My frustration in this is that the information is not out there that over 60% of newly diagnosed breast cancers HAVE NO FAMILY HISTORY! I am an educated woman, but if I had known that fact, I would have had it checked in March. We need to educate women on this statistic and I have made it my mission to get the word out in my local community.
My faith in the Lord is strong and I know that it is in His hands. Patience was not in my vocabulary 2 weeks ago. I am learning though! -
I have a question. I am extremely grateful that I was told I do not need chemo and that all the cancer was gotten out with the mastectomy. However, this week I start Femara, a hormone drug because my cancer was estrogen/progesterone +. I just went to WebMD, otherwise known as Dr. Google, and read a long list of SE's. Does anyone have experience with Femera and can you tell me how you tolerated it? Thanks and sending hugs and healing vibes to all going through any of this crap.
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For whoever asked abort the port, once the incision is healed, and you don't feel any pain, a week, maybe two, you can do anything. The port is completely under your skin, no dirt etc can get in it. I have had my pacemaker for 18 months- it is very similar to the port insertion. And had my port for 6 months, no problems. Good Lucknow
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