I say yes, you say no, OR People are Strange

Wow! Sunflowers? That seems harsh....

Mary 

Alexandria, I just sent you a PM.

(Now I remember the kinds of things that have caused me not to post here so much anymore...)

Waving hi to all the wonderful members of this thread!  Including all the newer commenters who probably don't even know me!

Bren and Cherryl, what a beautiful picture!!!  Thanks so much for posting it, Bren!

Thanks Ann  ... we had a great time today.  We got together at our dear friend Brenda's house.  Even though Brenda is dealing with Stage IV and the effects of chemo, she was a perfect hostess and lunch was fantastic.  There were four of us today and we all met here on BCO.

Apparently, I missed all the hoopla that happened today.  I'm sorry to hear that Sunflowers has been banned.  She is such a sweet soul.  Regardless of all the crap that is going on, BCO has been a wonderful experience for me.  I've met and become friends with the most fabulous women in the world.  I'm so lucky to have had this opportunity.

I've been blessed to participate in many get togethers by BCO members and I've made lifelong friends.  If any of you ever has the chance to meet up with your fellow sisters, I highly recommend going the extra mile to make it happen.

hugs,

Bren

Agreed.  I never saw Sunflowers start a flare-up. 

There is a huge quantity of meanness and snark in other places on these discussion boards that goes unchallenged. IMO, Sunflowers is neither an instigator or responder and banning her was over the top, especially given some of the outright nastiness I've seen elsewhere. In the exchange as reported, it didn't seem that the aggressive response was Sunflowers'.



But, as others have said, your board - your rules and your criteria on applying them.



L

Bren:

Thanks for posting the pictures - you all look terrific - glad you had such a nice visit - you're right meeting other BCOrs is indeed a wonderful thing.

It's almost as if the mods got Sunflowers mixed up with someone else. Maybe they did since they can't identify the sock puppets.

She's one of the most non-confrontative, supportive people in these parts.

Mary 

208sandy, you're right, we can usually identify sock puppets (we see IP addresses). So, instead of hinting or accusing others of sock puppetry in public posts, we encourage members to PM us with their suspicions so we can check. Just because someone seems to know the boards and their personalities *too* well, or shares someone else's point of view doesn't mean they're a sock, and it's not right to publically suggest they are. 

The Mods

Please reinstate Sunflowers.

I've sent you my second PM on the subject of this sock puppet. Actually, it isn't possible for you to verify this because ISPs are not always identifiable. Please read my PM, and don't ban Sunflowers. We've identified the troll before and this troll has had loads of other people banned because YOU are technologically unable to identify her (not your fault - it just isn't always possible).

Ok, Mods, let's do something:

In the Noel Coward play "Private Lives" a divorced couple is trying to patch up their relationship. They finally agree that when conversations are about to devolve into arguments, they will utter a code word that will serve as a signal to "stop" the person in their tracks.

That code word was "sollocks."

I propose the following: if we see this sock puppet posting --if we see self proclaimed patzees (sic) ad rainbows and ponies flying about, noticeably in the DCIS, Alternative or Comments forums, we can say "sollocks" after her post.

Any fool with:

--access to several devices,

--a preference for chiropractors,

--a penchant for deriding chemo in front of those who choose it

--a preference for calling DCIS non cancer or a condition not needing surgery,

--a habit of questioning the intentions of posters who favor conventional therapy,

--a keen eye for jumping in with self-serving postings when there is strife,

--a person with no conscience who has never met a lie she wasn't wiling to tel and is even capable of posing as Stage IV, and

--is laughing at you mods as we speak.....

....can become this multi-named troll.

Mods: You don't have proof that we don't know - don't ban Sunflowers when you don't have proof that she isn't right - if that's why she was banned. I've been absent for a day or so, but I just saw yet another thread locked. Same person., Thinking it's Mind Over Matter (remember her??? The childish pictures?)

One sociopath is undermining this web site. Remember Jayson Blair? Those people thrive on manipulating, lying and cheating. Don't ban an honest poster to protect your sense of "no proof" while allowing this snake to roam free.  

Good point, YramAL.

Do not accuse others in public. Not by name, not by some codeword. If you're bothered by what they have to say, don't read their posts/threads. Or use the Block function.