I say yes, you say no, OR People are Strange

What is up with the Her+ thread? 

You know, right when I get to reading a thread people start to get nasty.

I don't get it.

Hey Bartender...

You said it.

Maybe every thread should have a bartender?

Thanks for the laugh Linda! I especially like the IPhone one. Sometimes a person needs those words. It drives me nuts when the phone chooses "nice" language for me. %&#@ IPhone!

lindasa, thanks so much for the funny post--it made me laugh when i read it yesterday and well, to be honest, I needed a good laugh yesterday.  DH also enjoyed it especially the Mayans and the iphone.

Mary, holding my thumbs (swedish thing) and thinking "scar tissue, scar tissue, scar tissue."

very very windy downtown today and cold and rainy again.  Poor Little Monster!  This is his first year of baseball, he is assigned to a team, they had one practice on Saturday but the next two practices were cancelled because of the weather!  Truly not the greatest weather but then again all the blossoms haven't blown off the trees yet, the blueberry bushes are budding and my rhubarb is coming up so there's some good on the way.

yesterday was rough.  first DH's best friend in Europe posted that his stupidfuckinglungcancer is back with a vengence.  He was on maintainence chemo and they thought it was working well.  The only problem was that it was doing a job on his liver.  I guess they decided to stop it maybe to give the liver a break? Don't know.  His Dec scan was clean and we all cheered.  But last week's scan was bad and its back on chemo next week for him.  The last two big rounds of chemo, DH flew to europe to help out but this time, its just not possible.  We lack the money and we both lack the energy it would require.  And then there is the cancer patient we are already dealing with at home, my mother.

who is greatly depressed (despite antidepressants) even though the news from her oncologist is very good.  He tells her that he thinks that if she has surgery and then 3 more rounds of chemo she will have at least a good year to 18 months and likely die of heart failure before the cancer returns.  The alternatives --per the oncologist--are basically just doing chemo until it stops working and then die of cancer or stop doing anything and die of cancer.  I tried to get her to see a therapist specializing in oncology--she says she has nothing to talk about and no thoughts about having cancer (if she really has no thoughts then I think she is first person in history) so nothing to talk about.  Surgery is set for March 29 but she is still waffling.  She says lots of things to the family about her thoughts on life, living and treatment but then take opposite actions.  What she really wants is not to have cancer (join the club!) which isn't going to happen.

I recognize that she is going through an awful lot --pulled out of house, pulled out of her hoard and stupidcancer--- but at the same time, it is so frustrating.  We tried for years to get her to move because we worried that some major health disaster would happen and she would have to be yanked out of her house.  No luck.. And now here we are in the worst case scenario.

sigh.

Monstmomma, Speaking as a daughter of a hoarder, getting rational, logical decisions out your mother has probably always been difficult. Sadly it will not change. The serenity prayer works here. I'm so sorry you must deal with this stressful situation.

HER2 - I just can't resist

Hey - my hair is still straight!!! Just brushed it and left this morning. Tomorrow will be interesting - the first wash. I'm not a person who dries my hair - I just wash it and go.

(((((((((((((((((((3Monst))))))))))))))))))

Today it has rained cats & dogs, cleared up, rained more housepets and now there is blue sky to the west.  I walked across the lawn tonight and it squished like a sponge!  I am thinking this does not bode well for my garlic.

Thanks everyone for all the hugs.  HTG what the heck is it with all the cancer?  Is it my age?  In the last 3 years, I had cancer, my boss had cancer, our friend has cancer, my coworker's sister has cancer and of course my mother.  Enough already!

chickadee, shall we swap CrazyHoarderLady stories? oh never mind, it only likely make us drink to excess....thanks for the reminder of the serenity prayer.  I can recite it while I knit knit knit.

did I mention I have my monsters each cooking 1 meal a week?  While cooking is one of my big stress relievers, it really was time for them to start learning some skills.  I still get two nights a week and one is our big sunday dinner.  Anyrate, they are REALLY good at this!  I am so impressed.

Ouch - just took a brief look at "that thread" - ouch, just ouch!  I'm sure my use of the ever popular Ignore Funciton makes it a wee bit less "interesting" - but even then, it's just frightful.  I shuddered at the post of someone saying some huge percentage of node negative women going on to further stages...where do these "numbers" come from? 

My mother-in-law is also a hoarder. We(her kids) have moved her from a house, to several apartments, each one smaller than the previous one. She now has early dementia and is in assisted living. Each move has been just like an episode of "Hoarders". She has to go through each and every item in each and every box, until we run out of time and things just get shoved in boxes for the next time. Now that she is in assisted living, her "stuff" is in a storage unit. Her stuff is just crap. I don't think there is anything of value in that storage unit. She has a tiny little room now, and it is packed to the brim. She's been in the hospital several times this past year, and each time, we go in and throw stuff out. It just keeps accumulating!

We are so thankful that she no longer lives in a house.

Mary 

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