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  • LRM216
    LRM216 Member Posts: 2,115
    edited March 2012

    Lovelyface:

    It's so hard when we have to accept that someone is gone that we have felt so much for.  I went through it when my daugher passed one year ago this month, and have never been the same since.  But life goes on, and our dearly departed would most certainly want that for us.  Something that helps me greatly when I am thinking of my loss, which is quite often, is this:

    "Grieve not that she is gone, but smile because she was....".

    I hope this helps a little, it does for me.

    Love,

    Linda

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  • Summer38
    Summer38 Member Posts: 253
    edited March 2012

    After a weekend away I was not expecting this!!

    Rest in Peace LJ, you will be missed xoxo

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  • Summer38
    Summer38 Member Posts: 253
    edited March 2012

    Mkpinky - just want you to know I'm thinking of you and "virtually" holding your hand through chemo today {hugs}

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  • journey4life
    journey4life Member Posts: 517
    edited March 2012

    I will also plant something to honor such an amazing woman who was an inspiration to all of us.

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  • LRM216
    LRM216 Member Posts: 2,115
    edited March 2012

    Melissa:

    Most certainly - prayers are going out to you.  I am so sorry that you have to go through this.  It tells much about a person's character, when they leave you, so confused and hurting, at a time when they are most needed.  Unfortunately, it happens.  There is a relationship thread on this board that may help you somewhat, in that this very same thing has happened to others fighting this beast of a disease as well.  We have another young beautiful woman whose husband just recently left her and her children.  Perhaps you might PM Kymn, after reading some of her posts on this forum.

     You are young and you are strong.  You have made it this far, and you will make it to the end of your treatment, with us by your side to help and support you as much as possible.  Never allow yourself to feel "ugly" as you are most definitely not.  Treatment may be the worst time of your life; however; even that does not last forever, and you will grow your hair back, your body will begin to heal, and you will begin to live your life again, one step after the other.  It can't and won't rob your beauty from you - that shall always remain. 

     I am so sorry that this disease had to enter your life and disrupt it so, it's so very unfair when I see you young one's get side-tracked by this beast.  Please know we are here for you - a lot of arms to help hold you up!

    Hugs,

    Linda  

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  • mccrimmon324
    mccrimmon324 Member Posts: 1,076
    edited March 2012

    Ladies, I don't know what to say, no internet this weekend and I come back to hear of LJ's passing.  I'm numb.  I'm so sorry and sad.  My thoughts and prayers are with her family now.

    Heidi, I would be happy to donate in honor of of LJ, What a beautiful idea. 

    Inmate, I'm praying for you today!!!!!! 

    Pinky, we are all here for you.  I know that it's not the same but its absolutely true. 

    Titan, my hubbs would be thrilled to have anyone to talk to about sports.  LOL 

    I hope I haven't missed anyone, but I'm thinking of you all.   

    In honor of LJ:

    Best thing that happened over the weekend, had some new friends over for burgers and wine, had a really nice time. 

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  • Fighter_34
    Fighter_34 Member Posts: 834
    edited March 2012

    Oh my I am so upset by this news. My mind keeps thinking about her son. I am sure family will step in and help him along the way. This really blows my day.

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  • mccrimmon324
    mccrimmon324 Member Posts: 1,076
    edited March 2012

    Fighter, I agree, its her son I can't stop thinking about.  I just so badly want to give him a big hug and cry with him. 

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited March 2012
    They shall grow not old, as we that are left grow old:
    Age shall not weary them, nor the years condemn.
    At the going down of the sun and in the morning,
    We will remember them.
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  • KSteve
    KSteve Member Posts: 486
    edited March 2012

    In honor of LJ - The best thing that happened to me this weekend was to finalize all of my family's plans for our upcoming trip to Italy to see my 21-year old DD.  She's studying abroad for the semester and I miss her so much.  Can't wait to go . . . we leave on Friday, 3/23.  What an experience we will have, and to think that one year ago I was recovering from chemo, BMX and was just beginning radiation.  I will continue to enjoy my everyday existence!

     Melissa - It all seems so overwhelming right now, but I promise you it will get better.  You are entitled to feel everything that you're feeling.  Unfortunately that's part of the process.  I'm so sorry for your boyfriend's reaction.  I wish I lived close to you so I could help you!  Just know that we're all with you in spirit.  You're stronger than you think.

    I hope everyone has a good week and smile when we think of LJ.  That Facebook picture of her put a smile on my face!

    Kathy

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  • christina1961
    christina1961 Member Posts: 736
    edited March 2012

    Melissa,

    Please stay in touch. We care. Sending you a PM.

    Christina

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  • mccrimmon324
    mccrimmon324 Member Posts: 1,076
    edited March 2012

    KSteve,

    Hubby and I will be leaving Italy and on our way to Paris when you arrive.  Enjoy your trip!!!!! 

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  • RaiderDee
    RaiderDee Member Posts: 150
    edited March 2012

    All my love LJ, gonna miss you. LJ was a special lady who touched us all.

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  • Lovelyface
    Lovelyface Member Posts: 674
    edited March 2012

    Linda, You are such a very strong woman to have gone through the loss of your daughter.  By that experience you became the stronger person that you are today.  Life throws so many different turns, but we humans, we have to accept and move forward.  One of my friends recently asked me whether I had noticed how many people were passing away these days.  She said she and others had realized that for whatever reason, so many more people were passing.  I have felt the same too.  So many loved ones are going.

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  • KSteve
    KSteve Member Posts: 486
    edited March 2012

    Heather - Where will you be in Italy?  We're going to Florence (where DD is living for 4 months) and then visiting Sienna, Pisa, Venice, Rome and Cinque Terra while we're there.  I hope you have an incredible trip too!  My DD is having the time of her life.  She's been to Rome, Venice, and Switzerland so far.  She's about to go to Ireland (for St. Patty's Day) and Paris before we get there.  Then after we leave she goes to Barcelona and then Germany.  Oh yea, and she's going to Florence University of the Arts for her junior spring semester.  She's a little stressed right now with mid-terms, but I'm not feeling too sorry for her!  What an adventure!  Have a great time!

    Kathy

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  • Lovelyface
    Lovelyface Member Posts: 674
    edited March 2012

    Melissa, I am so sorry to hear of your situation, what you are facing and going through.  The one person who you counted on the most at a time like this, may not be there for you.  But I just wanted to tell you that "life" is really very very precious.  You just need to concentrate on yourself and fight this thing and save your life, save your health so you can be with a better partner in the future.  To tell you the truth, I am 1 year, 7 months out of treatment, and I feel that I look more beautiful now that I did before.  My hair is back, although shorter right now, is not bad at all.  I have never had this long eye lashes before chemo, so that is an absolute joy.  Everything is back to normal, except my fears of a recurrence.  I am a stronger person looking at the world differently.  Please don't let this boyfriend define who you are.  If he leaves you at a time like this, he was not worth a minute of your time.  I know how difficult it is to deal with a heartbreak when you are going through the supposedly worst thing in your life, which it is not, believe me.  You will get past this.

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  • mccrimmon324
    mccrimmon324 Member Posts: 1,076
    edited March 2012

    KSteve,

    We are going to Rome, we are taking a day trip to Pompeii and then taking the train to Milan to get the overnight train to Paris.  This is my "Do Over" trip.  I was diagnosed on 4/9/11 and we had just gotten back from our once in a lifetime trip from Paris and London only days before.  Needless to say, my mammo is scheduled for the day after we get home and I'm getting anxious already.  Really need to keep my mind off of everything. 

    We just had lunch with my husband's neice who spent last semester in Milan, she was fortunate enough to be able to visit a different city every weekend.  What a fantastic opportunity!  Very hard to to feel sorry for someone who travels thru Europe.  LOL 

    I hope you have a fabulous time, I'm sure you will!!  We'll have to share some pics when we get back. 

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  • MicheleS
    MicheleS Member Posts: 937
    edited March 2012

    good morning all-

    the best thing that happened to me this weekend was that I conned my 3 kids into playing on the Wii with me!  Not once but twice!!  That's impressive-- I have 16 and almost 14 yr old boys + an almost 7 yr old little girl.

    today I ran 4 miles before work.

    Like the rest of you, I feel "punched in the gut" abt LauraJane.  I just can't make sense of it all.  :(

    xxoo

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  • Maria_Malta
    Maria_Malta Member Posts: 961
    edited March 2012

    I have rarely posted here, but I do lurk, also being TNBC.  I just wish to say that I'm so saddened about LJ, for her family and friends, for you all on this thread, for us all who have to live with this savage beast running after us nibbling away at our heels...

    However in the spirit of a lovely lady I will say that the best thing today is that the sun is shining brightly and warming aching bones after a horrible grey weekend of gale force winds.  I will think of her creating beautiful gardens full of colour and sweet scents.

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  • Paintingmywaythru
    Paintingmywaythru Member Posts: 317
    edited March 2012

    I am so so saddened by Laura's passing and wish to extend my thoughts, prayers and love to her family and all of you who have been here ith us on this board.

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  • Paintingmywaythru
    Paintingmywaythru Member Posts: 317
    edited March 2012

    Mccrimmon324... enjoy every second

    Melissa..hang in there, you are stronger than you know. We all have found that out about ourselves here. You are beautiful no matter how you feel. It is so hard to have these physical changes and still love ourselves but it is our true strength and beauty that is loved.

    KSteve ...have a fabulous visit with your daughter

    Heidi..please let me know about a group contribution for Laura.

    Inmate...thinking of you dear woman. Prayers for the best news.

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  • Paintingmywaythru
    Paintingmywaythru Member Posts: 317
    edited March 2012

    OK the comments continue. The best thing that happened to me today was waking to a warm sunny day and watching my cats be so excited by the birds at the feeder. Also driving along the coast to my work was lovely. The water was so calm.

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  • mccrimmon324
    mccrimmon324 Member Posts: 1,076
    edited March 2012

    Painting, just wondering how your dr visit went with asking for the metformin? 

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  • Paintingmywaythru
    Paintingmywaythru Member Posts: 317
    edited March 2012

    mccrimmon324..my onc would not prescribe, Dana Farber will put me inthe trial but wants me to switch from MGH to them and I am happy with MGH. Thank you for the info. I have a packet of notes that I am taking to my PCP tomorrow. Wish me luck...

    Also anyone have shooting pains intheir breast where surgery was done. I feel I get these randomly and when I stretch in yoga it feels as though my muscles are not normal and they certainly hurt. Maybe they are repairing themselves.

    Getting so tired of this wig...April Fools I think I go wiht my super short hair.

    Warm and beautiful here. Thanks McCrimmon324 for asking. Will let you know.

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  • inmate4232010
    inmate4232010 Member Posts: 310
    edited March 2012

    Melissa....So sorry that you have to be here with us and that your local support seems to be failing you.  The good news is you have an army of support right here.  We may not be able to sit next to you in the infusion room but close your eyes and you will feel our thoughts and prayers whenever you need them as we will never waiver in our support.  I too was scared of the physical changes this process brings, but found myself pleasantly surprised that one of those happened to be more inner strength.  Cancer is a game changer in so many ways.  There is an old rugby saying "that which does not kill you makes you stronger".  It sounds wrong, but treatment made me stronger.  I found my true beauty shone when I lost my hair.  I wore my bald "out and proud" and felt that it made me walk tall.  These days I say what I want and mean what I say.  No more holding my tongue.  I'm not mean, just honest, with my friends and family and myself.  In the past I would not have been that person.  It is all very liberating for me as I think it will be for you.

    We are with you today and every day.  Take and activity with you to treatment.  It makes the time go by faster.  Coloring books seemed to work best for me.  I mean, who doesn't like to color?  

    Sending all my love!

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  • Suze35
    Suze35 Member Posts: 1,045
    edited March 2012

    Hello to any of you reading this note. I am not Suze35, but one of her closest friends. She asked me months ago if, when the time came, I would be willing to let her many friends on line know what happened. Sadly that day has arrived. Susan passed away at home this morning - as she had requested - with her husband and mother beside her. Her three beautiful children were away at school, which was probably for the best. She was only 42 yrs old and four days shy of the 18 mth anniversary of her discovery of the cancer.



    She wanted you all to know what happened to her as these boards and your notes gave her so much support and strength as she battled against this disease. She told me to tell you that she will miss you all and that you must not give up hope. For her, this cancer was like a runaway train - nothing was going to stop it. But that may not be the case for many of you reading this, and I know she wouldn't want any of you to feel disheartened. Even with such an aggressive cancer, Susan felt that the new discoveries might have been able to help her - if only she had developed the disease a little bit later.



    So don't give up the fight. We will, as her friends and family, continue her legacy by helping to care for her three young children. If you would like to leave a comment or remembrance of Susan, she requested that I save and print them for her children to read when they get older.



    I am sorry to have such sad news to pass on, but pray that for many of you there will be a happier outcome.



    - Kim Shapiro

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  • inmate4232010
    inmate4232010 Member Posts: 310
    edited March 2012

    NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

    I am broken.......... 

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  • Summer38
    Summer38 Member Posts: 253
    edited March 2012

    OMG!!!!! I don't think I can take anymore, the tears just won't stop now.......

    So incredibly sad :-( Two beautiful women taken way too soon, my heart breaks for their families, may they find peace in knowing the depths of their mothers love & strength.

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  • Teka
    Teka Member Posts: 10,052
    edited March 2012

    Suze35, rest in peace.   Again, I am feeling such a loss.

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  • MicheleS
    MicheleS Member Posts: 937
    edited March 2012

    wow. speechless.  :(

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