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  • Sherryc
    Sherryc Member Posts: 5,938
    edited March 2011

    I love it has headlights! too strange

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited March 2011

    I would not want to be riding backwards - I could steer - not sure where we would end up though.

  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited March 2011

    I think the headlights are so you know which way it's going....

  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited March 2011

    It's a COnference BIke.  (Click to see it in action.)

    Or, get a few more friends and go for the PEDALPUB!!!

  • walker2222
    walker2222 Member Posts: 558
    edited March 2011

    I would probably end us up in the, at least my 15yr DS thinks my driving is bad. I guess he should know having all that experience and such.



    Up date on SIL, they removed all the tubes and had her sitting up for a little while. We are getting bits and pieces of the reason this happened. It seems after her hysterectomy 12 years ago and with time part of her intestine moved into the space that was left and ended up getting twisted. I did not know that would happen and something to be noted if your approaching that stage.

  • Sherryc
    Sherryc Member Posts: 5,938
    edited March 2011

    mjbmiller glad your SIL is getting better.  Good to know what caused it.  I had a hystercomy 17 years ago and no one ever said to watch for that. yikes.  good to know.

  • Eph3_12
    Eph3_12 Member Posts: 4,781
    edited March 2011

    hmmmmm, my everything out hysterectomy was in '98-I too was never given any idea that twisted intestines might be an after effect-here's hoping your SIL was just 1 in a billion mjb!

  • CandyB
    CandyB Member Posts: 63
    edited March 2011

    I've been off the site for quite a while and signed back on to ask a question.  What do I see, but a very strange looking bike.  Definitely will check out the PedalPub.  Why have I not been keeping up?

     My questions, fellow middle-aged women, is about birth control.  I'm 51, single, and on tamoxifen.  I find myself in a place I never imagined being  -- having to figure out birth control after decades of not needing it (my ex had a vasectomy) and being on tamoxifen.  My oncologist recommended a barrier method -- IUD, diaphragm, condoms.  Now, I'm not so out of it that I don't know what these are.  I'm guessing condoms haven't changed much, pretty basic technology there.  I'm wondering if any of you have recently faced this issue?  What was recommended?  Any pros or cons to an IUD or diaphragm I should be aware of?  Any alternatives?  IUD would probably be rather short-term since I do seem to be winding down on the periods.  Haven't had one in 3 months, but not willing to gamble with pregnancy at this point in life.  I'd appreciate any input.  Thank you!

  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited March 2011

    CandyB, I'm not going to inquire, but IF you are having sex A LOT, the IUD is a consideration...it's always in place.  I tried an IUD for some months but it made my periods VERY heavy (to the point where I could go thru' a "Hinden-tampon"(*) in about 20 min.  This does not happen to every woman, I'm just lucky, I guess.  If you don't have any sensitivities (latex, spermacides) the condom or diaph. methods are easy enough, and like you said, it won't be too many months/years of use anyway. 

    (*) Coined by our buddy Kleenex.

  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
    edited March 2011

    Candy, take it from a woman who got pregnant while using the diaphragm, you have to be very aware of using it and correctly.  It isn't spontaneous either.  I lost weight (Yes, your girly parts lose weight, too) and scheduled an appt. to re-fit mine, and while waiting for the appt. lo and behold...

  • 3jaysmom
    3jaysmom Member Posts: 4,266
    edited March 2011

    mjbmiller, glad to hear your SIL is getting better.. CANDY, i have no answers, but i think its' WONDERFUL that you are having to ask the question!!!hahah 3jays

  • Eph3_12
    Eph3_12 Member Posts: 4,781
    edited March 2011

    Well, I'll drink to 3jays post...Candy-congrats!

    I had a nasty Dalkon Shield in my 20s which put an end to my ever needing birth control so the mere mention of IUD puts me into sweats!  I think that if your partner is in tune to you that the condom method would be a good way to go-like you said you might not to be even pursuing it much longer!  Would he be willing to do something more permanent on himself? 

  • MNLinda
    MNLinda Member Posts: 204
    edited March 2011

    I used to have a cervical cap, but I'm not sure how widely available they are in the US. I got mine as part of a clinical trial. It has advantages over a diaphragm - it's smaller, can be left in place several days at a time, and doesn't need to be refitted with weight changes.

    Later I had a tubal ligation, and that's a good permanent solution, but probably more than you want to undergo if you're perimenopausal.

    Good luck.

  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited March 2011

    Sorry to be blunt, but if you're having sex with someone and it's not his first time, USE A CONDOM due to sexually transmitted diseases!!! We didn't have to worry about that as much as the kids have to now a days!! Just do it!

    E, why "hinden tampon"????

    mjb, I just told my DH about that possibility yesterday!! What happened to your SIL in the first place? I forget... I have some weird pelvic pains and started thinking...and then you post this!! Thank God they found out the problem, but what did it start as?

  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited March 2011

    Barbe, meant to invoke a zeppelin-sized tampon.  The Hindenburg.

                                    

    Not to be confused with a Led Zeppelin album cover.

  • walker2222
    walker2222 Member Posts: 558
    edited March 2011

    Barb it started as a bowel obstruction that caused her to have pains and backup in her system. She is now in a room and out of ICU.

  • Kleenex
    Kleenex Member Posts: 764
    edited March 2011

    I must have sensed that I was being quoted!

    Tamoxifen and IUD's are mutually exclusive - you can't use an IUD if you're on Tamoxifen. Something to do with the excitability of uterine tissue with the Tamoxifen. My gynecologist, who sweetly seems to think that somewhere in the midst of random discharge, pelvic discomfort, lengthy menstrual tsunamis* and mood swings I'm actually having sex, highly recommends something permanent, like tubal ligation. One of Tamoxifen's treats is that it can enhance fertility, which is a very bad thing in this case. He thought condoms were okay short term (I'm with Barbe - if this is a new person, please use one - there's been a HUGE increase in STD's in our age range due to people being "back in the game" and not using appropriate protection), but really suggested something serious if we're done having children, which we are. Anyway - you should ask your gynecologist - make sure he/she knows about the Tamoxifen and the new partner.

    Just popped in - I missed pages and pages and pages, but I've been busy and don't have time to catch up. Lots of new voices! Glad to see bonding is still heavily in process!

    * menstrual tsunami - ridiculously heavy period - term stolen from Elimar!!!! :)

    Coleen

  • Eph3_12
    Eph3_12 Member Posts: 4,781
    edited March 2011

    {{{{{{{{Kleenex}}}}}}}}

  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited March 2011

    Good catch, Kleenex!   I did not even know that the IUD was a no-no for Tamoxifen takers.  My experience was before I embarked on the Tamoxi-Train. 

    OMG, Eph!  I forgot about the Dalkon Shield!  It was long gone by the time I attempted that method. That was a pretty big scandal at the time (and a big class-action lawsuit, also.)  So many women were senslessly victimized.  You belong to another huge club nobody wanted to join.

  • karen1956
    karen1956 Member Posts: 6,503
    edited March 2011

    DH bought me ginger to add to tea or put in hot water and drink like tea during chemo and I could not stand the taste....have not had anything ginger since then.....the bottle is still in my frig....wonder if after 5 years its any good....not that I want it!!!!

  • charmainejensenvoisine
    charmainejensenvoisine Member Posts: 369
    edited March 2011

    Hello Ladies I just found this forum, I am in the 40-60ish category or should I say that I am going to be 51 years old in June. After what I have gone through since first being dx with breast cancer in all honesty I sometimes feel much older.

    It is just over 13 months since finishing chemotherapy and nearly a year since finishing radiation therapy and am now on Tamoxifen for 5 years.  You know sometimes it feels like just yesterday that I was going through these treatments.

    Now I am suffering with 'frozen shoulder', and have brough this to both the attention of my MO and Radiation Oncologist of whom both say that it is not the result of radiation therapy, and even saw my breast surgeon today and he did not make much of it....  so am stumped grrrr   I first started to notice that I had problem with my right shoulder/arm in September, but it did not get really bad until November....

    But as my husband keeps telling me, life has got to go on...  I have been trying to pick up my life again...

    Guess just waiting for the good weather to come around, will then be more in the spirit of things.

  • Sherryc
    Sherryc Member Posts: 5,938
    edited March 2011

    charmaine I know I have seen you on another thread and may have already said this to you.  but have you googled RIF (radiation induced fribrosisi) form what I have read it usually effects you 12-18 months after radiation sometimes much sooner and is missed diagnoses alot.  Check it out and see if the symptoms match yours.

  • NativeMainer
    NativeMainer Member Posts: 10,462
    edited March 2011

    Charmainejensenvoisine-the "cause" of frozen shoulder is lack of use of the shoulder joint. We have lots of reasons for limiting the use of a shoulder, pain after lumpectomy, especially with SNB or axillary node dissection. Radiation does affect the muscle under the breast that is involved with shoulder movement and adds to the problem. In the long run it does not matter which treatment "caused" the problem, you need one of them to give you a referral to a physical therapist. The docs work FOR you, so pick one and tell them you need a PT referral and persist until you get one. Frozen shoulder can be reversed with PT. My brother went through that a few years back. It took some time and work, but he now has full range of motion and is bowling competitively again. The sooner you get into PT the quicker the problem can be reversed. I was on the road to a frozen shoulder due to the damage to the muscle, one PT visit gave me the stretches and exercises I needed to stop the problem in it's tracks. The Rad Onc adamantly stated that radiation does not cause any side effects except a "sunburn like" skin reaction-hah. My Med Onc referred me to PT for lymphedema and frozen shoulder prevention. IMHO Rad Oncs are jack a$$es, see your primary provider and get a referral.

  • elimar86861
    elimar86861 Member Posts: 7,416
    edited March 2011

    Welcome to this thread, charmainejensenvoisine.  Or cjv.  I'm sure you will be familiar with some of the women here already, from several other active threads.  I LOVE THIS THREAD.  Love it 'cause we do share our different viewpoints, but also then comes a post that writes EXACTLY WHAT I WOULD WRITE and I love that too.  NativeMainer got up a little before, and I like her early morning sensibilities!!!   I was thinking, "Even if  those doctors won't admit to radiation causing  your frozen shoullder, any one of them can order some PT!  Why are they not doing something to help!!!"  So, I second that advice...get some PT a.s.a.p.  I know that there was a thread about frozen shoulder in the Mid-Age forum.  Not sure if it has been very active recently, but you might was to read what some others have been through.

    Cookiegal where are you?  How's your frozen shoulder doing now?

  • lynniea
    lynniea Member Posts: 611
    edited March 2011

    Feel a little better.  Can't tell if it is stomach or nausea.

  • CandyB
    CandyB Member Posts: 63
    edited March 2011

    Thank you for the input on birth control!  My oncologist didn't say anything about Tamoxifen and IUDs being a bad idea, so very good to know.  Doubtful that I'll go a surgical route since I'm looking at short-term solutions while waiting for menopause to be complete.  And while it does feel slightly silly to have to think about birth control, I'm happy to have to.  Wink He's a wonderful man; a long time friend that's slowly, cautiously evolved into more than friendship.

    Love the zepplin tampon idea.  I'll be very happy to be done with that!

  • Meece
    Meece Member Posts: 19,483
    edited March 2011

    My onc tested my estradiol levels last visit and she assures me that I am nowhere near menopause with the high levels.  Can't blame my irritability on that yet.

  • annettek
    annettek Member Posts: 1,640
    edited March 2011

    heart- jealousy over a son is not uncommon. Even with good guys. Without being too generalized here I think men are somewhat designed to be the center of attention and they have really delicate egos (more so than us I believe) and when they are not the center of attention or have a grownup younger version of themselves....sometimes that jealousy kicks in. my hubby told me when i brought home our new first baby boy 30 years ago...who he loves dearly....:by seeing my love for my infant said "I see I will have some formidable competition from this little guy..." He was right:) The good news is he kept/keeps it in check by being a good pops to both our sons. Most guys I think would never admit it.

    getting excited to see PS for a boob check seven days out....they keep changing little bit every dayand I actually feel great. Hoping he clears me to leave for NYC on Sunday. Once i get that I willhit all the threads and post details and cell so some of us can meet up...

  • somewhereinbetween
    somewhereinbetween Member Posts: 28
    edited March 2011

    Well I'm a bit somewhereinbetween all of this. I think I have too much information and of course that keeps me questioning. Not a bad thing it's just until I can get something definitive I'm sure I 'll be wondering am I out of the woods. I recieved my path report back and it said lymphnodes were negative and all margins were cleared for cancer. hiphip hoooray!!!!! I say. Thank you Lord. However I have a question that I'm not clear about. Initially I chose the masectomy because I figured I would escape chemotherapy and radiation treatments but due to my age and being pre menapause. Is it necessary that I still have treatment done even with the knowledge that I do have.

  • jo1955
    jo1955 Member Posts: 8,543
    edited March 2011

    Somewhereinbetween - To have treatment or not is the million dollar question.  That is a decision only you can make.  I would advise discussing this with your MO.  You did not post your dx so it is hard to tell you what I would do given the same circumstances.  I chose lump, rads and Tamox.  I did not have to have chemo - feel lucky on that one. I'm not sure age and menopausal status is totally the deciding factor.

    Best of luck to you. 

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