MIDDLE-AGED WOMEN 40-60ish

Carrol2

marleagal thanks for the info I doubt that he would read it. he is very preoccupied with our financial issues of trying to get a business off the ground. I wish he was more sensitive. but not happening.

marlegal

Carol, I know mine would not have either, but I hear some do    I hope you come let us hold your hand, lift your spirits, and help carry you through this.  There is a light at the end of the tunnel, I promise.

heartnsoul76

My ex-husband was such an insensitive jerk! I remember when the doctor diagnosed me with Fibromyalgia and I finally knew what was wrong with me. I was sitting on the edge of the bed and telling him about it, and reading the symptoms from some information they had given me. He started walking around the room getting ready to take a shower, totally ignoring what I was saying. I started crying and kept reading anyway - I couldn't believe he was being so cold-hearted and hateful and completely shutting me out. We get along now - because we have a son together - but I will never forget that night as long as I live.

annettek

I am sorry HeartnSoul...glad you have moved on and have the dignity to get along for your son. That is just pure class on your part.

jo1955

Welcome Cellomom - This is a great bunch of ladies - lots of info and support.  Sorry you had to join our club.  Hope chemo goes well for you.

HeartnSoul - Glad you have moved on and gotten on with your life.  Sorry to hear the ex was such a jerk. 

Carrol2

well we had a talk and he admits he is not a compassionate guy but he does not know what to do about it. He is a difficult person to get along with for anyone. I guess thats what i get for marrying a tortured soul but we have that in common.

Sandeeonherown

To all of our sisters in Libya and Bahrain and Japan and Egypt..my heart goes out to you. How are they going to get to Dr. appointments? have surgery? their needs will be put aside because of airstrikes and tsunamis and revolutions....breaks my heart.

lynniea

Bad stomach ache what do you do about it.  Help me

annettek

lynniea- do you have any ginger ale or ginger tea? That always helps me. And I have started going to the chinese grocery and buying something called ginger chews-very cheap-like a 1.50 for a big bag- they are great for upset stomaches.

Falining all of the above, I get ina bath tub and let the water soothe me.

heartnsoul76

Oh, lynniea, I never know what to do when my stomach hurts. Sometimes, I chew Tums. Sometimes I sip hot tea. Most of the time I just lay on my side clutching a pillow.

annette is right - ginger tea is what helps me. The bath tub sounds like a good idea, too! I hope you are feeling better soon...

Thank you, annette and jo, for your kind words regarding the ex. He's a much better ex-husband that he was husband. Oddly, now that our son is 21, it seems like he's getting jealous of him. But then I remember that is a typical narcissistic trait - pathetic. Glad he's not mine anymore!

Carol - so glad you and your husband at least talked about it. Now that yours is aware of how you feel, he may actually change a little. Of course, don't count on it but you may occasionally be pleasantly surprised!

Meece

Nibbling on Ginger snap cookies also helps.

barbe1958

Make sure you keep your bowels clear!! A Sennoket laxative with a stool softener is a MUST. Don't say I didn't warn you!!

cellomomof5

Lynniea - I don't know if you have Trader Joe's in CT, but if so, they have the ginger chews.

lynniea

I took sennoke last night.  Called church pastor prayed for me.  Thanks I will try some of them.

Meece

I kept a bag of prunes in the fridge for daily help.  Never been so stopped up as I was during chemo.  Drink plenty of liquids!

Meece

NativeMainer

If you can't find Ginger Chews look for crystallized ginger.  Sometimes it's in the spices section and sometimes in the snack section of grocery stores.  Most health food stores carry it. Works good to prevent motion sickness as well as chemo nausea. 

Meece

I make candied ginger using fresh ginger.  You can find a recipe and it is pretty easy, just don't burn the sugar.

Sherryc

Lynniea-did not do chemo but when I started tamox stayed nauseated for two weeks.  Lived off of sprite, ginger-ale, ginger/mint tea, ginger chews and saltines.  My Dad is starting chemo and the doctor has given him lactolose for constipation.  Hope you get to feeling better

barbe1958

Yikes! Lactolose is a harsh laxative!! I've had to have drink that WITH a Fleet enema in the other end and felt like I was being ripped apart! You have to stay on top of your bowels or it is so hard to get gong again. Literally!!! No point a laxataive without a stool softener so you don't hurt yourself....

I'm finding posts that I didn't even see yesterday with the weird way the pages are appearing...sigh. I hope they get it all fixed NOW!!

Meece

I am having the same problem.  I sent a message to the moderators I hope many others have and that they are working on a fix now.

jo1955

I think everyone is having the same problem since the moderators made some changes.  I have to be careful to look and make sure I am on the last page.  It leaves me where Ieft off, not at the last post.

I am reading all the posts about keeping the bowels moving and what not.  About 2 years ago, I started taking acidophilus - can be purchased anywhere - it is good for the immue system and has kept me regular.  No problems in that department.  Just a suggestion. 

Sherryc

Yes I forgot they gave him Lactolose with Senekot S.  He has been in so much pain and on pain meds and well you know what happened.  So he finally got moving so the MO thinks he will probably get constipatied with the chemo as well.

3jaysmom

circle of prayer here in so fla for your sil..   3jays

Meece

Spring has sprung and soon it will be time to get out and enjoy outdoor activities.

Each of us will have to pedal, but I am more concerned as to which one of us will be steering after our refreshments.

barbe1958

Would we just be going in a cirlce? What the heck IS that thing?

Meece

Meece

Conference Bicycle   

I just don't want to be one of those riding backwards.

barbe1958

I was just going to post that about riding backwards!! ehhehehehehee

Meece

I'll take one of the four side seats because I don't want to have to concentrate on steering, I want to chat!