Housework support group!!???!!
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shiny Thanks that makes me feel much better [ hugs to you ]
Nancy
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(((((((((((((((((((Arniebelle)))))))))))))) ((((((((((((((Mr. Arniebelle))))))))))) (((((((((((((((((((((Jamie)))))))))))))))
Arnie, I have to agree with Barbe and Shiny. Drugs can play all sorts of tricks on a person's emotions. And being that she's in so much pain...........well, bless her heart.........I'm sure she wishes she wasn't even in her own skin right now. Maybe the docs can tweak her meds a little so she's a little more tolerant. I sure hope so for you, Mr. Arnie and Jamie of course!!!! I'll have my little 3-year-olds pray for your family in the morning. God bless all of you!!
A great big welcome to nwest125 and Gingerbrew.
So glad you ladies found us.
We REALLY try not to take housekeeping very seriously, but every now and then, someone will slip up and vacuum or something. And then feeling the guilt, will come here to confess her actions. We do like looking for days to be housework-free. You know.........if someone has a good checkup, or someone is celebrating an anniversary or birthday. I think we might have even declared no housekeeping for St. Patty's Day........not quite sure about that one.
But, anyway....we're so glad you're with us. Mark us as a favorite and come back and let us know how you're doing. Jump right up in the middle of whatever the bunny hutch has going on at the time.
Right now we're lifting Arnie and her family up!! Arnie daughter (Jamie) had serious back surgery this week. Arnie has 2 beautiful grandchildren and a wonderful Mr. Arnie that prays for all of us every night. Those Arnie's are special people.
((((((((((((Bunnies)))))))))))))) enjoy the rest of the weekend!
Shinygirl!!! I do believe that man of yours has you a wee bit spoiled.....LOLOL. You're so lucky and blessed to have someone care for you. I read your story about DS...........made me cry:( I know you were SOOOOOOOOOOOOO exremely proud of that boy!!!!!!!!
Nighty night Bunnies!!!! Hugs hugs and more hugs to each of you!!!
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Even if we don't mention an occassion to not do housework, it's assumed that we don't do it on any day that ends in a "Y".
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Yes, nwest, as you can see by Ginger's early post-in-our-midst, our very best solution to housework: hire it done & go smell the roses!
Welcome to the dust-bunny hutch of friendship & support. You'll like us. We are an international crew of dust bunnies from the states, to Canada, on across the pond to England and further into the future with our down-under Aussie. Makes for even more fun.
Bunnies, I'm back to FL from my solo-adventure up to northern IL. Hubby picked me up in Tampa & that last flight back was delayed, so arrived some side of midnight, getting back to the house here right before 2:00 A.M. I'm happy to report that I then slept for TEN straight hours. Not sure the last time I have ever done that? DH came in just before noon to check on me, otherwise I might have slept straight thru the whole of Sat.
It's good that I can build in the down day(s) after such adventures.
True confessions. Wish I could blame drug psychosis. We had a big 'row' yesterday. Has me still reeling today...... as this is very rare for us. We are excellent spouses to one another, but there are challenges as business partners together, too.
Argggggggggggh. I guess being so exhausted I engaged mouth before heart. He goes the extra mile always. He really does support me in a gazillion ways. Honest-to-goodness. Yet..........
I guess this is one of those times for my bumper sticker:
"When all else fails, lower your standards."
The same could be said of my feelings about housework.
Arnie, sending all sorts of prayers & encouragement to your whole family. Everyone's offered great insight on what Jaimie's going thru. I'll add prayers that they get her meds adjusted & that your daughter returns to you -- right before your very eyes.
((((((((((((((((((((((Arnie, Mr. Arnie, Arnie Jr.))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Shiny. I can just picture your son at the end of the performance, after the 'pressure' is off to perform, and soaking up the appreciation -- giving others his unfettered joy & delight. What a blessing to the community to see what JOY looks like, personified. All of your heroic efforts on his behalf are so amazing.
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Oh Faith! Were you harbouring a grudge because he wasn't there with you on this trip????
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No. I really don't think so, Barbe. Not that.
The really big challenge for me is that even while in the midst of whatever I am doing currently, I am always also needing to challenge on what's down the line in the future.
This trip to Europe has about a gazillion details that have to be attended to before departure.
Our friction comes from the way we each attend to details.
I'm forever 'double-checking' that something has gotten done (which drives him nuts.)
So I sent an him an email from the road asking him to get product shipping to Italy.... granted the email was thin on details as I was sending it moments prior to my flight, as they were asking us to board, but I had hoped if it didn't make sense -- at least it would prompt him to ask me what I was talking about.
Anyhow. It didn't get done. My asking about it started the whole 'big' conversation........ that was ultimately most unproductive.
I know that I always get to be the 'diva' and he always has the role of 'grunt' and that's probably no fun from his side, I'm sure.
Arggggggggh. I just can't figure out: if I bug him about the details that doesn't work (from a spouse perspective), and this time when I just gave him the ball, that didn't work either.
We each feel that we wouldn't be treated like 'this' if we were only business partners & not spouses. How funny/sad is that? His dozens of over clients don't go through this and neither do my hosts.
We each project the 'best' professionally to the world, on behalf of other clients......
It always gets done. Whatever 'it' is.... I just wish we weren't inventing the wheel each & every occasion.
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nwest and Gingerbrew.... in my humble opinion these are the bestest gals on this site :-)(((((((((((((((all dustbunnies)))))))))))) Jamie wrote a blog on Facebook this morning and stated that she had wonderful women from Austrailia, to England, from Canada and the all over the USA praying for her...... it warmed my heart. THANK YOU
Faith....... it happens. Dh and I hardly ever argue, unless we're both tired and/or stressed. I usually try to use "sport" analogies to explain my position to him.... lol He "gets" sports :-) You guys have so much on your plates....it's no wonder you have a "blow-up" occassionally.
(((((((((((((Shiny))))))))))) I agree with all the others, what a proud momma you must have been :-)
Just a quick update: I did talk to the doctors and they have been rearranging her meds to try to lessen the "psychosis". It's tough though, they have to keep her pain down so she can move. When I was talking to her last night...I asked if there was anything she needed, then quickly I stated, I might need to rob a bank. Very seriously, she said, "Mom don't rob a bank".... I laughed and said , babe I was just kidding. She very seriously again stated, "Mom they might be monitoring this phone..." I told her I loved her, hung up and cried..... Just part of the process. They are moving her to a rehab facility tomorrow....
Love all you dustbunnies and hope you have a wonderful day!!!! (((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))
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Praying today is a brighter one ((((Arnie)))).
Ladies, we'll have none of this!!
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Ah, the misery of working-together-spouses!! Is he underpaid Faith??
{{{{{{{{{{{ Arnie }}}}}}}}}}} I hope things get better as she gets treated in rehab!! Geez, sounds like she's been on drugs or something...
Sharon, can't see the pic at work, but if you say we don't want it, then I'll agree!
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When I had my quilt store, we used to do a lot of shows and you can imagine how hard it is to set up your "store" in a booth! You could see the tension as each couple came in and how the woman had to direct their husbands on what to do...ehhehehe. They'd done it a million times and had to be told the same thing each time!! Too funny! I wonder if they all stood outside smoking as we women inside rearranged the tables to the way we told them to do in the first place!
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I don't know, Sharon.
If I could find a bird to do my laundry, I'd be willing.
If there was an animated broom to sweep on it's own -- I'd be all for that, too!
Barbe, your quilt-shop-owners-in-the-booth scenerio is EXACTLY what I'm talking about. He doesn't want me to "micro-manage" him (which he tells me every time I want something the way I want it.)
You'd think we'd have a system by now?
I think the fact that we're spending more time together doing 'my' world, is partly responsible. When I could do-it-all by myself we didn't have these issues.
Our Buckeyes play basketball in the tournament tonight. As long as they win, all will be right with the world again. LOL.
Thanks for the understanding bunnies.
Arnie, just keep repeating, "This, too shall pass." How long do they expect her to be in rehab? Are you taking shifts with the kidlets?
More and more hugs & prayers.
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Now I get it! I thought this would be all about how to get yourself to do housework! I am so glad I was wrong.
I have a confession to make. I sew, I like to sew and mess around with sewing. BUT I don't go do that or anything crafty or artistic because there are other things that "should" be done first. Then I don't do those things that "should" be done first and never get to do any of the things I like so I watch TV or cruise the internet instead. I s'pose it is guilt. So help me, I suspect some of you have figured out the cure here and I would like it if you would share it.
Thanks for the welcome and especially the explanations of this threads use.
Ginger, who has only three boosts to go.
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Ginger, sew to your heart's content! Life is TOO short! When did you think you'd be able to do what you really want to do???? Do it NOW!!
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Ginger. We're all about priorities here.
Housework is no where on the radar of priorities what-so-ever.
This thread is FILLED w creative folks. You have found a really lovely little niche of support, creativity and disdain for all things having to do with presenting a 'perfectly' kept house.
We will always encourage you to do original/creative/personal work/play and let the dishes wait till morning.
In theory the thread was started my our 'mom' who was actually seeking motivation/encouragement for getting things done around the house..... we quickly got her to the place of acceptance. She has gone on to do her good deeds in real life w fellow cancer survivors. She recognized that we are an 'addictive' format. LOL.
The rest of us scruffy bunnies stuck around, stuck together & just continue to befriend one another, while seldom mentioning anything to do with cleaning.
It's sweet that every now & again, someone stumbles in -- searching for cleaning motivation.
We welcome them to stay, but once they see we're not really responsive to their tips they usually move along.
But a creative-type who hires out the housework is TRULY welcome!!! We have 400 pages + of hardly ever mentioning housework.
WELCOME!!!
There's a new thread on quilting/sewing/crafts that you might enjoy. Several of us from this thread are also posting over there. It might inspire you.
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Hi fellow dustbunnies first sending out healing vibes to Arnie for her DD.Huggs to all the other bunnies. Faith even the best of marriages have a bad day once in a while and bussiness connections can easily complicate issues.We own our own bussiness and have alot of family members working for us now.Right now my husbands sister is not talking to him because of a job responsibility change related to her son.
Remember the old rule about never going to bed still mad at each other.Had the house full of guests last week so after my gym workout I need to get busy and clean the house.
I know doesn't sound like me does it?
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Go directly to a doctor Mum!!! I think you are ill!!!
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For Ginger brew and anyone who has forgotten
GUILT IS OPTIONAL
XX Shiny
ps: I will add if it helps...If you are feeling guilty about anything you "should" do, should " think", should "aspire to" etc, then draw a line down the middle of a sheet of paper to write 2 lists of the "pros" and "cons" of guilt.
I think that you will find that the guilt column is hard to fill, whilst the "no guilt" side is full of oportunities to do what is right for you. This in turns makes you happyer and more able to be responsive to those you love.
Never hold on to guilt, it gets in the way of everything, and takes precious time away from you! If it acts as a swift gentle reminder of something you feel you want to do differently, then acknolegdge that new awareness, dumpt the guilt and shine on with your new decision. If you keep feeling guilty about something but don't change it, it is either likely that "the thing" is not what you are actually "guilting" about or you are not being gentle enough with yourself and it may be you are asking too much of yourself, and ignoring your inner voice.
So, remember, Guilt is OPTIONAL. Be good to you. Sit down and have a cup of coffee.
hug
shiny
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Here , here Shiny.
I propose that we all sit down and have a cup of coffee and a piece of cake!!!
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Grrrreat Gooogaaaaaaaaaaaa Moooogaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa Vivvy!!
Your pic sure does love delish!!
There's not one thing I could add to what the other bunnies have already written.
Except, (and they've said this) but it IS a wonderful bunch of ladies just chatting, cheering, listening, ranting and whatever else. Housework=bad word_____________bad bad word=housework=bad bad
Some of our bunnies must be in hiding waiting to make sure it's Spring before they hop out.
Kathleen!!! Lucy!!! EWB!!! Dream!!!Jayne!!! MaryRose!!! Gram!!! PatMom! 2new1's!!! Jane!!!
That's just some right off the top of my head. Hope everyone is hopping along fine and dandy.
Prayers Prayers PRAYERS for Arnie, Mr. Arnie, Jamie, kiddos and Jamie's DH. Thinking and praying for you all Arnie!!!!
I'll keep my antennae up just in case someone wanders back into the hutch.
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Signal received. All is good here. Spring is on the way with lots of blooms and buds and birds singing even though I live in the city. My third floor (apartment) balcony overlooks a small park and I usually have morning coffee out there and watch the sun climbing high into the sky.
Next week is consult about the cataracts on my eyes. New glasses helped, but I can tell things are getting blurry again. Hugs, smilies, blessings and good wishes for all, Nancy
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You are right Barbe I must be ill.
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The first step is to admit it Mum!!
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OMG my daughter is going to have a fit my DH was supposed to take all the Montreal office wedding invites with him this morning to distribute.They are still sitting here beside the computer.
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Fed EX!!!!!!!!!!!
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Good idea thanks she won't even know
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Mum. Have you gotten your dress chosen?
I can remember you hunting............
I don't remember a picture of the selection, yet?
If so, I've missed it.
Remind me when the big day hits the calendar, please.
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Hey Nancy!!! Good to see you:)
If I remember correctly, you recently moved to that 3rd floor apt didn't you? If so, I hope you're enjoying your new digs. It sounds like you are with that nice view. Hope you get your eyes fixed up real soon.
MUM!!!! We want details of the upcoming wedding:)
Sending BIG hugs to our sweet bunny Arnie today!! Hope things are getting better with DD. You're in our thoughts and prayers Arnie!!!
Big bunnyhugs to EVERYONE!!!! Hope you're having a wondermous Wednesday!!!
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Ok!!!!
Where is Kathleen??
Kathleeeeeeeeeen!!!!! Where are you??
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Hello bunnies! Welcome nwest125 and Gingerbrew.
I have been MIA for a while but I think about you ladies every day. Often I can log on to peek in on you during a break at work, but usually do not have time to post anything then.
Arnie - you, Jamie and your DH are in my thoughts and prayers right now. I have experienced a family member having medical psychosis too and I remember how it can turn them into someone you don't know. It is not easy to deal with at all. Hugs to all of you.
Nancy - your morning coffee whilst watching the sun rise sounds wonderful. Hope you can get your cataracts sorted out soon, so you can continue to enjoy the view.
Shiny - that was a lovely story about your DS. Glad your DH was spoiling you a bit, you certainly deserve it.
Faith - Yikes on the spouses working together scenario. Sorry you and your DH had a row, I hope all is well in your world now.
You will be pleased to hear that I haven't been doing much housework while I was away from the bunny hutch. I have been busy at work because we recently moved to new premises and we tried to keep teaching our students while we sorted ourselves out. It was chaotic at times, and still some sorting out to be done. I started going to Zumba (inspired by Faith on that one, thanks Faith I love it). Spring has arived here and I have made a start at sorting out our garden ready to grow more of our own vegetables. Today I saw my onc for a check up (only see him every 12 months now) and he said I am doing very well, so that was a relief. Not that I had any reason to think otherwise, but good to have it confirmed.
Coonie, I think you did mention that a good check up is a reason for no housework to be done, so there you are bunnies, just resist any urge to clean :-)
Hugs to each and every one of you. xoxo
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OMG I am in heaven I found a spandex strapless bra with pockets for foobies that I can wear for my gown fitting.Ordered an italian design moss green beaded gown for the reception and have a classic pale pink dress with jacket for the church ceremony.I am going to look good with my hair up,my makeup done no mater how big this old belly is.
Sorry I don,t have photos you will have to wait for the wedding photos.I had a serious row with the dress shop owner when the brides red reception gown arrived in a Fuscia colour and she tried to blame us.I explained to her that our wedding party has purchased 7 gowns from her shop so she had better take good care of the bride. My daughter was in tears when she saw the colour. A red reception dress was the one chinese custom that we decided to honour for my DH's family. After my point was made the manager steped in and found another beautiful gown for the same price which will arrive on time in RED.
The white lace wedding gown arrived from Klienfelds last week and fits her like a dream.Only the length adjustment and the vale need to be added. I have to admit I was sort of dreading the wedding but now that it is all comming together I am starting to get excited. My husband just booked them a honeymoon in Jamaica right after the wedding they do not know yet.Invites were sent out for300 guests but we expect about 250 to actually come.The minister that married Al and I is retired and living here in Toronto.He has agreed to do my daughter's ceremony and has connections with a beautiful catherdral here in downtown Toronto. The reception is in a glass pavilion built over lake ont.with a beautiful view of Toronto. We obnly have one daughter so she is really being spoiled. This is the same daughter that took her summer off work to stay home and look after her mother while I was going through chemo. Sorry I rambled obn so long but everyone has been asking.
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