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  • floralgal
    floralgal Member Posts: 69
    edited March 2011
  • Bren-2007
    Bren-2007 Member Posts: 6,241
    edited February 2011

    Floral .. I like that .. 'let's keep it classy.'  Goes along with the article I just posted on graciousness, kindness and consideration.

    I like the idea of being gracious.

    Bren

  • Beesie
    Beesie Member Posts: 12,240
    edited February 2011

    YEAH!!! to all who've been getting good health news for themselves and their loved ones.  In the end, that's what counts.  

    I'm just back from a visit to the dark zone. No sludge on me. It's kinda creepy there but actually I think it provides an interesting perspective on how the far right thinks. As someone in the middle, I have some liberal views (mostly social) and some conservative views (mostly economic) which means that there are some areas where I actually agree (at least a bit) with those folks. But when I see how they write about things and some of what they say, I realize how far I am from them - and thankfully so! - even in areas where we agree in principle.

    I did find it amusing to see how some of the comments here have been interpreted there; it shows that no matter what you say here, if you've been labelled a certain way, your words will be twisted to mean something that you never meant. Well, I guess I knew that before. I'm wondering though whether some of the people there just can't read very well because in some cases that seems to be the only possible explanation. (I'll be honest and say that I do see some of the same thing here when it comes to what some of the Conservatives say - it sometimes gets twisted and interpreted to mean something way beyond what they actually said.  That's one of the reasons why I stay away from much of the political discussion here.)

    Truthfully I found it to be quite educational.  Much of it was downright funny although some of what I read was sad and parts were scary. What saddens me most is that there are women who post here who I consider to be quite reasonable who unfortunately join in the discussions there and seem to accept all that is being said. I understand that they may agree with the political point of view but I'm sad that they accept without comment the slander and ugliness of much that is being said.  As for the others, I guess it's good for their self esteem that they've found each other, people of like minds. Imagine how depressing the world would be if you realized that 90%+ of other people though that you were off your rocker? 

    So I wonder what they are going to say about me now?  I've shaking in my boots.  Well, no actually, I'm not.  

    FYI to those who asked, I created my new avatar by putting together two separate pics.  I used the Paint program.  

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2011

    It's called Group Think. Groups sometimes fall into a style of thinking where the maintenance of the group's cohesion and togetherness becomes all-important and results in very bad decision-making.

  • floralgal
    floralgal Member Posts: 69
    edited March 2011
  • Bren-2007
    Bren-2007 Member Posts: 6,241
    edited February 2011

    Seafoobs .. that GroupThink is an interesting concept.  I had never heard of it, so I looked it up.

    I wonder how this relates to various political groups and committees. Or even religious groups.

    Groupthink is a type of thought within a deeply cohesive in-group whose members try to minimize conflict and reach consensus without critically testing, analyzing, and evaluating ideas. It is a second potential negative consequence of group cohesion.

    Irving Janis studied a number of American Foreign policy 'disasters' such as failure to anticipate the Japanese attack on Pearl Harbor (1941); the Bay of Pigs fiasco (1961) when the US administration sought to overthrow Cuban Government of Fidel Castro; and the prosecution of the Vietnam War (1964-67) by President Lyndon Johnson. He concluded that in each of these cases, the decisions were made largely due to the cohesive nature of the committees which made them. Moreover, that cohesiveness prevented contradictory views from being expressed and subsequently evaluated. As defined by Janis, "A mode of thinking that people engage in when they are deeply involved in a cohesive in-group, when the members' strivings for unanimity override their motivation to realistically appraise alternative courses of action".[1].

    Individual creativity, uniqueness, and independent thinking are lost in the pursuit of group cohesiveness, as are the advantages of reasonable balance in choice and thought that might normally be obtained by making decisions as a group.[citation needed] During groupthink, members of the group avoid promoting viewpoints outside the comfort zone of consensus thinking. A variety of motives for this may exist such as a desire to avoid being seen as foolish, or a desire to avoid embarrassing or angering other members of the group. Groupthink may cause groups to make hasty, irrational decisions, where individual doubts are set aside, for fear of upsetting the group's balance. The term is frequently used pejoratively, in hindsight.

  • Wabbit
    Wabbit Member Posts: 1,592
    edited February 2011

    I think we all get angry and frustrated at times when we strongly disagree with what somebody else is saying or doing.  Then our inner b*tch starts demanding to get out and lets loose.  We all need to vent sometimes and it is not all bad to take it somewhere else to keep it off here.

    However, if that 'somewhere else' were private and limited to like minded people it would be much better for all concerned.  Instead it seems to be dangled like bait and it can be very hard to resist the lure.  Many hurt feelings and much anger result. 

    And Beesie probably just earned a dwarf name ... now can she resist going back to see what it is? Laughing

    True confession because I'm not trying to be sneaky here.  I used to be Madalyn.  I got mad and concerned about what sometimes seems to be stalking and had my account and all my old posts removed to get rid of all the personal information I've shared over the years.  But I missed you guys so I had to come back and visit just a little bit.  And I had to make an account so I could see Jim's picture!

       

  • kadeeb
    kadeeb Member Posts: 305
    edited February 2011

    Yes, GroupThink might be an interesting concept but sometimes it leads to another type called "mob mentality".  Many times, otherwise calm and decent people can be drawn into a situation by a group when they would have never have conceived or acted that way on their own. 

  • kadeeb
    kadeeb Member Posts: 305
    edited February 2011

    WhiteR,

    I was wondering. The attitude was familiar.

    We missed you! I knew you loved us. Welcome back.! 

  • Bren-2007
    Bren-2007 Member Posts: 6,241
    edited February 2011

    Madalyn .. I love your White Rabbit and I'm glad you're back .. you were missed!

    Kadeeb .. I don't know if mob mentality is the same as groupthink.  I'm sure in some situations groupthink could lead to mob mentality.  Groupthink almost seems like enabling on a group level, as well as a 'keep the peace' within the group at all costs type of thinking. 

    Bren

  • bluedahlia
    bluedahlia Member Posts: 6,944
    edited February 2011

    I thought Beesie already had a nic. 

  • ananda8
    ananda8 Member Posts: 2,755
    edited February 2011

    Barbara,

    Brothers are precious and I am so glad yours is doing well. 

  • floralgal
    floralgal Member Posts: 69
    edited March 2011
  • crazy4carrots
    crazy4carrots Member Posts: 5,324
    edited February 2011
    Ahh, the Finger Bowl -- isn't that an annual football game that takes place in upstate New York?  Near some long skinny lakes?Tongue out
  • kadeeb
    kadeeb Member Posts: 305
    edited February 2011

    Bren, you're right about the concept. It seems like a control mechanism to me. I don't thing GroupThink is at work on this thread and I know that is not what any of us want. If we agree all the time and everyone thinks like me, this is going to get pretty boreing. Our differences are what makes us individuals and you guys on this thread, definitely think for yourselves. Love you all, even if I don't agree with some.

  • kadeeb
    kadeeb Member Posts: 305
    edited February 2011
    Lindasa ----You've lost your mind!Wink
  • ananda8
    ananda8 Member Posts: 2,755
    edited February 2011

    The nastiness of the other site is what happens when there is little or no moderation.  I have seen it on other sites unrelated to politics.  One rude and frightened person attracts others until the entire site becomes a sort of hell hole.  I feel sorry for those people.

    Some have stopped posting on this site because they are allergic to factual information.  They don't want to give up their dark fantasies so the leave.  Some come back as trolls, but it appears we have all agreed to stop feeding the trolls, so they too have gone.

  • Wabbit
    Wabbit Member Posts: 1,592
    edited February 2011

    I had never heard that before floralgal ... like it much.   Thanks!  

    My sister does rabbit rescue.  Did you know that white rabbits are the underdogs of the pet rabbit world and the hardest to find homes for ... it's the red eyes that freak some people out. 

    So ... rooting for the underdogs.  And this is the Year of the Rabbit.  And my sign is Metal Rabbit. And my favorite song really is White Rabbit.  The cosmic forces convened and I had to be a bunny.  And I can just "THUMP THUMP" when I get angry.  Smile

    Have a wonderful Sunday everybody!! 

  • crazy4carrots
    crazy4carrots Member Posts: 5,324
    edited February 2011
    kadeeb -- Some say it happened years ago!  I like it that wayCool.
  • floralgal
    floralgal Member Posts: 69
    edited February 2011

    lindasa--ha ha.  Speaking of upstate NY......

    Sorry, but I can't resist...................

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  • River_Rat
    River_Rat Member Posts: 1,724
    edited February 2011

    Madalyn, nice to meet you.  I read many of your posts when I was lurking here and was sorry when you left.  I'm glad to see that you are still here.

    Just FYI for everyone.  I am no one from the past.  I lurked here for a really long time before registering and then lurked for quite a while after that before posting.  I believe it was lewing's post about muskrats that drew me in and I changed my user name to reflect that.  Before posting I just had my user name down as my grandkids' initials which didn't really work well as a name.

  • AnneW
    AnneW Member Posts: 4,050
    edited February 2011

    Madalyn, we could call you "Thumper"--another sweetie of a bunny!

  • Bren-2007
    Bren-2007 Member Posts: 6,241
    edited February 2011

    River .. I like that name .. it suits you!

    Bren

  • River_Rat
    River_Rat Member Posts: 1,724
    edited February 2011

    Bren,

    Trying to decide if you only like part of my name or my name in its entirety, and if the entire name fits me or only part of it.   LOL  Don't worry where I live "River Rat" is like a badge of honor.   But I had to laugh because I'm sure that some thought I was a blast from the past and have been focusing on the "rat" part.  But all things float right off the back of a river rat.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2011
  • bluedahlia
    bluedahlia Member Posts: 6,944
    edited February 2011

    I had a white bunny with blue eyes.  We called him Pesky.  He was so cute....if not for the shedding, they make the perfect pet.

  • kadeeb
    kadeeb Member Posts: 305
    edited February 2011

    Notself, 

    Sorry, but I don't beleive they're gone, just waiting. It'll take more than one or two days to find out for sure. One can only hope. I'm going to do my best to ignore someone who pops in, takes a dump in our floor and waits for everyone to step in it. Remember if you do step in it, you have poop on your feet. When you stir in sh($, it stinks up the whold place. 

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2011

    You guys do realize that I was referring to the groupies on the other site and the groupies on this site that are the deleters as the Groupthink peeps.  I was not referring to this thread. 

  • Medigal
    Medigal Member Posts: 1,412
    edited February 2011

    Shirley:  I just can't resist your postings because you don't make it clear to me what is the point of the links.  One was from 2009.  If we are to learn anything from them can you at least give an idea of why you are posting them today?  Is it because of what happened in Egypt?  I know we have mob arisings in the US but they aren't as huge as the one that just calmed down in Egypt.  I'm always willing to learn if more is going on in our country than we get from the Media so are you able to give some explanation for these two particular You-Tubes?  I know about SEIU and the kind of people who are said to be involved with them.  Glenn Beck makes sure we know SEIU but what is the latest I am missing?  Thanks!

  • kadeeb
    kadeeb Member Posts: 305
    edited February 2011

    SeaFoobs, I consider you one of the good apples, no harm, no foul.

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