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  • BonnieK
    BonnieK Member Posts: 655
    edited November 2010

    Thanks, Texas.  Definitely not looking forward to the drain, but it will be better than this big, messy opening in my incision.  Did you have a hematoma after surgery, too?  I had necrosis and infection after MX and ended up with surgery, another drain and 3 weeks of antibiotics.  It healed up fairly quickly, so I'm hoping for similar results this time. 

  • busqueen
    busqueen Member Posts: 176
    edited November 2010

    Bonnie, that really does suck.((((HUGS!!)))

    I'm doing ok, just super tired and feeling generally icky and achey.  I really don't mind about the hair at all, it's really much more traumatic for my daughter and husband.  I actually kind of like getting up and not having to deal with bed head!:-)

  • Firni
    Firni Member Posts: 1,519
    edited November 2010

    Bonnie, I'm soo soo sorry that you are having to go thru this now too.  It is bad enough to have to give up your implants.  This all, especially the drain is just too much.  I'm praying that you heal quickly and get rid of that damn drain!

    Carie, my husband very much anticipated my hair loss.  He couldn't wait to shave my head and see me bald.  He does like my super short boy cut now.  Are you getting Neulasta shots as well?  I think those knocked me on my butt more than the chemo did.

    bold, I talked to my stylist about a weave.  I don't have enough hair on the crown of my head to hold a weave.  It does pretty much suck.  My stylist does an amazing job at minimizing the baldness. 

  • Texas357
    Texas357 Member Posts: 1,552
    edited November 2010

    Bonnie, I first developed fluid around the implant and had surgery to clean it all out. Then I developed the hematoma. Blood was leaking from the incision where the new nipple had been formed, and pouring out of the drain holes. 

    My plastic surgeon worked for about an hour in her office trying to force out the blood. After two or three weeks of constant bleeding, I gave up and consented to the Lat Flap surgery on that side.

  • Firni
    Firni Member Posts: 1,519
    edited November 2010

    Geez, Texas.  That sounds like it was miserable.

  • Texas357
    Texas357 Member Posts: 1,552
    edited November 2010

    The finish line is in sight. I have a repeat nipple reconstructon surgery planned for the Monday after Thanksgiving. Just one spot on the lat flap incision refuses to heal and the plastic surgeon isn't worried about it. But since chemo, my skin is very sensitive to bandaids, of all things. I've gotten scarring from the adhesive. So I'm hoping this heals pretty soon!

  • EleanorJ
    EleanorJ Member Posts: 752
    edited November 2010

    Woo Hoo Texas!

    Carie, ready for round #2?

    So, let's start a fun subject, vaginal dryness! LOL! Seriously ladies, anyone dealing with that? I was fine during chemo, but since my cycle has returned last summer, it's been up & down. It's so bad right now, I went to the dr today thinking I was a UTI. But no, it's clear. Trying Replens right now, hopefully it will help. Geezz..

  • BonnieK
    BonnieK Member Posts: 655
    edited November 2010

    Oh yeah -- no juice.  Femara seems to be the culprit for me and it's a bummer.

  • Firni
    Firni Member Posts: 1,519
    edited November 2010

    Texas, ask your PS about Silvedene.  It's used on burns to heal them and my PS had me use them on my nip construction coz they didn't want to heal up.  It worked very well.

    congrats on getting to the finish line.  I'm still looking at 2-3 procedures starting Jan 12.  Then some re-tattooing.  Sigh 

  • Texas357
    Texas357 Member Posts: 1,552
    edited November 2010

    Firni, I still have a whole jar of Silvedene from rads. I will try that, thanks! By the time I finish tattoos, it will be March or April.

    Caroline, that dryness is the biggest thing no one talks about! I'm using Vagifem, which is a prescription suppository with local estrogen. I had my blood tested before using the 'loading amount' which was daily for 2 weeks, then going to the recommended twice weekly. My estrogen levels actually fell during that period. My gynecologist read everything he could on it, and feels it's safe to use.

    The other recommendation is frequency, even though it hurts. It helps to increase the blood flow to the area, which helps nourish the tissues.

  • Firni
    Firni Member Posts: 1,519
    edited November 2010

    Caroline, I somehow missed the dryness question.  Maybe a subconscious oversight.  LOL.  YES  It is a big problem.  My gyn Rx Estriol vag. cream.  Like Texas, there is a loading dose of everyday for two weeks.  Then 2x weekly to maintain.  You shouldn't have any problem getting an Rx since you are ER/PR-.  It was like pulling teeth to get my onc to agree to this for me.  He asked me if it was really that big of a big deal.  I asked him how he would feel if every time he had sex it felt like someone was ripping the skin off his penis.  He ok'd my request.  Wink  As far as frequency, that helps a lot too.  When we don't very often, it's like starting all over again and the pain is back.  Sometimes bleeding.  At that point I just remind DH to be gentle.  I'm a virgin again.  LOL  

    Check the I want my MoJo back thread.  TONS of info there. 

  • EleanorJ
    EleanorJ Member Posts: 752
    edited November 2010

    SHHHHHHH!!!! Hubby might hear ;) LOL! Seriously, hubby has been working night shift, we NEVER go to bed together so frequency has not been helping ;) He just got a promotion and he will be working on day shift again after Thanksgiving, so I'm sure that will help. I'll stick with the replens for now, if it doesn't get any better, I will go to my OB. I am considered ER/PR-, but they did find during the biopsy (not lumpectomy) that I was <5% ER+, so because of that little itty bitty risk that there might be some + to it, my OB wouldn't give me anything to regulate my cycle last time I was there. I'll check about the cream though. Dr yesterday gave me a prescription for a yeast infection, she was 50/50 between the infection & plain dryness, but now after putting this subject out there, I'm convinced that I have yet another reason to not be happy with chemo leftovers and I won't get the prescription filled. Geezzz... they don't tell you all that when they're selling you chemo cures cancer!

    On another note, ladies, I don't know how you all do it! Treatment is over, yet you're all still doing procedure after procedure! I guess it's probably another thing they don't mention that mastectomy with reconstruction  is a LONG process! I guess the remove & reconstruct during the same surgery rarely happens!

  • BonnieK
    BonnieK Member Posts: 655
    edited November 2010

    Cebula -- you are so right that treatment ends and procedures go on and on and on..... DH and I were counting yesterday and I've had 6 procedures, including MX, since getting BC.  Most recently, I had implant removed 10/26 after 2nd capsular contracture and then got a huge hematoma that was washed out in another surgery earlier this week.  I'm done with "immediate reconstruction" procedures and am going for a prosthetic when everything is healed up.

    As for the vaginal dryness, my gyn prescribed vagifem and estrace cream, but I was so afraid of a recurrence that I didn't use them very long.  Replens didn't work for me, but we're still looking for something that will work.  Today my surgery side is very sore and I'm still "wearing" a JP drain, so must get well from all of this before doing much else.

    Have a wonderful day.....

  • Texas357
    Texas357 Member Posts: 1,552
    edited November 2010

    Caroline, I laughed when I read your post because when I was first diagnosed my husband thought treatment would be a couple of months then I'd be over it all. It's now 26 months since diagnosis and I don't expect to finish with the tattoos until March or April 2011.

    Is it any wonder I'm having trouble moving beyond BC? That the worry is always there? I have so many permanent reminders PLUS I'm still in the doctor's office or hospital every few weeks.

  • busqueen
    busqueen Member Posts: 176
    edited November 2010

    Hi Everybody.:-)

    Home from chemo #2 of cycle #2.  What a wonderful way to spend a friday afternoon.  Not.   Today was one of those days that when I got to the parking lot of the cancer center, I just didn't want to get out of the car.  Blah.

    Firni, if I ever win the lottery I will give you whatever you need to put your face back where it belongs, and maybe some hairplugs?:-)  I think you are a special lady, and I wish you didn't have to deal with not feeling good about yourself.

    We actually have a winter storm warning starting tomorrow morning at 6am until Sunday morning at 6am.  Woohoo!!  I'm one of those weird people that actually likes snow, especially now that I don't have to get up and drive a city bus around in it.

    I hope you all enjoy your weekend.:-)

  • Firni
    Firni Member Posts: 1,519
    edited November 2010

    Awww, Carie, you are so sweet.  I thank you for my face and hair, in case you ever win a lottery.  I saw the weather map of that storm headed your way.  I usually do track the weather there since my brother lives so close to you.  Enjoy the snow.  Now that you aren't trying to pick up passengers in the snow banks.  

  • busqueen
    busqueen Member Posts: 176
    edited November 2010

    Blah, blah, blah.  Really had a miserable day today. The decadron from yesterday had me up at 3am, which had me all discombobulated.  I forgot to take all my meds.  And instead of being able to just sit inside and watch the snow I actually had to go drive in it and it sucked.  Tried to take a nap and I just felt all weird and funky and inside out.  Gonna drug up and pass out.  Sorry for the whining, I just know that at least here everybody will understand.

  • Firni
    Firni Member Posts: 1,519
    edited November 2010

    Hey Carie.  Sorry you had such a miserable day.  That really sucks.  Hope some good drugs and a solid night sleep help.  

  • BonnieK
    BonnieK Member Posts: 655
    edited November 2010

    Carie -- So sorry about your miserable day and hoping you get some good sleep tonight and tomorrow is a better day for you.  ((Hugs))

  • Mandy1313
    Mandy1313 Member Posts: 1,692
    edited November 2010

    Carie

    Sorry about the miserable day. But today is a new day and I hope you will feel better.  

    Hugs to all.

    Mandy

  • EleanorJ
    EleanorJ Member Posts: 752
    edited November 2010

    Yikes Carie, and you can't even enjoy the snow :( Now that's sad! I'm with you on that one, I LOVE snow. One chemo morning, we had a big snow storm, so we wrapped up the kids and took them out sledding for a couple of hours then back in for hot cocoa, then out to chemo at 11AM! Yeah, I like snow that much.. hehe.. It also made the day more enjoyable. Hope you feel better this morning. So how many rounds are you doing?

  • busqueen
    busqueen Member Posts: 176
    edited November 2010

    Yay!  Feel so much better today!  Better living and sleeping through pharmecuticals!:-)  Thanks for not calling me a whiney crybaby.:-)

  • Mandy1313
    Mandy1313 Member Posts: 1,692
    edited November 2010

    You are not a whiney crybaby, Carie so we could never call you one.  You are one strong person who has been given alot to deal with and you impress me every day with the way you handle things. It is perfectly OK to come here to tell us when you feel annoyed or frustrated with what is going on. That is why we are here for eachother.

    Sending big hugs

    Mandy 

  • BonnieK
    BonnieK Member Posts: 655
    edited November 2010
    Carey -- you are one brave woman and definitely NOT a whiney cry baby.  We all have bad days and this is such a great, safe place to come for support and understanding. (((hugs)))  --bonnie
  • EleanorJ
    EleanorJ Member Posts: 752
    edited November 2010

    Carie, I'm so glad to hear you're feeling better, and whine all you want, you're entitled to! That's what I kept telling myself ;)

    Last month, I started putting my blog in a shutterfly photobook. I just finished it! I wanted to make this so that I would always have a reminder of this journey and how life is precious. I know myself, and I can easily sweep under the carpet what I don't want to remember. And while my boys were little at the time, I wanted them to know what their mommy went through, how much I love them and how much I tried to make life normal for them during that time. It's my blod in it's entirety and photos of everything we did during that time, from diagnosis to end of treatment. I like it. Since you have all been so helpful and a big part of my treatment, I wanted to share it with you all http://share.shutterfly.com/action/welcome?sid=8AZNG7Vo2btnkw 

  • Texas357
    Texas357 Member Posts: 1,552
    edited November 2010

    Carie, that Decadron used to keep me up too. Wish they could come up with something that has fewer side effects.

    Speaking of side effects, I've been having one of my rare pity parties. Feeling so unattractive.

  • Mandy1313
    Mandy1313 Member Posts: 1,692
    edited November 2010

    Caroline: Your photo blog is beautiful. It brought tears to my eyes as I went through it.  You were wise to document each step of the way. 

    Hugs

  • BonnieK
    BonnieK Member Posts: 655
    edited November 2010

    Caroline -- your photo blog is absolutely gorgeous!

  • Firni
    Firni Member Posts: 1,519
    edited August 2013

    Caroline, I wish I could have read the text.  What a journey and what a beautiful documentation of it. You should take it to a publisher.  Thank you for sharing it with us!

    Texas, what's going on?  Why are you so down?  Or is it one of those I don't know why I feel like crap, but there it is. ?  Can I bring you some brownies? 

  • Mandy1313
    Mandy1313 Member Posts: 1,692
    edited November 2010

      This time of year is full of joy but it is also stressful. For some reason, I keep thinking back to two years ago and how sick I was from chemo---it overwhelms me sometimes but I never breathe a word to my family.  Although I joined the December chemo forum, I actually began chemo in November and was already sick for Thanksgiving.  (my chemo took from November to June)  So the holidays bring joy but they also are harder than they used to be because they trigger memories.   Like others, I try to protect my family from what I went through but in some ways I do that for myself---I don't think that anyone who has not been through chemo can fully understand what it is like.  

    To Carie who is still in treatment and to Texas who is having a hard time right now, I send special hugs.  And to everyone else on this thread, I send still more hugs.  We got through this together and we are here for eachother now.

    Mandy

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