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  • hrf
    hrf Member Posts: 3,225
    edited July 2010

    Nancy, you look amazing!!!

    And Guinness is one adorable puppy.

  • NancyD
    NancyD Member Posts: 3,562
    edited July 2010

    Thanks for the compliments on my hair. The secret is I only fixed the front and sides for my passport photo, lol. The back is a mess. And it's still quite uneven/layered. The top hasn't quite caught up to the bottom. And the ends! The frizzy curls are still there, but in a few months I should be able to have them cut off and my hair really styled.

  • lvtwoqlt
    lvtwoqlt Member Posts: 6,162
    edited July 2010

    Guness is precious! I see my mil's dog who is just over a year old and has not been trained properly. She had snowball partially trained to go outside to pee/poo but last winter when it was sub-freezing my mil didn't take Snowball out consistantly because it was too cold and now snowball takes spells about not going out side but on the puppy pads she keeps on the floor in the bathroom.

    Nancy if I didn't say it of FB, your new doo is beautiful. This week, on Wed, I called my beautician to see if she could cut my hair this week and fortunately she was able to get me in that afternoon, I called before I had the call about the interview on Thurs, so my hair was looking good for the interview.

    Cathi, you can't help what Amanda does only love her and pray that she sees her hubby and his activities are preventing her from being with her children and that love for her children will help her make the right decisions regarding her children.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited July 2010

    It looks like Guinness will stay. My daughter is keeping Jasper, who is having the time of his life with her dog in a house with a big yard. He has been a joy to me and gotten me through a rough year but he's also been a challenge to walk on leash (leash aggressive) so our walks are short. My granddaughter is gifting me with Guinness, a six-month-old Cavalier King Charles Spaniel. He is the king of cuddle, loves all people and all dogs. We take long walks and he is so mellow that I get to meet and visit with SO many nice people. I get my exercise and socialization all at once! Until I decided to keep him, he was the perfect dog. No barking, no chewing, just pure adoration. Yesterday, after I made my final decision, we were at a park enjoying the lovely day. Guinness started chasing every person who came within a hundred feet, barking ferociously. As I write, he is chewing up a shoe. True colors emerging. I named him Guinness because his eyes look like the bottom  of a bottle of stout. Weird, I know. Whatever emerges in the personality of this little guy, he's all mine now! Sigh...

  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited July 2010

    Love the hair Nancy - Love Love Love Guinness.

    Yes Barbe they have visitation rights so far we are allowing them here - the order is for 1 hour a day - Amanda and Bill can not come together,  if Ed and I are both here both children can be present,  if not only one child.  It is a hard one for me to swallow my pride and bite my tongue as far as Bill goes, I tried hard to give him a fair chance all this time - don't wanna use the word hate  - but my stomach turns.  The sad thing is he makes little to no attempt to bond with Ella, really only comes if he is gonna see Landen - Amanda is my daughter and I will always LOVE HER, but she knows I am pissed and kinda over her self pity  - she /he created this mess - stop the freakin tears and do what yeah gotta do,  at best this will take 9/mo.  We have case workers and child guardians we must report to - I pray-pray-pray - Amanda wakes up in regards to him - oh I can't even talk about him makes me wanna puke.  Unfortunetly we are bound by the law to allow visitation,  it could get moved to the Childrens center,  but then state law says all they have to provide is 1 hour per month per parent,  right now I don't see how that can be good for the kids if they are ever to go back home. 

    HAPPY SUNDAY NIGHT ALL - XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited July 2010

    Could use prayers and all forms of ethereal energy this morning. Followup with onc...a scary one to say the least.

    Cathi, Amanda really is the key here. I'm rooting for her.

    Sheila, any word on the job yet?

    Off to shower...

  • lvtwoqlt
    lvtwoqlt Member Posts: 6,162
    edited July 2010

    Sending good vibe your way.

    They will make a decision on the job this week. I was one of 6 that they interviewed. I think that is pretty good I made it to the interview, considering that our jobless rate is over 14% in the county.  My resume made a good first impression, my phone interview made another good impression, I hope that my face-to-face interview made the best impression.

    The funny thing is I had that scabby spot removed from my cheek on Tuesday and although the ps said that it would be a small incision (2 or 3 stitches) it ended up about 1 inch long with 7 or 8 stitches. The nurse said that my eye would probably swell shut and I would have a 'he**' of a black eye. My eye didn't swell shut (only slight swelling), I was slightly bruised under my eye, and the incision lays about even with the bottom of my glasses along my cheek bone. The interviewer didn't ask anything about the blue sutures and black scab just below my glasses. I will get the results of the path report on wednesday. It has been hard all week not to rub my eye, as soon as my finger rubs the area I am in pain, but when your eye itches, you want to scratch it.

    Sheila

  • geebung
    geebung Member Posts: 1,851
    edited July 2010

    Sheila - I'm praying and keeping my fingers crossed that you get the job.

    Judie - what a sweet dog Guinness is. KC spaniels are one of the gentlest dogs. Perhaps he was just excited when he heard you were going to be his special human and was trying to tell all the other dogs and humans in the park how happy he was! As for the shoe... well, he's still a puppy so he will hopefully grow out of that. Praying you get a good report from the onc.

    Cathie - words are inadequate to describe my admiration for what you and Ed are doing. My prayers are with both of you and Amanda too - that she will make some hard but wise decisions. I also pray that her husband might see how wrong he has been and will somehow change for the better . You have so much stress right now - especially having to see your SIL on a regular basis. It's sad that he's not putting any effort into bonding with Ella. 

    Nancy, what a lovely photo - you are beautiful!

    Love to everyone,

    Jane oxoxoxo

  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited July 2010

    Judie  - better late than never - prayers that the onco visit was most wonderful news.  XOXOXOXXOXOXOXO Shelia good vibes still coming for the new job - xoxoxoxoxoxoxox

    Thanks for the wonderful words Jane,  I too pray eveyday that Amanda see's the right path and chooses to take it.  This whole thing has caused such a rift in the family,  Jaclyn has not been an angel in her almost 30 years but right now she is SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO mad and angry at her sister,for what she exposed the kids to,  the fact that Alexcis used to spend a lot of time there and now she quess Alexcis had exposure to all that crap and also mad at her for the strain this has put on Ed and I. Don't know if they will ever get a relationship back. 

    HAPPY TUESDAY - XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited July 2010

    Sheila, I'm worried that no news means bad news about the job. Is that the case?

    Devin is home. Nettie, he gave me you gift. I'll send a photo as soon as I can. It's so good to have him back.

    My little Guinness puppy was ripped from my arms by the breeder. My granddaughter had a 10-week-old puppy from her, also on approval. She emailed the breeder that we wanted to purchase both puppies, and asked if there was a discount when you  buy more than one. The breeder went ballistic and demanded that both pups be retured within 6 hours. Asking about a discount makes it clear that money is more important to you than the animal and you are not a good home for her dogs. We are both stunned and heartbroken.

    I just returned from a bone scan and have a CAT scan in a couple of hours. I'll get results next Monday. I'm confident that they're OK. They saw some enlarged lymph nodes on an MRI of my shoulder when I was having pain there, and the scans are to diagnose them. But the MRI was just after I'd gotten a mild infection in the tissue around my right implant...I'm sure that's the cause of the nodes. But with our history, we get the full monty.

    I spent the weekent at Lake Chelan with my nurses' group...pure heaven...mystical, peaceful, connected. We've been having a weekend reunion for 31 years now. A great group.

  • lvtwoqlt
    lvtwoqlt Member Posts: 6,162
    edited July 2010

    Judi, that is terrible what the breeder did with Guinness and the other puppy.

    About the job, they said that they would be making a decision sometime last week and I am waiting to hear from the agency. I sent an email to my contact to see if a decision had been made and I had not been informed.

    I did have that spot removed from my cheek on July 6th, two days before my face to face interview. I went to the interview with 7 or 8 stitches across my cheekbone. I was fortunate that my eye didn't turn black and blue and swell shut. Last week I went back to the PS office where they removed the stitches and told me it was a bit of keritosis (sp) and inflamation, not skin cancer! I removed the tape yesterday and you can barely see where the incision was. I am keeping my face lotion with spf 15 on it now so it won't burn.

    Sheila

  • lvtwoqlt
    lvtwoqlt Member Posts: 6,162
    edited July 2010

    heard back from the agency and the company is still interviewing for the position, don't know when they will make a decision Undecided. This is almost as bad as waiting for test results.

    Sheila

  • my3girls
    my3girls Member Posts: 3,766
    edited July 2010

    Good luck Sheila!!!

    Sisters...sorry that I have been MIA!!  I have been on FB off and on.  I am at work (again) and just quickly read the first page from the last time I was here. 

    OMG...(((((Cathi))))))....I am so sorry for all that you and Ed are having to deal with.  Those poor little ones...but they are so fortunate to have you as their Grammy. I have to tell you..that my very best friend Mary, I know that I have mentioned her before...I have known her my whole life..and she was with me through my chemo and surgeries.  Anyhow...she has gone through the EXACT same thing as you!!!! The only exception..is no domestic abuse.  So, I know all too well, how difficult this is for you and everyone involved.  Oh...Cathi...I can tell you that it was a long year or so for her....but it's now so much better.  Her son is still in jail....but the fiance...got out, and is now able to have the children back.  Mary and her husband (like you..not the biological grandfather) had 3 children, under the age of 4!!!! One was not even walking yet! It was tough...they have a small home...and luckily Mary was retired, so she could take care of the kids.  But I FEEL FOR YOU!!! It will get better Cathi....

    I'll check back in in a bit...have to get back to work...before they catch me (not working...lol)

    Love to all my sisters here!

    xoxo

    Lisa

  • dink
    dink Member Posts: 240
    edited July 2010

    Sheila, I haven't posted in a while but if you want to move to Abilene Texas, give me a call and I;ll give you a job.  You can start on Monday, it's a receptionist job but I can find other things for you to do.

  • dink
    dink Member Posts: 240
    edited July 2010

    Cahti,  I haven't read everything you are going throgh but we are going through something that sounds similar.  Durin the month of April 3020 my olerst grandadughter showed her teaher and the police department officer her left leg which had a weird looking bruise onn it.  Come to find out it was where y daughter's S.O. had tried to spak her with a belt as she ran down the hard and jmped into a closet of toys.  So we obtained temporary custody of our five (5) grandchildren ( ages range are 3,4,5,6,nd 7 at the time_  This started on 4-23-2010.  My daughter could not see the children except if we were the and her .O. which is the father of the three little ones could not have any alone time with any of the children and could never be around when the oldest granddaghter was around due to the mark on her leg and whatever she told the about her.  The children are with us on a full time basis, on't understand why they can't go home and they were to get counseling to help the through the changes of being separated from their parents.  My daughter and the children were to get counseling regarding what was going on and how to hanle changes in their lives, etc.  Well needless to say "Chid Protection Service" contract expire 5-23-2010.  No one ever called to check up on the children, no counseling ever provided and while I was out of state, my daughter could could nw take the children for the night as long as her S.O. is around  I'm not sure what to do an it makes me angry to know my daughter still wants to be with this guy because he is the father of her three little one.  I can't understand doinh anything that puts me at risk of loosing my children.  I feel for you my dear sister and pray for you every day. We still have to wait for the counrelor which at this point has not been assigned, the Child protection case has never been closedm oo one has ever inspected our hom let alone check up on the children and it is now July 23, 2o10.  What a word we live in  I will talk any time you need to just let me know.

    Leesa

  • lvtwoqlt
    lvtwoqlt Member Posts: 6,162
    edited July 2010

    Lee'a, Thanks for the offer of a job. I don't know about moving to TX though. My hubby has been working for the same trucking company for almost 5 yrs and he loves his job.  Although I do think the company has a hub in the Dallas area he might be able to transfer to. Also right now with the sluggish housing market, I wouldn't be able to sell my home (or even rent it). We survived 8 yrs ago when he was laid off from the mechanic job on my income as the primary income for over 3 yrs and he is currently making almost double my income. the main thing I am worried about is transferring the insurance to his company, high premiums and deductibles compared to my insurance.

    Sheila

  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited July 2010

    Thanks Leeza/Lisa,  I know it will all work out,  all I care to worry abut at this point is Ella & Landen,  me and Ed, it has only been 3  weeks, but I get more and more annoyed all the time at Amanda and SIL, they went back to court Tuesday and have their CASE PLAN,  but right now I am not holding out much hope that SIL will complete his,  for that matter Amanda either as time goes by they see the kids less which is so very sad,  we are pretty lenient with the visits,  but have decide with the case workers help to "SCHEDULE" THE TIMES TO SEE IF THEY HAVE THE WEARWITHALL TO ABIDE BY THESE GUIDELINES,   they just wanna come and have FUN TIME, while we are up at 6 or earlier everyday,  making breakfasts,  getting ready for school,  doing aundry etc,  case worker says on the weekend one of them should be hear at 7AM to help with AM chores,  they can not have their cake and eat it to.  So far I must say the case workers and state have been VERY HELPFUL, seems like there is always someone popping in to check,  at times it can get annoying being under the microscope so much.

  • cloudhowe
    cloudhowe Member Posts: 236
    edited July 2010

    Hi girls

    I don't know how you can stand that level of scrutiny Cathi. I know that Child Welfare is paramount (God knows there have been shocking cases of neglect and death over here) but it must be plain to anyone that the kids are SAFE AND IN THE BEST POSSIBLE CARE with you and Ed. You don't need scrutiny, but do need support. Is Amanda still besotted with her husband despite his appalling behavior? And as per usual, no mention of YOUR health concerns. Putting youself last Cathi? I am furious at your daughter for allowing this to happen after all you have been through. Lots and lots of love and good wishes flying across the Atlantic my dear.

    Darling Judie. Thank you for your advice on diverticulitis. I actually met a girl who delevoped it following cervical cancer, so it can't be that uncommon. It's compounded by the IBS though. Marilyn has given me lots of advice. She was dx 4 years ago and had no plans for surgery.I am finding a high fibre diet seems to be the best - lots of fruit and fruit juice. I was sick today, but mostly fine. I am to get myself straight to hops if I get a temperature so I am back to daily checks. I wish I was well enough for surgery, maybe next year after my recon.

    Please pass on my regards to Devin, the well travelled Yankee. It's horrible what the breeder did. What an overreaction to a simple request. Guiness is adorable. I love Spaniels. We had an English Springer Rhona, and adored her. I hope you can manage to get him back. You clearly bonded. You really fall in love with your pets, don't you? My friend had got a wee Jack Russell, Sam. he is 10 weeks old and a total bundle of fun. I love when they fall asleep without warning in your arms. Good luck in getting him back. You must be thrilled having Devin home. Is he getting restless yet. Once you get the wanderlust it is comanding! Good luck with your hospital appointments. The waiting is awful and you just wonder if anything nasty is lurking inside.

    Shiela, hav they got back to you yet? You have done really well getting this far, especially not having been interviewed for so long. My last job but one had a protracted recruitment process, 4 interviews. I got the initial phone interview on 25 September (I remember coz it was my Niece's birthday) and finally started in November! What a production! Hopefully when I am better, the company I was working for will just give me a start date. I passed the tests etc beforehand.

    How did the interview go? Did you get a good feeling, the positive vibes? Even if you are not lucky this time, it will be valuable experience, but I so hope that they realise what an asset you are. Fingers firmly crossed.

    Well I had my 2nd to last Herceptrin last Monday, over an hour, not 90 minutes like before. Wow! Did it ever wipe me out!!!! I'm  at that strange transition period where treatment for cancer is coming to an end. Half of me is relieved and the other half is terrified. At least Herceptrin is keeping the cancer at bay, like garlic to a vampire. We all feel the same, we Monday morning girls and it is something we were told to expect. It's the long term side effects that are the problem! Hopefully I'll get used to them.

    Well Lilly Rose's christening was wonderful, almost all the family was there. Also has a friend's hen night (batchorette party) on Saturday and a fabulous Celtic Celebration. Needless to say, I slept the 200 mile journey home! I am taking my nephew Micheal down to Blackpool next weekend for his 21st, and taking my niece Sinead back for a month!! She is looking really forward to it. I am taking her to the Highlands - absolutly stunning scenery. Devin took some great photos of Scotland in FaceBook. Looking so forward to seeing everyone again. I might be attending a funeral though. My friend David (he is actually like a brother to me) dad is dying. Another victim of bootface, pancreas. He was only dx last month! Dave has just text me from hospital. He lives in Blackpool too, like so many of my family and friends and at least my brother and cousin will be there for him. He was a great support when my brother was dying, he came up a lot (400 mile round trip) My friend Shraron (who was dx 3 months before me and has been a godsend) is pretty ill now. Her cancer has spread to her lungs, liver and abdomen and not responding to chemo. She is back on Herceptrin, but it isn't helping. The staff at hopsital (she attends the same hospital as me) are in bits. Her dx was very similar to mine. Huge, young cancer (stage 3, grade 3 with node involvment. It could so asily have been me. I've actually got a bit of survivor'e guilt, especially on the "down" days when you feel you are never going to get truly better.

    Wee Amy Ellen is triving, she is home now, but on a nasal gastric tube and a heart monitor. She has been dx as having Goldenhars Syndrome, and is actually on the lower end of the spectrum. It can cause massive facial disfigurment but is is barely discernable in Amy, she doesn't have an ear though, but that can be remedied surgically over a series of ops when she is older. She is a beautiful wee morsel. I must learn how to post pics of them all. Both are really contented, beautiful wee girls, my heart just brims over. Hopefully there will be another on the way soon, Peter (Nephew) and Ann Marie are desparate for a child. Anyway my darlings, that's the news from the front. Love and hugs to each and every one of you!!!

    Nets xx

  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited July 2010

    Oh Nettie,  so sorry to hear about your friend - HUGS XOXOXOXOXOXOXOX My Blaire is doing well,  she finished her final rads treatment and has 1 more chemo to go, they have however noted something in/on her colon that she will have checked 8/16.  She is not at all able to eat right yet - said today she can't wait to TASTE FOOD again,  but she has been wonderful about maintaing weight. 

    Yes Nettie the WATCHFUL INVASIVE of eye  of the state does get annoying - but I try and keep it in perspective becuase just like over there over here so many poor children have faced such terrible tragedy so I  try and understand why they come so often and ask so many questions and put us under a microscope so very very often - hell I am the one who raised this daughter -  what they really must be thinking.  And yes she is still with SIL, and in plain old good English - SHE PISSES ME OFF-  always talking about how sad he is,  or how good she thinks he's gonna do at these FORCED meetings and counsel sessions -  well I don't hold a prayer in hell for him he will get through it all,  I have learned a lot more about this man and his NY days because of all this - NOT GOOD AT ALL, and frankly I worry that Amanda will choose him over the children - she does start her domestic violence classes Monday - 12  weeks worth -  praying that maybe she will see him for what he really is -    Nettie,  don't worry I am taking care of myself as best as I can,  I will admit tired and exhausted 99% of the time.  But this time I really really have my trust and faith in God,  this is what he has choosen for Ed and I to do for now,  so this is what we shall do.

    HAPPY SUNNDAY ALL -   XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX

  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited July 2010

    Landen & Ella going grocery shopping today - Landen just got his hair cut-

  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited July 2010

    Thank God they knew you well before this all happened. Imagine if they were sent down to you from New York! Hang in there sweetie....

  • lvtwoqlt
    lvtwoqlt Member Posts: 6,162
    edited July 2010

    It was good that Amanda moved down before Ella was born and her and Landon got to know you and were comfortable around you before all this happened.

    Sheila

  • thegoodfight
    thegoodfight Member Posts: 560
    edited July 2010

    I am sure these two beautiful little faces give you the strength to face another day.  Wish I lived closer in Florida to help, I am at least 2 hours south of you.  You are these babies future, hang in there. 

  • cloudhowe
    cloudhowe Member Posts: 236
    edited July 2010

    Like the other girls said, thank god you were close to the kids before the shitstorm. Sad? I BETCHA he is. He has been busted! His sordid lifestyle is laid bare. Don't let Amanda be blinded by infatuation. She should be ashamed of herself. Sorry. But she has responsibilities to her mother, her kids and her sister. Especially her 2 children. She must be clean by now?  Time for level headedness and facing up to the important things in her life. God I hope she comes to her senses! Take very good care of yourself and accept ALL the help and support available. Lots of hugs 

    Nets xx

  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited July 2010

    Oh Nettie, no apology necessary - it is the sad truth,  I am afraid Amanda is blinded by more than just infatuation,  in all fairness and facing the facts I can blame no one other than her for her choice to use drugs -  but I know how the abuse cycle works and how hard it can be to break,  but she has EVERY availabe resource to her now, I hope she takes full advantage.  I just had a bit of a TIFF with her about Bill visiting today,  he never alls himself,  the only time he ever comes is on the weekend after he wakes up at noon or better,  anyway Landen is going to a B'day party with Alexcis and Brandt for 1-4,  so I said he could come and spend some time with Ella,  well Amanda in his defense said he only ever gets to see Landen on the weekends ( never mentioning Ella) I said thats his choice , he's home by 5:30 he could very eaisly come down for an hour - then I made mention that PARENTING IS JUST NOT ON SUNDAYS -

  • my3girls
    my3girls Member Posts: 3,766
    edited July 2010

    Hi Nettie.....so glad the Christening went well..and happy to hear only 1 more Herceptin!!! Woohoo!!! We will be dancing in the streets for you sister!

    Judie...hope you are doing well...I am sure you are enjoying Devin's company!

    Sheila...any word on the interview??

    Cathi....I know just how you feel about your daughter and SIL visiting the kids'....for "play time".  That is EXACTLY how it was with my friend Mary too!! When they did have visitation, before her son was put in jail, for a long time...they would just come over and hang out...play...and eat!! While Mary and her husband were doing all the hard work!!!! She like you, did get help and support from the state. Money for clothing, etc.  But still...the hard part was what fell on the grandparents.  I agree with the other ladies...thank goodness your grandchildren KNEW YOU!! That would have been even more traumatic for them.  How is Landon doing?? Any better.

    Prayers with you sweetie...and with all my sweet sisters here.

    Has anybody seen Mel around here?  I see our Sue doesn't come by much either.  I try and catch up with everyone on facebook. Even that is hard to do...just don't seem to have the time.  Only time for me to come here, is when things are slow here at work for 15 min or so, and I can log on and catch up.

    Things are really great with Tom and I!! We only get to see each other on the weekends...but we make the most of it.  We just love being together!!   We had a blast in Boston the weekend before this one.  It was HOT, but we so enjoyed ourselves.  We really have bonded more and more. SO IN LOVE!!! We had the dogs together this weekend....that still needs some work!  Jake, Tom's beagle..is very jealous of Oliver!  It's funny....but like Tom said...they don't have a choice, but to learn to tolerate each other!

    Love to all!

    xoxo

    Lisa

  • cloudhowe
    cloudhowe Member Posts: 236
    edited July 2010
  • cloudhowe
    cloudhowe Member Posts: 236
    edited July 2010

    Hi

    Playing around and think(?) I managed to post a pic of Amy. Wee soul is back in hosp. Can't shake a viral infection. Did it go through?

    Netts xx

  • cloudhowe
    cloudhowe Member Posts: 236
    edited July 2010

    And a very early one of Lilly ... Hey is it working??

  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited July 2010

    Nettie, how beautiful!!! Amy is back in my prayers....

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