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  • Stonebrook108
    Stonebrook108 Member Posts: 237
    edited January 2010

    Cookie,

     Sorry to hear about your burns and your cousin. Just wanted to thank you for organizing this gtg.

    See you at the Hudson stand on the 3rd level.

  • Angel10
    Angel10 Member Posts: 682
    edited January 2010

    Lifegoeson...Sorry you are down....totally understandable.

    But then again...that is why we are here!  We understand!  I have my anniversary coming up February 5th.  But as of today...I have decided I am not going to let breast cancer rob me of another day....so I am determined to have it pass without fanfare!

    I will let you know in 2 weeks just how well I do with that!  HA!  We'll see...

    Cyber hugs and God Bless!

  • tweetybird
    tweetybird Member Posts: 815
    edited January 2010

    ((cookie)), sounds like your having a really hard time! So it sounds like tonight will be a great distraction. For some strange reason I thought the get together was last weekend and not this weekend. I've been really loosing my memory lately, guess I should start slowing down a bit. My elbow is feeling better, so I feel up to treking in, but I got invited to a surprise 30th birthday party tonight. I'll definintly meet up with all of you at the next gathering. Hopefully we'll get together before the summer, but I really love the Long Island idea. There is so much to do out here.

    I have my 6 month follow ups coming, and I'm turning into a nervious wreck. I have my mamo and ultrasound on February 3rd, and oncologist on the 9th. Just keeping my fingers crossed.

    Have fun tonight!

  • Angel10
    Angel10 Member Posts: 682
    edited January 2010

    Omaha,

    the job is interesting.....the company needs a lot of work....still wish I were independantly wealthy and not have to deal with it!! Ha!

    See you later to catch up!

    Have fun tonight, Janet!

    God Bless!

  • sweatyspice
    sweatyspice Member Posts: 922
    edited January 2010

    Thanks, Cookie, for planning another lovely evening.

    And happy birthday!

  • Bigapple09
    Bigapple09 Member Posts: 440
    edited January 2010

    Hi All:

    Thank you so much for putting it all together, what a great and smart bunch of women.

    I was thinking how funny it was when we were introducing ourselves by our screen names and real names, and wondering what it sounded like to outsiders, like we were a bunch of well spoken bikers or renegade wrestlers with alter egos. "Hi I'm Wendy, my biker name is BigApple."

    I looked at the enterprise, it looks great!!!!

    PS I did wind up having 2 of Kelsey's brownies when I got home so I am so glad I hide from the cake.

  • sweatyspice
    sweatyspice Member Posts: 922
    edited January 2010

    I can no longer find the blog link to the LA Times article (as discussed last night), so either I'm being dumbass or it's been removed. 

    For the hell of it, here it is:  http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/booster_shots/2010/01/breast-cancer-dcis.html

    Beesie's response in the DCIS forum, which is considerably less emotional than mine would have been (ah, the benefits of no longer being in the thick of it!):

     - From the thread "Should I feel lucky?"

    Beesie wrote:

    sweatyspice, thanks for posting that link.

    What interests and concerns me most in that article are the following statements: 

    • "...most of the time DCIS is a low-grade tumor that is best described as something between normal breast tissue and breast cancer."    This suggests that most DCIS is grade 1; where is the support for this statement?  Certainly it's not what we see on this board.  I have tried many times to find out what percent of DCIS that is diagnosed is grade 1, grade 2 and grade 3 and I have had great difficulty finding this information.  I have found one study that reports on this, but it is from 2001, not as current as I'd like.  Still, the conclusion from this study is exactly the opposite of what's being said in this article: "Of the screen detected lesions 28 (13%) were low grade, 40 (18%) intermediate grade, and 153 (69%) high grade.  Of screen detected lesions 186 (87%) were necrotic and 29 (13%) were not. Of the 151 symptomatic lesions 24 (16%) were low grade, 34 (23%) intermediate grade, and 89 (61%) high grade. Of symptomatic lesions 112 (75%) were necrotic and 36 (24%) were not necrotic.... CONCLUSIONS - As most DCIS detected at screening is high grade and necrotic, aggressive investigation of suspicious microcalcification at mammographic screening is advocated.http://jms.rsmjournals.com/cgi/reprint/8/3/149.pdf
    • "It is entirely clear that much DCIS either would not develop into invasive disease or would do so much later in life, perhaps never becoming clinically relevant."  What total crap!  It is entirely clear that this is not the case.  This statement is true only as it relates to low grade DCIS.  Read any study or the report of any legitimate breast cancer expert and they all explain that the studies showing low levels of progression from DCIS to invasive cancer are based on an analysis of low grade DCIS only.  They also all say that when it comes to high grade DCIS, the risk of progression to invasiveness is unknown but is certain to be much higher.  I have analysed a lot of the data on this and posted it here before. When I finish writing this, I will find that post and bump it up.

    "The relationship between DCIS and invasive breast cancer remains unclear..."  This is misleading and only partially correct.  What is known is that the vast majority of IDC starts as DCIS.  From the American Cancer Society: "Invasive (or infiltrating) ductal carcinoma (IDC) starts in a milk passage (duct) of the breast, breaks through the wall of the duct, and grows into the fatty tissue of the breast."  Hmmm.... sounds like it starts as DCIS, right?  So doesn't that mean that DCIS is in fact a pre-invasive cancer, not a pre-cancer? 

    As for changing the name of DCIS in order "to remove the anxiety-producing term "carcinoma" from the description of DCIS", doesn't that seem just a little condescending?  These poor women diagnosed with DCIS worry too much, so let's not tell them that what they have is cancer. Maybe another option would be to better educate patients and doctors so that women diagnosed with DCIS better understand their diagnosis and therefore don't worry so much.  No, why do that when a simple name change can solve the problem (and create new problems like under-treatment of a potentially serious condition).  I find it interesting that other types of cancers that have in-situ stages don't seem to face this same debate.  Bladder cancer, skin cancer, thryoid cancer, cervical cancer and cancer of the larynx are all examples of where there are in-situ cancers and there's no debate (as far as I know) about these in-situ cancers not being cancer. Is the problem with DCIS simply that it's being diagnosed too frequently and that's why some in the medical community would prefer that it not be considered a cancer?  You have to wonder....

    _________

    Sweaty again: 

    I'd also like to emphasize that the article linked to is NOT from the LA Times, but the LA Times blog (and here are the author's credentials  http://latimesblogs.latimes.com/booster_shots/2008/11/shari-roan.html )

    I tried to read the original article which was referred to, but the source material costs $32 per view by the general public.  http://jnci.oxfordjournals.org/content/vol102/issue1/#IN_THIS_ISSUE    leading to   http://jnci.oxfordjournals.org/cgi/content/full/102/1/8

    It seems to me that this all most likely comes out of the recent NIH "State of the Science Conference" on DCIS, held in Bethesda, MD back in September.  http://consensus.nih.gov/2009/dcis.htm

    I've watched the archived video of the three day conference in its entirety - twice.  The last time being "How Sweaty Spent Her Thanksgiving Weekend."

    The "Public Advocate" at the conference did not make me happy.

    And Dr. Carmen Allegra, referred to in the LA Times blog as "she," surely appears to be male on camera (on the dais at the DCIS conference) as well as on his employer's website.   http://www.medicine.ufl.edu/hemonc/allegra.asp

    I feel like I can pretty much teach a CME class in DCIS at this point, and sloppiness, especially sloppiness that downplays real danger, pisses me off.  As with much of this, if I remember correctly (too lazy to find the source material right now), DCIS diagnosed in younger women is more likely to be aggressive. 

    I know that most women don't spend hours upon hours on the learning curve, and therefore I think it's irresponsible, in a medium targeted to the "younger" bc audience, to lend one-sided support to the idea that their DCIS may be relatively harmless.  Certainly, if I had any believeable inkling of that in my case, I would NOT be having surgery. 

    I've educated myself far too much to be willing to simply walk away from 2 areas of Grade 3 DCIS, one with comedonecrosis.  None of that is discussed by the LA Times - as if it's rare.  The two areas might be rare, but the aggression level is not.

    Getting off soapbox and into the shower.

  • crusader1
    crusader1 Member Posts: 1,222
    edited January 2010

    Hi Ladies,

    Suzanne, thanks for planning another "memorable" event.  A very happy and healthy birthday to you too. 

    Great to have seen you all once again.

    Nice to have met Wendy and Barbara and Maureen (once again).

    Hugs,

    Francine

  • Bigapple09
    Bigapple09 Member Posts: 440
    edited January 2010

    I think it is always important to look at motive when looking at reports like this. Doe we as women need a name change for DCIS? Will it make us feel better? Are we that fragile and hysterical? Umm no. But a reclassification can result in a huge shift in insurance coverage for treatment and monitoring as well as impacting coverage triggers for cancer specific policies and disability claims.

    I hate to be all big brother-ish but the insurance industry has clearly declared war on survival, it is expensive to keep us alive. I can't even begin to add up what bc/bs has been paying for me since 2002, but I am sure it well exceeds the $7000 in group premiums I pay them each year.

    If DCIS stops being considered a cancer then reconstruction for surgery related to excision and PMX and PMX itself may fall outside of the scope of the NY and Fed Laws requiring coverage. Those laws seriously limit the insurance companies ability to invade and second guess the decision making process.

    There have been a few other policy shifts that went under the radar recently including a recommendation on reducing prostate screening and doing away with the blood test for prostate cancer markers. I think the issue goes well beyond just an attack on women, It is an attack on diligence and on people who are "lucky" enough to catch their cancer early,and to weed out us undesirable with family or genetic histories that put us at risk and make diligence so important. Insurance companies have recently been banned from using genetic markers as a cause for denial of coverage or premium decisions.

    Sadly, I think we have just become too expensive and we will see lots of "studies" (that if we dig far enough are likely funded by insurance industry SIGs) which cast doubt on treatments and detection, as a means of producing a chilling effect in the media and in our treatment decisions.

    No one would be happier than the insurance industry if early detection went away and if early interventions went away. Think about our table last night. How many of us would likely not have been there if our early cancers were not detected. How many dollars do we translate to in the eyes of the insurance companies?

    I can guarantee you that keeping me here cost the insurance company more than the dollars they spent on my Aunt Maureen who was died at 40 in 1978, she had only been diagnosed a year before. My cousin (her daughter) is alive today for one reason, my BRCAI test results, without those results (even though her mom had died from it and our only other aunt also had it and 4 of the girl cousins out of only 8 had already had invasive cancers not once but twice each before age 35) she did not qualify for high risk monitoring. Because of those results she did qualify and on her screening what turned up? Cancer, and 12 positive nodes, she was only 36. She has been through hell and back and through all of this she says it all sucks but not as much as my daughters growing up without a mother. Without the detection, her daughters would be the second generation to grow up without their mom.

    This is a real battle so please don't put your soap box away.

    It is more than our breasts at stake, it is our lives and the lives of our daughters.

  • REKoz
    REKoz Member Posts: 590
    edited January 2010

    Hi Ladies- May I join your group? Thank you Big Apple for sending me this way!  I am pretty far out on the island, just east of Port Jeff so I rarely get into the city. But I would love to be remembered if you ever have a gtg on the Island. I'll keep my eye out for this thread in the future. I hope you all had a great time at the boat show yesterday. I am unfortunately tethered to the infusion center since yesterday for IV Vancomyacin. Had my exchange surgery on Dec. 22nd and just developed an infection. Even though I've been at this since Oct. '08, I feel pretty confident that this is just a small setback. Won't even entertain the idea of losing the implant!

    Anyway, please count me in for any future LI get togethers. I would so love to meet you all!

    Ellen

  • cookiegal
    cookiegal Member Posts: 3,296
    edited January 2010

    welcome REKoz!!

  • Angel10
    Angel10 Member Posts: 682
    edited January 2010

    A great evening ladies....you are all so impressive and intelligent!  And fun, too!

     Great comments Apple....thanks for sharing them.

    And ladies,  Join the Loop looks fabulous!!  Cookie and Deb...will you post the blog address under your signature/dx line to get some exposure on BCO??

    Cookie is planning the next gtg in May...but suggested I take it on if we want to do something in March.  Hmmmmm...March...as in 17th....EVERYONE is Irish during St. Patty's Day Week! If you want to do an Irish Pub on Saturday March 20th...I will do some digging around.  Otherwise...it will be May!

    Let me know your thoughts!

    Good luck this Thursday Sweatspice! We will be waiting to hear how you are doing!

    God Bless!

  • cookiegal
    cookiegal Member Posts: 3,296
    edited January 2010

    cookiegal is kind of shy....kind of hoping to keep bco as anonymous "safe" space to be cookiegal.

    Also scared of getting kicked off of here.

    But thank you for the compliment.

    For now I will try to avoid too much cross polination.

  • OG56
    OG56 Member Posts: 897
    edited January 2010

    Thank you cookiegal for getting us all together again, and taking the time to plan it all. I had a really good time, and the cake was great too!

    Nice to meet the new additions to our gtg, I love that our little group is growing. Look forward to seeing you all again soon. St. Patricks day celebration sounds fun, I am up for some Pub time.Kiss

  • cookiegal
    cookiegal Member Posts: 3,296
    edited January 2010

    There is a great pub on 1st and 57th...mcneery's?

  • crusader1
    crusader1 Member Posts: 1,222
    edited January 2010

    Angel,

    March 20th sounds good to me too. But how about during the day and not the evening .

    Great seeing you agin.

    Hugs,

    Francine

  • sweatyspice
    sweatyspice Member Posts: 922
    edited January 2010

    Bigapple - the strange thing to me, because I thoroughly disagree, is that there are lots of DCIS diagnosed women who want to change the name in the service of reducing anxiety.  I'd guesstimate the debate is running about 50/50 for and against.

    The name change thing may have been the hottest topic at that national conference, which also pissed me off.  Rather than spending time, money and brainpower on understanding the disease, lets focus on whether or not to change the name.  AARGH, in my opinion.

    No one I know of has raised your points so far.....which is extremely interesting!  Thanks for expanding the discussion.

  • sweatyspice
    sweatyspice Member Posts: 922
    edited January 2010

    An Irish pub?  Without drinking beer?

  • Bigapple09
    Bigapple09 Member Posts: 440
    edited January 2010

    Confession time: When I was in Ireland for 2 weeks,I did not have a single beer,nor any stout.

    I am a poor excuse for an irish Jew.

  • Stonebrook108
    Stonebrook108 Member Posts: 237
    edited January 2010

    Cookie,

    Thanks again for organizing the gtg. Hope you have a Happy and Healthy Birthday.

    It was great meeting all you ladies and I hope to see you again.

  • Lilah
    Lilah Member Posts: 4,898
    edited January 2010

    Wendy -- I fear there is a lot of truth to what you wrote about insurance companies looking for reasons not to pay for treatment.  I was originally diagnosed with DCIS and told by my first surgeon not to worry, it's practically nothing, DCIS can be there for years and do nothing bad to you, etc, etc.  This to make me relax about waiting three weeks for a lumpectomy.  My biopsy showed the cells to be cancer cells (not something else), necrotic, grade 3.  Too small a sample made it seem like the tissue was not HER2 positive.  Pathology after first lumpectomy: invasive cancer AND Her-2.  I had Mammo, biopsy and MRI prior to lumpectomy and none showed IDC.   I don't know how changing the name of it to something without the word cancer would have made it any less of a cancer.   

    Sounds like a fun night on Saturday!  Sorry I had to miss it.  Alas, I'm also out of town in March (my birthday is March 18 and we are going to Atlantic City for a long weekend to celebrate).  What date are you looking at in May?  I'd love to meet then.

    Happy Birthday Cookie!

    How are you doing Sweaty (re: countdown to surgery)?

    Lilah

  • Angel10
    Angel10 Member Posts: 682
    edited January 2010

    Sweaty Spice...it was not lost on me that I was the only one drinking wine last night....and I drink beer on only 2 occasions...a hot beach day, and in an Irish Pub! 

    There is also Finnegan's Wake on 1st and 73rd.  I can also check around Penn Station for our LI sisters if that makes it easier.

    Let's take a poll....afternoon or evening?

    Ellen, hoping for a happy outcome and the vanco does the trick!  It worked for me! Twice!

    God Bless! 

  • crusader1
    crusader1 Member Posts: 1,222
    edited January 2010

     Afternoon..

    Eileen so nice of you to organize this.

    Francine

  • sweatyspice
    sweatyspice Member Posts: 922
    edited January 2010

    The Irish Times is across the street from the Garden, on 31st betw 7th and 8th.  Convenient to LIRR and large/roomy.  Decent menu, not very expensive, lots of bigscreen TVs showing sports. 

    There's also Tir Na Nog on 8th and 34th (or is it 35th?) - more posh, better menu, more expensive.

    When I did summer abroad in Ireland, I was very saddened that beer was basically all one could get.  I'm also in the beer once or twice a year club.  Luckily, NY Irish pubs have more than beer! 

    Anyway, I'm fine with an Irish pub.

  • MBCR
    MBCR Member Posts: 161
    edited January 2010

    Hi ladies! It was nice meeting you all. I had a great time.

  • cookiegal
    cookiegal Member Posts: 3,296
    edited January 2010

    My husband proposed to me after eating at

    http://www.nearys.com/

  • Bigapple09
    Bigapple09 Member Posts: 440
    edited January 2010

    Hugs and good thoughts to Sweaty and OG

  • crusader1
    crusader1 Member Posts: 1,222
    edited January 2010

    Sweaty..All will be fine...Good luck,

    Hugs,

    Francine

  • sweatyspice
    sweatyspice Member Posts: 922
    edited January 2010

    Can I just say.....this is TOTALLY SURREAL!!!!!

  • Lilah
    Lilah Member Posts: 4,898
    edited January 2010

    I can't remember your surgery date, Sweaty, and am too lazy to scroll back... but hoping it went well (I think it was this week)....

    Lilah

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