Amazonian Women ~ the One Breasted
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Lattitude Line! What a great way to put it. I'm gonna have to borrow that. . .
After 2 years with a pros, I'm not nearly as anxious for reconstructive surgery as I was in the beginning. With summer heat coming out, though I'm walking around grocery stores and malls wanting rush up to women in low-cut shirts, and tell to be sure that they appreciate what they have. Does this sound weird?
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Still trying to work out how to deal with the one-sided look. My prosthesis that I never wear has become too big (I lost weight). I've been using tanks and hoodies or shirts over them but I need more support for the side that remains. Has anyone tried a bandeau bra? Or something I heard about but haven't seen that apparently is similar to a beanbag? It's supposed to be more comfortable and actually provide some massage as it's worn.
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Hi Everyone,
I found this cami thing at Walmart with the built in shelf bra BUT it doesnt lay flat like the regular camis- its like it has form and sticks out on its own- so on the non surgery side it is like a regular bra and on the other side- it provides form for my clothes without a prosthesis. I have used it almost exclusively this summer (Texas heat) to have a more normal shape at work without the pros which gets a little hot and uncomfortable here. I cant remember the cost - it wasnt a lot and I found it at Walmart.
I use the Body Shapers from NY and Company A LOT- and wear T shirts etc- it is still lopsided but not terribly noticeable to most people. Still buy Tshirts one size up to add a little bagginess because I really dont like wearing the prosthesis all the time and like the more comfy nature at least during casual time.
Im not eligible for recon until the Fall (a year after rads ended) but Im leaning toward no recon right now- just cant get my head into more surgery after a mast, hysterectomy, chemo and rads!
Kristy
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Mouser: Do you have any back pain from the imbalance, or does the prosthesis help?
Jenny
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I had my prohy surgery Friday. I am no longer a one breasted amazonian woman. Good luck everybody.
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simvog~
Did you opt out of recon? Are you happy with the result?? I am soooo looking forward to my prophy... I'm so sick of the lop-sided feeling. Congrats!
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No recon for me. At least not now. I have not seen myself yet. I have allergy to plastic tape and the bandages will come off Thursday. I don't even have drains. It was my choice all along and both my doctors and family supported my decision. I can't say is easy to look in the mirror and knowing there is nothing there but I hope in time I will feel better.
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One of my Amazonian self-portraits has been accepted into a juried photography show in Mystic, CT. So, take heart, girls! We are artful no matter what.
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I just came back to this thread after long times away -- i'm sorry, Jenny, i totally missed your post.
No, i've never had back pain from the lopsidedness: whether i wear the silicone prosthesis or the puffy makes no diffrerence. (Nothing is not an option; if i'm vertical, i wear a bra -- otherwise my breast feels like a bag!) I get back problems from lots of things (mostly lower back from bad chairs, but i also have been diagnosed with thoracic outlet syndrome -- upper back pain, in my case). But not from breast imbalance. In fact,most of the time i have to *think* whether i've got a prosthesis on, and when i'm dressed i mostly forget i'm missing a breast. At first i actually felt the missing breast even without the prosthesis, and now my nerves have decided the feel of the prosthesis approximates a breast. When i stop and think about it, it's weird... but unless i look in the mirror naked, i feel quite normal.
The mirror is another story ... irradiated tissue, loose skin (needed for range of motion, but ugly-wrinkled when my arm is down. sigh.
I'm 13 months since the mastectomy now, and i am mostly over the depression (tho i can get weepy if i let myself).
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hi Everyone- I have been on this board in a while- Im in the neratinib clinical trial and its been 3 months to get the dosage and side effects under control.
Kathi- i LOVE your picture- it makes lopsided look sexy and I definitely need reimders that that can be the case (my DH has no problem with it LOL- just me!)
Kristy
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Love this picture, Kak.
I'm too, one of the Amazonian one breasted women.
I might be odd, but when I'm at home, I tend to not wear my prosthesis. I do have back pain but mostly from arthritis. I go to a chiropractor and he really has helped. I feel more comfortable without the prosthesis, yet, I do wear it out in public except when swimming.
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KAK, I LOVE the picture!
I, also, forget that I'm not wearing the breast form, when I'm at home. I feel more comfortable wearing it when I'm out, since I'm a 34D, I would look very off balanced without it and I need to wear the bra to support the other breast. After, 20 years, I still have the feeling that I have my left breast when I'm wearing my breast form and bra. It is very interesting, just like the phantom limb phenomenon.
~elaine~
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Hi Everyone,
Haven't been around in a while. I had my right breast mastectomy in September of 2009. I found it really hard ajusting to the Amazonian look. I am doing better. I wear my prosthetic when I go out but not at home. But here's a laugh for you. I am a large breasted woman, 42DD. I have started to go to a gym and loose weight. Well the first funny thing is that the prosthetic weighs 3lbs! I would have never guessed. But better yet, I'm loosing weight so my real boob is getting smaller. Soon I will be lopsided again! So I'll get a new prosthetic right. But what do you do with the old 3 lb DD. A friend said "frame it an put it on the bathroom wall".
I don't know yet about reconstruction. It does scare me a bit. I want to loose all my weight first since it is a drastic change. But I'm fine now with the one breast. We will see what tomorrow brings.
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Nani Alice, may be you could use it for a paper weight. lol In reading through various threads I thought i was the only one that wore heavy prosthetics. Most everyone is looking for lighter ones. I am a bilat and mine weigh between 2.5 and 3 lbs. each. Nice to feel not alone.
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well its a year since I had my left boob removed, I hate wearing the false boob so I go every were lopsided. my attitude is its my body and if people dont like the way I look hard luck. If my walking around with one boob missing makes one person think about going for a mamogram thats good. I am totaly happy with how I look. the false boob only got worn once and I hated it. was realy uncomftable with it
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Four years of lopsidedness after mastectomy -- I've been using Wal-Mart breast enhancers ($15 a pair) in sports bras ... have to toss the bras when they stretch out so much that the foobie falls out (lost one walking down the street.) Occasionally look down and realize that I missed something in the rush to get dressed.
Recently the "latitude line" has been tilting because the 36C real side is drooping while the artificial side is still perky. (Unweighted -- but I don't feel imbalanced.) I had been considering getting a real prosthesis and real mastectomy bra, but reading the posts here I may just deal with it.
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Lauri,
There really are some nice, very lightweight silicone prostheses (breast forms) and some very comfortable mastectomy bras. Not everyone opts for them and, without insurance, they tend to be expensive. But through trial and error, I've found some really comfortable silicone breast forms, which look and feel very natural. You might check out my non-profit website, BreastFree.org, for some ideas in the "Breast Forms" and "Bras and Camisoles" sections.
I'm certainly not "pushing" a particular choice (often I wear unweighted forms), nor even advocating wearing any form at all, but sometimes a little experimentation can help you find an option you really like. A fitter can be helpful, but trust your own instincts -- fitters always want to put me in bras that I find too tight and breast forms I find too big, so I try on things and make my own decisions.
Barbara
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Very wise counsel, Barbara...as usual!
Dawn
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Hi Laui,
Know how you feel about the tilting - I'm in the same boat - perky foob and droopy 34DD - the wonders of age. . . .
I did get a sports form. It is made of foam and is weighted - and it still doesn't sag like the real one. It came in a pair - so I got 2 for the price of one. I do have one mastectomy sports bra and several sports bras from "before." I actually like my before bras with the form in them better than the mast bra. HOWEVER, I do wear the mastectomy bra when I'm going somewhere where I don't want the form to show when I'm wearing a top that's cut a bit more revealing.
The thing that I wonder about the most is that I can't wear any of my old underwire bras. They just cut and feel so awful. They were really expensive and in the good old days they were so comfortable - now - not.
I like that I can use my old pre-mast clothes and bras. It makes me feel normal.
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Cydney,
Have you tried cutting a little slit and pulling the underwire out of your old bra? I did that when I had radiation (after a lumpectomy, before I needed a mastectomy) and it worked great. Might be a way to still get some use out of your expensive once-comfortable bras . . .
Barbara
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Barbara,
I'm having one of those "uh . . . duh. . . " moments - never thought about doing that. I will try it (if I can find them now - I may have pitched them in a fit). Is it the radiation that is making my skin so sensitive? I too had lump and radiation before the mast.
I'm finding that the farther away I get from my surgery, the better and better I feel. I was more upset and a bit angry at first. Now, I'm just glad to be healthy and alive.
Anyway, thanks for the suggestion - I'm going to try it!
Cyd
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