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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited October 2009

    Hooray Fumi!!! Now I can skip the Notebook step. I knew there had to be a better way. Thanks!

  • Bless
    Bless Member Posts: 141
    edited October 2009
    Thanks Towhee and Timtam.  I'm really sorry that it took up so much space.  And I have no idea why it posted twice?!  I know that I only created it once.  Anyway, thanks for the tips, I will try to do better next timeEmbarassed
  • Shirlann
    Shirlann Member Posts: 3,302
    edited October 2009

    Hi girls, I have managed to find a reason to worry.  I went for my annual mammo, and he asked the girl to take more pix! (Always bad), then he came in and said all is well.  Then, I went for my pap smear and the young doc assistant, did a breast check and said, "Oh, what is this?"  I love those words.  I told her I had just had my mammo and the radiologist said things were okay.  She went out and found my mammo on the computer and came back and said, "Oh, I guess he thinks it is just calcifications."  Soooo, after 11 years, I am worried.  I hate this thing.   I have never had calcifications, and it is the exact same place as before, and needless to say, I am freaked out. 

    I can't get another mammo until July, but I hate waiting that long.  So I need a bunch of cyber-hugs.

    Love you all, Shirlann  

  • portiasproudmom
    portiasproudmom Member Posts: 2,125
    edited October 2009

    Awwwww, Shirlann.  I know it's easy to say, "I'm sure it's fine, don't worry", but I know that it's so much easier said than done.  Hang in there, my dear friend!  We're here for you.

    Love and hugs,

    Karen

    edited to correct typos

  • portiasproudmom
    portiasproudmom Member Posts: 2,125
    edited October 2009

    Geez, have you guys seen what's going on over on the Stage IV boards?  Man!  People are getting UGLY!  I'm so glad we have this thread to come to.  I love all of you so much!  There's never any back-biting and nastiness here.

    Hugs,

    Karen

  • EWB
    EWB Member Posts: 2,927
    edited October 2009

    So whats happening there? Have not checked it out lately....

  • portiasproudmom
    portiasproudmom Member Posts: 2,125
    edited October 2009

    A Newbie posted a question there asking how many of the metsters had started off at stage 0 or 1.  She was redirected to the "no mets, but scared" boards and it's escalated into a really nasty mess, with non-metsters and metsters going at one-another.  I feel horrible for the poor girl.  She didn't mean any harm, and she apologized for opening a can of worms.  Yet the debate continues.....

  • EWB
    EWB Member Posts: 2,927
    edited October 2009

    big sigh...don't quite understand it. I know its been tough for me with a number of women dying lately, and my own anniversary coming up,maybe same thing for others. It seems as if something has been brewing over the past months or so. Guess I'll stay away for a bit.

  • lvtwoqlt
    lvtwoqlt Member Posts: 6,162
    edited October 2009

    There is also a debate over there about Suzanne Summers new book and saying on the Today show that she was misdiagnosed in November with lung cancer that has gone into 'whole body cancer' and she is still refusing chemo She is supposed to be on Larry King Friday. some of the alternative girls are over there promoting what SS has to say and the metsters are bashing the alternative.

    Sheila

  • my3girls
    my3girls Member Posts: 3,766
    edited October 2009

    Wow Karen.  That sounds ugly. Honestly, except for a very few threads with games, etc...i really don't post or even read anywhere else. I guess I just click on my favorites...and here is where I stay. And for good reason!  We have never ever had problems, and other threads I used to go too...usually do. That is probably why I don't know other posters as most of you do, like Amber, the poor thing that just lost her battle. I don't think I knew her. Very sad.

    (((((((((((((Shirlann))))))))))))))))))))))................they said it's nothing sweetie...it's nothing.  Calcifications can occur especially around any type of surgery area.  If they removed your lump that is probably why you have calcifications there.  I had a spot that was then biopsied..and yes, I was scared, but it was calcification...nothing more. So put your beautiful mind to rest sweetie. We love you and are here for you!!!! God knows you have been here for all of us!!

    Notice how I didn't offer any recipes??? haha..not a big baker..at all. I love to eat it though!

    Ok...going to finish reading the book Tony bought me the 1st day we met...Twilight...anybody read it? I am sure many have.  It's really a great love story!

    xoxo

    Lisa

  • geebung
    geebung Member Posts: 1,851
    edited October 2009

    ((((((((((Shirlann))))))))))

  • mejustme09
    mejustme09 Member Posts: 57
    edited October 2009

    Hello Ladies, 

    I am new here and have yet to find a "place" where I belong. I am 41 had my first mammo 3 weeks ago, called back for special mammo, and had biopsy yesterday. I received the call this afternoon to come in to talk to the DR. I have (as I suspected) BC. I feel sick, numb, sad and very beaten down. I was diagnosed with Depression in August after a long 3 yrs of great sadness, finally my whole family told me to go to the DR and get meds. They were working now comes BC.

    I have three children 2 boys, 21 and 15 and a step-daughter 15.

    My youngest son is very loving, concerned and will always help me as much as possible.

    My Hubby travels for a living and will not be home most of the next 4 months. Thankfully he has been home these three to give me comfort and support. He is freaking(altho not telling me) since both his Mom and sister died of BC 8 yrs ago.

    I have a MRI scheduled for Tuesday so the DR. can have more information. Then he wants to proceed with a lumpectomy and removal of some limpnodes.(sp).

    This is the onl forum I have found that has friendly people, kind words and encouragement.

    I hope I am not intruding. Thanks for listening.

    :-) 

  • jeanl151
    jeanl151 Member Posts: 146
    edited October 2009

    Kcorbin811,  sorry you have to be here, I know this news is unbelievable.  I am glad you found this website. I was diagnosed in July and found the website in Sept.  I have learned so much. My best advise is search through these threads...I found what these women have written are inspiring and informative.. When it came time for me to talk to the doctors, I actually understood what they were talking about.

    I also had lumpectory and node removal...moving on to chemo.

    wishing you the best news possible, Jean

  • jeanl151
    jeanl151 Member Posts: 146
    edited October 2009

    Kcorbin811,  sorry you have to be here, I know this news is unbelievable.  I am glad you found this website. I was diagnosed in July and found the website in Sept.  I have learned so much. My best advise is search through these threads...I found what these women have written are inspiring and informative.. When it came time for me to talk to the doctors, I actually understood what they were talking about.

    I also had lumpectory and node removal...moving on to chemo.

    wishing you the best news possible, Jean

  • Bless
    Bless Member Posts: 141
    edited October 2009

    Kcorbin811,

    I'm sorry for you.  I'm diagnossed August with DCIS.  I've taken my time to read and learn before making decisions for me.  It's different for each of us.  Just try to take the time you need to feel comfortable with whatever you decide.  You might want to look into a local Breast Cancer support group.  I haven't joined one yet, but met a group of ladies from a local cancer support group at a function yesterday and I have to say they were having a blast and you could tell how much they loved and supported each other.  Yes, we are here for you, but sometimes it's nice to be able to get a cup of coffee with someone who understands.  Or better yet, get a hug.  I thought that it might be depressing to go to a support group.  But after meeting this group...I think I may have been missing out.  There is a time for everything...and you will know when or if the time is right for you.  Know that we are here for you, but the bigger your support group/network the better. 

    Bless you and your family

  • mejustme09
    mejustme09 Member Posts: 57
    edited October 2009

    Thank you all so much for your responses. I truly appreciate them. The waiting is so difficult. 

    I am taking one day at a time. I have done extensive research on many different cancer site. They have been so helpful in understanding what is going on, what to expect and what the next step will be. I am fortunate to have a loving, caring, and long time family surgeon who is helping me make the best choices for me.  

    I will continue to read all your wise advice and am grateful for all your honesty and care. I pray I can give you the same in return.

     Thanks again, 

  • EWB
    EWB Member Posts: 2,927
    edited October 2009

    Oh sweetie! I so wish I could take this from you... it is an awful place to be.  I won't say don't worry and all that kind of stuff, cause we all know that won't happen. I will say there are many wonderful women on this site with loads and loads of wisdom and knowledge. I will also say

    1.  remember to breathe,  2.  you can and will get thru this, just take it one day at a time or if you need to go 15 mins at a time- you can do anything for 15 minutes    3.  Right now be sure to take care of yourself. Treat yourself as you would a good friend -- be kind, be gentle -- be understanding -- be patient -- be good to yourself!   4.  In many cases, you have a little more time than you think to start treatment -- take the time to make the best choice for you and your situation. Don't let anyone talk you into something if it feels really wrong -- get second opinions, ask questions, do research, ask more questions until you understand. 5.  be careful of "the internet" ....

    Mostly-- love your self. Come here with questions, for answers, hugs, support, to cry and be afraid, to laugh (yes that will come again), to share good and bad things and to be with others who get it and have been where you are right now.

    It will be ok.

  • NancyD
    NancyD Member Posts: 3,562
    edited October 2009

    kcorbin, we have women in this thread at all stages of their bc journey. So don't feel you can't ask a question here...someone is sure to have experienced the same problem.

    Sorry you have been diagnosed with bc, but welcome to our little corner of the world. 

    Shirlann, what can I say...nothing that will relieve the worry. But here are some cyber hugs so you know you're not alone. {{{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}} 

  • mejustme09
    mejustme09 Member Posts: 57
    edited October 2009

    Deepest thanks with tears filled eyes. 

    Cry I pray you will be well, all of you soon~

    I will continue to pray for that until my last breath!! 

    Thank you~ xo 

  • TenderIsOurMight
    TenderIsOurMight Member Posts: 4,493
    edited October 2009

    Well, I'm a little late for a very important date, October 9, 2009 being the two year surgery anniversary for dear sueps.

    So please pardon me for my delayed yell of "yea, live bold", as you and friends continue to follow along your well-honed yellow brick road.

    TenderSmile

  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited October 2009

    kcorbin - you have come to the right place.  We will put you on the yellow brick road to begin your journey to OZ. Most of us have gotten there all ready and can tell you it all is doable.  It stinks, but OZ awaits.  Stay strong, focus on you, come here for help and you will make it.Smile

    AE

  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited October 2009

    Shirlann - that just STINKS!!!  Can you try to see if they can see you back in 6 months?  It might help with the anxiety.

    Lord knows I am the QUEEN of calcification's and they have all come back benign if that helps at all.

     ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((SHIRLANN))))))))))))))))))))))))

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited October 2009

    No Shirlann! No fair. Dastardly calcifications, causer of undue distress. Big hugs from me and sloppy puppy kisses from Jasper. Toss in a tranquilizer yourself and you're on your way! DAMNED BOOTFACE!

    Yay Tender!

    As to the brouhaha elsewhere on BCO...I have found my home in this place where all hostility, nastiness and abuse is aimed squarely at bootface. I browse other threads and even post occasionally. If I see unkindness, I don't go there again. Thus, I see BCO as a place filled only with love, support, information and friendshop. It's nice being an ostrich! Chicken is probably more like it, but a happy chicken Laughing

  • portiasproudmom
    portiasproudmom Member Posts: 2,125
    edited October 2009

    Welcome kcorbin!  You've come to a great place for information, support, and the occasional rant (we do quite a bit of that here, and it always helps so much).  As Nancy said, we have ladies here at all stages.  We're here to help and to listen.  Feel free to ask us anything.

    I'm so sorry you're having to go through this.  Bootface (yes, we call bc bootface) is a despicable disease!  May God Bless you during your journey.  You will get through this and be just fine!!

    Love and hugs,

    Karen

  • portiasproudmom
    portiasproudmom Member Posts: 2,125
    edited October 2009

    Judie, I saw Jasper's pics on Facebook and just about died!  He is the cutest thing ever!!!!!!  I'm so glad you have him!  Is Agnes (that is her name, isn't it?) getting used to having him around?

    Hugs,

    Karen

  • hrf
    hrf Member Posts: 3,225
    edited October 2009

    I agree that this is the nicest thread ... wonderful people here who share stories and support each other. But today I'm sad. My cousin, Carrie, died of bc today. She was diagnosed only 6 months ago. I don't understand how it happened so fast. I feel badly for her parents, her 2 teenaged children and her husband who is also battling cancer.

  • barbe1958
    barbe1958 Member Posts: 19,757
    edited October 2009

    Oh Helen, so fast! My heart goes out to you all....

    How the heck can that happen?

  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited October 2009

    (((((((((((((((((((((((HELEN))))))))))))))))))))))) - I HATE BOOTFACE!!!

  • Makratz
    Makratz Member Posts: 12,678
    edited October 2009

    Hugs Helen, so sorry to hear about your cousin.

  • NancyD
    NancyD Member Posts: 3,562
    edited October 2009

    Helen, I'm so, so sorry to hear about your cousin.  At any speed, it's too fast, but six months after diagnosis, wow. I think that was our greatest fear when we heard our own diagnosis.

    Some cyber hugs for you, too.  {{{{{{{{{{Helen}}}}}}}}}}}

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