Housework support group!!???!!

Glad I missed the picture of the dog in pain but then am curious as heck as to what the picture was!

Ya'll have trained me well.  I not only have found every excuse to not do housework these days but now I have an excuse to not cook!  My hubby is gone for 3 weeks so I have been existing on sandwiches and hotdogs.  I just hate to cook for myself although I am a gourmet cook.  Just too much work for one person.

So I told my neighbor next door I wasn't feeling well and she asked me why and I replied "because I am not eating well since noone is home for me to cook for"  I got invited to dinner tonight!   I did make one of those box cakes and took it over but she made a really nice meal and spent alot more time cooking than I did baking!

I won't grocery shop for the entire time he is gone.  I figure there is food in the pantry and I can come up with something now that I have run out of hot dogs.  Hey....popcorn would work and I have several boxes of popcorn. 

 right back at ya Mom!!!!

Hey Barbe...how ya doin' this morning sweetie??? Hope better...

Jancie....See you come on this thread and your transformed in no time!!!! hehehe

Morning all you dust bunnies!  Hope it's a wonderful day for you all...

Jancie~ Way to go getting the invite. 

I actually got to get some housework done today does this mean I have to leave this thread..lol...jk

I thought I was going to get 3 hours to myself today but no such luck.  My little man started last night with a fever and had it again this morning   I have to get laundry done so I have clothes for the next week.  I have been doing my 30 things a day but I am not getting very far.  Hopefully I will get some time tomorrow to myself. 

Off to clean...

BTW, Barbe how are you feeling ??

Hi ladies! 

 Jane, saying a prayer that this is just something minor to deal with. It does sound like it could be lymphadema.  I agree-I don't think God gives us such a direct response like do this or that.  I think that he is telling you to slow down.  60 hrs a week!  That is a lot.  You need to start taking time for yourself.

 Mom2two-I am so glad you are back on board, as you are the lady that brought me to this great place of women here.  OMG, it would be so fun to have a reunion.  We would have so much fun!  There would definitely be no housework done there.  Along with the gooey hot chocolate chips, how about some margaritas!  You are definitely right.  God has certainly given us each other to lean on!

Barbe-I hope that you are feeling better.  I didn't know that your son was getting married.  That is how scatterbrained and disoriented I am.  That is great.  And I am SO HAPPY that you are taking time off for a vacation.  You need it girl after what you have been through.

Faith-what a beautiful family.  God bless!

I am still trying to recuperate from my setback.  I went to see my PS this morning.  We are kind of at a critical point because I stopped draining so much.  My drain has been in for nearly three weeks and it is really time for it to get out, but my doc feels there is still clotted blood in there from whatever happened, so where does that blood go when it loosens up.  He may have to pull this drain and then reinsert another one later if I fill up.  I have to go back Wed and we will see what happens,.  One day at a time.  Oh well

Love, hugs and a great day to all of you! 

Mom so glad to see you post.....I have missed you.....It sure won't be the same without you.....Please come back from time to time and let us know how you are doing.......I kind of feel the same way......Now that I am healed (at leastr physically) I feel I should be doing something to give back...I don't know what I should do but I guess i could call the hospital where I had my surgery and see if there are any ladies in my area who have just had surgery I could help out........

Faith, don't forget to get the addy to send booties to...(sheesh! I feel like a broken record saying that!..Sorry if I repeat myself!)......You gave me an idea when you mewntioned a christening the other day in a PM to me, Faith...I think I will go get some white baby yarn and make some all-white booties and try to sell them for christenings..... What do you think?.....

jayne, hope you don't have a recurrence...I agree I think God is already telling you to slow down.....Maybe that is why you have the weird symptoms........I know if I overdo I have similar symptoms to you and I was told by my PT that i was overdoing it........Gentle hugs to you, sweeite.....

Barbe, hope you are feeling better today..Glad you are home!........

Arnie, love the wreath!...Happy Everything to you too!!!..........I can't make anything with wood or paint anything decent except a wall but I love and appreciate others who can woodwork.....BTW I tried to make something out of wood and it was crooked as a rainbow!......

Markaz, Dream, Coonie, Jamieh, Deb, JaneM, Carol, EWB, jancie and any others I may have missed, Hope you all are doing well and have a great day!......

To all my dust bunny friends, thank you for being you and I wish you the best and pray for a healthy, strong day...............Strength and courage, ladies, stength and courage.........

holly ann:   white booties are a great idea.  How about a small baby shawl in white?  In other words, a "set".   I would have bought one.    

I am lucky to have ALL of you in my life.    But I still have a hard time saying "mom" except to my 96 year old Mother.     

Awwhhhh it's so good to see all of the dustbunnies this morning. You ladies are such a great group.

Mom.......we understand how you're feeling. But.......you'll ALWAYS be Mom to us and there is ALWAYS a place for your posts here. Follow your heart, but know that there's a group of bunnies here that love you and appreciate everything you do. I'll NEVER forget the night you called me in the hospital. It brought peace to me just to hear your voice. And the beautiful arrangement that I received while in the hospital!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have my stuffed raccoon so I can reach out and pet him every day. Just don't forget about us for too long. We love you!!

Ohhhh......I'm glad just Barbe and EWB are the only ones that saw that dog pic. I feel terrible for posting it. I should have paid closer attention. Those of you that didn't see it......just count yourselves lucky   LOL

CAROLMARIE.......bless your heart girl. I'm so sorry for what you're going through. This will pass, and I promise you will feel better. Just hang in there!!!

Hey Jaimieh......you're forgiven, but DON'T DO IT AGAIN------LOL hehe....sure hope your little one gets to feeling better. It hurts us when they hurt. Poor baby!!

(((((((((((((((((((Jane))))))))))))))) Sending you big hugs and prayers that things are ok. You probably do need to slow down some. Sounds like you're doing the work of two people and your body just can't hold up to that. Maybe cutting back some hours each week will help!!

OK Arnie.......I want to buy that wreath!!! I'm serious!!! Do you sell your stuff? I'm really serious!! PM me and let me know, ok? I would love to have one just like it. So glad you're feeling better, or at least good enough to be woodworking.

Jancie......girl, you better try to at least stay healthy while DH is away. You need your fruits and veggies. Can't live off popcorn   lol.    Maybe your neighbor will feel sorry for you and invite you over at least every other day. It's easier not go cook though, isn't it? Of course, my poor family doesn't get cooked meals very often. I just hate to mess my kitchen up 'cause that calls for "housework" to CLEAN the kitchen. And I just don't want to be kicked out of the club:)

Lucy......I know EXACTLY how you feel about that laundry. When our power was out last year from hurricane, the FIRST thing I did was start laundry when it came back on. You don't realize how much you miss something until you don't have it. It felt sooooooo good to get laundry caught up.

EWB......thinking about you and your mom today. Hope you both are feeling ok. Sending big hugs and prayers for you both.

Jayne.....glad you're feeling pretty good. A walk without rain is good. Maybe you can have a few more of those this week.

Deb........I saw your post before you deleted it (((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))) Sending thoughts and prayers to you and friend. Follow your heart.

Faithie........so glad you're enjoying your visit with the kiddos in Denver. I'm jealous you get to have so much baby sugars. LOVED your blog about gliders, souped up cars, dairy queen........you guys are picture perfect grandparents......and so YOUNG lol  I remember my grandparents as being old, wrinkled and hardly able to walk. But I sure loved them:)

Hugs to you Dream........loved seeing the pics of you recently. It's so good to put a face and name together!!!

Missing so many-----Sharon, Lursa, Shiny, Nancy, Cathi, KAK, Lottie, MaryRose, Lori, Kathleen, Mum, 2new1s, bkc, lovinmomma, Viv......and many others I just can't remember right now. You're all so special and I wish you all a blessed week!!!

Edit: to add more names.......I KNEW I would forget. Brain works slowly but surely sometimes:)

Here's to our friendships........

I miss my MOMMY!

I don't know about the rest of you, but I felt a sense of loss reading mom's post. I understand what she said about moving on and giving back in other ways. But, I'm grieving! You are all so special to me, I don't want anyone to leave!



Anyway, I called my boss today and cut back to 8 hour days from the 12. Thanks for your feedback. I think this is the right decision for me.

Thanks, all, for the input.  I know God doesn't make deals.  Truth is, I'm scared.  Like probably all the rest of us, anytime something like this goes on for more than a few days, we automatically think recurrence or mets.  Also, next week is my "cancerversary"  I haven't said anything to anybody besides you guys.  DD knows that my arm hurts, but nothing more.  I guilted her into doing the dishes and emptying the cat box today.  I don't need the money from the 2nd job.  It's nice to have, but not a necessity.  I only took the job as a favor to my daughter as it was her boss who needed the help.  I think one of my problems is control.  I can't control my body, so I want to control what I can.  I don't want to feel replacable.  I'm glad you guys are here.  It's nice to have a sounding board.

Nancy thanks for the idea about the shawl to go with the booties........I just may do that.......

Mom..I miss you already...Does anyone have her addy so I can send her a card or letter?.......

Jane-M it's time to take care of YOU......

Jane, you are in my prayers. I hope it's nothing. Yes, you need to slow down hon!

Barbe- Hope you are feeling good! This has been such an exciting (and busy!) summer for you with weddings and surgeries!! Enjoy that vacation- no guilt allowed!

Deb- Hope you are healing from the rads and the pneumonia.

Arnie- Cute wreath!! I used to have a craft booth. I'm into scrapbooking now and I haven't done any woodworking in ages. You make me want to fire up my saws!! How are you feeling?

Cheryl- Glad to hear you cut your hours. Right now, you need to take care of you!!

Jayne- How are you feeling? You are doing chemo now, right? Hope all is going well.

Mom- I understand what you are saying. I have been thinking a lot about giving back once I am out of treatment. I have been so blessed. But don't forget us! It wouldn't be the same here without you.

Well...again I forgot everything I read on the other pages. You are all so special to me! Hugs for everybody!!

I did my labs today and am cleared for Taxol #3 out of 12 tomorrow. Doing it weekly really makes the time fly by! I feel so good on Taxol. I can hardly believe it. Almost like my old self. Only minor bone pain and a little tired.

After I commented on Faith's pictures that I miss my now college-aged nephews being that young- the youngest one called me this afternoon out of the clear blue!! Just to chat and see how I was doing. Those boys mean so much to me. I hope they know that. They are good kids.

Hope everybody is doing well. Good thoughts and love for all.

Mary

Hugs, Vivvy.  That's the beauty of this site, you can rant away and we don't mind.  I hope you feel better.  I know ho wyou feel.  When I was going though tx last summer, no one would take my boys because they are 'active".  14 and 10.  My sister has 3 kids and someone else always seemed to have them and she had the summer off.  Kind of eats away at you.  Feel better.

Mary, I miss you.  Hope you are doing well.  Are ou done with treatment??  I don't think so.

Mom. I wonder if you could shift from feeling "responsible" for this thread (and all of the bunnies that are in treatment, surgery, recooperating, not-cleaning, brand new, alone or grumpy) and just be a 'member' instead of the founder.

We promise that we won't expect you to greet us all by name, to keep track of each & every issue, to send glorious visuals with every post etc etc.

We promise that we can grow up & keep each other good company -- even if you are just popping in and out like the rest of us.

The thread certainly has outgrown any one person attempting to "manage" it and shower love and concern on the throngs that have been attracted to the friendship here.

Just rambling. I'm one for always attempting to have my cake & eat it too.

So glad to hear that you're cutting back on hours Cheryl. And Jane sounds like you're evaluating as well. All good news.

The reality is that we don't have 'control' and while that's way-scary, it gives us all a common denominator here together.

We're packing tonight, flying out in the early early morning..... well heading to the airport early early. Don't know what sort of connection we'll have, but hopefully the batphone will continue to work, at the very least.

Take care of each other.

xx00xx00xx00xx

Vivvy, I hate when I see things like "Sisters are Forever" and "My sister, My friend". My sister has avoided me as well, though she does live on the other side of the country! My parents are both dead and I really wanted support as I don't have any close friends. Work, sleep, clean, work, sleep.....

And then when I was hospitalized (I feel MUCH better, just extremely weak...) I sent an email out to her and my brothers (and wives) telling them what was going on. I heard nothing except from my brother who lives 1 hour from me! My other brother lives on the opposite coast too, but COME ON! I even emailed my bro that did respond and asked if I was "boring" eveyone. He said no body knows what to say. Well a big THAT SUX would be nice! Commiseration, and/or flowers, a phone call, an email, a card in the mail! Come ON!!!!

So I say just ^&*^% it. No one understands like WE do. We know what to say and we're not afraid to say it!

I read mom's email and heard a great big good-bye! I like Faiths point about just being a member and not the thread-master. A lot of threads are like that now...I bitch, I moan, I groan...I wan't my mojo back....escape, etc. They run on momentum, hehehehhe, get it? MOMentum. Oh, I crack myself up somes days.

Had my first day back to work in 10 days. Today is a holiday in Canada, so the sales people had to be there (we aren't salaried so we don't cost the company anything) but the support team wasn't. It was a good day to catch up. I had 98 emails and only 29 voicemails. Got through it all! I done good!

Gee, 2 smiley faces in one email. Not bad for me....