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HI Guys,
Just got home from the beach. Great day!! COonie, I kept looking for you but could not find you anywhere! Maybe next weekend??
Missed you all!
Linda
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We've sent the mommy & the daddy out on a date together. We're holding down the fort. Both of the big boys into bed already -- time will tell if they stay put. LOL.
Yippee!!
Arnie, it was so good to see you post..... I know that you have great fun with your two, too!!
Hugs to Carol, Barbe, Arnie, Mary, Jane, Jayne, Elaine, Kbug-Susan, Deb, Lottie, AliceAnn, Shiny, Cheryl, VivvyGirl, Kathleen, LovinMomma, Cathi, Lursa and missing-Mom
Giggles from the rest of us bunnies-of-the-dust (Coonie, Sharon, KAK, MAK, Julz, bkc, Janice. Spar, Mum, Nancy, Lucy et. al.)
I'm sure I've left out way too many...... put it down to playing with da boys all day.
Happy weekend everyone!!
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Faith all the boys are soooooo cute!! You are truly blessed!
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Faith- What handsome fellas you got there!! Your grandsons remind me of when my nephews were around that age. I miss those years! God, we had so much fun with those boys. They are in college now. Where did the years go? Have fun with yours!!
Barbe- Glad to hear you are home!!
Hugs to all!
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Love the kiddo pict. So cute.
Have spent the evening laughing and playing with the kids. DS played hide and go seek with the girls. He has discovered there just aren't that many hiding places for a 6'3" young man any more.Many of the places he could hide when he was 10 just don't work anymore.
And the girls picked the most obvious hiding places and giggled and laughed so much we were all laughing. At one point Felicity was standing behind the curtain in the dining room and giggling so much she had to go to the potty. She poked her head out said "time out I gotta go" took off running to the potty and did her business. Then came back got behind the curtain and yelled at the top of her lungs "Daniel come find me." He was standing about 5 feet from her.
This was a really fun evening for us. Silly but this is the most fun I've had in a while.
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bkc, ah the innocence of youth! When I got home today my son and his fiance (wedding 2 weeks from now!) visited and we played games on X-Box. I didn't have a TV for 12 years as they were growing up and we played TONS of card and board games. I know I've done them a huge favour...
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To all of you who have had the trials of Job - this one is for you!
By the way, that's an order. Even God took Sunday off.
Barbe: I know you are glad to be home. After more than a month lazing around the hospital and rehab, I feel debilitated. Went out to lunch (just down the road) yesterday and it was all I could do to get home and lay down!
Faith: How gorgeous are your men? And the grandchildren - so darling. Thanks for sharing.
Texas: I can do you one better - when my cousin had his first child I went to the hospital and held the little guy which reminded me that I had held my cousin (his father) 40 years prior. Yikes!
Lucy: If it isn't one thing, it is six others. You poor little thing! Glad it is something harmless. BTW, I am seriously considering a TRAM in a couple of months - tell me how it went for you (I think I just want a tummy tuck too!).
Aren't children great when you are not the primary caregiver?
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Yikes Kathleen! I could get a "free tummy tuck and boob job" too, but can NOT stand the thought of the surgery and recovery time! You (and all the other gals) who do it are so BRAVE in my book. I thought it was enough just to deal with the cancer, never mind the reconstruction.....
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Barb what is the name of the book?.....I want to get it to read.....I don't think I was particularly "brave" for having done the TRAM....I just felt it was a necessity........I didn't want myoriginal boobs anymore and didn't want the hassle of TE's and exchange surgery but at the same time I certainly did not want to come home flat chested......I guess you could call me more vain that brave.....lol And it was great that they threw in a tummy tuck!...I had been wanting on eof those for years!..........
I absolutely love my tummy tuck and boob job!......That being said Kathleen, call me and we will discuss the TRAM in depth......Not an easy surgery by a long shot......But it is doable.......
To all my housework slackers, YES I am taking today off!......I may go grocery shopping later for milk but that is all..........
Have a great day dust bunnies!.......
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I don't feel particularly brave either - like Lucy said, just vain. And I will call you Lucy. I am still debating the issue in my own head but with the shoulder replacement I can't stand the thought of an expander in. Since last night the darn thing has been acting up - I had to take two Percosets.
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Hollyann, it's called "Say Goodbye" by Lisa Gardner.
I AM going to fold the 3 baskets of laundry that are blocking my dresser. I want to go to work tomorrow so I can have my regular day off on Tuesday. I want to try SOMETHING before I head for an hour down the highway to work. So consider this just a test, not a housecleaning!
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Thank you Barbe!....At least you have clean laundry to fold ..My washer went out over a week ago and it still hasn't been repaired............
have a great day all!..I must go do something besides be on the computer.....it actually hurts my hands a great deal to be on here..I just try to ignore it......
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Good afternoon bunnies. Hope all of you are having a great day.
Barbe and Kathleen......it's so good to see you both feeling better.
Big hugs to everyone else in treatment or surgeries!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Edit: had to change pic.......Barbe knows why
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Ooooo, the poor dog! And I'm not even a dog person!!!! That HAD to hurt.
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Ohhhhh I know Barbe. Maybe I should delete that pic. I don't like to see dogs in pain either
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Still looking at the dog picture. His legs look like Scoobie Do...
Wonder if he still chases Frisbee's or if he's graduated to cars.
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OK Barbe.......hope you're done looking. I've gotta delete cause it makes me feel bad to look at it. Maybe I'll just post flowers or something
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ooo, yikes thats gotta hurt, poor thing
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I had to delete it Elaine.........
I need to be more careful before posting from now on........LOL
Poor doggie
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Hahahahaha, now everyone who didn't see it is going to wonder what the heck you posted! hehehehe
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hmmmmmmmmmmm wonder what that's about....
Hope you're all having a wonderful day! I spent the morning and afternoon out in the garage woodworking... it feels good to feel good!!!
xoxoxoxo
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Arnie, you haven't posted pictures of your crafts in a looooooong time. What've you been up to? You must be feeling better to be out banging on wood....right?
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Yeppers Barbe... feeling much better!!! I made a garage for Trent's cars on Friday...he took it home so I'll have to wait to post a pic of it, it turned out really neat with an air hose and gas hoses and tanks...he loves it!!! Then today I made a Christmas stocking holder...that's all the info I'll give until I get it painted and then I'll post a pic!
How are you feeling???? I hope you're feeling better too! You gotta get better cause you got a wedding in two weeks!!!
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Hi dust bunnies I hope you have all had a great weekend.
Faith thanks for sharing all your cute guys with us.
Barbe glad you are feeling better enough to work tomorrow.
Arnie I'm really pleased that you are feeling good again. Your woodwork projects sound amazing, I would love to see pics
Coonie I feel sorry for the poor doggie and I didn't even see the picture!
Kathleen I hope your shoulder is better soon.
I don't feel brave for doing reconstruction either. I have a TE at the moment and if I exchange it for a silicone implant it will not be anything like such a major surgery as the TRAM, although that could be an option for me in the future. I wouldn't mind a tummy tuck but not sure I am up for the longer recovery time. My thinking was that with a TE placed straight away I would be less lopsided with only having a single mastectomy, so that was one less thing for me to worry about. Not sure if that counts as being vain.
I have had more energy today than I have for a while. I did a bit of housework, but then I did very little last week and had some catching up to do. Nick and I went for a walk this afternoon and it didn't rain on us.
Hugs to all the dust bunnies.
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Hi dust bunnies!....Guess what?..HUbby fixed my washer so I finally have clean clothes again!....YAYme!........
Faith I almost have baby's booties made just for him!......Do I need to send them to the Ohio address you gave me?.......
kathleen hope your shoulder is mending well....Call me if you can......
Jayne, so glad to see you post.....
Arnie, no way would I do wood working.,........Me and sherp things bigger than a pair of scissors do not mix!....LOL Where are your pics by the way?.........
Coonie yep wonder what was up with the dog pic but if it was in pain glad I missed it.......
To anyone else I missed, hope you all are doing well......I never thought I would get excited to be able to do laundry again!....But let the washer go out and you will miss it!.....LOL
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Hey all, I'm feeling guilty so I came here to my friends to get others opinions. I have a very close friend that I've known for over 15 yrs. She has nerve damage in her shoulder, allergies..this morning i emailed her to tell her I hadn't known I could take a pain pill with my cough syrup, she wrote back adn told me she takes 40 yes I said FORTY pills a day...Here's what she said:
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Morning pills.... 10 and a half...Neurontin,flexeriel,Vicodone,percocet,
cipro, steroids, BP and cholesterol, aspirin. Afternoon and evening I take
7 and half pills....That's over 40 pills a day. First 4 bottles are just
for back.
Next 3 are allergy and infection, last 3 are everyday always------------
The past year or so she has flipped out if she gets to the point where she only has 3 pain pills to last the day...I mean she really flips out...I figured her husband would say something to her, he hasn't evidently so today I did, I told her it was ridiculous to put that many chemicals into your body like that, it wasn't good for you and she had to stop somehow or another, that I wanted her around forever and she wouldn't be like this.
So did I do wrong? I mean come on, I had cancer and was never on that many pills per day..two pain pills in the morning, both vicodin and percocet? How come her doctor keeps prescribing them to her like this?
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OK let me preface this post by saying I already know I'm nuts...now you all will, too.
I'm going on over 2 weeks now with this strange set of symptoms. It started with a heavy feeling in my arm and side. It was kind of painful and full feeling, too. It hurt when I breathed in. There is some numbness in my arm and hand...not any perceptible swelling, though. So, I'm thinkin maybe lymphedema. I have a Dr. apt. on 8/10 and figured I'd just wait and see what happens. So, it's getting worse. It hurts under my arm pit. I can't do anything with my arm. Last night it started getting wierd. It feels like my breast (what was left of it) is being sucked in. It used to come together like a belly button, but it's different. How crazy is that? So, I have to have blood drawn before my apt on the 10th, so I'm going to go after work tomorrow and get it done.
Now, here's where this relates to work/housework. For the past year my friend and my thereapist have been trying to tell me that maybe God is trying to get me to slow down. I work 2 jobs and I continued to work both of them during treatment. I had to make modifications and brought work to the hospital with me and did more from home, but I did the work. Now that my treatment is over, I'm back to 60+ hours a week. They both want me to give up the 2nd job. But, I'm stubborn and think no one can do it like I can and, truth be told, I'd probably have to work along side someone else for a month or more to show them what the job entails. I have a fairly strong faith but I don't have a direct line to God, so I have trouble getting a clear message. Part of me feels certain that these symptoms are a recurrence. So, today in church I had a conversation with God saying that if my blood work shows that the cancer has come back, I'll train someone else to take over the 2nd job. If everything is clear, I'll take it as a sign that He's ok with me working both jobs.
So, does everybody else think I'm nuts, too.
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No Jane, you are no more nuts than the rest of us!! I hope whatever you find out, that you do slow down and take care of yourself. 60 bhours is a lot of work!! I hope your test results do not show a recurrence, just something minor. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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Certifiable. God doesnt give direct messages like that. Thats why so many people get it wrong. God is not going to give you cancer to stop your second job. Reevaluate your faith maybe. Test your faith, certainly. But caring about a second job, no. Do you need the second job? If so, why would HE take that away from you. If you dont, why are you running yourself into the ground? Maybe he wants you to see yourself as that. See why you could get it wrong? You quit your job and have no insurance or not enough money to live on..... uh huh God wants that.
Sorry... my pet peeve is to leave it up to God.
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Jayne, I know if I had only a single mast that I would do some form of recon.
Jane, I agree with Dream. I used to make "deals" with God too. There is an expression: If you want to make God laugh, tell Him your plans.
It's not our job to second guess what He wants us to do. I think the very fact that you are questioning this is His way of saying: QUIT THE SECOND JOB. He's not saying if you don't quit, I'll kill you. He has done you the service of making you think like this.
I learned, maybe through this cancer crap, that as women we do tend to do the martyr thing. I just spent a week in the hospital and am going away Sunday for a week up north to be with family until my son gets married on Aug 15th. Do I feel guilty? Nope. A man would have taken my week in the hospital and milked it for all it's worth and then taken his holiday anyway. I didn't just have a week's holiday, I was SICK. Okay, so you can tell there is still some residual guilt...sigh.
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