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  • Ivylane
    Ivylane Member Posts: 544
    edited December 2008

    Just curious.  I said "Happy Holidays to one of our patients the other day and he said "you can say Merry Christmas to me if you like" and I smiled and said "well, you never know who might be offended by that"...... so I said Merry Christmas! 

    So, the question is...are you offended by "Merry Christmas"?  I think there are more of us than not that would love to say it without feeling defensive.

    What do you all think? 

  • Marple
    Marple Member Posts: 19,143
    edited December 2008

    Nope, I say Merry Christmas and love someone saying it to me.

  • klp
    klp Member Posts: 1,770
    edited December 2008

    Definitely not offended....this is the Christmas season and the celebration of Jesus' birth...I would be more offended if someone didn't say Merry Christmas...my 2 cents

  • Ivylane
    Ivylane Member Posts: 544
    edited December 2008

    I agree!!!!  At work we HAVE to say Happy Holidays which really ticks me off...

  • pk0199
    pk0199 Member Posts: 586
    edited December 2008

    Merry Christmas All!!!

  • SQK
    SQK Member Posts: 89
    edited December 2008

    I totally agree.  I always say "Merry Christmas" and really appreciate it when someone says it back to me. Laughing

    In case anyone is interested, this website has a list of "Christmas-friendly" retailers:  http://www.citizenlink.org/content/A000008670.cfm

  • ananda8
    ananda8 Member Posts: 2,755
    edited December 2008

    I see nothing wrong with saying Happy Holidays.  Yes, this is the Christmas Season but it also is a special time for many other religions.  Jews celebrate Chanukah.  Muslims celebrate their New Year.  Shinto celebrates the Oshogatsu festival.  Wishing Merry Christmas is always welcomed by Christians but saying Happy Holidays covers everyone.  Nothing to be offended about in either case since the intent is to wish someone joy.

  • 1Cathi
    1Cathi Member Posts: 1,957
    edited December 2008

    I am not at all offended by "Merry Christmas" .  But coming from corporate America for many years and now working for Immigration Attorneys - in order to be "politically correct"  we use HAPPY HOLIDAYS in conversation or in our cards-   and I do believe that is ok, many of our clients celebrate different holidays this time of year,   It would be the same as someone saying Happy Hanukkah to me,  just respectful I think, 

    But if I am speaking with someone I know very well I always say Merry Christmas or what ever fits their specif holiday.

  • BMD
    BMD Member Posts: 1,492
    edited December 2008

    Merry Chirstmas. I hope you have a Happy Holiday.

  • crazy4carrots
    crazy4carrots Member Posts: 5,324
    edited December 2008

    The word "holiday" is derived from "holy day", so, for anyone celebrating a religious "holy day" or "holy days" at this time of year, "Happy Holidays" is a very appropriate greeting!

    However, I'm sure Christians would prefer Merry Christmas, just as Jews prefer Happy Hannukah, etc., so I try to be most respectful of their beliefs, and greet them accordingly.

    Cheers!

    Linda

  • Sher
    Sher Member Posts: 540
    edited December 2008

    I think a greeting for this special time of year, however worded is wonderful!   IMHO, whether someone is wishing you a Holiday that is Happy or a Christmas that is Merry doesn't matter so much as the way the greeting is expressed.  

    Blessings!

  • jerseymaria
    jerseymaria Member Posts: 770
    edited December 2008

    i'm a "merry christmas" gal

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited December 2008

    Merry Christmas has been politically incorrect not that many years.  Our Jewish friends did not mind us saying "Merry Christmas" to them.  When my brother was very young (many moons ago) he worked for a shoe store owned by Jewish folks...very nice folks.  They wrapped presents for their clients.  My ex-sil was Jewish and her father put up a Christmas tree for them and they celebrated Santa.  IMHO it's the atheist who have the most problem with our traditions. 

    Needless to say, I'm a MERRY CHRISTMAS..HO HO..girl.  However, I realize that in the work environment one has to do what the company says.

  • Member_of_the_Club
    Member_of_the_Club Member Posts: 3,646
    edited December 2008

    I don't think anyone is offended by someone saying Merry Christmas -- if anything, implying that those of us who don't celebrate Christmas would be offended is a bit, well, annoying.  We aren't so prickly.  Having said that, I always appreciate Happy Holidays because it includes me and it is usually what I say if I don't know a person's religion.  Its not abut political correctness, its just a way to extend respect. 

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited December 2008

    I am not offended if someone says Merry Christmas. :-) So go ahead.... say it!

    Miss S

  • Diana_B
    Diana_B Member Posts: 287
    edited December 2008

    I live in Toronto, which is one of the most multicultural cities in the world.

    I don't have a car and so take taxis quite often (especially around xmas) and most of the taxi drivers are muslim. Strangely, what I've found is that they feel offended if you don't say Merry Christmas to them because they feel excluded from the general season. I think a lot of people see it as a society-wide holiday and a time to bond and express good wishes towards others etc.

    Who would have guessed that about the taxi drivers? Things are so complex! 

  • iodine
    iodine Member Posts: 4,289
    edited December 2008

    I used to not mind at all a Happy Hols, but I've gotten very stubborn lately and fairly fed up with all the PC crap and so I deliberately say Merry Christmas!  It's a Christmas tree, the US gov't gives a holiday for Dec 25th---Christmas Day, and I believe it's Christmas time.

    If I knew any folks of other religions, I'd wish them whatever their celebration is.  I moved from a fair sized city long before pc became expected, so it's not that I'm not adult enough to know the difference, but, as I said, I've become stubborn in my old age. 

    Don't flame me, I am just being honest (hope Santa is listening!)

  • DD_
    DD_ Member Posts: 14
    edited December 2008

    Merry Christmas!  I get irritated by "happy holidays"  if it werent for people celebrating Jesus birth no one would even be having this holiday season!  I certainly dont see how it can be offensive to offer someone a cheery Christmas greeting.  I am not offended to hear "Happy Hanukkah" or Or "Kwanzaa" or other religious holiday so if saying "Merry Christmas" offends someone it is only because they dont want to be held accountable.

  • Member_of_the_Club
    Member_of_the_Club Member Posts: 3,646
    edited December 2008

    No one is saying they are offended by Merry Christmas.  No one.  What does offend me is this idea that there are these people from other religions out there trying to deprive the rest of you from saying Merry Christmas.  Calm down.  You are all making an issue out of nothing.

    And hey, including me and others who don't celebrate Christmas by saying Happy Holidays is not PC, its just respectful.   

  • ravdeb
    ravdeb Member Posts: 3,116
    edited December 2008

    I live in a country where most of the population is Jewish. We say Happy Chanukah to the Jews but to those around us who do not celebrate Chanukah, we just don't say it. But..when they have their holidays we greet them with the appropriate greeting for that holiday. Only makes sense. Well..to me, at any rate.

     However, I grew up in the States and was wished a Merry Christmas in stores and so on and never gave it much thought...

  • livesstrong
    livesstrong Member Posts: 1,799
    edited December 2008

    It's Merry Christmas for me - enough of this PC stuff.

    Valerie

  • NancyD
    NancyD Member Posts: 3,562
    edited December 2008

    Some ladies' church group in my area started selling buttons and car magnets a couple of years ago that say, "It's OK to say Merry Christmas to me." Now that doesn't offend me; it makes me mad that we have to tell someone it's OK to offer us good wishes of any kind. Whether I personally celebrate the holiday or not, it's the season, the holiday is happening, and everyone should be able to experience the peripheral good will and joy that comes from Christmas, Channukah, Kwanzaa, and New Year's without feeling offended.

  • easyquilts
    easyquilts Member Posts: 876
    edited December 2008

    I love to hear "Merry Christmas", and have more than once told someone to greet me that way....

    Sandy

  • SoCalLisa
    SoCalLisa Member Posts: 13,961
    edited December 2008

    I am really a Merry Christmas person, but I think before I say it...

    and consider who it is I am greeting...

  • lvtwoqlt
    lvtwoqlt Member Posts: 6,162
    edited December 2008

    I work at the reception desk/switchboard at my company and I answer the phone with a cheerful 'Happy Holiday, xxx company. How may I direct your call' and I get quite a few nice responses like 'Happy Holiday (or Merry Christmas) to you, it is nice to hear a cheerful voice answering the phone'. It is a mouth full to say 'Merry Christmas, xxx company. How may I direct your call.'  My company puts up a large (life size) manger scene in front of the main office building every year and the community looks forward to seeing that display. I also help put up and take down the Christmas tree in the lobby. I do tell the clerks in the stores Merry Christmas.

    Sheila

  • iodine
    iodine Member Posts: 4,289
    edited December 2008
  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited December 2008

    I like Merry Christmas but I have taken the time to teach my daughter about the Jewish religion by fixing some Chanukah foods like latkes (served with a bit of sour cream), explaining to her that her friends may be celebrating this holiday and that even Jesus celebrated the festival of lights.

    Kwanzaa is not a religious holiday ... we've been to a kwanzaa celebration and I've prepared a great dish ... sounds terrible but it's great!  Spinach with peanut butter!  MMMM 

    At work, I say Happy Holidays on the phone but alot of people here say to each other, Merry Christmas,  or have a great Christmas.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited December 2008

    But Kwanzaa does have a spiritual/religious element as Imani - the seventh day of Kwanzaa - is dedicated to celebrating and honoring your faith (which is what Imani translates to) - be that faith Islam, Shinto, Budism, Christian, Wiccan or whatever. Please don't paint it with such a broad "non-religious holiday" brush...

    "Happy Holidays" to me is more than just being politically correct. I think it's ridiculous to assume everyone celebrates the same holiday - or even just one (we celebrate Christmas and Kwanzaa), hence the "Happy Holidays!" greeting...

  • mke
    mke Member Posts: 584
    edited December 2008

    I'm an atheist and I don't mind Merry Christmas or any other cheerful greeting. Nor do I mind Happy Holidays, I was recently at a Diwali celebration and that was just fine too.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited December 2008

    Sounds like I offended you, Felicia, I didn't mean to.  It's been explained to me as a non-religious holiday.  I am glad that you get to celebrate both.  My gf's boyfriend won't celebrate Christmas but makes sure "they" celebrate kwanzaa, he said because it was not religious.

    I did see History.com's definition of Kwanzaa: Kwanzaa is a non-religious African American holiday which celebrates family, community, and culture. It is celebrated for seven days: December 26 - January 1.  The name Kwanzaa is derived from the phrase "matunda ya kwanza" which means "first fruits" in Swahili. The kinara is the center of the Kwanzaa setting and represents the original stalk from which we came: our ancestry.

    and then Wikipedia shows what you are talking about ..and how there are 7 celebratory days:

    Kwanzaa celebrates what its founder called "The Seven Principles of Kwanzaa", or Nguzo Saba (originally Nguzu Saba - "The Seven Principles of Blackness"), which Karenga said "is a communitarian African philosophy" consisting of what Karenga called "the best of African thought and practice in constant exchange with the world." These seven principles comprise Kawaida, a Swahili term for tradition and reason. Each of the seven days of Kwanzaa is dedicated to one of the following principles, as follows:

    Umoja (Unity) To strive for and to maintain unity in the family, community, nation and race.
    Kujichagulia (Self-Determination) To define ourselves, name ourselves, create for ourselves and speak for ourselves.
    Ujima (Collective Work and Responsibility) To build and maintain our community together and make our brothers' and sisters' problems our problems and to solve them together.
    Ujamaa (Cooperative Economics) To build and maintain our own stores, shops and other businesses and to profit from them together.
    Nia (Purpose) To make our collective vocation the building and developing of our community in order to restore our people to their traditional greatness.
    Kuumba (Creativity) To do always as much as we can, in the way we can, in order to leave our community more beautiful and beneficial than we inherited it.
    Imani (Faith) To believe with all our heart in our people, our parents, our teachers, our leaders and the righteousness and victory of our struggle.

    Sounds like there is different info out there ...  I guess like Christmas, some think it religious and now some just see it as a day off and a day to share gifts.  But if one goes back to the true roots then you can see what it originally meant, I guess Kwanzaa is like that:  religious for some and not for others?

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