Stupid things people have said since I was told I have cancer!

Dani - I certainly can't top that - unbelievable!

My friend was trying to be supportive and I totally understand where she was coming from and I love her.  I was home feeling like crap after having chemo two days prior - she called to ask how I was doing, I told her ok, just kinda icky. She said something to the effect that treating breast cancer these days is like getting a flu shot. ??? no, not really 

Dani,  One of my so-called friends told me after finmding out i needex a hyst also :Girl, You better go to church!     and then i had another one say  Can i see your new boobs when you're done??  I wish I could have a free tummy tuck anf boob job!    So needless to say  the are at the top 2 of my  I dont think I like you anymore list.   LOL

Lets see... I was asked what my prognosis was... What breast it was... Nice to save on shampoo!

oh i forgot one!  my mom calls me and it was when my dad had got dx with bladder cancer the week before (he is fine) she tells me that she was reading the obituaries and everyone dies of cancer !!! UGH UGH  i said "mom" do you remember i had bc- i said everyone you read in the obituaries is dead so STOP reading them !  

and thats my mom

A local surgeon who performed my biopsy told me the day I was diagnosed that "DCIS was over my head I wouldn't understand what it meant."

I walked out of his office and never returned. Instead I went to a Breast Cancer Hospital. And I learned as much as I could about DCIS.

WingGirl 

I find myself reading the obits sometimes - looking for BC.

I think when I go I want my obit to say I was killed by an ACME anvil that fell from the sky. Let people worry about THAT for a change! lol

Erica

while i was "big, fat and bald," and feeling very self-conscious about the 40 pounds added since treatment began, i was looking at family photos with a very close relative, who i know wouldn't hurt me for the world.  but she came across one of me and said "just think...you'll never be pretty like that again."  it was a picture taken days before i was diagnosed, so it wasn't like she was looking at one that was 15 years old, referring to youth.

I HAD a good friend, whom I've always known to be a little self absorbed - always talking about her problems, etc.. When I told her about my bc I had to interrupt her & say " time out - I have something I would like to share w/ you" - after I told her, the first thing she said was " if it were me, I would have my old, ugly boobs cut off & big, new ones put on...you are sooo lucky! It 'll be sooo worth it in the end b/c you will come out looking sooo hot & sexy!"

Fortunately, I have always been able to be very upfront & honest w/ her...so I was able to tell her how that made me feel.

A couple of months later, she actually called me to see how I was doing - when I updated her on my surgeries, treatments, etc.. the first thing she said was, " Boy! you're life is nothing but a soap opera..."

haven't spoken to her since.........

Hi Ladies,

Just happened upon this thread and just have to say the stupidity of others never ceases to amaze me! I'm a smart a$$ so I usually try to beat snide folks to the punch before they can say anything. This past Christmas (a week after my exchange) my family had their annual get together where on of the 2 b---hy sister-in-laws came. One just had lapband surgery and was eating up all the attention about how much weight she'd lost (didn't need to loose but 40 pounds total and I can't for the life of me understand why a doc did that surgery but that's for another day). I didn't comment on her weight loss so she tried roping me into a conversation about losing weight and said "Wow Margaret you look great! Have you lost weight?" I looked at her, smiled and said "As a matter of fact I have...3 pounds on the left (mast side). She didn't say anything else. Yall have a good night!

Margaret

ilenee  ugh  how rude !  i thought mine was tops till i read everyone elses   i guess there are alot of STUPID people out there!!

I told my sister how disheartened I was shopping for a swimsuit after a mastectomy at the age of 36.  I am a D or DD and found it hard to find something to provide adequate cover without looking like it was designed for someone 30 years older than me.

My sister said "oh your so lucky to have big boobs, I find it so difficult to find anything nice because I am a B cup".

When I pointed out gently that this was upsetting for me as I had a breast missing, she said...

"Well you just don't understand how hard it is to have small breasts."

But hey, that's her, and she is my sister.

Take care,

Sandy

I was always small chested and over the years, ocassionally would talk about maybe getting a boob job, but then I would always chicken out. After I was dx'd, I told one of my friends that I had to have a Mast. she said, "well atleast now you'll get the boob job you've always wanted...and it will be free."

Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...

Ok, Maybe I can't top yours but, I believe my step MIL is officially the Village Idiot and here is why, I called my Grandmother in law to tell her I had cancer( She lives with my dh father and stepmother) and after telling her she put the Step MIL on the phone because she had had BC and thought it was a good idea I didn't as I knew she was stupid a long time ago however, this idot proceeded to tell me that I should have a lumpectomy instead of a bi-lat and how horrible a bi-lat was (keep in mind she had a lumpectomy) and if the only reason I was doing it was to get a set of Titties then she had no more to say to me as if I wanted her to say anything in the first place!!!! I a usually outspoken person was so totally taken aback by her ignorance and no compassion was deemed speechless however when my DH got home I had managed to tell him a few things lol poor guy. As if I got cancer to get a new set of girls come on buying a set would have been much cheaper not to mention easier than chemo. I can say for sure by the time my husband and I got through I don't think they will be coming for Holidays.LOL

Held:  I'm trying to find the Bible passage that says, "Let he who is without sin remain cancer free," but all I find is the "cast the first stone" one.

My hair was maybe an inch long and I had just gotten the nerve up to go without something on my head.  I went for my dental check-up and my dentist (who knew I had bc) told me I was looking rather "butchy" . 

But I laughed.  I told him he was too dumb to be a Senator.  (He is also one of our Senators)  

I also knew he lost a sister to breast cancer and his wife is a 15 year survivor, so I knew he was just kidding with me.  (I've known him 20+yrs)  He started an organization here in my area that will pay for wigs for women whose insurance wont pay or who dont have insurance coverage.  His organization bought my wig, so that gave him a "double" pass on the "butchy" comment. LOL